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The Importance of Mind-Body Work for Treating Grief - by Michael Roth- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Believe That She Is Entitled To His Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it doesn’t mean that his mother will feel uncomfortable with what is going on. Instead, she can believe that he is behaving in the right way. What this can show is that she doesn’t realise that he has his own needs and is here to ...
Views: 141 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, he may need to start putting himself first. Along with this, he may need to talk to his mother about what is going on. Nonetheless, if he were to talk to her about how he is neglecting himself and no longer wants to do ...
Views: 140 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience Womb Trauma? - by Submitted on May 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is unable to live his own life due to how focused he is on his mother, it will be clear that he is out of balance. He will be acting more like an extension of his mother than a separate human being who has his own needs and feelings. If he didn’t have his ...
Views: 140 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Breaking Away? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNot only can a man be focused on his mother but she can also expect him to be there for her and meet certain needs. From this, it will be clear that she can’t accept that he has his own needs and life to lead. Based on how she treats him, it will be as if he is her possession and thus, she ...
Views: 139 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That His Mother Lacks Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and he is fed up with behaving in this way, he could talk to a friend or his girlfriend about what is going on. This can be a time when he will talk about how frustrated and drained he feels. After this, the person he talks to can be understanding and ...
Views: 139 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As Her Saviour? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, he can wonder why he is this way. But, if he is behaving more like her parent than her son, it is to be expected he would be confused. He can spend a lot of time doing things for her and listening to her problems and providing ...
Views: 138 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone’s Parent Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child. If so, throughout this stage of their life, they ...
Views: 137 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For His Fathers Support If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man missed out on the support that he needed from his father throughout his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. Furthermore, he might seldom if ever even think about this stage of his life. But, when it does come to this stage of his life, he could think about ...
Views: 137 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That His Feeling’s Don’t Always reflect Realty? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man typically acts as though he is an extension of his mother, behaving in this way is likely to allow him to avoid certain feelings. Thus, as deprived as he is likely to be by living in this way, it will allow him to keep it together and function. This is not to say that he won’t ...
Views: 135 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Believe That Their True Self Is Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they tend to hide their needs and how they feel. Along with this, there might also be parts of themselves and interests that they keep hidden. Due to this, most, if not all, of the people in their life are not ...
Views: 135 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Have An Idealised False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to talk to their abusive parent or parents about what happened. Now, assuming that it was one parent who mistreated them or that one of their parents has passed on, they might not get ...
Views: 134 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Sabotage His Relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNot only can a man’s mother expect him to be there for her, but she can also do what she can to make sure that he doesn’t separate from her and have his own life. One of the ways that this can take place is by doing what she can to push away any woman that he dates or has a relationship ...
Views: 134 - Relationships: What Can Happen If A Man Doesn’t Feel Comfortable With His Sexual Side? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has an intellectual, emotional and sexual side, it doesn’t mean that he is comfortable with all of these sides. Thus, when he is in a relationship, a big part of him could end up being overlooked. So, in the beginning, he could be sexually attracted to the woman and have ...
Views: 134 - Therapy: Can Someone Unconsciously Look Toward A Therapist To Complete Them If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter struggling mentally and emotionally for quite some time, someone could look for a way to change their inner experience. This can mean that they will look for answers online and/or they could look for a therapist to work with. Once they have found someone suitable, they could arrange an ...
Views: 133 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Controlled By His Inner Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, a man is free to do what is right for him and live his own life. However, if he spends most of his life focused on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to realise this. In fact, he might not even realise that he is overly focused on his mother let alone that he has the ...
Views: 132 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Midlife Crisis? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in their forties or fifties, they could have a deep sense that something is missing. This can mean that certain parts of their life are no longer satisfying, or this could relate to their whole life. Along with the sense that they are living in the wrong way, they can ...
Views: 130 - Self-Destructive: Can Someone Engage In Self-Destructive Behaviour If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find that they have the tendency to behave in ways that don’t serve them. This can take place in both big and small ways. So, they might have been in at least one relationship that was going well and then, they ended up ...
Views: 129 - Early Deprivation: Can Sex Take On A Symbolic Meaning if Someone Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of whether someone is in a relationship or not, they could spend a fair amount of time thinking about sex. This can also mean that they will have sex at least once a day or a few times a week. From this, it could be said that this is something that is an important part of their ...
Views: 127 - Emotional Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has a thinking and a feeling self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. Instead, they can typically be in touch with the former but not the latter. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they don’t have a very ...
Views: 127 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Breaking Away? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man acts like an extension of his mother and is not living his own life, it is likely to show that something is not right. As he is separate from her and has his own needs and life to lead, he shouldn’t be behaving in this way. One way of looking at this would be to say that he needs to ...
Views: 127 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed-Man’s Mother Emasculate His Father? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could wonder, if he has spent most of his life focused on his mother and pleasing her, is why his father didn’t do anything about this during his formative years. So, he could see that his mother saw him as a parental figure during this stage of his life and essentially used ...
Views: 127 - Breakups: Can A Man Punish Himself After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has experienced a breakup, he can experience a number of different feelings. For example, he can feel angry, sad, helpless, and hopeless and be full of regret. If so, what this can show is that he was with a woman who he was very fond of and perhaps loved. Perhaps he was with her ...
Views: 126 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be An Unfeeling Human Being? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a mental and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. What can be normal is for them to be connected to their mental self but disconnected from their emotional self. But, due to how normal this is, they might not be ...
Views: 125 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Develop A Needless False Self? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is typically focused on a number of his mother’s needs and typically overlooks a number of his own, it can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why he is this way. To them, it can be clear that he is living in the wrong way. However, if they were ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If Their Parents Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life is that they don’t have a good connection with how they feel or their needs. They could then see that their life is largely driven by their need to please others and what is ‘right’. Consequently, their life is not ...
Views: 124 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a mother who lacked empathy, he might not be consciously aware of this. Even so, it doesn’t mean that he will have truly moved on from this stage of his life. Therefore, if he were to remember some of the things that took place and how this impacted him, he might ...
Views: 124 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Man Become A Mother-Enmeshed Man Because His Father Wasn’t Around? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is caught up in his mother’s world and is neglecting himself in the process, he can end up looking back on his early years. During this time, he can see that his father was rarely around and even when he was, he was rarely emotionally available. He can ...
Views: 122 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Should A Mother-Enmeshed Man Stay Single? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be said, if a man is overly focused on his mother and unable to live his own life, is that he should stay single. The main reason for this is that as he is not emotionally available, he is not going to be able to fully be there for a woman. Therefore, if he starts dating a woman ...
Views: 122 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother Enmeshed-Man’s Mother ‘Play The Victim’? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is not living his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can have the need to speak to her about what he is going through. He can hope that if he talks to her, she will be understanding and supportive. Naturally, her responding in this way will ...
Views: 119 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Controlled By His False Self? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man focuses on his mother and ignores his own needs, it is likely to show that something is not right. The reason for this is that he has his own needs and life to lead and is not merely an extension of his mother. The trouble is that although he will be living in a way that is not ...
Views: 119 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear is that, if a man is caught up in his mother’s life, he won’t be able to be there for himself. He will be acting more than an extension of her than a separate human being. From the outside, it can seem as though he is simply giving and is not receiving anything in return. ...
Views: 117 - Critical Thinking: Has The American Election Result Unlocked Some Peoples Unresolved Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that it is clear who the next president of America will be, some people are pleased with what has happened and some are not. This can be seen as a natural outcome as only one candidate can win and not everyone will have voted for the same candidate. When it comes to the people who are ...
Views: 114 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have A Fear Of Being Dominated? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he is overly focused on his mother, is that his mother undermined both him and his father during his formative years. Thus, instead of doing what she could to build him up and support his father, she did the opposite. After realising this, he could come to the ...
Views: 113 - Self-Ownership: Can Someone See Themselves As An Object If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what might stand out is that they don’t act like an individual who has their own needs and feelings. Instead, they act like an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. So, what can be normal is for them to be focused ...
Views: 113 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Realise That He Is Sacrificing Himself? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, if a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs, it is going to take a lot of his time and energy. This will then mean that he will have less time and energy for himself. Now, if he did things for his mother from time to time, whilst primarily focusing on ...
Views: 112 - Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Experiencing An Emotional Birth? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have had a physical birth, it doesn’t mean that they had an emotional birth. When it comes to the former, this is something that would have taken place automatically. However, when it comes to the latter, this would have largely depended on how emotionally available ...
Views: 111 - Relationships: Why Do Some Attractive People End Up With People Who Mistreat Them? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is physically attractive, it can be normal for some people to have an idealised view of them. They are then going to be a human being but they can be seen as being perfect and even godlike. When this takes place, it won’t be possible for another person to see them clearly. In ...
Views: 111 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Conditioned To Ignore Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will have his own needs and life to lead, based on how he behaves, it can be as though he doesn’t have any needs or only a few basic needs and doesn’t have his own life to lead. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his own life will pass him by. It can be hard for ...
Views: 109 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Unconsciously Create A Depriving Life If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be the life that someone wants to live and then, there can be the life they have. So, they can want to have a life where they are surrounded by people who value and love them, be in an intimate relationship with someone who also values and loves them, and have a career that is deeply ...
Views: 108 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Lose Herself In A Mother-Enmeshed Man If She Has Too Much Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is currently with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could spend a lot of time feeling frustrated, angry, and drained. But, if she has given a lot to him and received very little, this is to be expected. He will be directing most of his time and energy toward his mother ...
Views: 108 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unable To See His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself in the process, he might be aware of what is going on. As a result of this, he can do what he can to gradually change his life. This will allow him to live a life that is worth living, as opposed to a life where he has turned ...
Views: 108 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Drawn To Women Who Are Unavailable If He Had A Depriving Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his behaviour, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be attracted to women who are not available. So, this can mean that he has dated and been in a number of relationships with women who were out of reach emotionally. Along with this, he may ...
Views: 107 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like His Mother’s Possession? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man’s life revolves around his mother and meeting her needs, is that he is more like an extension for her than a separate being. Consequently, he will be turning his back on himself. But, although he will be depriving himself by living in this way, this can just be ...
Views: 106 - Healing: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Needs Stop Them From Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is suffering both mentally and emotionally, and certain areas of their life are not going in the right direction, they can end up reaching out for support. Assuming that this takes place, they can find a therapist or healer to work with. What this will show is that they no longer ...
Views: 105 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Women If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what might enter his mind is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could then think about how this is because he has had many experiences with them that haven’t been very positive. So, when it comes to the experiences that ...
Views: 105 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Hyper-Independent? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone where to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they try to do just about everything by themselves. They could see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. But, while living in this way will make their life harder than it ...
Views: 103 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Fear That They Will Be Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often fear that they will be left and end up alone. It could go further than this, though, as they may have the sense that they will die. This can show that they have a number of close friends and are in a ...
Views: 103 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Attach To A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has been dating a woman for a little while, he can become emotionally attached to her. However, while part of him can feel comfortable with this, another part of him can feel very uncomfortable. If this other part of him is not as strong, it might not stop him from being able to ...
Views: 101 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Impress Others If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have achieved a lot, but, no matter how much he has achieved, he can have the need to achieve more. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this is just part of being human. Being driven and having the need to grow and expand is then normal and not ...
Views: 99 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Turn Into An Enabler If She Stays With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a woman can be with a man who is overly focused on his mother. She may have been with him for a few weeks, months or even years. Either way, she can believe that if she stays with him, he will change sooner or later. If she has been with him for a few weeks, there is a ...
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