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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- How to Choose when to Help and when Not to Help - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Christine SherborneSometimes I find that I am helping the same person repeatedly, and nothing improves. Have you found that you do the same? For most of us it is natural to want to be helpful and fix problems for friends and family if we can, but very often the best action you should take is no action at all. ...
Views: 1101(4 votes) - Embracing Change - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lavinia PlonkaFor a month, I kept banging my head. Unintentionally, or so it seemed. Suddenly everywhere I turned, I encountered a barrier. Obstacles leapt in to connect with my forehead, my temple, the top of my skull. Cursing, but pushing on, I walked into more doors. I hit my head on the car door ...
Views: 1304(3 votes) - Maximize Peformance Through Understanding - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Dr. Rick (Eric) JohnsonTo be effective, leaders must not only manage their team but they must develop an understanding of every individual on that team. Prioritizing acquainting yourself with each individual on your team includes knowing their dreams, their hopes, their thoughts, their opinions and their values. This ...
Views: 859(2 votes) - *** Artist or Creative Block? Are You Running Into Foolish Assumptions? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteYou're blocked, stuck in your creative expression and flow, and it doesn't feel good. You hate being in this emotional state. In your despair you give attention, energy and focus to your block thereby strengthening the very block you wish to overcome. And you feel worse. You are literally and ...
Views: 1196(4 votes) - Has Someone Burst Your Bubble? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Christine SherborneWe all have dreams, particularly when we are young and vulnerable. Have you had the experience of telling someone about dreams that you have in your heart, only to have them shoot them down in flames? They tell you all the reasons why you will fail, or that it can’t be done and will never ...
Views: 1571(2 votes) - Success and Identity - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Geoffrey CanavanWe have all already established an identity. Don’t be afraid to let this identity be up for change. In many instances we find ourselves adapting to situations, almost like being different characters in a play. This gives rise to the many faces of the one person, acting out different roles in ...
Views: 1695(11 votes) - How Successful Are You? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from William Cottringer“Success is the progress we each make in our private, lifelong journey of learning, growing and improving into our best selves.” ~The author. There are currently as many “tests” to measure success as there are personal definitions of it or criteria for defining it. Where do you go to ...
Views: 1161(1 vote) - Do You Set Yourself Up to Succeed? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Layne SchmidtWe recently brought a wild horse into our family and my mate has been applying a training method called Natural Horsemanship. This method encourages the trainer to observe where the horse is at in their understanding and begin the teachings from there. For example, our new charge had never ...
Views: 971(2 votes) - Emotional Intelligence - Benefits for Leaders - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Byron StockFor more than a decade, people from all organizational levels and from a broad spectrum of industries and businesses have participated in programs to help them enhance their Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. While the participants' various roles have presented them with quite different ...
Views: 1069(5 votes) - The Real Secret to Being a Successful Conversationalist - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealIn the last couple of years I have written a lot of articles and a special report to tell people how they can improve their small talk and conversations skills. Quite often, I get compliments from people who tell me that my articles on making conversation have helped them a lot. However, I ...
Views: 1093(1 vote) - Conflict – Are You Using it Productively? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2009 from Gael DrumConflict is a good motivator to address problems and to seek solutions for unresolved issues. It is a good warning sign that an area of your life, or your personality may need attention. However, if you sweep the warning signals under the carpet or ignore the motivation to confront and resolve ...
Views: 1209(2 votes) - Emotional Intelligence…Paving Way to Success - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from JobsBridge PublisherLet me begin with a short story… Brian and Martha were classmates in their high school. While Brian was voted the most popular student for his friendliness and charm, Martha was not so popular but she was an intellectually brilliant student with high hopes for her future. She found it ...
Views: 938(2 votes) - Is Your Job Making You Sick and Cranky? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Gael DrumWe know that living in the 21st century can be similar to sitting on a rollercoaster zooming along at an incredibly frantic pace. It can be a challenging task to pull on the brakes and slow the rollercoaster down, refuel it, and attend to its maintenance, so it can run at its optimum level. Work ...
Views: 1099(3 votes) - What is EQ and Why Do You Care? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Margaret MeloniEQ is the acronym for Emotional Intelligence. So not only do you and I have an IQ (Intelligence Quotient), we also have emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is not about traditional intelligence. It is about our ability to handle ourselves and others. It is all about our ability to get ...
Views: 964(2 votes) - How To Improve Emotional Intelligence: 3 Ways To Enhance Your Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Michael LeeThese days, more and more people are trying to figure out how to improve emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability of a person to understand and control their emotions. It may not seem like such an important aspect of our life, but it actually plays a very large part ...
Views: 2249 - I Hate You!-- How To Let Go Of Animosity Towards Others And Be Happier With Yourself - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Heather TaskovicsHow often have we come across people in our lives who have, in our minds, done something so terrible to us that we feel the utmost loathing and hatred towards them? Unfortunately, we all can admit to this on more than one occasion. When we are faced with situations such as these, we basically ...
Views: 9682(2 votes) - The Four “R”s for a PROductive Relationship: Be Respectful, Real, Responsible and Responsive - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2009 from Mark GorkinThe Stress Doc presents a four step, “Four 'R'” communicational guide for building successful “give and take” professional relationships. The Four “R”s are dramatically illustrated in his recent encounter with an ENT surgeon. Many of us “Boomers” grew up with an alliterative academic ...
Views: 5596(3 votes) - The Hard Truth About Soft-Skills - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2009 from Kevin BurnsThere are 350,000 opinions (books) on “leadership” on Amazon. Corporate America can’t seem to draw a consensus on what leadership is so it’s really no big surprise that Corporate America can’t figure out what soft-skills are and why they are important either. You know, for being such a ...
Views: 1971(3 votes) - 3 Ways to Stop Worrying - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Angela SpaxmanWorrying is a very common source of stress and waste of energy. All of us have times when we worry, and some people rarely have times when they don't worry! Whether you are an occasional worrier, or a worry addict, learning how to worry less is an excellent investment in your life. Here are ...
Views: 1273(4 votes) - Changing My Mind - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Lori Kirstein, Speaker/"Emotional Linguist", Author, ActorIn January, on the heels of the death of one of my dearest, closest friends, I quit my office job. Well, the job was godawful to begin with, anyway, but the false money-guru in my head kept saying, “But I need the money, but I need the money!” And I stayed. Until Randy died. Then I said to ...
Views: 1167(4 votes) - We Are the World…at What Price? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Stephanie FrankIt’s been 4 days since we said goodbye to the King of Pop - or as some would now call him, “The Greatest Artist that Ever Lived.” Some were shocked by the news, most saddened and some don’t care at all. Whatever your personal opinion of Michael Jackson, there is no denying the massive price ...
Views: 1093(2 votes) - What Helps You Expand Your Thinking? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2009 from M.J. RyanSo many of us think about creativity in the context of being an artist or musician. However I prefer the definition that resiliency expert Frederic Flach uses. Creativity is “a response to a situation that calls for a novel but adaptive solution, one that serves to accomplish a goal.” That’s ...
Views: 1359(9 votes) - Let Go of Your Need to Be Right - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Julie DonleyHave you ever had an argument? It’s a silly question, for sure. Everyone has. You know, in that moment, when you’re so sure that you’re right, when you just wish the other person would hear you - your version of reality, that is, your right way of looking at the world. If they would only ...
Views: 1319 - How to Care for and Improve Your Attitude - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2009 from Roger SeipAs a reader of SelfGrowth.com, you’ve likely given some thought to the whole idea of your “attitude.” Some offices I've been to usally have a corny but helpful poster with some pithy saying about “attitude” right? Some of the more popular ones: “Attitude is everything!” “It’s your ...
Views: 1450(8 votes) - *** How to Rise Above the Pecking Order - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteWhere are you in the pecking order of your life? Are you above or below the "measuring up to" rung you hoped to be on at this moment in time? Where are you in the heirarchy through which you define your life achievement; your sense of self-worth and accomplishment? If you had answers to ...
Views: 2183(1 vote) - *** White Space Issues - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Reldan NadlerThe word intelligence comes from a Latin derivation meaning “entering through the lines.” People are always using their intelligence to enter or read into the lines of what you are saying or not saying. They fill in the white spaces between your words almost automatically, because it gives them ...
Views: 7513(2 votes) - Does Your Boss Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfFiona was Corrie’s manager at a branch of a large financial institution that had branches across the U.S. Europe and Asia. They had recently come up with a new process that Fiona was hoping that the organization would adopt throughout their operations. As Corrie was instrumental in developing ...
Views: 1320(3 votes) - The # 1 Reason You Lose Control of Your Subconscious Mind - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Victtor Da PonteMost experts have been focusing their teachings on the great power of the subconscious mind to assimilate 1000 times more information than the conscious mind. The typical idea is that in order to have full access to the subconscious mind, you must be in a meditative state. Only then can you ...
Views: 6067(2 votes) - Why Negative Emotions Persist - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Marie BarrettBefore answering the question of why negative emotions seem to persist more than their positive counterparts, we must consider the origins of emotions. Everything in the universe is energy; it may be physical or non-physical in our experience. Most things function as systems of energy, where ...
Views: 1554 - Emotional Intelligence: Steering the Business World - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Kiran BalaI have no doubt whatever that most people live, whether physically, intellectually or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness…much like a man who, out of his whole bodily organism, should get into the ...
Views: 780 - Kids' Emotional Intelligence: What is it, Who Has it, and How to Get It - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsYour nine year old is teased at school for being the new kid in class, or being too fat, or answering correctly one too many times, and tells you he wants to run away or kill himself. Your six year old feels humiliated at soccer practice cause she can't kick the ball as well as the other girls ...
Views: 1438(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence to Thrust Your Life - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from corporatetrainer IndiaWhat is seen outside is 15% - 10% (appearance). What’s really happening inside is 85% - 90% (emotions). Emotion is like gravity. You know it's there. You know it exists but how do you define it? It is always experienced by the people. Emotional intelligence -“Is a term used to describe the ...
Views: 831 - THE BANDAGED PLACES: Confessions of a Recovering Intellectual - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from ManKind ProjectFor many years I counted myself amongst those who reject the notion of art as a potential source of healing. I saw both the practice and the appreciation of it as a largely formal and intellectual exercise—a game of the mind: a game capable of infinite richness, perhaps, but nonetheless a game. ...
Views: 2163 - It's Only Thinking, But Thinking is the Cause - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Ted CiubaMost people think that they're very ordinary, very normal—or said the other way around, "Well, there's nothing special about me," or, "What's special about me?" The fact is, there's another group of people who say that everybody has a gift to give, something unique. For a Mozart, of course, ...
Views: 663 - The Toxic Need Not Apply! - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Theodore HendersonWhat defines toxic? Merriam-Webster defines it thus: extremely harsh, malicious, or harmful. What does this mean to you? I suggest avoiding toxic people and situations whenever possible. Oftentimes you may not have identified toxic people who inhabit your world as you are just so accustomed to ...
Views: 694 - Beating Road Rage - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfThe other day I was driving down a four lane road at about 3:00 in the afternoon. There was light traffic and I was in the right lane. All of a sudden this car cuts right in front of my as he swerves into my lane and THEN he hits his brakes. My first impulse was to get both of my hands ...
Views: 1277(3 votes) - Emotional Intelligence and the Bottom Line - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Byron StockThe Emotional Intelligence (EI) of a business's people can be critical to success. Leaders' and employees' emotions can play a role in how people behave (what they say or do). And this behavior can directly impact their customers and the bottom line. In their Harvard Business Review article, ...
Views: 1563 - *** You Are Enrolled in a Cosmic Grade School - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteWelcome to your life, the attendance in a universal elementary school of sorts, where you are here to learn, develop and enjoy your being. You are here to learn your ABC's of Abundance, Being-ness and Consciousness. In the rich generative soil of physical reality you are meant to grow and ...
Views: 993 - Coping Strategies for Hard Times - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Sonja WinburnIn times like these, when people in workplaces everywhere are feeling such strain from a lack of resources, and intense stress caused by such uncertainty, it helps to stop and consider. These times can accomplish growth in each of us and although it is burdensome, it can be viewed in a positive ...
Views: 1086(1 vote) - *** The Power of Your Power Point Presence - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteIt's funny when and where inspiration strikes. My latest epiphany came to me while soaking in a hot bubble bath. I had to run from the tub soaking wet to write it down. I've learned that inspiration can disappear as quickly as it comes if not acted upon. This nugget of an AHA moment made me ...
Views: 1066 - The Path of Forgiveness: Sympathy, Empathy & Generosity - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Ana HolubOn our forgiveness path, we examine many aspects of our emotional life. For instance, what is the difference between sympathy and empathy, and how do they fit into a life dedicated to generosity and healing? We are often taught that sympathy is the same thing as love. "Oh, you poor thing!" ...
Views: 3919(3 votes) - Feelings: Tools to Expand Our Lives - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Deborah HillFeelings are very underrated. In my book, Unlimited Life: Limiting Beliefs and Belief Busting Power Truths, I discuss how our beliefs define us. I discuss in the book, and in past articles how limiting beliefs prevent us from creating the life that we desire. A question that comes up often is, ...
Views: 766 - Obligations That Drain Us - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Deborah HillObligations are an expected part of life. We take them on when we feel responsible and caring. However, obligations can drain us of our purpose and energy. They can pile up on us and drag us down. An obligation is an unwelcome chore and a drain when we do anything that is not right for us in ...
Views: 828 - How to Make a Really Difficult Decision - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Claudia LuizPatients often contact me for therapy in the throes of a difficult decision. They want to know if they should get a new job or change their child's school, move to another city or leave their spouse. When they can’t make a decision, it is usually not for lack of relevant information and advice ...
Views: 12068(3 votes) - Why You Are Stuck - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Shelley Riutta"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come live.” Howard Thurman Do you feel stuck in your life? Do you feel there is something more for you in your life but you don’t know what that is? Or you know ...
Views: 801 - Caution! Word's Don't Disappear into Thin Air! - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Azriel WinnettTry an experiment. Start a conversation on any topic with your spouse or best friend. After you've been talking together for a few minutes, interject with something along the lines of: "Hey, what are you talking about? You're a real idiot!" Next, hasten to explain to your partner that of ...
Views: 1666 - Emotions Are For Feeling - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Merry BattlesEmotions are for feeling, feeling in and out: Tears of sadness; cries of joy; words of anger; fear as toys. Round and round we go. Sometimes laughing out. Sometimes tears inward - make for sick bones. Emotions are for feeling. Just what is it all about? They say our feelings create for ...
Views: 952 - Can You Control Everything in Your Life or Not? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Jahiel KamhiI knew him as an angry person for a long time. He used to be angry for weeks or even longer, for the sake of somebody’s behavior, or for the sake of every situation you can imagine. But, he wasn’t a bad guy. When he was angry, he wasn’t furious, aggressive, or rude, just sad and quiet, suffering ...
Views: 1297 - Emotionally Intelligent Leadership: The Optimal Thinking Way - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Sam DonnersWhen leaders lack emotional intelligence, employees often feel powerless, anxious and frustrated. Functioning with unresolved emotional turbulence, their performance can be dramatically impacted. Many employees disconnect from the company's mission and their daily responsibilities when they feel ...
Views: 1354(8 votes) - Are You Emotionally Intelligent? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Jane WoodsWe all know people who have masses of academic qualifications yet somehow just don’t get it right in the world of work. They are not easy people to be with and tend to misread situations. They say the wrong thing, upset people (often completely unintentionally) and therefore don’t always get as ...
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