Problems seldom feel good when you are in the midst of them. Most inspirational speakers and books, and many bosses, encourage us to see problems as opportunities, which is fine if at that moment you don’t feel weighed down by them.

The interesting thing is that looking back at what seemed problems in the past often appears today like successes, or at least bumps in the road that you can now be proud of having overcome. They add up to experiences that, while you didn’t like them then, have become your strengths, your stories, your growth points and yes, your opportunities.

Things that are weighing you down now, those things that we call problems, are therefore only your state of mind. Not that I want to minimize the gravity of some of life’s events, but rather to put them into the context of what they really are. They are our experiences and therefore all opportunities, if we care to take them.

Looked at like that, perhaps you could see that, instead of regarding yourself lucky not to have had certain of the tough things in life that have befallen others, you might view yourself as unlucky not to have had them. The difference between problems and opportunities is the extent to which we are emotionally fit; ready to face whatever comes to us knowing that we have the inner strength to turn mishaps into celebrations, however long that takes.

In peace

Warren Redman

Author's Bio: 

Warren Redman trained in the UK as a psychotherapist, facilitator and coach and has developed his own unique style of Emotional Fitness Coaching. He is president of the Emotional Fitness Institute (formally the Centre for Inner Balancing), writing about, teaching and coaching people in Emotional Fitness. He is the author of fifteen books, including the Award-winning The 9 steps to Emotional Fitness, Achieving Personal Success and Recipes for Inner Peace.

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