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- Needy: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial. And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ...
Views: 1691 - Words: Do Words Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe power that words have cannot be denied or dismissed. And there are many points and areas to look at when it comes to words. However, the primary focus of this article is going to be the role that the ego mind plays. Words have certain meanings in the dictionary and socially for example; ...
Views: 1691 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Being Able To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach experience that one has in life is going to play a part in how they feel. In some cases, how one feels will reflect what has taken place and at other times, it won’t. And this is because what has happened externally has triggered feelings from the past. This inner experience could ...
Views: 1689 - Shame: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that we are emotional beings and there are many emotions that we can have. Shame is one of them and this can stop one from acting in ways that are inappropriate for example. And yet this emotion can also end up taking over one’s life. It is then no longer something that is ...
Views: 1685 - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human is to be vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean that accepting this is therefore easy. To surrender to this truth can be an incredible challenge; that is if one even wants to. And as a way to avoid this truth, one can create all kinds of walls and defences. But while this may allow one ...
Views: 1683 - Intimacy: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Being Able To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is relatively easy for someone to share their body with another person, the same can’t be said about their heart. This means that although the need is there for someone to share how they feel with another person, it is not something that always feels comfortable. However, just ...
Views: 1682 - Relationships: What Happens When Someone Is Always Told What To Do? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what one has achieved or how old they are, they are going to times when they need another person’s guidance. And through another person’s guidance, one will learn about what they need to do in order to move forward in life or to undertake a certain task for instance. This can take ...
Views: 1681 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1680 - Human Chameleon: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Be A Human Chameleon? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to be themselves, and while they can adapt, this is not something that always takes place. Not only do they have a sense of themselves, but more importantly, they will feel that it is safe for them to be themselves. At times, they’re going to understand the ...
Views: 1680 - Mindfulness: Can Mindfulness Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on May 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one reacts to what is going on externally or to what is going on internally, they are not experiencing self control and at times, this is to be expected; human beings are not robots after all. However, when one experiences no self control whosoever, they are going to find it difficult to ...
Views: 1679 - Bad Dreams: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bad Dreams? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will be familiar with their dreams, other people won’t be. When some people wake up it is going to be easy for them to remember what took place in most cases and they could keep their dreams alive by writing about what happened. And for others, they might remember what took ...
Views: 1678 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With People Who’re Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who typically eat food that is unhealthy, there are others who typically eat food that is healthy. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. A Big Effect When one can relate to the former, it could mean that they have the tendency to eat a ...
Views: 1678 - Help: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Asking For Help? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to buy a new bed and their bedroom was upstairs, they may find that need someone to help them to take it there. Yet even if the bed hasn’t been built, they may still find that it is too heavy for them to lift by themselves. It will then be normal for them to ask someone to help ...
Views: 1677 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know When A Relationship Is Over? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either. However, just because something seems ...
Views: 1677 - The Media: Does The Media Cause Apathy? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take too much effort to notice that today’s media outlets have incredible influence over so many people’s lives. And that this influence can result in all kinds of consequences taking place. Now, some of these are consequences that are clear to see and are highly visible. And ...
Views: 1677 - Shameless: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Shameless? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is possible for an emotion to enhance one’s life, it is also possible for an emotion to have the opposite effect. If one feels angry, it could be a sign that they have been violated, but if they always feel this way it shows that something isn’t right. It could mean that one is ...
Views: 1676 - Relationships: Does Someone Lack Empathy When They Tell Other People To Smile? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there will be moments when one is happy and moments when they are not. And if they were to reflect on their life, they may see that they spend more time in one state than they do in the other. This can be how their life has always been, or it could just be down to ...
Views: 1675(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some Therapists Take On Their Clients Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often do everything they can to protect their property, the same can’t always be said about themselves. In the collective consciousness, there is a general understanding that one needs to protect their property. And this is not because people can’t be trusted or that everyone ...
Views: 1674 - Therapy: Should Someone Work With A Therapist For A Long Period Of Time? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one wants to work with a therapist, they can have a number of different questions, and one thing they can want to know is how long it will last. This could come down to the fact that they want to move on with their life, or it could be a sign that they just want to feel better. ...
Views: 1672 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who get angry from time to time; there are others who are angry almost all the time. Yet this is not to say that there are only two categories, as there are going to be others who are rarely, if ever angry. When one experiences life in this way, they could believe ...
Views: 1670 - Negative Thoughts: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘negative thoughts’ has become very well known in today’s world and this is true for people who are into self development and people who are not. Thoughts are generally the primary focus in the area of change and personal transformation. These are said to control how one behaves, ...
Views: 1669 - Self Worth: Do You Let Your Experiences Define Your Self Worth? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life where their external reality mirrors back to them exactly what they want to experience and then there are going to be times when this doesn’t happen. And these experiences can end up defining not only how one feels, but also what they believe about ...
Views: 1668 - Anger: Can Repressed Anger Cause Skin Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that every emotion has a purpose, and this means that it is going to be important for one to pay attention to all of them. However, even though this is the case, it can be easier said than done. What this comes down to is that while they might be able to embrace certain ...
Views: 1667 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage People To Label Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one uses social media, it gives them the chance to express themselves in a number of ways. As a result of this, it can be somewhere where they share things from time to time and stay up to date with people, or it can be so much more. In this case, it could be a small part of one’s life ...
Views: 1667 - Smothered Or Abandoned: Do You Alternate Between Feeling Smothered And Abandoned? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have the need to reach out and to connect and the need to pull away and be by themselves. This is normal and the amount of time that is required with another and by oneself is naturally going to vary from person to person. It can come down to what is going in their life and how they ...
Views: 1666 - Pain: Is Pain Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that are part of the human experience, and pain is one of them. Pain can come in many different forms and is not limited to one form. This can be: physical mental and emotional. On one side it can be seen as nothing more than a problem and something that one must try to ...
Views: 1665 - Anger: Can Someone Use Boxing/Martial Arts To Deal With Their Anger? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of people who suffer from depression, there is also no shortage of people who have anger problems. Still, this is not to say that someone can either have one of the other, as it is unlikely to be this black and white. A Different Experience For example, one could ...
Views: 1664 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to lie down in a crowded place, there is a strong chance that they would end up being walked over. And it wouldn’t matter whether someone wanted to walk over them or not, as they wouldn’t have much choice. However, this is not to say that one needs to do this in order to be walked ...
Views: 1664 - Toxic Shame: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain things that can be passed on from one generation to another that are beneficial and life affirming. This could relate manners, values and etiquette. These aspects will not only affect how one lives their life, the lives of others are also going to be affected. Through being ...
Views: 1663 - Childhood Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people on this planet who always have enough and then there are others who never have enough. And it doesn’t matter what state the economy is in either; as there will still be the haves and have not’s. When one thinks about people to have what they want, they may start to ...
Views: 1662 - Relationships: Can The End Of A Relationship Trigger Someone's Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship starts, there is the chance that one will experience a lot of pleasure, and then as time passes, this could change. This is not to say that this will go from being a something that has a positive effect on their life, to something that has a negative effect. What this ...
Views: 1662 - Relationships: What Can Sabotage Adult To Adult Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEven though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child. This won’t be limited to ...
Views: 1661 - Sadness: Why Do Some People Always Feel Sad? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had to choose between feeling happy or feeling sad, they’re likely to choose the second option; being happy feels good and being sad feels bad. Based on this outlook, one feeling is seen as being better than the other. But just because feeling happy feels better than feeling sad, it ...
Views: 1661 - Relationships: Where Does Someone’s Idea Of The Perfect Partner Come From? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to attracting someone for a relationship or something that involves less commitment, there is the chance that someone can have a certain type that they go for. And then for others, this is not always the case; with them having no set idea of what another needs to be like. ...
Views: 1660 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Get Over An Abusive Man? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a woman who has been with an abusive man it is not always easy to move on. And this can be due to the following factors; how severe the abuse was and how the woman responded to the abuse. But no matter what took place or how a woman was able to respond to the abuse that was taking ...
Views: 1659 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to maintain their sense of self when they are around others, there are going to be other people who are unable to do so. However, even though this is what is taking place, it doesn’t mean that someone realises what is happening. Part of Life For example, if ...
Views: 1658(1 vote) - Procrastination: Is Procrastination Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about something they have been struggling with as of late or for most of their life, procrastination is often mentioned. This could be something that is having an impact on every area of someone’s life in extreme cases or it could be something that just appears in certain ...
Views: 1658 - The Media: Does The Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are so many things that can take place through exposing oneself to the mainstream media. And let’s face it, due to the power and influence that it has, it is more or less impossible to not be affected by it. For some people, their whole meaning of life, what’s going on in the world and ...
Views: 1658(1 vote) - Relationships: Do People Know When Their Partners Are Having An Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one is unable to see what is taking place around them and during these moments, it will be important for them to reach out to others. This is not necessarily because the people on the outside have something they don’t; it is because they are not emotionally involved. ...
Views: 1657 - The Ego: Is The Ego A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not working in life, it is common for blame to appear. And this can be towards: things, individuals and organisations. The opposite of this would be to take responsibility and to find out what the problems are and then to take the appropriate action. Through doing this, ...
Views: 1657(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Care What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one hadn’t learnt now to drive and they had to rely on someone else to drive them everywhere, their life is going to be a lot harder than it would be if they could drive. This is because they won’t be able to go out when they want; they will only be able to go out when the only person is ...
Views: 1656 - Helpless: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one is constantly having an effect on their environment, it doesn’t mean that they are able to accept this. Some people will be able to see that this is the case and there are going to be others who believe they have no effect whosever. And when someone experiences life in a way that ...
Views: 1656 - The Media: Does The Media Destroy Women’s Self Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what the media focuses on, there are many things that are positive and constructive and then there are also numerous things that are negative and destructive. This is to be expected, as there are pros and cons to most things in this world. And with that in mind, it is ...
Views: 1656 - Offended: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Offended By Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are a lot of sensitive people, and through being this way, they can find it hard to handle day-to-day life. However, this is not to say that everyone who is sensitive responds to life in the same way. Two Types What this comes down to is that ...
Views: 1655 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Grieve? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences loss, their whole experience of life can change, and when this happens, it is not going to be possible for them to carry on as normal. The thoughts in their mind and the emotions in their body can be different, and the meaning of their life could also have altered. ...
Views: 1655 - Relationships: Has Internet Dating Made It Easier For People To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to achieve something, they can end up imagining what their life would be like if they were to achieve it. On one hand, they could believe that it will have a small impact on their life, and on the other hand, they could believe that it will have significant impact on ...
Views: 1655 - Overactive Mind: Can An Emotional Build-Up Cause Someone To Have An Overactive Mind? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look after a puppy for a week and for another week, they were to look after a dog that had been trained; they are likely to see how different dogs are at a young age. After the first week, they could end up feeling exhausted and as though they need a break. Whereas once they ...
Views: 1654 - Entitlement Mentality: Is The Law Of Reciprocity Being Phased Out By The Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is given something, they can feel the need to give something back. This doesn’t mean that they will give something back straight away though; as they could return the favour at a later date. So as time passes, one may give something to the person or the company who gave them ...
Views: 1653 - Fame: Can Being Famous Give Someone A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it doesn’t take much for someone to be famous, and this has meant that more people are ’famous’ than ever before. In the past, it was often necessary for someone to have achieved something significant in order to be known by others, but in today’s world, this is no longer the case. ...
Views: 1653 - Relationships: Can Being Emotionally Disconnected Stop Someone From Having The Need To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who experience deeper connections with others, there are others who don’t. This means that the interactions that they do have with others will generally be surface level. One way of looking at this would be to say that they will be on the side of a swimming pool; ...
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