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- *** 6 Mass Murders Take 47 Lives in 30 Days - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2009 from Kathy SeifertForty-seven people were killed in mass murders in the US in less than 30 days this year. Everyone is looking for reasons and to make sense of these tragic events because we all cope better with catastrophic events if we can make some sense of them or find safety for ourselves and our loved ...
Views: 1407 - Techniques of Sexual Harassers - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiHarassment is rife, certainly in London. It happens in all environments: from entrepreneurial environments, to very reputable companies, to day to day life. It happens regularly, and it is justified by society. I have experienced it many times and I have been disgusted by the low level of ...
Views: 1406 - Self-Worth - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceWho do we see when we look in the mirror? You should be so comfortable with the face you were born with. We have seen ourselves grow and change, from the pictures we have witnessed when we were children. The truth is we never see the real us, the reflection always differs from the way that ...
Views: 1404(1 vote) - The Psychology of Abusers - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiAbuse can take many forms, it happens in many ways and in many environments. There is currently a lot of talking about sexual harassment, also particularly thanks to TimesUp movement. There is so much harassment going on and most of it is not known or recognized. For the brave people who decide ...
Views: 1401 - Mental Health - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceWhen these words are spoken they are always received differently, depending on the impact they have on the person hearing them. For those of you like me who have gone through this experience, we also have a magnitude of different responses. Every one of us has a different story to tell. But ...
Views: 1400(1 vote) - Drug Addiction Counseling – A Light on an Addict’s Dark Path - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from addiction professorYou can find drug addiction counseling centers everywhere. They come in all shapes and forms. There is no excuse for not being able to beat an addiction. So many treatment programs exist; there are outpatient programs, inpatient, phone counseling programs, and support group meetings. All this ...
Views: 1399 - Michael Jackson, King of Pain? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDetails about Michael Jackson’s passing are still fuzzy, but already people are drawing conclusions about the superstar’s premature demise. One media thread has him using prescription medications in what may have been a troubling way ...
Views: 1399(2 votes) - Risks Of Problem Drinking - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieIs it hard for you to tell when risky behavior becomes a problem? They say that if you place a frog in a pot of water and begin to heat the pot, the frog will boil to death without even realizing it. Conversely, if you throw a frog into a pot of boiling water, the frog will make a quick exit. ...
Views: 1399 - First Choice - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Timothy SinnThe first choice that can turn ones life in another direction is the choice I am referring to. This choice is to use or not use drugs or alcohol for the first time. If one is educated and prepared when they come face to face with this decision, is priceless. This is your first choice and very ...
Views: 1394(3 votes) - Studies Find Birth Trauma Can Lead To Child Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2010 from Leah FriedmanBirth is a life-changing experience. Each birth brings with it a new and different set of experiences and feelings, but birth trauma can have serious and long-lasting effects. A Swedish study showed that those who have a traumatic and painful birth are more likely to end their life with ...
Views: 1393(6 votes) - Communicate with Kids about Drugs - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2007 from Jane NelsenCommunicate with Kids about Drugs an excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline for Parenting in Recovery, by Jane Nelsen, Riki Intner, and Jane Nelsen Recovering parents know first hand the realities and dangers of using drugs and alcohol. The last thing they want is for their kids to go ...
Views: 1390 - Why Choose an Inpatient Drug Rehab Program - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Lee OtisIn the past people trying to find help with addiction for the first time seldom consider an inpatient drug rehab program as a solution. That outlook is rapidly changing considering the dismal success rates with outpatient drug rehab treatment. People are starting to see those struggling with an ...
Views: 1388 - After Abuse: The Challenging Work of Forging Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Lauri Allison LaBadieMany people have done the tough work of recovery from sexual abuse, whether with help in therapy or on one’s own. It challenges us to the core, but it also frees us, and gives life and possibility where we once felt that we might never get through it. For some, getting into a relationship, or ...
Views: 1384(1 vote) - Are You Being Spiritually Abused by a Narcissist - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineSpiritual Narcissistic Abuse Randi G. Fine, Author From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 Mark shares his Close Encounter: I’ve been married to an intelligent, beautiful woman for seventeen years and we ...
Views: 1384 - Wise wrods - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceAn old Cherokee told his grandson one day about a battle that goes on inside people… He told him that the battle was between 2 wolves. One is Evil. It’s anger, envy, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other one is ...
Views: 1378(1 vote) - Can People Change - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Peter WeldonToday's Sermon - Can People Change - by Facilitator Peter Copyright © 2004 - 2007 Facilitator Peter All Rights Reserved A baby that is born will never be more than the baby’s natural capability. This is God’s structural law providing the fetus was not damaged and if damaged, ...
Views: 1369 - Domestic Violence: An Unnecessary Epidemic - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2009 from Vikki ZieglerPeople often think that they cannot leave a violent relationship for many reasons, not the least of which is retribution. However, the truth is that if you stay in a violent relationship you may never get out. To have the courage to stop the violence and create an exit strategy appears to be the ...
Views: 1367 - When it’s Good, it’s Very Good… - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldSome people are in abusive relationships. They say they stay because when it’s good, it’s very good. Unfortunately, when it’s bad, it is also very bad. So, some people weigh the good against the bad and it seems to come out even. Not so. Abusive relationships must be assessed when under duress. ...
Views: 1367 - Is Your Inner Dialogue Keeping You Stuck In Pain - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineChanging the Way You Talk to Yourself Randi G. Fine, Author From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 Each of us has a subconscious inner voice, called an “inner dialogue,” that strongly influences our life. ...
Views: 1365 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Women Who Were Abused As Children End Up As Porn Stars? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a porn star committed suicide, and this was said to be due to the abuse that she received online. Based on this, it could be said that the people who abused her online were responsible for her death. The Trolls This is then an example of what can happen when someone is treated ...
Views: 1364 - You Ain't Broke - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Lola JonesThat's a down home Texas way to comment on how personal/spiritual growth and religion so often centers around "healing" or "fixing" or redeeming your bad, broken self. You ain't sick, bad, or broke. We may stand to learn to shift perspectives and flow our energy more fluidly. We may need to ...
Views: 1362 - Drunk Driving - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2003 from David HillDrunk driving involvement in fatal motor-vehicle crashes is on the rise. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, alcohol was involved in 41 percent of fatal crashes in 1995. Between 1982 and 1993, 266,291 deaths in the United States were alcohol related - one fatality ...
Views: 1357(1 vote) - Effects of Alcohol on the Brain and Body - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2017 from Desiree PattonMany people do not realize the health hazards associated with drinking alcohol because it is legal. However, alcohol has many detrimental short and long-term effects on the brain and body. If you're considering quitting drinking, this information could be the motivation you need to kick alcohol ...
Views: 1356 - Understanding How Emotional Reactivity Can Get Us Stuck - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Katrina Holgate MillerUnderstanding How Emotional Reactivity Can Get Us Stuck And How to Get Off of the Flypaper. “So, Doc, what’s wrong with my head?” Latesha looked at me pensively. It sounded like a set-up for both of us. The two months she had spent in bed had something to do with her attending to the ...
Views: 1356(1 vote) - Dangerous Dieting - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2007 from VicToria FreudigerThe Escape Artists that hide their Dangerous Dieting: "Needing some true research," April explained to me. I'm sure it'll bring back memories, but still it would be helpful to us if you think you can do it." "Well, of course, I can do it!" The time for this particular event was 1988, I ...
Views: 1355 - How to Spot a Narcissist on the Prowl - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineRecognizing the Red Flags Article Written by Randi G. Fine Author of Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery Narcissists are everywhere. These predators covertly walk among us in droves. Adept at changing their personalities in ...
Views: 1353 - “I Was Terrified of My Mother” - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2010, my life was going in the right direction; I felt confident, I had a relatively fulfilling job, and I had a plenty of good people around me. It was as though my life could only get better. Unfortunately, my life was about to get worse, a lot worse, and everything changed ...
Views: 1353 - Forgive Yourself Back To Birth - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from marla stoneI have so many times worked on forgiving others for acts of in-justices, unkind acts, hurtful things said or done, anything I deemed a wrong done to me. I have worked on empathy so that I would be able to forgive the perpetrators over and over and over again. It seemed like it was a never ...
Views: 1352 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Alternate Between Being A Victim And A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the words ‘victim’ and ‘perpetrator’, they might have a good idea about what these words mean. Perhaps one of their friends has been in a relationship where they were victimised, for instance. Closer to Home Then again, they might know someone who has victimised ...
Views: 1351 - How to Find the Right Support Program for Mental Health or Substance Abuse Issues - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Desiree PattonWhether you’re recovering from drug or alcohol abuse or dealing with a mental health condition, you need the right support. You may have completed inpatient or outpatient treatment for your condition, and you’re ready to get back to your life. But without the proper support, it can be ...
Views: 1351 - Emotional Verbal Abuse: Signs that Serve to Save Verbal Abuse Survivors - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Women say, I was glad when he hit me, because I finally realized what was on my plate. I finally got it. This is abuse! Do you need the altercations in your home to become physical before you can see them for what they are? If so, you could be making your remedy more difficult, more ...
Views: 1348 - It Takes Courage To Heal Ourselves! - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, I was speaking to someone who had a less-than nurturing childhood, and this was something that had left them in a bad way. There was the impact it had had on how they saw themselves and then there was the trauma that they were carrying. Then again, it might be more accurate ...
Views: 1347 - Domestic Violence Resources – The 5 Essential Resources for Domestic Abuse Survivors - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic violence help comes in all shapes and sizes. There is the crisis hotline to get you where you need to go ASAP. Then, there are the community domestic abuse support groups that assure you that “you are not alone.” Your domestic violence shelter will give you all the resources for your ...
Views: 1346 - Emotionally Reactive: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could hear something and respond in one way, and another person could hear the same thing and respond in a completely different manner. Consequently, this is going to show that they have interpreted it differently. One Response After hearing something, one person could soon ...
Views: 1346 - “Are You Gay?” - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year before I finished school, I remember bringing a girlfriend home for the first time. Before this took place, I wasn’t sure about if it was a good idea, and this was primarily due to how I thought my family would respond. Shortly after this I came to see that my concerns were ...
Views: 1346 - HEALTHY HELPING - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Donna Torbico"I LIKE HELPING! As long as I take care of myself in the process" ✦ Many ACoAs are trained from birth to be helpers, regardless of their native personality style & interests. There’s an ironic saying in recovery circles: “ACOAs are born with an MSW (Masters in Social Work) and get their Birth ...
Views: 1345 - Domestic Abuse Counseling and Psychotherapy in the Age of Internet Technology - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.I can remember twenty years ago having an elitist attitude about how I found my doctors. I only saw a doctor by referral. I was not the kind of person to find a doctor in the yellow pages. And I was accustomed to patients seeking me out through referral. Roughly 90% of my patients came to me ...
Views: 1341 - "My Family Were In Denial!" - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2012, I started to read books on child abuse, and the only time that I had read anything like this before was in 2009, when I read the book ‘Toxic Parents’ by Susan Forward. So, up until this point, I had primarily been reading books on self-development. As far as I knew, I just lacked ...
Views: 1339 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hit, controlled and manuipulated (by husband and in-laws) - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for some advice... I hope you can help. I am the mother of 5 children, in my mid-thirties, and married for about 10 years. I have been abused for years. People I know tell me to fix my marriage that "You could've handled this better or that." I don't ...
Views: 1339(1 vote) - Spotting the Signs: Is Your Child Being Cyberbullied? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from KidGuard Inc.As cyberbullying has emerged with the development of technology, for many parents, it may feel a bit like uncharted territory. On many difficult topics, We often relate to our children by similar experiences during our childhood. However, due to its recent appearance, cyberbullying is likely not ...
Views: 1334(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With People They’re Not Attracted To If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be with someone who is right for them, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. One could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who they are not really compatible with. Alternatively, one could have been with a number of people who were ...
Views: 1332 - Searching For Answers From Those Past Gone - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceIt’s raining and I am kneeling next to my father’s grave. The dirty water and mud swish all around me but I pay no mind. I have so many questions that need to be answered by a man that has been dead for so many years. Do I remember him or only the stories I have been told over the years? I was ...
Views: 1332(1 vote) - Obstacles to Leaving an Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We hear a lot about leaving an abusive relationship. Those on the outside say you must. Those on the inside know they ultimately will. And those responsible for the abuse say you can’t, shouldn’t and better not or else! What are the real obstacles to leaving an abusive ...
Views: 1326 - Who Am I Really? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Monty RitchingsA million years ago or so when I was in college studying social work, I learned a really important lesson. It was that the minds of people are supposed to progress and become more enlightened as we evolve on our personal journey. I learned at this time that there are four questions that are ...
Views: 1325(3 votes) - “Mindfulness Was A Waste Of Time!” - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2010 I had tried a healing technique that didn’t really have much of an effect on me, and this made me look for something else. Towards the end of this year, I got in touch with someone who I had met around a year before. The reason for this was that I heard that they had created their ...
Views: 1325 - Alcohol Detox Programs; How They Work - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Terje EllingsenAll across the United States, people are looking to regain control through alcohol detox programs. It is fortunate that we live in a country where there are so many public and private agencies looking out for the welfare of society. These programs are known to be very effective when people ...
Views: 1324 - Feeling Isolated in the Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2018 from Randi FineIsolation, Loneliness, and Disconnection in the Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse Written by Randi G. Fine, Author of Close Encounters of the Worst Kind Every survivor of narcissistic abuse experiences feelings of isolation, loneliness, and disconnection in the beginning stages of the ...
Views: 1324 - Why me and not my siblings - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2013 from Teresa JoyceRight off the bat that must sound like such a selfish thing to say, why would I wish what had happened to me on my siblings? But it’s an age-old question that hunted me for many years. Did I do something wrong? Was it because I miss behaved? Surly not I only acted that way to get noticed. If I ...
Views: 1324(1 vote) - Controlling Relationships – The 4 Ways an Abuser Controls His/Her Victim - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Abuse is fundamentally about control. Violence may be a manifestation of relationship abuse, but domestic abuse is really about control. And the perpetrator can’t bear to be out of control. When perpetrators feel they are losing control, their means to exercise control escalates. What are the ...
Views: 1321 - Abused Women & Battered Men: 3 Secrets to Getting Out and Staying Out of the Doghouse - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Habits are habitual, aren’t they? This is so true for the “being battered” habit. It is as though you come to expect punishment not only when in his/her presence, but also long after your abusive partner is out of the room, out of your house or even out of your life. If you are a survivor of ...
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