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- Fame: Can Being Famous Give Someone A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it doesn’t take much for someone to be famous, and this has meant that more people are ’famous’ than ever before. In the past, it was often necessary for someone to have achieved something significant in order to be known by others, but in today’s world, this is no longer the case. ...
Views: 1717 - Fame: Can Childhood Neglect Make Someone Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was well-known in the past, it may have been because they had achieved something significant or it may have been the result of a crime they had committed. In today’s world, this has all changed and one no longer needs to have done either. This was something Andy Warhol alluded to ...
Views: 1755 - Fame: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have a strong need to be known by a lot of people. Thanks, in a part, to modern-day technology, there is a myriad of different ways in which someone can achieve this goal. However, in the past being known by a lot of people was largely seen as ...
Views: 368 - Fame: Why Do So Many People Want To Be Famous In Today's World? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf a teacher one was to come across a group of students and they were to ask them what they wanted to be when they are older, there is the chance that a number of them would have the same answer. It could be said that this is to be expected, and this is because they are at an age where they are ...
Views: 1872 - Fame: Why Do Some People Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world fame is not merely seen as a by-product or as a consequence of achieving something; fame is pursued directly and as a goal in and of itself. With there being numerous examples of people who place fame as the ultimate achievement in life and above anything else; it might seem ...
Views: 16403 - Family Constellations: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To Family Constellation Therapy? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s life is not going as they would like it to go, there are a number of things that they can do. And while some of these things will allow them to move forward, there are going to be others that won’t. Escapism One could be drawn to things that will allow them to take their ...
Views: 1435 - Family: Are Family A Gift Or A Curse? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some families in the world that are filled with love and connection. These families’ work together, to support and assist each other and not because they have to; but because they want to. To them, family means much more than just a word or the DNA that may connect them to each ...
Views: 2240 - Father Wounds: Can A Be Difficult For A Boy To Grow Into A Man If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on May 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a boy to not just grow into a man but to act like one, it will be essential for him to receive the right care and guidance. For this to take place, both his mother and father will play an important role. His mother will provide him with the care that he needs to emotionally ...
Views: 402 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Abandon Himself If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have been given life and his life is important, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. In general, he could act as though both he and his life are not important. As a result of this, he is likely to lead a life that is anything but fulfilling and he could typically ...
Views: 423 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Domesticated If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that an animal can be someone’s pet, a man can be in a very similar position. He will then, like the animal, be just about out of touch with his instincts and it won’t be difficult to control him. The difference is that while the animal will primarily be controlled at home, ...
Views: 380 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Unavailable If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is a challenge for him to connect to how he feels. This is not to say that he was fine before this, though, as he may have struggled to connect to his feelings before. However, now that he is in a relationship, ...
Views: 342 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Highly Motivated If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on May 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is highly driven, he could often be seen as someone that has high self-esteem. Along with all the things that he has achieved, then, can be all of the positive feedback that he receives from others. However, although he may have high self-esteem, it doesn’t mean that he is being ...
Views: 332 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be In A Boundaryless State If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may find is that he rarely feels comfortable standing his ground and asserting himself. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for him to be walked over by others. He could be used to saying yes when he would rather say no, ...
Views: 350 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Lifeless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperLike a car without an engine, a man could spend a lot of his time sitting around and doing very little. For the car to move it will probably need to be pushed, that is unless, of course, there is an earthquake, for instance. For him to move, it might generally take an external force. That can ...
Views: 541 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Fight Instinct If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to assert himself and to stand his ground, he will need to have a strong connection to his fight instinct/aggression. Ultimately, this part of his being will provide him with the vitality and the power that he needs to truly embrace life. Having this connection doesn’t ...
Views: 596 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Passive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a car to move, it will need to have a power source; without this, it will simply stay in the same place. If it does move, it will only be because it is being pushed by someone or something that has power. In the same way, for a man to move and to take action he will also need to ...
Views: 381 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Submissive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is out with his friends, he can typically be easy-going and happy to go along with whatever another person wants to do. He is then going to go along to get along and he will rarely assert himself. It might not be much different when he is at work, as he could be just as compliant and ...
Views: 314 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Being Controlled By The Matrix If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was mistreated by his father during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. The reason for this is that his brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. But, if he was able to remember some of the things that took place, he still might ...
Views: 300 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That It Is Not Safe To Exist If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man doesn’t feel safe enough to exist, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. However, being this way is going to have a massive impact on his life. Through being this way, he can typically be out of touch with his body and/or he can isolate himself from others. ...
Views: 498 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Badness If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, that’s if he was able to step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the inclination to feel bad. When this is the case, he is likely to feel very low and worthless and he might, at times, even contemplate ending his life. Therefore, even if he doesn’t feel this ...
Views: 391 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Sense Of Violation If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is often walked over and treated badly by others. There may have been moments when he thinks that the world is against him. Now, this could be something that he only experiences when he is in the company of other ...
Views: 523 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he ...
Views: 375 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Disconnect From His Masculinity If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man can remember, he may see that he has been passive, easy-going, and found it hard to assert himself. Consequently, he will have most likely spent a lot of time around people who are the complete opposite. He may find that he has spent a lot of time around both men and ...
Views: 580 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Fear Human Contact If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to fulfil this need. What he may find, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has only been able to get so far when he has been in a relationship. He could see that he has been with a number of women ...
Views: 696 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to ...
Views: 363 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Responsible For His Mother If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be an individual who has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will allow himself to act like one. In general, he could put his mother first and do what he can to fulfil her needs. Naturally, this is going to cause him to neglect a number of ...
Views: 369 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he often feels worthless and as though he is bad. Due to this, he may find that it is a challenge for him to embrace good things as he won’t feel worthy of them. As a result of this, he may see that he has pushed a lot of ...
Views: 365 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Father Was Treated Badly During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he could find that he doesn’t have a very empowering view. He could find that he sees himself as someone who doesn’t have any value. What could then stand out is how this view is having a negative impact on his ability to ...
Views: 311 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have both a masculine and feminine element inside him, he may find that it is hard for him to connect to the former. Consequently, it will be hard for him to express himself and to take action. From the outside, it will probably look as though he has the ability to do ...
Views: 354 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Feel Safe If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man could live in a country that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that he will feel safe enough to be in his body and to feel at ease. Consequently, he could spend a fair amount of time feeling anxious and on edge. Along with this, there could be moments when he is in a shut ...
Views: 593 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Relax If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could find that it is hard for him to relax and just be. As a result of this, he is going to spend a lot of time on the go and this is going to mean that he is often in doing mode. Now, this could mean that he is a workaholic but there is also the chance that this is not the ...
Views: 349 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to go to sleep at night and to leave his bed in the morning, he will need to have a sense of trust. Without this, he won’t be able to let go and fall asleep and he won’t be willing to leave his home and go out into the world. However, although he might be able to do this, ...
Views: 394 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Disempowering Self-Image If His Father Wasn’t A Good Role Model? - by Submitted on May 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of himself. For a large part of his life, this may have been something that was just under the radar, so to speak. Consequently, the view that he has of himself would have just been ...
Views: 337 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Lot of Unmet Childhood Needs To Grieve After His Father Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has just lost his father, he could be experiencing life in one of two ways. He could be in a very bad way emotionally, or he could be emotionally shut down. Then again, there could be moments when he feels overwhelmed with grief and moments when he is out ...
Views: 663 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Relationship With His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAnger, like any other feeling, is neutral; what defines whether it will lead to constructive or destructive behaviour is how it is utilized. So, if a man was to end up experiencing anger and lashed out at someone, it would be destructive. However, if he was to end up experiencing anger and ...
Views: 465 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Father Was Humiliated During His Early Years? - by Submitted on May 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may have the tendency to feel low and bad about himself. When this is so, he could end up doing one of two things; he could either isolate himself from others or he could be around others and do what he can to please them. Therefore, it won’t be necessary for him to isolate ...
Views: 406 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need For Approval If He Grew Up With An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s father was rarely, if ever, emotionally available during his formative years, this is likely to have been a time when he didn’t receive what he needed in order to develop in the right way. This would have caused him to experience a lot of pain. However, he wouldn’t have had any ...
Views: 756 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Impress Others If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have achieved a lot, but, no matter how much he has achieved, he can have the need to achieve more. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this is just part of being human. Being driven and having the need to grow and expand is then normal and not ...
Views: 219 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have Strong Need To Be Successful If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf during a man’s early years, his father was rarely available and thus, seldom if ever provided him with the love, support, encouragement and acceptance that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he is no longer looking for his father to meet these needs now that he is an adult. However, if he is ...
Views: 312 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Safety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man has a felt sense of safety, he will be able to be in his body and to freely express himself. As a result of this, his body will be his home and he won’t need to live in his head. By being this way, he will be able to feel at ease and experience inner peace. In other words, his ...
Views: 438 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Self-Ownership If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be easy-going and ‘nice’, with him having the tendency to do what other people want. In general, he could act as though he is nothing more than an extension of others. By being this way, he is likely to often do things that he would rather not do and be ...
Views: 335 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lose The Will To Live If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift. But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come ...
Views: 408 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Put Other Men On A Pedestal If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the men in a man’s life, some of these could just be seen as other human beings, whilst others could be seen as being far more. As a result of this, he is not going to view all of the men in his life in the same way. However, this is not to say that this is something that he ...
Views: 452 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Reject His Feminine Aspect If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, a man will have a masculine aspect, and, on the other, he will have a feminine aspect. But, although he will have two sides to this nature, it doesn’t mean that this is something that will stand out. He could generally come across as though he is only made up of the masculine ...
Views: 344 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Repress His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he rarely if ever gets angry, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. What this can mean is that it is normal for him to be walked over, taken advantage of and not stand his ground. This could be something that he experiences each week if not every ...
Views: 361 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Sabotage His Life If He Has The Need To Be Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is finding it hard to move forward in life, he might find it hard to believe that this could be due to what took place during his early years. As far as he is concerned, what took place at this stage of his life could be in the past and that’s the end of it. The reason why his life ...
Views: 325 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Suffer From Depression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFeeling heavy, low and deflated could be an inner experience that a man is accustomed to. For as far back as he can remember, he may have had the tendency to experience life in this way. Consequently, he may typically see life as something that has to be endured, not enjoyed. In general, ...
Views: 401 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look for A Father Figure If His Father Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man’s childhood will be well and truly behind him, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. As a result, he can be looking for what he missed out on. However, if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. He is ...
Views: 204 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For A Father Figure If His Father Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man’s childhood will be behind him, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be anchored to this stage of his life. The reason for this is that this might have been a time when he missed out on what he needed from his father ...
Views: 332 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For His Fathers Support If He Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man missed out on the support that he needed from his father throughout his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. Furthermore, he might seldom if ever even think about this stage of his life. But, when it does come to this stage of his life, he could think about ...
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