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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***Loving Yourself When in Conflict - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. November 07, 2016 You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person. One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ...
Views: 1153(1 vote) - ***Make Valentine's Day 365 Days a Year - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Today, we were on an hour show with a “blow-torch” radio station, talking about love, relationships, and Valentine’s Day. We had a blast! It is always fun reaching the folks with our positive message about our more than 30 years of research on ...
Views: 2623(10 votes) - ***Marriage in France is Alive and Well - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our recent trip to France reinforced for us something we already anticipated – marriage is alive and well in France. Recently, we again traveled to Europe to conduct more interviews with successfully married couples for our new book entitled, How ...
Views: 1914(6 votes) - ***Marriage The Second Time Around - Take It Slow - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We know very well how important it is to rebound in a timely manner from a failed relationship. Of the thousands of couples we have interviewed over the past 30 years on all 7 continents of the world, many of them were remarried after suffering ...
Views: 2492(13 votes) - ***Penguins Know A Lot About Love - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We just returned from the trip of our lifetime together – all 47 years of it. We spent ten days on the continent of Antarctica. Oh, my, what a wonderful trip it was! As human beings, we will never be the same! For us, it was the 7th and final ...
Views: 3401(12 votes) - ***Relationships: Attract at Your Common Level of Self-Love - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2011 from Margaret PaulMarty tells me in a phone session,"Susan is always criticizing me. How do I get her to stop?"Fiona tells me in a phone session,"Jeff is often withdrawn. I feel so angry about this."It's always easy to see what your partner is doing that you don't like, but it's generally very ...
Views: 2899(2 votes) - ***Resisting Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you stuck in misery? Do you resist taking responsibility for making yourself happy? Discover a possible cause of this. One of the issues I frequently encounter with my clients is the following: Sasha is in a long-term, on-again, off-again, relationship with Fabio. When Sasha is taking ...
Views: 1310(1 vote) - ***Self-Pity or Self-Compassion - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Margaret PaulThere is a vast difference between feeling sorry for yourself and feeling kindness toward yourself.Self-PityWhen you see yourself as a victim, you indulge in self-pity. You are a bottomless pit of misery, and you may find yourself crying endless victim tears. You might say things like:Why do bad ...
Views: 4025(1 vote) - ***Speaking Your Truth When it's Hard - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Margaret PaulHow often do you withhold the truth from someone important to you - your partner, friend, parent, child, co-worker - because you know he or she will get angry rather than care about you?How you do feel when you don't speak your truth about something that is important to you? It is likely that ...
Views: 6606(1 vote) - ***Stop Taking the Bait of Projection! - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2011 from Margaret PaulAll of us have projected our own thoughts, feelings, motivations and desires onto others, and have been at the other end of projection. Many of us learned to project onto others as we were growing up, when our parents, siblings or caregivers projected their unconscious feelings, thoughts and ...
Views: 2947(1 vote) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #5 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #5 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1768(9 votes) - ***The Greatest Joy in Life - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ There are many experiences that create momentary happiness, but there is only one experience that is truly the greatest joy in life. _______________________________________________________ Take a moment to think about what you ...
Views: 1266(1 vote) - ***The Happiness Choice - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Margaret Paul"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us."--Stephen R. Covey, Author and SpeakerThis is a powerful freedom. And, from my point of view, another way of putting this is that the ultimate freedom is the right and power ...
Views: 3426(2 votes) - ***The Health Benefits of Being Happily Married - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. A recent report out of Israel suggests that a successful marriage substantially reduces the chances of stroke for men. It seems that if you are a man and UNhappily married, you have a 64% GREATER chance of having a stroke! The report concludes ...
Views: 1953(8 votes) - ***The Longest Married Couple in America - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our heartfelt congratulations to Ann and John Betar of Fairfield, Connecticut on the occasion of their 81st Wedding Anniversary! Worldwide Marriage Encounter has verified that the Betar’s are the longest married couple in America. When they took ...
Views: 1755(5 votes) - ***The Perfect Wedding Is Only The Beginning . . . - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Weddings are so joyous! The memories of such a marvelous moment will linger in the minds of most who witnessed it for a lifetime. The photos of the wedding will hang on the wall of their new home, be stored in the photo albums of many, and fill up ...
Views: 1717(6 votes) - ***The Voice of Blake Shelton’s Love for Miranda - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We will be honest with you up front -- we are huge fans of Country music! Like a lot of Country music fans these days, we are impressed with Country superstar couple, Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert. To say they are awesome entertainers is an ...
Views: 2482(8 votes) - ***Traditional Marriage is Alive and Well - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We know, we hear them all the time – those purveyors of half-truths, un-truths, and political agendas. You know the ones – the ones who continually pronounce to the world that traditional marriage is dead. Well, all we can say is – don’t believe ...
Views: 2431(19 votes) - ***Trying to Control Makes us Miserable - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Margaret PaulHave you ever noticed how bad you feel when you try to control things you can't control - such as others and outcomes?Larry consulted with me because he was often miserable - despite running a successful business, and having a lovely wife and two daughters, whom he adored.It soon became apparent ...
Views: 3035(1 vote) - ***Until Death Do Us Part - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. When we take our marriage vows – “until death do us part” – we never imagine that some day it will all come to an end. But all marriages and relationships do end, of that you can be sure. So, how do we celebrate life? At the end of every ...
Views: 1346(7 votes) - ***Verbal Abuse, Emotional Abuse - Overt And Covert - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2008 from Margaret PaulOur society is filled with verbal and emotional abuse, from radio and TV commentators and presidential candidates, to parents, educators, employers and managers. As Patricia Evans states in "The Verbally Abusive Relationship", the old adage, "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will ...
Views: 5294(1 vote) - ***What Does Having Sex Mean to You? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2012 from Margaret PaulI’ve been counseling individuals and couples for many years. More than half the time, when couples are having problems or the relationship is dissolving, sex is one of the major issues. There are a number of common scenarios:After a long marriage with regular sex, he comes home to discover that ...
Views: 3700(1 vote) - ***What Does It Mean To Love Yourself? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Many of us know that we need to be loving to ourselves, but what does this actually mean? ________________________________________ Since most of us had little or no role modeling regarding loving ourselves when we were growing up, it's often ...
Views: 1556(1 vote) - ***What Is A Love and Marriage Expert? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Lots of people purport to be “love and marriage experts.” The Internet is full of those who claim to be. We, like you, read their pontifications every day. But the truth is, most of those who say they are, ARE NOT! Here’s why. We have found in ...
Views: 1879(20 votes) - ***What to do When Your Partner Lacks Empathy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you found yourself in relationships where you feel empathy for your partner but your partner lacks empathy for you? Were you born with the ability to feel others' feelings? I was, and one of the issues that I had to face was that not everyone is empathic. This was very confusing to ...
Views: 1537(1 vote) - ***What Will Love Give You? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2012 from Margaret PaulDid you grow up believing that if only someone REALLY loved you in the way you needed to be loved, then you would feel happy, safe, lovable and worthy?Certainly being truly loved by parents goes a long way toward supporting children in feeling safe and lovable, but it is not the whole story. ...
Views: 3036(1 vote) - ***When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2011 from Margaret PaulI grew up with a very angry mother who would attack me out of the blue. As a highly sensitive only child, the fear and heartbreak of being treated so unlovingly was unbearable. So rather than feel the hurt, I numbed it out by learning to stay in my head rather than being present in my body, and ...
Views: 3736(3 votes) - ***Why Complain? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you a complainer? Are you ready to do something different? "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." - Maya Angelou Do you complain? If you do, why? ___I complain as a form of control - in the hopes ...
Views: 1353(1 vote) - ***Why Do I Attach To An Unavailable Person?" - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you addicted to trying to get love from unavailable, unloving people? Have you found yourself repeatedly 'falling in love' with an unavailable person? Have you wondered why you keep doing this? This is the question Wanda asked: "What about our wounded self causes us to attach so ...
Views: 1324(1 vote) - ***Why Do People Kill? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2013 from Margaret PaulWe need to resolve the violence in our society. I'm offering a few ideas regarding the issues we need to research and address. Why? Why are these horrible killings happening? I don't pretend to know the answers, but I do have some ideas that I want to share with you. I ...
Views: 2110(1 vote) - ***Why Keeping Agreements Can Be Tough… and How YOU Can Change That! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2013 from Evelyn LevensonHave you ever told someone you’d do something and then either forgotten about it or were somehow not able to honor it? Classic lose-lose-lose situation. When we make a promise or agreement with someone and then don’t keep it, we usually feel bad about it, the other person often is upset ...
Views: 2833(1 vote) - 10 Expert Tips on How to Make Your Man Happy in a Relationship - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Furqan ArshadBy way of nature, men will do everything within their might to gain the admiration of a woman they love. That is why before they settle, they go to great lengths to find someone to love and respect them. If you have got a good man that loves you unconditionally, he deserves to feel the same way ...
Views: 1430(1 vote) - 10 Gifts you Should Only Present To Your Dentist Over Christmas - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Cynthia WitsonWith the holidays approaching, you may be looking for the perfect gift to give all of the important people in your life. But while shopping for your spouse or your children might be easy because they’ve been dropping hints for the last six months, it might be much more difficult for you to find ...
Views: 5548(1 vote) - 10 Habits that Lower Self-Esteem and Cause Depression - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2016 from Darlene LancerWhen our self-esteem is low, which is typical of codependency, we’re at greater risk for depression. Codependency is learned, and so are self-esteem and the beliefs and habits that cause both low self-esteem and codependency. Self-esteem is what we think about ourselves. It includes positive and ...
Views: 2647(2 votes) - 10 Steps to Creating Positive Momentum - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Ron BroussardThere is positive momentum and negative momentum. Are you creating positive momentum in your life, drawing the things you want in your life, or you pushing it away? Here are ten suggestions (or reminders) to help you focus on what really matters. 1. Take some time to decide what you want ...
Views: 2777(1 vote) - 10 Steps To Resolve Your Relationship Conflicts - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from John Schurmann"Just do what I say!" At some point in our lives we all have said this when we could not find a satisfying agreement with our spouse or partner. Everyone of us has differences and disagreements. But healthy people find ways to resolve conflicts without turning them into wars. When you have ...
Views: 1983(1 vote) - 10 Tips To Infidelity-Proof Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Dan And JenniferInfidelity can sneak up on even the most solid partnerships. According to an infidelity poll conducted by WomanSavers.com of 6,330 women, 92% believe that emotional affairs lead to physical affairs, whereas only a mere 7% believe they do not. With the increase in technology, cheating has ...
Views: 2049(1 vote) - 10 Ways to Boost Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Best CatcherIn any relationship, there is always a possibility to become boring regardless of how long you have been. If you don’t spend some time and effort overcoming the rough patches of your love life, the romance can easily leave your relationship indefinitely. Use below the following 10 suggestions to ...
Views: 1217(1 vote) - 11 hints for life - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2012 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriEleven Hints for Life 1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. 2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that ...
Views: 4468(1 vote) - 11 Interesting Topics to Talk About with Anyone - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2010 from Joshua UebergangAny idiot can ramble on about in conversation and bore the bejesus out of their companions, and it is a legitimate fear for many that this embarrassing turn of events may happen to them at some point. We've all been there, stuck in conversation, trying to dig out of it by throwing everything we ...
Views: 65134(1 vote) - 2 Common Mistakes To Avoid For Successful Marriage As Per Astrology - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2019 from Sri TulasiAccording to astrology, the house of marriage is just the opposite (@180-degree angle) to Lagna means self. So, it is quite natural that differences may be possible because of opposite opinions or thoughts. Now, it depends where are lord of Lagna and house of marriage are placed, their distance ...
Views: 1107(2 votes) - 29 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 29 or 30. - by Submitted on May 17, 2012 from James BedrockIn 1997, Glamour magazine published a story titled “30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30.” The list, written by Pamela Redmond Satran, was so popular that women started emailing it around, mis-attributing it to various female luminaries including Maya Angelou ...
Views: 756(1 vote) - 3 Keys to Harmonious Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Amy TorresThere are ways to communicate which help us avoid arguments and develop harmonious relationships. Most people who use the techniques offered below report improvements, not just in their love life, but in relationships with other family members, co-workers, friends, and complete strangers. In ...
Views: 1858(1 vote) - 3 POWERFUL WAYS TO OVERCOME COVERT EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2018 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachCovert Emotional Manipulation can be crazy-making. It is often subtle, intermittent and doesn't come with any warning signs early on. It is often after many months or years, you may begin to "catch on" that you are being covertly emotionally manipulated! You may begin to doubt your ...
Views: 2346(1 vote) - 3 Signs That A Former Cheater Hasn’t Changed - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Kalyna KapurHave you given a cheating partner another chance? Finding out that your trusted partner has strayed from your relationship can be a devastating blow for anyone. The feeling of betrayal and the loss of trust is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome in a relationship — and it can take a long ...
Views: 487(1 vote) - 3 Steps For Handling And Recovering From Affair Details - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Brenda StewartAfter you found out about your spouse's affair you realize that is too hard for you to struggle with recovering from affair details that are inside your mind and you know you need help to save your marriage and how to handle all the negative thoughts. First of all for your marriage to have ...
Views: 1602(1 vote) - 3 Steps To Ensure You Learn How To Talk Dirty To A Man - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2011 from Natasha NaomiLearning how to talk dirty can be a fulfilling and rewarding journey that the two of you (you and your man) can share together. However, it'll only work if the two of you have a solid foundation by learning how to talk dirty the right way. Many times, when a woman tries to learn how to talk ...
Views: 1486(1 vote) - 3 tips for convincing your non willing partner to seek Couples Counselling - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Dr. Cory HrushkaCouples counselling can be an eye opening experience for both parties involved. Rather than the usual finger pointing that goes on during fights at home or in the car, sitting down with a therapist helps you gain the insight of your spouse or significant other. Once you’ve seen yourself through ...
Views: 3542(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Make a Man ADDICTED To You - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2021 from Sahib BerwalDo you want to keep your man’s eyes on you and only you? Would you love to make him absolutely addicted to you? If so, you’re in the right place. As you may or may not already know, there are certain things women can do to hook men. The good news is that these have nothing to do with looks, ...
Views: 1063(1 vote) - 3 Ways To Nurture The Emotional And Physical Connection In Romantic Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2020 from Dharmendra ChaharMany couples often complain about the lack of quality time together. They often feel they do not have enough meaningful conversations or that they are not fully engaged with each other during the times they do spend with each other. For these reasons, I believe it is very important for ...
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