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- Sexless Relationship, Missing Boyfriend - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dennis, I met this incredible guy 6 months ago. He and I have much in common; we both work two jobs and I have two small children. Needless to say, our time is limited. We have not had sex yet because, (mostly by his request), we wanted to really get to know each other first instead of ...
Views: 1033 - Getting Past Your Past - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, I came across your articles on the Internet and thought I’d write for some advice. The short story is this: I was sexually abused throughout most of my younger years. Now, as I start to cope with this as a 32 year old man, I have found a 22 year old woman with whom I share many ...
Views: 818 - Dating Rights Verse Dating Responsibilities - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dennis, You have always been very helpful to me in the past and I was wondering if you could help me out with this situation I've encountered. My girlfriend smoked cigarettes for over 10 years but stopped. When we started dating I made it clear that I cannot date a smoker as I find the ...
Views: 948 - Find What Makes You Happy - by Submitted on May 31, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi I recently came across your article on “sabotaging relationships” through an Internet search and I really found it helpful. I’m writing to you because of my current situation. I am 31 years old and have grown up in a very religious community. Everything is judged superficially; family, ...
Views: 1621 - I Don’t Want to Look Like an Idiot! - by Submitted on May 24, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc! I work with this girl I really like and I talk to her every time we have a chance. She is the reason why I still stay at my job. She is funny and she makes me have a fun time whenever we work together, but I don't know if she likes me. First off, she has a boyfriend, but it seems she ...
Views: 885 - Moving On and Knowing That You’ve Moved On - by Submitted on May 17, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederI really am in need of some real help I am a 19 year old man Last year I moved away from my first love who I dated for a year. I don't believe that I ever got over her. I went through a great deal of pain and grieved so much but I’m finding it tough to move on. I don’t understand how a person ...
Views: 858 - Should I Call to Confirm a Date? - by Submitted on May 03, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Dr. Dennis! I get this a lot - I get a phone number from a girl, call, try and set a date and the chick says something like, "Yeah Thursday sounds good. I may have a girlfriend coming into town so let's play it by ear. Give me a call Thursday." Basically, it's her way of saying... "Maybe, ...
Views: 1244 - It’s the Choices You Make Now - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Dr. Neder! I am 18 years old and just about to graduate high school. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 14 months now and I am not sure what to do after high school. My parents are going to provide us with an apartment but should I move in with her? I was reading your 10 ways ...
Views: 910 - Where to Start Learning “The Game” - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederI get a lot of “beginner” questions from men about dating, relationships, sex and “the game” in general. Actually, that’s a very good thing! It shows that guys are really trying to learn what it takes to become better players – and ultimately better partners for the women we love. So, how do ...
Views: 807 - Grow Yourself, Grow Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, Hi, I am very interested in your help on this. I met my girlfriend freshman year in high school for the first time. We are currently in our junior year of high school and we have been going out for almost four months. We talk about how we will always be together and how we are ...
Views: 958 - Interviewing For the Love of Your Life - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederYou probably had to interview in order to get your job. This interview process is an extremely important part of being hired because it tells the employer many things about you – how well you think on your feet, how well thought out your answer to questions are, how you present yourself, etc. ...
Views: 769 - The Magic of the Approach - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHave you ever seen a magician at a party walking around doing close-up magic? Everyone seems fascinated by it – even if the magician isn’t that good. There are probably just as many people hoping the performer will flop as those that are fascinated by it. This brings me to an interesting way to ...
Views: 822 - The Three Keys to the Cold Approach - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDo you find it difficult to approach women you don’t know? Most guys do so don’t feel alone. I’m going to give you the three keys that’ll make the cold approach easy, fun and very, very profitable. Key #1 – Practice talking to everyone, everywhere If the only time you try to talk to strangers ...
Views: 8138 - Have I Been Replaced? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHi I was wondering if you could give me some feedback on this situation I find myself in. I’m a 30 year old guy with 2 children, both under 10. I have been with my wife twelve years. She cheated on me when we first got together (I was 19) with an ex-boyfriend. We already had a 1-year-old ...
Views: 1339 - I Feel Like I’ve Been Waiting Forever! - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDoc: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have lived together for 2 years and we get along fine. We have our times but not many of them. I do everything for him: cook, clean, and everything else a wife would do. I love him very much but I want to start a family. I don't mean ...
Views: 907 - How Do I Make it Through - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Dennis, I was in a relationship for 5 and a half years. The relationship is breaking up. My partner is not satisfied with me, I believe. He has said he wants to see other people and wants to consider other options. But he says he still cares or me and he is confused. I just read a ...
Views: 765 - Do Men Respect Women? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dennis: I wonder about this from time to time, but I figure that I need an answer from an insightful man in order to get a truthful answer on this: Do men respect women in general? Do men pity women in general, because of our vulnerabilities? Or do men have a certain "hard-to-explain" ...
Views: 1198 - Building Experience From Inexperience - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHello. I'm 28 years old and I've been with my husband for 10 years. We were very young when we got married and my husband had very little dating experience before we met. He is a great guy, but he has a hard time reading body language and sometimes misses the point even when I'm being blunt ...
Views: 851 - Why Can’t I Meet Someone That’s Available? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHello Dr. Neder: HELP! Oh yes, a word you probably see all the time. But surely there is no plain and simple way to understand men or even women for that matter. Here’s my dilemma: I am a single, pretty, tall, 24-year-old woman. I have had a couple of boyfriends here and there, but just one ...
Views: 869 - Is it Time to Move in Together? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: This seems silly to me, but I am always in favor of a second opinion. My boyfriend of 1 ½ years and I are considering moving in together. Well, I suggested it and now it is on the table. You hit the nail on the head with your articles ...
Views: 854 - Do YOU Have Different Rules For Women? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederHere's an interesting question I was recently asked: are there different rules for women and men when it comes to the entire dating/sex/relationship game, and if so, what standards should women enjoy that men don't? One of the reasons why women pull things like "the crying game" (NOT the movie ...
Views: 852 - Why It's So Hard To Not Be A 'Nice Guy' - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederOh, how easy it is for us to slip into "nice guy" mode! We have a natural tendency to want to be nice guys and even believe that this is exactly what women want from us. As you probably know, it's not. Then, why do we do this? Let me tell you a little story (I'll keep it short): Many years ago, ...
Views: 831 - Is She Just a Habit - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederYou and she are a couple and have been dating for awhile. You’ve fallen into a pattern that seems comfortable and even safe. Sure, you fight once in a while, but you have fun too. The only problem is that you’re bored and you’re wondering what else you’re missing out there. It’s easy to fall ...
Views: 809 - Strong Women, Submissive Women - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederDo you know a sexy, strong woman at your place of work? Perhaps she’s a manager or business owner. Maybe she’s a salesperson that works with your company or she represents a vendor. Do you want to know a little secret about her? She’s very likely demure and submissive in the bedroom! What’s ...
Views: 3554 - How to Handle the Silent Treatment - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederLet’s say that you’ve dated a girl a few times and all of a sudden, she stops picking up the phone or returning your calls when she was very responsive before. What do you do? First, you stop pouting and sitting by the phone trying to will her to call by sending your aura through the telephone ...
Views: 2955 - Physically Close, Emotionally Distant - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder, I read your answer on 'Trust' on the Internet and I hope you can help me. I am engaged to be married this December. The problem is I feel that my fiancé is not emotionally available to me during love making. I know she has been emotionally hurt by her past boyfriend seven ...
Views: 990 - What We Have Here Is a Failure to Communicate! - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: I've been attending Massage Therapy class with this girl, and I really like her, but she won't give me anything except one word answers to anything I ask her! We've worked on each other here and there, but not actively. I usually ask her how she's doing, after long periods of ...
Views: 751 - In a Sea of Messages, This One's Mixed! - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederIn a Sea of Messages, This One’s Mixed Hello Doctor, I need your advice on a little dilemma of mine. There is this guy that I've known for quite some time now. It started off with just getting together for drinks and then a couple times for dinner, but it's been over a year and I don't know ...
Views: 888 - Men Won’t Approach Me! - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: I am an African female who has very short hair and for these reasons, I feel that men are intimidated by me. I am 5'0 feet tall and very petite with a voluptuous body. Aside from my looks however, my speaking abilities are very polished and I also major in Math and Computer ...
Views: 1656 - Would Setting Him Up Be Wrong? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederA few months ago my boyfriend cheated on me. I stayed with him because I saw he was truly sorry. I look back now, and honestly regret not giving him time without me, to see how life would be without me even for a few days. He is starting to act like he doesn’t care as much again. I wish he would ...
Views: 1034(2 votes) - Friendships and False Hopes - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHey Doc: I was going out with this 24-year-old girl for about 3 months. We enjoyed our time together but she fell for me pretty hard. Since it was only 3 months, I believe that her feelings were mostly infatuation, but I'm not sure now. I panicked and broke up with her because I don't think ...
Views: 959 - The Farmer's Milk - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHello, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. Just the other day he tells me that he thinks we should just remain friends and nothing more. Two days later he called me and we talked about our relationship and he told me that I do make him happy and he enjoys our ...
Views: 829 - The Harsh Reality - She's a Prostitute! - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederDr Neder, I read on a website that you try to answer your email and I'm begging for some of your expert advice please. I am in serous need of some help because a girl I had really strong feelings for and with whom I've had a very close relationship and I have just had a crisis. About 1 1/2 ...
Views: 1495(1 vote) - Ex-Wife In The Way - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederDoctor: I am what I thought was the best-possible relationship but now wonder what happened. I have been with this man for 1 1/2 years. He has been separated from the mother of his two children (never married to her) now for 2 years, yet she continues to be very present in our relationship. ...
Views: 984(1 vote) - Habitual Dating Self-Sabotage - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2005 from Dr. Dennis NederHabitual Self-Sabotage Hi Dr. Neder! Whenever I might meet a woman and things look good, like we're talking pleasantly, (and this is right at the first or second meeting) all of a sudden I start to feel "self-conscious". I can explain exactly what I mean by this: it is the exact same feeling ...
Views: 1992(5 votes) - Some Women Get Mad When You Say "No"! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc! Why is it that when women turn men down for sex, they expect us to be understanding and caring, and when men turn women down, they flip out?? Here's the situation: I broke up with a girl I had been with, but have been able to remain minor friends. I know you don't think that's a ...
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