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The Importance of Mind-Body Work for Treating Grief - by Michael Roth- Early Deprivation: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations. One of the reasons that is put forward is that, by having them, they are likely to end up being let down. However, even if someone is able to arrive at a place where they no longer expect anything, it doesn’t mean that they won’t ...
Views: 315 - Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Expect Bad Things To Happen? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back from their life and to reflect on their expectations, what they may find is a lot of these are “negative”. The expectations that they do have that are “positive” are then going to be overshadowed by those that are “negative”. After this, they could find that ...
Views: 315 - False Self: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Themselves If They Had A Parent Who Didn’t Attune To Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what could stand out is that they spend a lot of time doing what other people want. Consequently, they are likely to find that they often feel drained and even exhausted. Additionally, they can experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 315 - If You Were Rescued, You Wouldn’t Develop Your Strength - by Submitted on May 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to handle life or a certain area of their life is a challenge, they can have a strong need for another person to come and make it better. They could spend a fair amount of time thinking about what their life would be like if this was to take place. When this ...
Views: 315 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Sexualise Women If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman will be made up of many different sides such as a sexual side, an emotional side and an intellectual side, it doesn’t mean that a man will always be able to truly accept this. Thus, when he sees a woman to who he is attracted, he could simply see her as someone who could please ...
Views: 315 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carry A Lot Of Rage Towards His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOnce a man gets to the stage where he realises that he is emotionally entangled with his mother, he could end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage. He could see that not only was he used during his younger years but he has continued to be used. For so long, this won’t have stood out and ...
Views: 315 - Self Sabotage: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Sabotage Their Life? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that at least one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go. This could be an area of their life that they have tried to change for a very long time. But, no matter what they have done, they might ...
Views: 315 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Be Overly Fearful Of The Coronavirus If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some people who have done their best to carry on as normal since the arrival of the contagion, there are others who have been unable to do so. For someone in the second position, it might not matter if the restrictions have been eased where they live. They may have ...
Views: 314 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Use Success To Try To Be Accepted If They Were Not Affirmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend most of their life doing things, and this can mean that they are fairly ‘successful’. So, they could have a well-paid job, an expensive car, and a big house and they could have a desirable partner. If this is the case, they will look as though they have it all ...
Views: 314 - Emotionally Shut-Down: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Emotionally Shut-Down Around Others? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that when they are around others, they have the tendency to lose touch with how they feel. This is then going to be something that just happens as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. As ...
Views: 314 - Meaning: Can Someone’s Life Lack Meaning If They Are Out Of Touch With How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could simply go through the motions in life and perhaps often wonder why they are even alive. During the week, then, they could wake up, get ready for work and then head to work. Once they are there, they could perform one or a number of tasks, with it being as though they ...
Views: 314 - Does Someone’s Past Life Define What Family They Will Incarnate Into? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the family that someone was born into, it can seem as though this was completely random. As a result of this, if they were born into a family that was generally loving and supportive, they were lucky and if they weren’t, they would have been unlucky. Furthermore, if they can ...
Views: 313 - Early Deprivation: Can A Parents Inability To Love Go Back Many Generations? - by Submitted on May 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of someone’s life, they need love in order to grow and develop in the right way. This, of course, is something that they will need for many, many years after this stage for their development to continue to go in the right direction. When it comes to what is meant by ‘love’, ...
Views: 312 - Child Abuse: Was An Abusive Parent Abusing A Part Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to become aware of the fact that they were mistreated during their early years, they can have a strong need to find out why this took place. Along with this, a big part of them can feel as though they deserved to be treated badly. However, the reason that they can also feel ...
Views: 311 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That Their Existence Is A Burden? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have the right to be here and have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of this, they can see both themselves and their needs as a burden. However, this could be something that is outside their awareness, which ...
Views: 311 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Did A Man’s Father Play A Part In Why He Was Unable To Emotionally Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, it is likely to show that he is emotionally entangled with her. This will mean that although he is physically separate from her, he won’t be emotionally separate from her. At an emotional ...
Views: 311 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see is that he finds it difficult to express his needs and feelings when he is with his partner. When he is not around her, however, this might not be something that he struggles with. If this is the case, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. Not only this, his ...
Views: 311 - Self-Image: Does Someone Need To See Themselves Through Their Own Eyes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, if they were to reflect on how they see themselves, is that they don’t have a very empowering view of themselves. They might find that they see themselves as worthless, unlovable and even useless. Having this view is likely to mean that they will have suffered over ...
Views: 311 - Imposter Syndrome: Why Do Some High Achievers Feel Like Imposters? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could be in a position where they have achieved a lot in one area of their life or a number of areas, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable with their current level of success. What they may find, that’s if they were able to take a step back, is that it’s as though they are ...
Views: 311 - Avatar 2: The Way of Water - ‘I See You’ - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, I ended up watching the new avatar film with a few friends, and I must say, that it was spectacular. I watched it in 3D but I think that it would be even better if I had watched it in 4DX. Throughout the film, a number of parts stood out and had a strong emotional impact on ...
Views: 310 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Change Their Inner World In Order To Change Their Outer World? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about changing the world, what could come to mind are all the things that they could do. This could be seen as the only way for them to have an impact on what is taking place out there. Sitting around and waiting for things to change could be seen as the only other ...
Views: 310 - Critical Thinking: What Will The Future Be Like For Humanity? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place on the planet for almost two years, a lot of people are thinking about what the future holds. If some of these people were asked a number of years ago about what they thought would completely disrupt the world, they would have probably mentioned climate change ...
Views: 310 - Disconnected: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Become Even More Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone ends up getting into self-development, they could already be in a pretty shut-down state. However, if they have been this way for most of their life, they might not even realise it. But, although they might not have a good connection with their body and thus, their feelings and a ...
Views: 310 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Emotionally Abandon Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has emotional needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of these needs let alone do what they can to meet them. If this is the case, these needs are largely not going to be met. When it comes to their emotional needs, this will relate to their need to be seen, heard, ...
Views: 310 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Responsible For His Mother If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be an individual who has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will allow himself to act like one. In general, he could put his mother first and do what he can to fulfil her needs. Naturally, this is going to cause him to neglect a number of ...
Views: 310 - First Chakra: Can Developmental Trauma Mess Up Someone’s First Chakra? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with having a physical body, someone also has an energy body, and this part of them contains seven energy centres. The first one can be found at the bottom of their body, while the last one can be found at the top of their head. When each of these centres is in balance, they are likely ...
Views: 310 - Love: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Love? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is likely to be born with the need to both receive and give love, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with these needs now that they are an adult. In fact, they could be unaware of both of these needs. However, even if they are not aware of these needs, a lot of what ...
Views: 310 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a physical body and, therefore, will be visible to others, it doesn’t mean that he will feel seen. In general, he could feel invisible and wonder if he even exists. As a result of this, he could often feel powerless and helpless and believe that he has very little if ...
Views: 310 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unlovable If He Had A Mother Who Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may have the desire to be in a loving relationship, it doesn’t mean that he will believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he might have had this desire for quite some time and not been able to make much progress. He could look back on his life and see that he ...
Views: 310 - True Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That Only Parts Of Them Are Acceptable? - by Submitted on May 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be a multi-faceted being who has many different aspects, they could typically come across as though this is not the case. They are then going to be like a TV that has many different channels but only one channel is ever selected. What this can mean is that they will ...
Views: 310 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that different tools serve a different function, different parts of someone's being are the same. When it comes to their physical body, this part will give them the ability to move and to get things done. Their emotional body/self will be what brings their life to life and ...
Views: 309 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Scared Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at bay. Not only this, but when he is around them, he may find that he is usually anxious. And, if he is not on edge, he could see that he loses touch with what is going on ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Intimacy If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man fears getting close to a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. He is then going to unconsciously do what he can to keep women at a distance, but he won’t realise this. Thanks to this, he might often be in a position where it is as though someone or ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s developmental needs were rarely if ever met during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thanks to how painful this stage of their life would have been, their brain would have ended up blocking out what took place. This would have been something that ...
Views: 309 - Relationships: Why Would A Man Attract Women That Are Overly Masculine? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a number of women who were anything but feminine, a man could be at the point where he wants this area of his life to change. In fact, he could be desperate to be with a woman who is different. However, thanks to the experiences that he has had over the years, a big part of ...
Views: 309 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Are Not Enough If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t believe that they are enough, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is the case, it is still going to have a big impact on their life. So, by having this software running, they can more or less always be on the go and trying to ...
Views: 308 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be An Unfeeling Human Being? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThroughout someone’s early years, they may have been hurt by one or both of their parents. This may have meant that they were abused in a variety of different ways and were neglected, which would have deprived them of the love that they needed. But, as they were powerless and totally ...
Views: 308 - Individuation: Can Developmental Trauma Cause To Feel Comfortable Being An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone acts as though they are an extension of others, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Furthermore, even if they were to become aware of this, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to simply change their behaviour. Through being in this position, ...
Views: 308 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Him From Being Able To Break Away? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a man who is unable to live his own life, due to being emotionally entangled with his mother, it can seem as though it is due to what took place in relation to his mother very early on. So, at this stage of his life, most likely, his mother would have used him to meet some of ...
Views: 308 - “Until You Make The Unconscious Conscious, It Will Direct Your Life And You Will Call It Fate” - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is typically as though someone begins and ends with their conscious mind. Not only this, it is as though what is taking place inside their inner world has very little if any effect on their outer world. When it comes to the self-development world, however, it is often ...
Views: 308 - Child Abuse: Is Someone Wasting Their Time If They Are Trying To Get Through To Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. In fact, their life could be one big struggle, with them wondering if they even want to be alive. However, even if they are not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 307 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 307 - Inner Strength: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Life Is Too Much To Handle? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they often end up being knocked down by life and feel helpless as a result. When this does take place, it could take a while for them to get back on their feet. This could be something that takes place on a regular basis. Due to how often it takes place, they ...
Views: 307 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Reflect On The Fact That His Mother Will Die One Day? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFirstly, a mother-enmeshed man will need to see that he is enmeshed, and, secondly, he will need to do something about it. It can be difficult for him to see that this is the case and doing something about it can be even harder. If he had a physical problem, it would stand out and he would ...
Views: 307 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Reclaim His Mother Projection From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is overly focused on his mother, was able to take a step back and reflect on his behaviour, he might wonder what he is doing. It could be only too clear that behaving in this way is not serving him. But, although this will be an important stage in what will allow him to live his ...
Views: 307 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone may be in an intimate relationship and while this may be something that they have wanted to experience for quite some time, it doesn’t mean that they are finding it easy. Instead, they could find that they are finding it harder and harder to be present and to stay connected to ...
Views: 307 - Hopeless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has recently gone through a breakup, they could find that they feel deeply hopeless and helpless. They are then going to be in a state of despair and it will be as though their life is over. This may have been a relationship that lasted for a number of months or it might have been ...
Views: 306 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother Enmeshed Man Trapped In His Mother’s World? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he will appear to be free to live his own life. Therefore, it will be hard for some people to accept that he doesn’t feel free deep down. He will be a separate adult but he will feel as though he is nothing more than an extension of ...
Views: 306 - Repressed Pain: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Repress Their Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and ...
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