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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Oprah's advice to women about men -- from Tuchy's book "Oprah In Her Own Words" - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriOprah Winfrey– “If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.” —“Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship ...
Views: 13426(3 votes) - Should You Get Divorced or Stay Married? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe Beam“She’s pregnant by her lover. But she says she has come to her senses, loves me, and wants to save our marriage. My family practically hates her and wants me to divorce her and have nothing else to do with her ever. I don’t know what to do.” Call him Jim. Call her May. Every year situations ...
Views: 3171(3 votes) - ***Chick-fil-A: Marriage and Free Speech - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a ...
Views: 2866(20 votes) - ***Am I In A Relationship With A Controller? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2010 from Judith OrloffAs a psychiatrist, I have observed that relationships are one of the major sources of exhaustion for many of my patients. In “Emotional Freedom” I discuss how to deal with different kinds of draining people to avoid getting fatigued, sick, or burned out. It’s important to identify if you are ...
Views: 6067(5 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #4 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #4 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1670(10 votes) - Being "Right" vs. Being "Alive" - An Excerpt from "How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage" - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIn most relationships, an ongoing fight simmers just below the surface. Sometimes the conflict appears subtle but at other times it is outright war. People have grown up in a sea of discord and have been socialized to expect it and accept it. In other words, fighting is "normal." ...
Views: 3222(10 votes) - Ready for Love? Five Daily Practices to Cultivate Love in Your Love - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comWe all long to love and be loved, but sometimes it just doesn't happen for us. For many years I thought that love had passed me by, until I finally realized that I was the source of love for me. I learned that I needed to BE the love that I wanted to have in my life. I decided to cultivate the ...
Views: 2459(5 votes) - Seven Powerful Ways to Make Your Marriage Last - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMarriage is supposed to last “forever,” isn’t it? When we decide to get married, we truly believe that forever will happen. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, because most of us don’t have realistic guidelines or tools to know how to make a marriage last. When we fall in love, we usually ...
Views: 3951(5 votes) - ***Parents, Love, and the Holidays - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This Holiday Season again reminds us of the importance of being with those you love as you celebrate the joy of the season. We have heard repeatedly during our many interviews with successfully married couples around the world the importance they ...
Views: 3453(37 votes) - ***Sustaining Love In Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past several years the economy has been in decline, the unemployment rate has gone up, and home ownership has taken a dip. Sometimes, watching the Evening News causes one to wonder if the good old USA is in decline, if the financial state of ...
Views: 1584(9 votes) - ***Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here’s the rub – being IN love is easy. It expresses an emotion common to those relationships that have transcended the millennia. Being in love is central to the best marriages – to the best relationships between two people. But being in love is ...
Views: 1764(17 votes) - ***Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that many folks are afraid of marriage because they read the dire predictions about marriage in the news, they watch way too much television where the focus is, more often than not, on glorifying sex and multiple relationships, and because ...
Views: 5705(38 votes) - Fall Out Of Love With a Married Man - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2012 from Cristina AguilarThere are ways to fall out of love with a married man, once you recognize completely that he is not FREE to love you back. It doesn’t matter how powerful his vibes and feelings may be. I doesn’t matter that he is romantic and tells you things that lift you to the highest highs. I doesn’t matter ...
Views: 39394(2 votes) - *** Why Don't I Have Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Margaret Paul"Why don't I have friends?" asked Isabella in one of our phone counseling sessions.Isabella, 25 and very attractive, was having a problem that many people have. Sometimes, if people don't keep their high school friends or meet friends in college or at work, they may have trouble making ...
Views: 4925(2 votes) - ***"I Can't Do It" - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2011 from Margaret Paul"He can who thinks he can, and he can't who thinks he can't. This is an indisputable law." - Henry FordHave you ever noticed how often you say, "I can't"?"I can't lose weight.""I can't find my soul mate.""I can't find a job I love.""I can't ...
Views: 3152(2 votes) - ***"I Don't Deserve to be Loved" - by Submitted on May 19, 2011 from Margaret PaulHave you ever said to yourself, "The reason God doesn't love me is I don't deserve to be loved?"Have you ever looked inside to discover why you might not be loving to yourself and answered with, "I'm not worthy of love"?I hear this all the time from my clients. It is often ...
Views: 3483(2 votes) - ***3 Signs of True Confidence - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Valeria ChubaIf there is one thing in this world everyone wants to have more of, it’s confidence. Men and women everywhere wish they could be more assertive, self-assured and secure. Confident people make it all look so easy. There is something magnetic and enviable about their unshakable sense of self. ...
Views: 9789(2 votes) - ***Are Kindness and Tenderness Signs of Weakness? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Margaret Paul"Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair but manifestations of strength and resolution."~Kahlil GibranOver the 42 years that I have been counseling individuals and couples, I have heard countless times:"If I cry in movies people will think I’m ...
Views: 4356(2 votes) - ***Can't Say "No" to People? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Margaret PaulWhat are you afraid of if you say "No" to people? Here are some of the things my clients have told me regarding their fear of saying no: "I'm afraid of hurting their feelings. Then they will get angry at me and I will feel like a bad person." "I'm afraid of ending ...
Views: 9511(2 votes) - ***Do You Believe What You Perceive? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Perception is a mirror not a fact. And what I look on is my state of mind, reflected outward." - - A Course in MiraclesI remember many years ago seeing the movie "Rashomon" (starring Toshiro Mifune and directed my Akira Kurosawa) where three people saw a murder committed and ...
Views: 2724(2 votes) - ***Does Crying Make you Feel Better? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2011 from Margaret PaulA recent study indicates that crying does not make people feel better. But there is a problem with this study.(Crying shame: Tears don't make you feel any better, study shows, By Cari Nierenberg, ...
Views: 2683(2 votes) - ***Fall In Love All Over Again - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It is hard to accept by many, but love sometimes ends. Marriages fail. Relationships collapse. The flames of love die out. What started out with so much promise sometimes ends in disaster. Couples who fell passionately in love once now find ...
Views: 1788(8 votes) - ***Personal Growth Becomes Mutual Through Reality-Testing Your Faith - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2011 from Emily Erickson-SandstromLet's say your question is how to get out of an undesirable situation or how to make a desired situation happen. Asking the question is an act of faith in the universe, whether you address the question to Tarot or anywhere else. Your answer contains a suggestion to act upon. It says to deal ...
Views: 2918(4 votes) - ***Safety With an Open Heart - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2010 from Margaret PaulDo you live your life with your heart mostly open or mostly closed? Do you spend most of your time protecting against rejection or being taken advantage of, or most of your time open to sharing love with others?As children, many people had very heartbreaking experiences that caused them to close ...
Views: 4081(2 votes) - ***What to do When You Can't Communicate - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Margaret PaulWhat do you usually do when you get stuck with someone and can't communicate?Do you:Try harder to get your point across, talking louder or faster?Get angry, shouting to intimidate the other person into hearing you and/or agreeing with you?Cry in frustration?Feel resigned, give in and just listen ...
Views: 2914(2 votes) - 4 Commonly Overlooked Ways To Make A Relationship Work - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Andrew HunterUps and downs are part and parcel of relationships. It’s usual for two people to start seeing each other as they are content with each other. But it’s not always easy to keep the happy times forever in a relationship. It’s not easy to make a relationship work sometimes, but with the right ...
Views: 2860(4 votes) - 4 Tips to Help Under Stand How to Manage your Anger - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Ari NovickOne of the most common questions asked of me, "is there a an simple way to not get so absolutely angry?". There is not a quick and simple answer to that very innocent question. Anger is an feeling. Recent psychological research shows that we still don't know if we have "control" over our ...
Views: 1178(2 votes) - 5 Enablers of a Civilized Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2013 from Jane WarrenReal things you can do to make all the difference to your divorce negotiation experience. When I pick up the phone to answer a new inquiry it’s not unusual for the person on the other end to say something like “Is this Civilized Divorce?”“Yes it is.” “I want one of those.” To which my ...
Views: 1645(2 votes) - 5 Healthy Reasons to be in a Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2017 from Pritom DasEvery single person in this world needs someone to share their life with, to love and be loved, to care and get care, to support and have support and to encourage and stay encouraged. We all do have many Dreams in our life, we set a goal and achieve it and go to accomplish another one. But we ...
Views: 925(2 votes) - 5 Keys to Peaceful Celebrations - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Camille ScielziWith the holiday season upon us, do you find your hope-filled plans mixed with anxiety? Do you long for the perfect holidays of your youth but fear a repeat of last year’s performance? This year, invite peace and pleasantry to your party. Using these 5 actions creates a holiday celebration ...
Views: 1492(2 votes) - 5 Things to do When You Recognize a Soul Mate - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Judy Lynn KoonsI know I am connected to someone psychically in this life and in another life too. I actually have past/concurrent life recognition. I can see scenes from when we have interacted together from what seems from another time on Earth. Now what? First off, how do I know? Well the short answer is ...
Views: 2157(2 votes) - 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...
Views: 25039(6 votes) - Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2010 from Jennifer Zurick-WitteIn the movie Date Night, Tina Fey and Steve Carrell play a couple struggling to revive the romance of the early days of their relationship. When they confront this issue, they turn to fantasies as one way to re-ignite the spark. Steve confesses that his fantasy is to be with 3 other women, to ...
Views: 3783(2 votes) - Advice Column - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomAs people have become more accustomed to owning and having instant and easy access to computers and the web it is becoming increasingly popular to turn to websites for information, help, advice and sources of knowledge. There are online courses, advice columns, problem pages, agony aunts, ...
Views: 1426(2 votes) - An Easy Path to Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Stuart BlochOften people think intimacy is learning about their partners and teaching their partners what they want their partners to know about them. In actuality, the word "intimacy" says it all – IN TO ME SEE. Seeing intimacy as this simple phrase can be the key to unlocking the door to true openness ...
Views: 2441(2 votes) - Anger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesAnger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers At times, every marriage or significant relationship has times in which anger management would be helpful. Its pretty hard to live with someone and not get angry with them at some point. Interestingly, research has shown that its not the number of ...
Views: 5761(2 votes) - Are You Just Like Him? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Dwayne KlassenBruce (not his real name) is a man that was once at the top of the corporate world for 13 years. Two years ago, he was given a layoff package as part of the company's down sizing scheme. Bruce is the proud father of a precocious 8 year old girl and an inquisitive 6 year old boy. He is the loving ...
Views: 1376(2 votes) - Are you taking it Personally? - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Steve DahlAs with any relationship, it's nice to apply one of the 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz; "Don't take anything personally". No matter what anyone says or does, no matter how personal it seems it really has nothing to do with you. It is just the other individual trying to work through the stories ...
Views: 1498(2 votes) - Chocolate Anyone? How to Create More Intimacy in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you wonder what happened to that yummy closeness you used to have with your mate? Is the sweetness of that chocolate-like intimacy missing from your relationship? Read on to discover 7 simple ways you can whip the confectionery delight of intimacy back into any relationship. So what do ...
Views: 1795(2 votes) - COMMITMENT ~ The reasons why couples commit and how you can get there too. - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachToday's world is filled with hookups, casual encounters, and fast and furious flings. Summer romances and brief passion may be exciting to read about in romance novels, but living it may be a short-lived thrill that ultimately disappoints you, especially if you want something ...
Views: 1305(2 votes) - Couples Challenges: The Series - Successfully Navigating the Lifestyle aka Swinging - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Mark KauppMany couples face a point in their relationship when the feelings of boredom and monotony begin to set in. The couple begins to feel like they’ve lost the spice and spontaneity that once came so easily. Now they have to work for that same excitement which tends to make things seem tedious and ...
Views: 4474(2 votes) - Dating tips women should avoid - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Beth SocialYou may have an unhappy relationship wih these types of women: Too attached to their parents. These women tend to tell at least one of their parents everything. Perhaps they expect or ask their parents to pay for things—like that rug they really, really have to have, etc. Be careful. Soon the ...
Views: 1388(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants to call all the shots and refuses to compromise - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left me this past April. We are in our early twenties and we have been together since we were teenagers. We grew together so well, until he left me. He is Hispanic and very dominating and controlling. He wants to call all the shots and refuses to compromise. I ...
Views: 1252(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I find a good man to love me for me? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mom, of a teenage son. I was never married to his dad (if you want to call him that). I have the hardest time finding a relationship cuz I am on SS income and I am judged by that. I am a loving person, the good guys want a woman that works or is very ...
Views: 826(2 votes) - Defensiveness: The Poison Pill to Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Jim TammIn 25 years as a judge dealing with relationship issues I almost never had to resolve legal disputes. People were almost always before me because someone got defensive and became a bad problem solver. Defensiveness is a poison pill to good relationships. In conflict, defensiveness is like ...
Views: 30175(4 votes) - Dr. Romance Says: Lighten Up: Cures for Marital Boredom - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fine Love is a jewel when it is new; But when love's old, it waxes cold And fades away, like morning dew. Folk wisdom says it: If newlyweds put a penny in a jar for every time they make love in the first ...
Views: 1828(2 votes) - DWELLING AS CHANGE BRINGS PEACE - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Brenda ShoshannaWe all hold on to that which we love, or that which we feel makes us secure. There is an innate fear of loss and change. It could even be said that our entire lives consist of a struggle to hold everything together. We want things to be stable, remain exactly as they were. When change comes ...
Views: 4793(2 votes) - Eating Cake - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2010 from Mike EdwardsIn a recent article by JD Dean Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend there appears a reference to a well know incorrect saying; "You can't have your cake and eat it" Why is this incorrect? Simply, you can have your cake and you can eat it, it is just that there will be no cake left. However, ...
Views: 2765(2 votes) - EFT Tapping to Overcome Fear of Criticism and Deal with Critical People - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2013 from Sonal PandeyNo matter how sweetly it is packaged, criticism hurts. It comes disguised as feedback from your boss or professors, belittling taunts from friends, customer complaints and nagging from family members who seem to get secret satisfaction in pointing out your flaws. There is an amazing ...
Views: 2216(2 votes) - Feng Shui And Love - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2010 from manuel gilMany "Feng Shui Consultants" believe that the perfect approach to attract love and happy relationships is to adjust the living environment by re-placing images of Lone Figures with pictures and paintings of happy couples, by creating cozy seating arrangements, by removing televisions out of ...
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