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- Drumming At Green Lake - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2011 from Maureen Brennan MercierDrumming at Green Lake is such a wonderful experience. All of nature surrounds me as I sit close to the water, trees, birds, ducks, water lilies, turtles and a lone crane. Having no formal training in drumming and being a little shy, I prefer to go drumming at Green Lake away from the busy ...
Views: 1168(1 vote) - Embrace Death, Live Life - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Mike RobbinsMy mom, Lois Dempsey Robbins, was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer in early March. The disease spread very quickly and on June 13th, she passed away. I was honored and grateful to be with her through her dying process. It was both horrible and beautiful at the same time. My mom's ...
Views: 1459(1 vote) - Embracing Grief - by Submitted on May 06, 2012 from Anne BaigentEmbracing grief and seeing it as part of life’s’ normal cycle of events, when dealing with life changes will assist in seeing a clearer path moving forward and dealing with the events leading you to this place in time. Remember grief is not just the result of death, but any major life changing ...
Views: 2118(1 vote) - Empowerment for the Grieving - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Kim AdamsYour role has changed… no longer are you the care giver. Your loved one has died and things are now different. You may be feeling a whole host of emotions ranging from relief, to anger, to disbelief and sadness. You may be responding by questioning who you are now, and how you go on. Welcome to ...
Views: 1369(1 vote) - Excert from Journey to the Sacred:Mending a Fractured Soul by Dr. Jane A. Simington PhD. Grief and Truama Specialist - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Dr. Jane SimingtonIntroduction At some point in life, each of us struggles in our attempt to make sense of the circumstances surrounding a difficult life experience. The catastrophic event may be situational, such as the loss of a job, the loss of a loved one to death, the loss of a body part, or the loss of ...
Views: 2712(1 vote) - For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday... - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Ellen WhitehurstWhere were you when on that terrible day? Until ten years ago, during my lifetime at least, that question almost always pertained to the day the shots rang out and killed Kennedy; his presidency the seeming symbol of refreshed and restored hope to a nation that had been bruised, bloodied and ...
Views: 3580(1 vote) - Ghosts of the Wheat Harvest - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysIn the fall of 1990, I was meeting with two other men on a regular basis to explore our dreams and aspirations. Every two weeks, we would gather at a Chinese buffet and talk for several hours about things we’d like to do some day. It was around the time of the Men’s Movement, where men went ...
Views: 1639(2 votes) - Grief After A Violent Death Or Suicide - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Donna HaddadRecovering from grief after a significant emotional loss is hard enough without the added pain when the death is the result of murder, suicide, or a disease such as AIDS. The feelings of being emotionally, mentally, or even socially isolated from the people and events around us,usually ...
Views: 3700(1 vote) - Grief and Loss of Relationship in Marriage Counseling: Tips to Work Through the Five Stages in the Relationship Breakup. - by Submitted on May 23, 2012 from Jim BowenHaven’t we all felt the pit in our stomach, the disbelief it’s happening, feeling pissed off, calling up to get back together, and the sadness, when we go through the loss of a romantic relationship that we cared a lot about? Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote originally about these stages in terms of ...
Views: 2550(1 vote) - Grief Counseling Self-Work - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Bob LancerOur lives send us through ups and downs. We expect that we will find a “key” that will unlock the mystery of perennial happiness, total clarity about what is going on, a firm and unending grasp upon the helm of our lives. But inevitably, as night follows day, we find ourselves back in the ...
Views: 1541(1 vote) - Grief in the workplace - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2011 from Jane GalbraithThe workplace is like your second family to many people. Let’s face it, some people spend more time at work than with their immediate families!! After my mother died I don’t think that I was a very good employee. Of course, I couldn’t show it. You have to try to act like your old “normal” self. ...
Views: 1188(1 vote) - Grief into Depression - Issues in Senior Bereavement - Why Can’t Mom Just ‘Snap Out of It’? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2012 from Gabriela BrownLast year, I received a call from Sharon, the adult daughter of a potential client, Bette. Her father, Burt, had passed away a little over a year ago from an extended battle with cancer and Bette had been his primary caregiver. Until his passing, Bette was mobile, energetic and rarely sick. ...
Views: 2005(1 vote) - Grief is our response to all kinds of losses…. - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Ligia HoubenAmong the misunderstandings people have concerning grief is that they think it is the reaction only to the death of a loved one. But we experience a sense of loss when something or someone that belonged to us and was of immense value has been taken from our lives, leaving in their place a void ...
Views: 1412(1 vote) - Grief Relief: Looking for Laughter in Loss - by Submitted on May 12, 2007 from Allen KleinSometimes a laugh is the only weapon we have. —Roger Rabbit While I was writing my book, The Courage to Laugh: Humor, Hope and Healing in the Face of Death and Dying, my dad died. New Year's Eve 1996, he was taken to the hospital. Nine days later, just hours after my mom called to tell me ...
Views: 6217(1 vote) - Grief Unveiled - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2011 from Natasha N. MackeyWhat do you do when all of a sudden your heart is pierced through with pain? The one you thought you would grow old with is suddenly lying lifeless in your bed. Or the hopes of a child fulfilling their divine call - your legacy - but instead their life is snuffed out like a candle wick. What ...
Views: 1556(1 vote) - Griever's Dilemma--How to Celebrate Mother's Day - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Sandy ClendenenMother's Day carries a lot of emotional significance for most grievers. Whatever one's relationship with Mother, this person is our first connection here on the Earth plane. This connection may have lasted a lifetime or it may have ended on the day of birth with adoption, or any number other ...
Views: 1534(1 vote) - Grieving for a Dying Friend - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2011 from Maureen Brennan MercierThe journey of grieving for a dying friend has begun for me. It all began early last month when I heard that my friend Debbie's cancer had returned. Another friend Chris and I went to see her soon after she had a series of tests done. We were startled by how weak Deb had gotten so suddenly. My ...
Views: 1475(1 vote) - Grieving through the Holidays--Three Steps to Cope - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2011 from Dr. Lorrie LauerOne of my favorite Christmas tree ornaments is a green ball my Father and Step-Mother gave me. It has little rocking horses on it with the words, “Baby’s First Christmas” for my son, Jared. It wasn’t just because it was Jared’s first Christmas that made it so special; it was because it was ...
Views: 2089(1 vote) - Healing Effects of Drumming - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2011 from Maureen Brennan MercierThe healing effects of drumming are bountiful. Drum circles have existed for thousands of years. Healers and shamans around the world have used this tool or jewel for self discovery to bring about healing for the body, mind, emotion and spirit. All you need is a drum, your hands and a ...
Views: 1268(1 vote) - Healing Our Heart - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2013 from Maureen Brennan MercierHealing our heart is a multifaceted process that takes patience. The first step is to acknowledge that our heart is broken. Whether it is through the death of a loved one, a relationship ending or a betrayal in a close relationship the broken heart will heal. Once we accept the pain and ...
Views: 1728(1 vote) - Healing the Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2011 from Maureen Brennan MercierHealing the broken heart is a multifaceted process that takes patience and self care. The first step is to acknowledge that indeed our heart is broken whether it is through the death of a loved one, a relationship ending or a betrayal in a close relationship. Once you acknowledge the pain and ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - Help for the Trauma of Abortion - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Tara SpringettThe following case-studies demonstrate what can be achieved in terms of help for the psychological effects of abortion by practicing the simple self-help method of higher-consciousness healing. Case study 1: Barbara (31 years) Barbara experienced strong and lasting guilt feelings about an ...
Views: 1464(1 vote) - Helping Teens with Anger - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2011 from Cristina MardirossianRecognizing Anger Non Physical Signs * Controlling decisions * Isolating from friends, school, family * Having extreme standards * Blaming, insulting, name calling, threatening, questioning or checking up Violent- No Contact * Reckless driving ...
Views: 1815(1 vote) - Helping the Cancer Patient - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2011 from Pam BrownWhen someone you know is diagnosed with cancer, it really can affect your world just as much as theirs. If this person is close to you, it can be especially hard. Sure this is their life we are talking about, but for their close friends and family there is a time where you too will have to come ...
Views: 1096(1 vote) - Hold the Sky: What You Can Do About Personal Grief - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Frosty WooldridgeBy Frosty Wooldridge During your journey on Earth, you face incredible moments of joy, challenge and discomfort. You never know where those “moments” may originate or for how long. In your life, you may face an accident, loss of a loved one, disintegration of a friendship or disease. A ...
Views: 1207(1 vote) - Holy Smoke! - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Kristin EcklundThis was written by a friend of mine Sheri McMurray, and when I read it, I immediately asked her if I could share it. It is such an amazing story. (She is a flight attendant. which helps to know just for ease of reading mid-way through.) The day [my cat,] Chloe, died I was trying to clear ...
Views: 1368(1 vote) - How Loss can Lead to Spiritual Awakening - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2012 from Karen Mehringer, MALoss causes us to ask the tough questions, “Who am I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? It sends us on a journey of self exploration and discovery. It causes us to question the nature of reality. Who we thought we were is no longer. All that we knew to be true, all of our assumptions about ...
Views: 4216(2 votes) - How to Care for Yourself While Caring for Others - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Julie HallI find it hard to believe there is actually a word in the English language that could possibly describe what caregivers go through. There can't be! The experiences during the process of caregiving are often a deep, emotional shift accompanied by confusion, frustration, and even resentment for ...
Views: 1861(1 vote) - How to Choose a Good Therapist - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantEver wonder about how to choose a therapist? Today I would like to share my thoughts on this important question. I believe a client can feel more understood when the therapist has clinical experience with the situation the client is bringing to therapy. And, if the therapist has the same ...
Views: 1712(2 votes) - How To Comfort Sad People - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Nelu MbinguIt could have been your friend, your sister or your child. But somehow, over the course of your life, you have probably had someone come to you for comfort and consolation. They could have chosen you to allay their worries and sorrows after a long sad day. If we are all being honest, I'm sure we ...
Views: 1273(1 vote) - How to Cope with Grief When You Have Clinical Depression - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2011 from Dave KanofskyOn Sunday night May10th 1998 at 9:18 pm, my life as I knew it changed forever. My beautiful wife of 21 years had died unexpectedly. She was a wonderful human being and she was my soul mate. Words cannot describe the feelings I experienced right after she passed away and for quite sometime to ...
Views: 1511(3 votes) - How To Deal With Grief - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from John HanlinI lost a son early in the morning, 1:57am on New Year's Day, 2011. His name is Robert Allen Sickles, born April 8, 1983. He was murdered at an upscale hotel's New Year's Eve party in Costa Mesa, CA defending his little brother David from a derelict coward with a knife, who was trying to pick a ...
Views: 1846(2 votes) - How to Deal With the Loss of a Newborn - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2011 from Pam BrownNothing in this world compares to finding out your pregnant. The miracle of life itself forming inside of you is enough to cause you pause. For nine months you are a special creation. Carrying around and growing a life inside you that will someday walk and talk is one of the most life changing ...
Views: 945(1 vote) - How to Deliver the Best Eulogy - Five Easy Steps - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Bernice McLarenExperts in phobias say that, for many of us, the fear of public speaking is worse than the fear of death. This is because most of us need acceptance from others and fear judgment to some extent. Although the event that necessitates a eulogy is the worst emotional experience, delivery of the ...
Views: 5380(4 votes) - How to Diagnose Depression - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Wendy LauDepression is a medical condition. It is not just on one's mind. It is not an imaginary illness. It is a real disorder that requires to be diagnosed. Hence, a person who suspects himself or herself of being depressed must undergo depression test to confirm the existence of the said disorder. ...
Views: 1922(1 vote) - How to Get Over Your Fear to Drive - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online. Do you have that fear to get on behind the wheel? Do not fret. You are not the only one. There are actually millions of people out there who never apply for a driver's license or drive an automobile because of their fears. However, at some ...
Views: 947(1 vote) - How to Get Things Done When You Are An Emotional Wreck - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Beth DargisEven though I am still reeling from my son’s death, things still must get done – taxes, money stuff, work, prosecution stuff… Here’s what’s been working for me: 1. Have grief sessions every morning and/or evening. Just a time to let whatever you are feeling out – through music, ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - How To Help A Grieving Child - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Pam BrownChildren may not grieve the same way an adult who truly understands the finality of it does, but they do grieve the loss as they understand it. While an unexpected death will catch everyone off guard, understanding and mourning the loss may be confusing to children. Many times a child will ask ...
Views: 1031(1 vote) - How to Help Those Who Grieve - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Mary ZemitesWhat can I do for someone who is grieving? Is there really anyway a "bystander" can help? Sometimes watching a person suffer the pain of loss is almost unbearable. Often in life it is easier to accept our own suffering that it is to accept the anguish of someone we deeply care about. The ...
Views: 1409(1 vote) - How to Survive a Strong Storm - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online. You do not want to get caught in the middle of a perfect storm. This natural calamity can be very disastrous but more so if you experience it completely unprepared. To make sure you can improve your chances of surviving, take note of the ...
Views: 1086(1 vote) - I Lost My Best Friend To Breast Cancer - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2012 from Nathan DanielsI know I'm not alone in the fact that I've lost someone very special to breast cancer, and I'm sure I'm not alone in the fact that it still hurts after nearly twenty years. My mom passed away in 1993, a victim of this horrible disease, and getting over her death has taken most of my adult life. ...
Views: 3653(1 vote) - Inexplicably, Predictably Happy - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2012 from Amy TorresRecently a phrase popped into my head, "Inexplicably predictably happy." That's one way I experience God--words come to me and I can tell they are not mine (some people call this "channeling"). I was actually grieving at the time I "heard" those words, but even though I was grieving, I ...
Views: 2741(1 vote) - Journey Through Grief - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Josephine ForresterI have worked on my grief for 10 years, 10 whole years. That loop of grief would get occasional relief, relief that would sometimes last a few weeks. Some of the edges were smoothed. There was hope that I would be whole again for a bit. I would fall back into that pit of grief every, single time ...
Views: 2595(5 votes) - Little Girl Lost - by Submitted on May 21, 2012 from TC TahoeI have had many memorable moments performing magic over the years. I have been fortunate to have been honored with awards from my peers. I have been hired by celebrities like Pirece Brosnan, Minnie Driver Steven Segal. I have worked on movies with Sean Penn and Albert Finney and Jack ...
Views: 1817(1 vote) - Living at the Bottom of a Well - a Journey through Grief - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2012 from Sheri N HallLiving in the Bottom of a Well By Sheri N Hall You look up, you see a small circle of light- no it is not ‘Gods light’ but it is the way out. It is seemingly far away but closer than you think. It is very small; sometimes non-existent sometimes you cannot see it because you don’t want to ...
Views: 1858(1 vote) - Loss Is The Teacher Of Great Lessons - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Tamara ElizabethAs we head into mid-life we sometimes feel we are in crisis. We feel loss everywhere we turn; loss of our youth, loss of a relationship, loss of children to significant others, careers or school. We feel the loss of friendships, friends or relatives though death. Loss just circles us like ...
Views: 1878(1 vote) - Loss: Why Can Loss Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ...
Views: 2081(1 vote) - LOSSES OF DIVORCE: LETTING GO and MOVING ON - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Darlene LancerEven if you wanted the divorce, it entails loss. Aside from the ending of the relationship with your spouse, you may be losing your home, time with your children, in-laws, extended family, and even friends. There are inevitable financial losses, loneliness, a change of lifestyle, imagined ...
Views: 2028(1 vote) - Miscarriage - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Zita StanleyIf you have experienced miscarriage, you know that feeling that keeps nagging you - what did I do wrong? Why did my baby have to die inside me? Unfortunately, there is no reason and yet we upset ourselves, looking for the one alcoholic drink we had before we knew we were pregnant or if life ...
Views: 2018(1 vote) - Moving Out Of Darkness Into The Light - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Donna HaddadThe darkness I refer to is the painful and life-draining wreckage left after the loss of someone or something that is deeply significant to us. The wreckage is all the "what ifs","I wish", "If only","I should have/shouldn't haves" that remains and keeps repeating itself over and over in our ...
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