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Over the years, a woman may have seen a number of her female friends move forward in their careers and form loving and supportive relationships. However, she might not have moved forward in their career nor had a loving and supportive relationship, let alone be in one.
Thanks to her inability ... Views: 15
If a woman is in a position where she does a lot for her mother and ignores a number of her own needs, she will be out of balance. But, if living in this way is just what is normal, she might not be aware of what is going on.
Due to this, she could often feel low and drained but believe that ... Views: 70
What a woman may find, if she were to step back and reflect on her life, is that even though she is a grown woman, she doesn’t act like one. Instead, she is more like a little girl who is dependent on her mother and incapable of living her own life.
This could mean that she still lives with ... Views: 96
If someone wanted to listen to music, they could listen to the same style that they listened to last time. Then again, they could listen to a style that is totally different to what they last listened to.
Either way, when it comes to what they do listen to, it is likely to be a style that has ... Views: 96
I wasn’t aware that I was going anywhere until, I decided to look back and see from where I’d come. For over 39 years, I have been recovering from a severe brain stem injury that I sustained while I was a student. From being a patient who was on life-support, in a neurosurgery intensive care ... Views: 1426
1. Why did you decide to share your story with the world?
Answer – This is a very good question and one I have asked myself many times over. The answer is not very black and white; it’s was a combination of many factories. It truth at first it was a way of trying to heal myself, if I could ... Views: 1196
If a man steps back and reflects on his life, what he may find is that he has been with a number of women who were very caught up with themselves. These would then have been women who were consumed by their own needs and had very little if any time for him.
They would then have expected him ... Views: 71
What a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels low and depressed. He could find that this is because he doesn’t feel good about himself and doesn’t believe this will ever change.
If he were to think about why he feels this way, he could think ... Views: 71
Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to talk about how they are with or were with someone who is a narcissist. Conversely, they could say that social media is full of people that are like this.
Furthermore, are also numerous videos and books that go into how to handle someone who is like ... Views: 817
Now, although someone is interdependent and therefore needs others, it doesn’t mean that they realise this. If they were told this, they could say that they don’t need others and are happy being by themselves.
So, by being this way, they are going to see themselves as being independent and ... Views: 334
If someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their own behaviour, they may see that they have the inclination to hide their own needs. They may see that, in general, this is something that just happens.
It is then not going to be something that they always think about doing; it will ... Views: 518
Having needs is simply part of the human experience and is not something that is bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, it doesn't mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs.
When someone doesn't feel comfortable with them, their life is going to be a lot ... Views: 341
After having been out of touch with their needs for as long as they can remember, one could now be in a position where they have decided that enough is enough. Perhaps the pain of living in this way has got too much for them to handle.
Now, this doesn’t mean that they will be out of touch ... Views: 560
There are a number of things that are part of the human experience and having needs is one of them. This comes down to the fact that human beings are interdependent; they need others to survive and thrive.
When it comes to these needs, it could be said that there are at least three areas. The ... Views: 424
Although someone will have a number of needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of all of them. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to meet all their needs.
By living in this way, they are going to be depriving themselves of a lot of what they need. They can ... Views: 250
What someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they are often out of touch with their needs. Or, perhaps, to be more specific, they are often out of touch with certain needs.
This can mean that they will typically be aware of their survival needs ... Views: 302
Although someone will have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will have a good connection with them. In general, they could be out of touch with a number of their needs and therefore it will be normal for them to neglect themselves.
But, as this is taking place without them being aware of what ... Views: 311
If someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to ignore their own needs. In fact, they could find that, in general, they are not even aware of their needs.
Apart from their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and ... Views: 267
What can be normal is for someone to ignore a number of their needs and to focus on others. But, if this is just what is normal, it might not be something that they are consciously aware of.
Consequently, they will be neglecting themselves but this is not going to be something that will stand ... Views: 195
In general, someone could hide their needs and thereby, create the impression that they are needless. This could be something that takes place automatically as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do.
If a friend or a family member needs something, then, they could be only too ... Views: 292
Even though someone is an interdependent human being who has needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are completely independent and don’t have any needs.
However, this doesn’t mean that they will be consciously denying their true nature. ... Views: 210
When it comes to someone’s needs, these are one of the things that allow them to have their own experience on this earth. This is not to say that they, unlike others, are the only ones with needs; it is that in each moment they will have their own set of needs.
At times, what they need will ... Views: 786
What someone may find is that it is typically a challenge for them to not only listen to their needs but to also fulfil them. In general, they could overlook them and go along with what another person wants and/or what they think they want.
They could find that this is something that just ... Views: 217
In general, someone could come across as though they are needless and this could take place without them being consciously aware of it. Therefore, they won’t choose to hide their needs from others, this will just be what typically happens.
What this is also likely to mean is that they will ... Views: 302
Someone’s early years might not have been a stage of their life when they received what they needed to receive in order to grow and develop; this may have been a time when the roles were reversed. Consequently, it would have been up to them to fulfil their caregiver’s needs.
Now, this would ... Views: 487
Now that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this.
If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care ... Views: 212
What someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they usually feel, is that they have the tendency to experience ‘negative’ feelings. So, they could often feel rejected, worthless, unloved, hopeless, helpless and abandoned.
That’s not to say that these feelings will ... Views: 280
If someone was to take the time to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel good. Along with how they feel, there is going to be what takes place.
At this point in time, they could believe that what takes place causes them to feel as they do. ... Views: 615
Irrespective of whether someone is into self-development, they will probably be familiar with the term ‘negative’ feelings. In fact, they may even describe some of their own feelings in this way.
If this is the case, it will mean that some of their feelings will be seen as ‘positive’ and ... Views: 455
Now, if someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they see themselves and their life, they may come to the conclusion that they have a ‘negative mindset’. If they were to open about to someone else, this person could also say the same thing.
If they were to make a note of how they ... Views: 529
When someone becomes an adult, it will be clear that they are no longer a child. This stage of their life will be over and this will mean that their needs will be different from what they once were.
As a child, they would have been dependent on others; whereas now that they are an adult, this ... Views: 520
If someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that it is more or less impossible for them to get angry. Or, if they can get angry, they may find that they don’t get angry when they need to.
Either way, through not being able to get angry when they need to, ... Views: 468
There are people on this planet that have a sense of their own value and then there are those that don’t. It can be as though some people were born with this in place, while others weren’t.
Still, even though it might seem as though this is something that someone is born with, there is far ... Views: 884
For around the first two or three years of someone’s life, they will see themselves as an extension of their mother. During this time, they won’t be able to realise that they are physically separate from this person.
Through being this way, their mother is going to more or less define their ... Views: 479
During someone’s early years, the ideal will be for them to receive what they need so that they can live their own life as an adult. This will then be a time, then, when they will grow on the outside and grow on the inside.
Therefore, the first birth will have taken place, the physical birth, ... Views: 431
Although someone will have been given life and will have the rest of their life ahead of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to make the most of the life that they have been given or appreciate that they have more years to live. Instead, they could generally see life as a burden and be ... Views: 294
If someone was a neglected as a child, there will have been the pain that they went through for many years while they were younger and, now that they are an adult, there can be all the pain that they experience. What took place will have happened a long time go, that much is clear, but time ... Views: 702
Although someone might not realise that they were neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be firmly behind them. Their physical appearance will have changed and they might even live in a totally different environment, but their adult life could have a lot in common with ... Views: 703
If someone was abused as a child, it might be possible for them to see that their childhood was anything but nurturing. However, if they were neglected during this stage of their life, this might not be possible.
The reason for this is that when it comes to abuse, someone might be able to see ... Views: 762
If someone is in a position where they are often all at sea and find it hard to feel at peace, their life is going to be far more difficult than it needs to be. With so much going in within them, they are not going to need to live a stressful life in order to feel stressed.
They could then ... Views: 474
Psychologist Roger Callahan tells a fascinating anecdote about a patient he calls Mary. Around 1980, they were working together on her intense, life-long phobia of water. He’d been working with her for about a year and had tried every conventional therapy he could think of. She’d gotten a ... Views: 1335
If one was to think about what someone would be like if they are nihilistic, the main thing that could come to mind is that this person will believe that life has no meaning and nothing matters. They are then not going to be full of life and they might be happy to destroy things.
Through ... Views: 623
Boundaries can definitely be a tough thing to master, they also can have a profound impact on how we interact with others. For a lot of us, we weren’t taught how to have boundaries so it can be tough to figure these suckers out. Maybe the people that raised us didn’t have boundaries and modeled ... Views: 1272
While there are those who lack the ability to observe themselves and need to take the time to develop this ability, there are those that don’t. When someone has this ability, it could show that they have spent a fair amount of time meditating.
Then again, this could be something that they ... Views: 453
Thanks to how someone typically experiences life, they can have what could be seen as a fairly troubled existence. Then again, it could be even worse than this as their life could be extremely difficult.
The reason for this is that they could find it hard to trust others and accept that not ... Views: 307
If someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult.
Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been ... Views: 358
While there is a time to be and a time to do, someone could be in a position where they find it hard to get things done. It could take a lot for them to get moving and when they do move, it could typically be because they have to.
For example, if they didn’t have to go to work, they could ... Views: 269
What someone could find is that they often lack energy and find it hard to do things. In general, they might only leave their home when they have to go to work and need food.
Along with this, they could go out to see friends, watch TV and they may exercise every now and then. But, even when ... Views: 272
In general, someone could find it hard to get things done and they could spend a lot of time sitting around. When they do take action, it could typically be because they feel that they have to.
For example, this could show that they have to go to work or have run out of food. Behind actions ... Views: 358
If someone was to see that they don’t feel worthy of life, it could be said that this will be an achievement. Now, coming to this conclusion won’t mean that their life will simply change but what it will mean is that they will be aware of what is going on and they will be able to do something ... Views: 368