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- All You Need To Know About Marriage Counseling - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWhen talking about marriage counseling, people usually have a negative understanding of it. It has an overtone of failure because “you cannot solve your own marital problems”. But the fact is, acknowledging you’re willing to work toward self improvement for the greater good of your relationship ...
Views: 751 - Wedding Planner: Key To A Perfect Wedding - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraIt’s official- you are now engaged and planning to have your marriage gala real soon. Both of you are overwhelmed with excitement of your nuptial festivity and can’t wait to look for the perfect wedding planner. Especially the bride, who can’t help but day dream about it- an evening wedding ...
Views: 725 - How Your Differences Can Make You Closer - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Kara OhYour relationship cannot be as close as you’d like it to be if you’re not willing to shift your attitude about your differences, i.e. what causes the friction between you. In the beginning, you probably thought his differences were cute, adorable, enchanting even. As you became more familiar, ...
Views: 2060(5 votes) - A Sad Killer of Love - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Kara OhBelittling our partner––or a child, for that matter––either directly or by innuendo, is a direct hit to the heart. Eventually, love is replaced by resentment, loathing or even hate. In the moment, we don’t realize the damage we’re causing when we belittle those we “say” we love. We’re blinded ...
Views: 1868(1 vote) - ***The 5 Things You Should Say to Your Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzNegativism can easily creep into even the best relationships causing a pattern of negative actions and thoughts to overpower the marriage. The question often asked by couples is “How you can build positive interactions with each other on a daily basis so negativism doesn’t take hold of our ...
Views: 6017(28 votes) - Monogamy. Is It Worth It? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Kara OhThis is a big subject but I have a few ideas I’d like to share from my workshops and from my studies of cultural anthropology. I believe men’s nature is to have multiple partners. Polygyny (the practice of having more than one wife at a time) is preferred by 85% of the cultures today. Think ...
Views: 2573 - The Worst Thing You Can Do When Your Heart is Broken - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerWhen someone breaks your heart, you have an immediate tendency to do the very worst thing possible. It is almost a knee jerk reaction that often hinders your ability to heal and lengthens the time you'll hurt. This article addresses the absolute worst thing you can do when your heart is ...
Views: 3122(2 votes) - How to Prevent a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerIt seems that we've all suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The pain that it causes and brings is horrific. Few, if anyone, ever wants to go through that again. So how do you prevent it? And if we can actually do that, is it a good thing? The only sure way to prevent a broken ...
Views: 5680 - The Process of Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerLoss of sleep, an ache deep in the bit of your stomach, frequent tears, a heart seems to get heavier as the days go on, depression, and feelings of isolation and abandonment are all signs of a broken heart. How, if possible, do you heal from a broken heart? There is no quick fix. If you are ...
Views: 3009(1 vote) - ***Al and Tipper Gore’s Marriage – What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzLet’s face it, long time relationships sometimes end. And the simple truth is there isn’t always a compelling reason or reasons why. The separation of Al and Tipper Gore after 40 years of marriage is a good illustration of the “why” question – why did their love affair end after all these ...
Views: 7971(45 votes) - Three Ways to Bring Playfulness (Back) Into Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Shela DeanRemember when you and your sweetheart first met? You counted the minutes until you saw him again. You called just to hear her sweet voice. The air was alive with the snap, crackle & pop of sexual energy. You couldn't get enough of each other and you were always on your best behavior. It was easy ...
Views: 1509(4 votes) - How to deal with a controlling spouse? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Dia ThabetHow to deal with a controlling spouse? Jane complains that her husband does not understand her and that he does not let her go out of the house without asking for his permission. She goes on to mention that if she wants to go to see her friends or the mall she has to tell him. Jane also has ...
Views: 2266(7 votes) - "Why Are My Partners Always Needy?" - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Margaret PaulAngelo had been married to Serena for 15 years before divorcing. In his marriage, Angelo was a caretaker, always trying to please Serena, always trying to get her approval and avoid her disapproval. Serena was a taker - handing responsibility to Angelo for her happiness and often angry with him ...
Views: 5041(2 votes) - Change Your Perception Change Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Susan DerryIf you have difficulties in your relationship, your perspective may be part of the problem. Consider how you are looking at your relationship and how you are looking at your partner? Your perception of your partner and your relationship affects the reality that you experience. Thinking and ...
Views: 5876(3 votes) - Had a Bad Day? Taking It Out on Your Mate Makes It Worse! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYour day started out awful and it’s been downhill ever since. The car wouldn’t start, so you were late dropping off the kids. An accident snarled up traffic, so you were very late to work, which means late to the monthly team-building session, all eyes upon you as you attempted ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Face Book: A Mind Field for Troubled Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Miho AdkinsThe re-acquaintance of old friends, classmates and distant relatives has been a recent aspect of our new millennium lives. The social network site of Face Book puts us in touch with sometimes hundreds of people from our current lives as well as past lives. The sites, at first glance, give us ...
Views: 1522(3 votes) - ***Love and Marriage in Ireland Today - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We arrived in Dublin, Ireland for a week of interviews on the Emerald Isle with successfully married couples. Our journey is part of our new "simple things matter in love and marriage" series and relates to our continuing search for great marriages ...
Views: 4427(32 votes) - A New Mother's Guide To Having A Baby And Keeping The Husband - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe birth of a child is nothing sort of cataclysmic—no single event can have such tremendous impact on the lives of those involved in it. It creates different roles, submerging the old—husbands become fathers, wives become mothers, and parents become grandparents. It strengthens existing ...
Views: 780 - Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated. - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Ryan HughesWell, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand what makes men “tick.” Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts. What’s a woman to do? Rather than describe all the differences between the ...
Views: 2044(1 vote) - All The Things You Need To Do Before You Say “I Do” - by Submitted on May 29, 2010 from Louie BarnettSo your boyfriend has finally proposed to you and you said yes. The immense excitement that arises that day persists long until your whole wedding is planned out and executed. In fact, it only grows and grows until that day. It is nerve racking and extremely demanding to even think of the things ...
Views: 763 - ***How You Can Help Men Make You Happy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerIf you don’t ask…you don’t get. I think this is the key to being happy with men. It’s one of my Dad’s favorite lines. I heard it so often growing up that it’s now a mantra in my already overloaded brain. Dad’s premise was that it is your responsibility to state what you want, and then give ...
Views: 1754(11 votes) - Bad Relationship = Opportunity for Growth - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Susan DerryLooking at any negative experiences in our lives as an opportunity for growth, rather than misfortune, will allow our lives to have an uphill rather than a downhill trend. When you use what you learned from a previous relationship to grow and mature you will be in a better position to form a new ...
Views: 1807(4 votes) - How Long Should Marriage Vows Last? - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Elsabe SmitI recently wrote an article in which I explained that any relationship has a natural duration, after which it ends – unless the people in the relationship hold on to the relationship for dear life. This raised a question about marriage vows. Divorce statistics prove to us time and again ...
Views: 2542(1 vote) - Steer Clear Of Marital Depression - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraWeddings are one of the most special and exciting events that can happen in anyone’s life. It is a very important occasion, for it is the beginning of a new chapter in a couple’s love story. But, there is one thing that goes unnoticed soon after the magical wedding and romantic honeymoon: ...
Views: 792(1 vote) - Secrets To Successful Couple Communication - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraSome people have a knack for communication; for others, this form of expression can be a little difficult and challenging. Whatever it is, communication is one thing that a lot of people use every single day, on all parts of the globe. People have different ways of relating to one another—we all ...
Views: 913(1 vote) - ***Why do Some Find it Difficult to Make a Commitment to Love? - by Submitted on May 26, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Falling in love with another human being is easy, but making a commitment to love them forever is “up in the air” for many people. We like the term “up in the air” from the movie title for a whole bunch of reasons, primarily because it aptly ...
Views: 7255(34 votes) - Should I leave my partner? - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Dia ThabetShould I leave my partner? A few days ago, while surfing one of the forums, I came across a question by a woman asking, “Should I leave my boyfriend?” She says that he is “cold” toward her and doesn’t show any feelings toward her. She went on saying that he cares mainly about his work among ...
Views: 1472(2 votes) - ***The Relationship Trap: "Let's Talk." - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Margaret Paul"Let's talk tonight," said Callie."Oh no, not again!" thought Darren as he gave Callie a blank stare, feeling like a deer in the headlights.Darren knew from past experience that "Let's talk," meant, "Let's talking about what you are doing wrong, and about how ...
Views: 4424(2 votes) - 5 Ways to Stop Feeling Resentful While Living with an Alcoholic Spouse - by Submitted on May 21, 2010 from Angie LewisMost spouses and loved ones of addicts, that have not helped themselves, do feel resentment and anger. They feel resentful for taking care of the alcoholic. They feel resentful for taking the brunt of the abusive behaviors that come with addiction. They feel resentful because they are spending ...
Views: 7888(1 vote) - Communicating Intimately: The 3 Rs of Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2012 from Kealah ParkinsonIt's a common scenario: Boy meets Girl. Boy woos Girl, then marries her, and then they live happily ever after for all eternity. Don't believe me? Check in with them eight years later and see for yourself: a mortgage, two kids, juggling household chores and bills and babysitters and work and ...
Views: 2604(3 votes) - Executive Marriage Coach – Allow Love to Heal You - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Tom KingAll of us have scars from past experiences that cause pain and conflicts in the present. Until we allow healing of the wounds from those things long ago hidden away they will continue to surface in one form or another; self-destructive behaviors, physical or emotional symptoms, or recurring ...
Views: 1325(1 vote) - Cultivating Healthy Relationships In Marriage And Preventing Breakups - by Submitted on May 19, 2010 from Stephen KavitaTo foster good relationships in marriage, it is important to have forecast. Sometimes when challenges arise in a relationship those who are unable to cope choose the easy way out; and that is to breakup. To avoid this it is important to prepare yourself for the challenges ahead that are bound to ...
Views: 1299(2 votes) - What Keeps Marital Fights Going - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Jay LindsayDo you and your partner have the same fights over and over again? All couples do, some more than others. In my previous article, I discussed what repetitive fights are really about: the anxiety couples experience when recurring conflicts erode their closeness. In this article I will ...
Views: 1113(2 votes) - Saving Your Marriage from an Affair - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Jay LindsayKathy found me on line and called me from her home in Atlanta. The night before, her husband Jim, a corporate executive, had confessed that he had recently ended an eight-month affair with his administrative assistant. Kathy was devastated, but she wanted to save her marriage. Now she was ...
Views: 1260(2 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1216(5 votes) - How to love yourself? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Dia ThabetHow to love yourself? You can’t have a fulfilled life without loving yourself. After all, how can you love someone if you don’t love yourself? How are you going to achieve your goals if you don’t value yourself? Loving yourself means accepting who you are just the way God created you. You ...
Views: 1127(5 votes) - Why communication skills don’t always work and what does. - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthCouples come into my office saying they don’t know how to communicate. They often escalate into a full-blown argument or end up shutting down and pulling away from each other. The assumption is that if they could learn to communicate well during arguments, they wouldn’t end up hurting each ...
Views: 1253(2 votes) - Working On Your Relationship Alone - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthAs the saying goes, it takes two to tango. It also takes two to make a couple. It takes two to make a relationship and, it follows, two to work on that relationship. But what happens when one person in a relationship doesn’t want to do the work—especially if that work means going to couples ...
Views: 1307(3 votes) - 3 Reasons Why Keeping Score is Good for Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Shela DeanYou’ve been told it’s death to your relationship but I’m going to give you three reasons why, when done right, keeping score is good for your relationship. 1. It’s a human nature “lemon” so you might as well make lemonade. Mother Teresa and Gandhi aside, we all keep score. It’s human nature ...
Views: 1734(1 vote) - ***Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that many folks are afraid of marriage because they read the dire predictions about marriage in the news, they watch way too much television where the focus is, more often than not, on glorifying sex and multiple relationships, and because ...
Views: 5701(38 votes) - Tradition and sentiment combine in treasured wedding keepsakes. - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Rubel ZamanNo matter what kind of wedding you plan, no matter what the season or setting, some time-honored wedding traditions hold fast. Wedding planner Jennifer Palmer insists, “Among all the old traditions, none is more important than ‘something old, something new, something borrowed, and something ...
Views: 1485(1 vote) - Wedding Etiquette Answers on Every Question - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Rubel ZamanThis is probably your first wedding and you have million of questions on what you should do. Everyone is throwing in a suggestion, but you are not certain if their ideas will work out. You are also not certain if your ideas, coming mainly from issues that concern you are going to offend anyone. ...
Views: 805(1 vote) - Getting Through The Acid Test Of Marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraMarriage is a beautiful thing if you know how to handle and maintain a good outlook about it. It is a balance of give and take, which is why problems in the marriage occur if you or your partner sees it as a one way street. There are certain problems in the marriage that if both of you are able ...
Views: 1031(1 vote) - Christian Marriage Revealed - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Michael Fehlauer1. The Christian marriage is revealed in the creation of man– In the second chapter of the Bible we find God’s purpose regarding the marriage union. In Genesis 2:7 we read, “The LORD God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became ...
Views: 1265(1 vote) - Six Marriage Assistance Ideas You Will not Learn From Your Shrink - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Gerald WeberI was a long time ago so miserably hitched that I planned my husband’s entire funeral, down to the lamb-on-a-stick and the variety of liquor I was going to serve at his very enjoyable funeral. Subsequently I read 12 relationship improvement books. Four months later I renewed my wedding vows. At ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - Marital Counseling: How to Make The Most of the Opportunities of Marriage Counseling - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Peggy FergusonPeople seek marriage counseling because they need help or are in pain. In any given couple, there is usually one who is more interested in counseling than the other. With a list of complaints, each partner usually feels compelled to make his/her case to the counselor about their spouse being ...
Views: 1371(1 vote) - Heed This Relationship Advice- Never Lose Yourself In The Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraYesterday I was having lunch with my “self- confessed not marrying type” friend and she asked me out of the blue “How do you keep yourself when you are madly in love with lover? How do you not lose your selfhood in the oneness of an affair?” “How can do you maintain the ‘I’ in ‘We’?” I was ...
Views: 1932 - Commitment Phobia- What To Do About It - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHave you ever been in that state in your relationship when everything is just so perfect that it scares you? This is too good to be true, you say to yourself. Now, what- you know at the back of your mind commitment is the next step if you want to continue with it. The big “C”- commitment. ...
Views: 2114 - ***Am I in a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Margaret PaulFrequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?"Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different ...
Views: 5255(4 votes) - The Three 'Magic' Questions To Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Greg BakerFor years, as a Pastor and counselor, I've had to figure out how to save someone's marriage. Here is a short formula that I use to find out where the problems may truly lie, and knowing them, I can recommend a plan on what needs to be done to fix the broken relationship. You can follow it for ...
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