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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Get Back With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a man who was entangled with his mother, for however long, a woman could be greatly relieved that she has now cut her ties with him. One of the reasons for this is that she could be exhausted and no longer have the desire or energy to experience life in this way. So, ...
Views: 186 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Struggle To Make A Mother-Enmeshed Man Available? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, he is not going to have much time for her. And, when she is with him, he could generally be mentally somewhere else and emotionally out of reach. She is then not going to feel seen and heard, valued and loved, and that she is with ...
Views: 186 - Early Deprivation: Did Early Deprivation Cause A Parent To Be Narcissistic? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was brought up by a narcissistic parent, they are unlikely to be in a good way now that they are an adult. This is, of course, assuming that they haven’t started to heal any of their inner wounds. Ultimately, at this stage of their life, in order to grow and develop in the right ...
Views: 185 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Masculinity Been Knocked Out Of Him? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother and he neglects himself, it will be clear that he needs to start implementing boundaries. This is the only way that he will be able to reclaim himself. Until this takes place, he will continue to turn his back on himself and ...
Views: 185 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Trying To Earn Love Is She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman could feel very frustrated and angry, and be deeply deprived. This could show that she is in a relationship with a man who is rarely physically available, and, when he is, he is typically somewhere else emotionally. The reason for this is that he can generally be focused on ...
Views: 184 - Early Deprivation: Are Attachment Problems Passed Down From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on May 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t able to connect to and form a strong connection with their primary caregiver during their early years, who is likely to have been their mother, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. But, even if this is the case, what took place will have had a big impact on them then ...
Views: 184 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Live In Hope? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that, when it comes to the areas of their life that are not going well, they hope that things will change. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are not ...
Views: 184 - Emotional Collapse: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be In An Emotionally Collapsed State? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to reflect on how they typically feel, they could find that they often feel helpless and hopeless. By being this way, they are likely to spend a lot of time feeling down and even depressed. After this, they could think about why they are this way and what could enter their ...
Views: 184 - Empty: Can Someone Feel Empty If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on the feelings that they experience, what could soon stand out is that they often have moments when they feel as though something is missing. They will then look whole and complete but they will seldom feel whole and complete. By having this ...
Views: 184 - Football: Did Cristiano Ronaldo “Cry Like A Little Girl” During The Portugal vs. Slovenia Football Match? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSince the match between Portugal vs. Slovenia in the European football championship, a lot has been said about the emotion that Cristiano Ronaldo expressed after he missed a penalty. Some people have criticised him for crying after he missed a penalty, while others have been supportive. When ...
Views: 184 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Look Towards Other Human Beings To Save Them? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring an election, numerous people vote for a party that they believe is going to change their lives for the better. For some of these people, what goes on at this level defines what their life is like. In other words, their life will be in the hands of whoever is in power and so, it is to ...
Views: 183 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Narcissistic? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have been in a number of relationships with people who were narcissistic. They may even see that there are a number of people in their life who are like this. When they think about what these ...
Views: 183 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Some Women As Sexual Objects If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man sees a woman to who he is attracted, it might not typically occur to him that she is a human being who has her own needs, feelings, hopes, fears and insecurities, for instance. Instead, she can purely be seen as an object that can satisfy his sexual needs. There is the chance that, ...
Views: 183 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Facing Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother and he is neglecting himself but he is unable to accept this, it is not going to be possible for him to change his life. His life will continue to go in the same direction and he will suffer as a result. Now, while he could ...
Views: 183 - Self-Rejection: Can Someone Reject Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has turned their back on themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if another person were to observe how they behave for a little while, they might soon realise what is going on. At this point, it can seem strange as to how another person ...
Views: 183 - Child Abuse: Can An Enabling Father Do As Much Damage As An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their formative years, they may see that this stage of their life was not very nurturing. This may have been a time when their mother was often abusive. Assuming that this was the case, they wouldn’t have had a mother who was very maternal. It would ...
Views: 182 - Critical Thinking: Has Humanity Been Deceived Into Believing That They Are Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperMost likely, someone will live in a society that is built on the view that they, along with their fellow citizens, are passive observers of what takes place externally. What is going on inside them, then, won’t influence what is going on outside them. Thus, unlike the few that have power, ...
Views: 182 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels unseen and unheard and as though he doesn’t even exist. He is then going to have a physical body and be able to be seen by others but he will seldom feel seen. If he were to take a closer look ...
Views: 182 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Put Women On A Pedestal If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though women are imperfect human beings, not gods, it doesn’t mean that a man will realise this. In general, he could have the tendency to treat women as though they are from another realm. Or to be more accurate, this can be how he often treats the women that he is attracted to and ...
Views: 182 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Very Guarded If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to experience it. So, they might have spent a fair amount of time on their appearance and spent time socialising but not been able to make much progress. This could be something that has been going on ...
Views: 181 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Have A Strong Need To Be Protected If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were abusive. However, although she would have felt deeply unsafe around them as time passed, she probably felt radically different around them at the beginning. If this is the case, she would have felt safe when she was first ...
Views: 181 - People Pleasing: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be A People Pleaser? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might stand out is that they have the tendency to put other people’s needs first. They may see that this takes place without them even thinking about it. Naturally, the outcome of this is that they will also have the tendency ...
Views: 181 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone A Strong Need To Adapt? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the ability to adapt is important; after all, there are going to be times when something won’t go to plan. During a moment like this, someone will need to be able to change their approach. If they were unable to do this, it wouldn’t be possible for them to move forward and to achieve ...
Views: 180 - Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to ignore a number of their needs and to focus on others. But, if this is just what is normal, it might not be something that they are consciously aware of. Consequently, they will be neglecting themselves but this is not going to be something that will stand ...
Views: 180 - Stability: Can Someone Have A Strong Need For Stability If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can live a life that seldom if ever changes. So, they might have lived in the same area, had the same job, and had the same friends for most of their life. Therefore, their life will be very stable and very predictable. However, although this will be so, this is likely to ...
Views: 180 - False-Self: Can Someone Have A Needless False Self If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need ...
Views: 179 - Father Wounds: Did A Father’s Depriving Childhood Stop Him From Being Able To Protect His Son? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man’s childhood is well and truly over, it doesn’t mean that he will generally feel like a strong and capable adult. Instead, he can generally feel low and be full of doubt, and be anxious and fearful. If he is consciously aware of what is going on, he could believe that he is this ...
Views: 179 - Perfectionism: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Perfect If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an imperfect human being, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thus, they won’t be able to accept that making mistakes and getting things wrong is part of the human experience. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary pressure. ...
Views: 179 - Therapy: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Cared For Cause Them To Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is struggling mentally and emotionally, they can end up looking for a therapist to work with. They might have been in a bad way for a little while or this might be an experience that is relatively new. If this is not something that they have just started to experience, it is good ...
Views: 179 - Mindset: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A ‘Negative' Mindset? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they don’t have a very ‘positive’ view of themselves. So, they can believe that no one likes them, are worthless, are a burden, are unlovable and are incapable, for instance. What could enter their mind ...
Views: 178 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Abandon Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, she is likely to wonder what is going on. She can struggle to understand why he is behaving in this way. It could be clear to her that he is not there for himself and this is causing him to ...
Views: 178 - Romance Scammers: Why Wouldn’t Someone Be Able To Accept That They Are Talking To A Romance Scammer? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has spoken to a friend or family member on a number of occasions about the person who they are in a relationship with, they could soon come to the conclusion that something isn’t right. This could be because they are with someone who is physically and/or verbally abusive, but, this ...
Views: 178 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Man Still Be Enmeshed With His Mother If He Doesn’t Speak To Her? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about a mother-enmeshed man, what is likely to come to mind is a man who is overly focused on his mother. This will make complete sense as if he is entangled with her, his life is surely going to revolve around her. Based on this, if a man doesn’t speak to his mother ...
Views: 177 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Abandoned By His Father? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is too focused on his mother and her needs, what could also stand out is that his father is also in the same position. After this, what could enter his mind is that his mother is using both of them. He could then see that this has been going on for many, many ...
Views: 177 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Depriving Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIrrespective of how many years have passed since a man was a boy, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. This might not be something that he is aware of, though. If someone who understood the impact that early deprivation can have on someone was to take a ...
Views: 176 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Owns Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, is that he has the sense that his mother owns him. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. Therefore, if it was put forward to him that he is behaving as though ...
Views: 176 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Sacrificed By His Father? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is focused on his mother and is abandoning himself, he can experience a lot of anger toward her. He can be angry about being used and taken advantage of. To make matters worse, if he were to talk to her about what was going on, she might not listen to what ...
Views: 176 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a separate human being with their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can feel like they are simply an extension of others. Due to this, they are not going to have the sense that they own themselves, they will ...
Views: 175 - Invisible Child: What Can Happen If Someone Was An ‘Invisible Child’? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, a time when they needed to be seen and heard in order to grow and develop in the right way, they might have largely been ignored. This would then have been a time when their basic needs might have typically been met but their emotional needs wouldn’t have. One or ...
Views: 175 - Procrastination: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Procrastinate? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their behaviour, is that they have the tendency to put things off. So, this can relate to one area of their life or it could relate to how they are in general. If this relates to how they are in one area of their life, it might have much of an ...
Views: 175 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have ...
Views: 174 - Lack Mentality: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Lack Mentality? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on what often goes through their mind, they could come to the conclusion that they have a scarcity mindset. They could see that they often think about how there is not enough. This can relate to there not being enough money, opportunities, ...
Views: 174 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Be Enmeshed To Her Father If She Attracts Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been with a number of men who were focused on their mother and, thus, were unavailable, she is likely to question if this area of her life will ever change. But, if she has been in this position on more than one occasion, this is to be expected. What could make this even harder ...
Views: 174 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is unable to live his own life, due to how focused he is on his mother, it can appear as though she is the main problem. It might even seem as though the only way that he will be free is if his mother passes on. This is something that a woman could say as a result of how caught up ...
Views: 174 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Himself If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed. Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a ...
Views: 173 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Living Their Own Life If They Had A Manipulative Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone takes a step back and reflects on their life, what they can see is that they often do things that they don’t want to do. So, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say no. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time doing things that don’t serve ...
Views: 172 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Healthy Sense Of Entitlement? - by Submitted on May 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a lot is said about those who are entitled. When someone is in this position, they can be described as being ‘very entitled’ and expecting the whole world to revolve around them. From this, it can be as though there are only two options. Either someone is entitled and will behave ...
Views: 171 - Boundaries: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that they have trouble letting people get close to them. This can mean that they will spend a fair amount of time by themselves. Then again, they could spend a fair amount of time around others but typically hide themselves when ...
Views: 170 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Controlled By Their Abusive Parent If They Hate Them? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter thinking about some of the things that they experienced during their formative years, someone could find it hard to understand why they were treated so badly. But, if they were treated as though they were their parent or parent’s enemy as opposed to their child, this is to be ...
Views: 170 - Father Wounds: Can Fathers Day Be Hard For Someone If They Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, Fathers Day is a day when they will show their gratitude to their father for all the things that he did for them when they were a child and continues to do for them now that they are adults. When someone is in this position, this is then going to be a day of celebration and ...
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