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- Deceit: Why Are Some People Easily Deceived? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe just about everything that another person says. And then there are others who go to the other extreme, who question and doubt everything they hear. With other people having a balance between the two; so they don’t believe everything that comes out of other ...
Views: 4323 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel ...
Views: 2113(2 votes) - Childhood Abandonment: What Are The Consequences Of Childhood Abandonment? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the first few years of one’s life, they are emotionally dependent on their caregivers. And so it is vital that they are not left alone for prolonged periods of time, because if they are left it can be extremely overwhelming and therefore traumatising. But this doesn’t mean that one’s ...
Views: 1901 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme. But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less ...
Views: 7390 - Communication: Is Eye Contact Important? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences eye contact from another person it can cause them to feel: acknowledged, respected and important. And yet when this doesn’t take place, one can end up feeling: ignored, disrespected and unimportant. Eye contact could be seen as something that is relatively effortless and ...
Views: 2294 - Emotional Growth: Is Emotional Growth Important? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world it is not uncommon for someone to hear that exercise is vital when it comes to leading a happier, healthier and even a longer life. So if one takes part in some form of exercise a few times a week, then their life will change for the better. And it doesn’t take a genius to ...
Views: 1932 - Regression: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Regress? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf defence mechanisms were mentioned, it is likely that regression would be spoken about and this is because it is one of the more common ones. But no matter what defence mechanism is used, they all have the same purpose. With the purpose being that they allow one’s mind to avoid the emotional ...
Views: 1862 - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 2129(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Our Friends Keep Us Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the people in their life who support them, their friends will typically come to mind. Ideally, these will be the people who one can turn to for advice, encouragement and acceptance for instance. So one is able to be themselves around them and doesn’t feel the need to ...
Views: 1856 - Masculine And Feminine: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Embrace Both Sides? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically men and women are very different; with a woman being an example of the feminine and a man being an example the masculine. But while this much is true, on the inside they are both made of masculine and feminine traits. And for a long time, men generally behaved in ways that were ...
Views: 1959 - Relationships: What Causes Jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal. As ...
Views: 1892 - Comments: Why Do Some People Always Leave Negative Comments? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the invention of the internet, people have been given a platform to express their views and opinions. And while this need is nothing new and has not just appeared, it has made it a lot easier for people to speak out and this is due to a number of reasons. When one is expressing their ...
Views: 3008 - Self Doubt: Is Self Doubt A Good Thing? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone having an inner voice that is not supportive or nurturing for instance, there is going to be the need for some kind of change to take place. And if one feels practically paralyzed by this voice, then it is only natural that some kind of solution is going to be ...
Views: 1897 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 1976 - The Ego: Is The Ego A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not working in life, it is common for blame to appear. And this can be towards: things, individuals and organisations. The opposite of this would be to take responsibility and to find out what the problems are and then to take the appropriate action. Through doing this, ...
Views: 1696(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many challenges in the world today and some these are big and some of them are small. And a lack of boundaries can create all kinds of relationship problems. This is also something that can be seen on a global scale; with certain countries going into other countries. This often ...
Views: 1838 - Emotional Repression: What Happens When Men Repress Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOn a physical level, men and women are clearly very different; with men having features that relate to the masculine and women having features that relate to the feminine. And while this much is obvious and easily recognisable, what they are like within is not as easy to describe. But as a ...
Views: 6007 - Feeling Safe: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each one of us has a body, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels that it is safe to be in their body. It might even sound confusing as to how this could be; especially as one’s body is a big part of who they are. Instead of one being in their body, what they can end up doing is living ...
Views: 1937 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1663 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11160 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - Mirroring: Is Mirroring Important To Someone's Development? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is a baby and then a child, they are completely dependent on their parent’s responses to them. Through their caregivers responding, one will be able to have their need for food and nurturing to be met. And this also goes on to include one’s self image and how they view themselves. ...
Views: 1805 - Throwaway Society: What Created The Throwaway Society? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is new or different it is often seen as better than what one has and as something that one can look forward to owning or experiencing. Once something has become ‘old’ and one is familiar with it, its effects usually lessen. So what was engaging and interesting at one point in ...
Views: 6062 - Emotional Needs: Do Our Unmet Emotional Needs Control Our Lives? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that one has needs and these cover a wide range of different areas. For instance, one has: physical, mental and emotional needs. And although each of these are important when it comes to experiencing a level of wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment, it doesn’t mean that one will ...
Views: 5111 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ...
Views: 4480 - Letting Go: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Letting Go? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is constantly changing and never stays the same. But while this is the truth about reality, it doesn’t mean that letting go and going with the flow of life is necessarily easy or straightforward. The outer world is constantly changing and transforming, and yet the inner world and what is ...
Views: 1628 - Pain: Is Pain Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that are part of the human experience, and pain is one of them. Pain can come in many different forms and is not limited to one form. This can be: physical mental and emotional. On one side it can be seen as nothing more than a problem and something that one must try to ...
Views: 1688 - Self Control: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Self Control? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperControl is something that everyone not only wants, but needs to a certain degree. To have no control would make life a real challenge and could make one question their will to live. This doesn’t mean that the control in question here is the control of others. The type of control this relates ...
Views: 1579 - False Self: Can Trapped Emotions Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMany names have been used over the years when it comes to describing that part of someone that is not real or authentic. And one of those names is the false self and many others have also been used such as: the mask that someone wears, the pseudo self and adaptive behaviour for instance. ...
Views: 1859 - Gravity: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe trailer to this film really caught my eye and stood out like very few films do. And while some are quiet engaging and interesting, this was gripping and instantly pulled me in. It soon became apparent that George Clooney and Sandra bullock were in the film. After watching it, I mentioned the ...
Views: 2284 - The Media: Does The Media Destroy Women’s Self Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what the media focuses on, there are many things that are positive and constructive and then there are also numerous things that are negative and destructive. This is to be expected, as there are pros and cons to most things in this world. And with that in mind, it is ...
Views: 1679 - Emotional Regulation: What Is Emotional Regulation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions and feelings are something each one of us has, it doesn’t mean that they are easy to handle or manage. For some people, they generally don’t cause too many problems, unless there is a major challenge in their life. And then there are other people who find it incredibly ...
Views: 2023 - Reality: Can Trapped Emotions Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life, thoughts are often the primary focus. And when someone has this point of view, they are seen as the key to one attracting what they want and repelling what they don’t want. So here, one needs to become hyper vigilant ...
Views: 1737 - Self Harm: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Self Harm? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be said to be two ways that one can be harmed in this world. One of these is through external means and what other people do to them. And the other is what one does to themselves. What goes on externally can be noticed and as it is observable to others, they can come to ones ...
Views: 1767 - Beliefs: Do Our Feelings Create Our Beliefs? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is behaving in a certain way or not attracting what they want into their life, it is often said to be a result of what their beliefs are. And so one then needs to change what they believe, in order to act differently and to attract what they want into their reality. A large part ...
Views: 2925 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2847 - Self Talk: How Do You Talk To Yourself? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we talk to other people in the external world, we are also talking to ourselves in what could be described as the internal world. And this is a dialogue that takes place from the moment one wakes up and until they go to sleep at night. But in many ways it doesn’t stop there, as one can ...
Views: 1611 - Relationships: Are Rebound Relationships A Bad Idea? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one. This could be a relationship that has ...
Views: 1894 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Are Some People Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile emotions are often seen as a distraction and an inconvenience, they are a vital part of being human. Without them, life would be pretty meaningless and while there wouldn’t be any lows, there also wouldn’t be any highs either. It would lead to a life that is very empty and although one ...
Views: 3156 - Forgiveness: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Forgiving? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than ...
Views: 2151(2 votes) - Ungrounded: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Feel Ungrounded? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a term that is typically heard in the area of spirituality and self development; where someone can feel a bit spaced out and disconnected from the earth. Perhaps one has engaged in some kind of energy healing or spiritual practice. And it can also take place when one been reading for a ...
Views: 2633(1 vote) - Shame: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that we are emotional beings and there are many emotions that we can have. Shame is one of them and this can stop one from acting in ways that are inappropriate for example. And yet this emotion can also end up taking over one’s life. It is then no longer something that is ...
Views: 1717 - Needy: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial. And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ...
Views: 1714 - Empathy: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different things that make someone human and therefore allow them to have a human experience and one of these things is empathy. This is something one can have for themselves and something that can extend outwards and towards other human beings. It enables one to mirror ...
Views: 1934 - Relationships: Can Sex Create The Illusion Of Love? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour. For some people, ...
Views: 2303 - Siblings: Do Our Siblings Shape Our Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and sees themselves for instance, childhood development is often cited as a primary factor. This will include how ones father and mother treated them during their formative years as a child and a baby and even ones time in the womb. And while the ...
Views: 1770 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a balanced sense of worth is healthy and conducive to someone realising that they deserve to receive and to achieve in life. The problem is that not everyone has this experience and this can cause them to believe that they are worthless and therefore deserve very little, if anything, ...
Views: 7289 - Sex: Do Some People Have Sex To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent history, the general attitude towards sex has changed and it has almost gone from one extreme to the other. So a more liberal approach has appeared and this is often how life works. This can be seen at a more personal level and further out, to include what is happening in the ...
Views: 1615 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2230 - Female Celebrities: Are Female Celebrities Good Role Models For Women? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to ideas on how to act and in what one should or shouldn’t wear, celebrities play a pivotal role. And this applies to both men and women; neither gender is exempt from their influence. Their influence will be stronger for some people than it is for others and this can depend on ...
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