The collection of skills that adds up to Emotional Fitness is not easy to quantify or even define. In the corporate world they are often obliquely called “the soft skills” for that reason. This distinguished them, I suppose, from the “hard skills” that are more identifiable; skills such as engineering, accounting, technological or scientific.

There are three odd things here. The first is that engineers, accountants, information technologists and scientists all need the “soft skills” too, as do all the rest of us. The second is that it’s those skills that seem to be the really hard ones. The third is that nobody teaches us those skills in any formal way. Nobody gives us the tool-kit to be good listeners, to develop leadership qualities, to have empathy, to use our inner resources, to have self-confidence and so on. There is no handbook that comes with life, or a school curriculum that focuses on being, or instruction kit on being married or manual for living a fulfilled and purposeful life.

We have to make it up as we go along.

My mission in life is to get as close as I can to developing and then offering such a tool-kit. In doing so, the learning I have gained is almost sufficient in itself. Almost, but not quite. I won’t be satisfied until I have seen the tools of Inner Balancing used to such an extent that the balance tilts from fear to love, from toxic work environments to healthy ones, from stress to peace of mind.

Whatever happens around us, we still have to make our own lives. If I can offer a tool-kit that helps to make some of those lives more fulfilled I will have achieved what I have dreamed of and striven for over a period of nearly thirty years.

In Peace and Love

Warren Redman

Author's Bio: 

Warren Redman trained in the UK as a psychotherapist, facilitator and coach and has developed his own unique style of Emotional Fitness Coaching. He is president of the Emotional Fitness Institute (formally the Centre for Inner Balancing), writing about, teaching and coaching people in Emotional Fitness. He is the author of fifteen books, including the Award-winning The 9 steps to Emotional Fitness, Achieving Personal Success and Recipes for Inner Peace.

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