Another word for survival mode is stress. When stressed, we tend to become something we don’t really want to be: self-absorbed. There is a way out.
An associate brought me up to date on her project. I offered a particular level of assistance. Here’s what she wrote back: “You’re so sweet to ... Views: 16518
Do you ever wonder if or wish there was an On-Off switch when it comes to negative thinking? Maybe if you know what causes it, you can find the switch and flip it.
What we usually notice about negative thinking first is the Effect, not the Cause, of it. In fact, we may not even be aware that ... Views: 8177
Some people believe Law of Attraction or positive thinking is a waste of time. Use this simple technique of Neville Goddard’s, and watch what happens.
Let’s face it, there’s a myriad of techniques people can wrap their mind around in order to make a goal or dream happen. Neville Goddard offered ... Views: 7090
There are two types of overwhelm: the type that’s triggered by external events and the type you self-impose. Both can be managed with the same technique.
“I’m overwhelmed,” was my client’s first comment. You’ve been in that state of mind, and so have I. And, that’s what’s important to ... Views: 5976
We are souls in physical form, and we have an ego that is meant to serve us in specific ways. Frustration happens when we get their needs confused (or ignore them) rather than have them work together.
Let’s look at some ways to differentiate between ego needs and soul needs.
Ego serves us ... Views: 5312
How can you know if your connection to someone, something, or an event is an ego or energetic connection?
Ask yourself, without censor, what it is you feel.
If your predominant feeling is fearful, anxious, stressed, or anything along this line, you are engaged in an ego connection. An ego ... Views: 4878
When negativity knocks at your door, do you recognize it and send it away? Or do you invite it in for dinner, or worse, to stay with you as long as it likes—possibly for your lifetime?
First, be clear that being the manager of negativity in your life isn’t about the fact you have negative ... Views: 4451
Bill Bullard said, “Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge…is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world.”
Our society seems to admire highly ... Views: 4450
We all experience having a short fuse at times, though some seem to have this more often. What’s really going on; and can two simple methods make a difference?
Thoughts that motivated my recent article, “Do You Experience Mixed Feelings About Being Patient and Tolerant?” didn’t stop when I ... Views: 4385
Today’s cultural “norm” favors go-getters, a mold “everyone” is supposed to fit into or desire to. What if you’ve never felt you fit into the go-getter mold? Where do you fit? Maybe here.
You’re aware of traditional and mainstream achievement go-getters; we’ll call them Group 1. And there are ... Views: 4232
If someone told you that you could be unconditionally happy, you would do whatever this took. Or, would you?
In Anthony De Mello’s book, Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality, he wrote that it is challenging to be unconditionally happy because we fight it. Why do we fight it? We ... Views: 4162
To abbreviate or not to abbreviate—that is the question. In this day and age of texting, people are becoming adept at using abbreviations. However, this is not appropriate, for the most part, when writing fiction or nonfiction, unless your characters have dialogues that involve texting. You have ... Views: 3959
What makes suspense work in a novel? There’s quite a lot to know about this, but here are some highlights.
Every story benefits from some level of suspense. Plot relies on it. For suspense to work well, readers have to care about or be curious about what will happen to one or more characters. ... Views: 3951
Does it feel easy or comfortable to imagine what you desire, and to see it as yours? If not, maybe there’s a very good reason this feels not as right as it might – one you’ll readily recognize.
Every time you think a thought, you use your imagination. And, whether you’re aware of it or not, ... Views: 3684
All of us have moments when we find ourselves at a crossroads and we’re not positively certain which path to take.. We may turn to family or friends for their thoughts and ideas. This is good if what you’re doing is looking for something akin to brainstorming for things to consider. Some who are ... Views: 3595
Whatever you believe is involved in improvement or success, the power of a decision is key. It will help if you understand what this really means.
A firm decision is one without discord, or one that transmutes any discord that makes an appearance. A firm decision is made and a knowing ... Views: 3226
Life Purpose: It’s a topic on the minds of many. It’s a question (and an industry) that’s like the siren’s song, luring us into its depths. What is this yearning really about?
I don’t think the question of life purpose is as deep as we make it out to be. I think what drives the question, ... Views: 2952
Oh, for a magic word or phrase that would make this manifestation thing easier! Is there a proper language you can use? Absolutely.
We would appreciate if manifestation of what we truly desire was as easy as uttering (or shouting) Abracadabra! Interestingly, that word is derived from Avra ... Views: 2709
Setting is where the story and each scene take place, which you know. But do you grasp that setting can set the tone and mood readers experience, and can reveal and or trigger characters’ moods? You want to give enough (not too much) description for each scene to set the appearance, atmosphere, ... Views: 2708
There is a phrase, “That person rubs me the wrong way,” that basically means the person (though it also could be a situation) doesn’t make you feel good. You, at times, do this with your thoughts (most of us do); so what works to shift this?
Esther Hicks of Abraham fame has a video on ... Views: 2603
There are three main (typical) ways you block manifestation. Learn what they are so you learn what to do about them.
BLOCK 1: The first block to manifestation is not asking for what you want at the start, or if you do ask, not asking in the correct way. Many spiritual disciplines provide ... Views: 2501
It’s easy to confuse yearning with desiring because this practice is one many are used to. You can easily know which you’re doing by your results and how you feel while you wait for what you desire to arrive.
You practice yearning when you focus on the absence or lack of what you desire. ... Views: 2491
Right answers help us move forward in our outer lives. Right questions move us forward at the inner level. Everything we experience in our lives originates as an inner thought. Here are some right questions and interesting answers about what blocks what we desire flowing easily to us.
Do I ... Views: 2454
When you feel you lack direction in life, business, or retirement, it’s frustrating. It doesn’t have to be this way, if you have two things clear in your mind.
You feel you lack direction if you don’t have a destination point envisioned in your mind. A destination point, in this context, is a ... Views: 2426
Next time you feel stressed ask yourself if it’s actually an event or situation, or your thoughts about it causing your stress. More often than not, it’s time to check your mental filters.
Every thought you have about everything that happens in your life is processed through your filters: ... Views: 2382
There are two types of change to be aware of—the type you desire and the type you don’t. Do you feel you manage yourself well enough through these?
Do You Want Your Life to Be Different?
If you desire change in some area of your life, the first thing that must change is whatever in you ... Views: 2275
Is there really one question or method that can help you answer each or all three of these questions? Let’s find out.
First, a few thoughts about each . . .
Life Purpose
This one gets a lot of play. I think it’s because many of us feel if we, without question, know what our purpose is, ... Views: 2271
Surely there is one technique that, if you knew it, would make Law of Attraction work every time. Do you believe that?
An ad for a Law of Attraction system arrived in my inbox and got my attention with its promise: a way to make LOA work every time. That promise gave me pause and prompted me ... Views: 2263
This is by no means your typical, light book about numerology, an ancient system that addresses the questions: Who am I, Why am I here, What is my mission in life. The author, Leeya Brooke Thompson, was assisted in her research by Dr. Loren Fisher, a scholar and former professor of ancient ... Views: 2220
This title is a line of dialogue from a movie I recently watched. I shared it with a friend who emailed back, “What does THAT mean?”
I suppose it could mean we wish the opposite of what we’re afraid of were true instead. If we fear instability in some area of our lives, perhaps we wish ... Views: 2211
You may have learned the same skills as your peers when you trained, but what is unique about you? What do you do or offer (or would like to) that’s different?
Mike Litman said, “Your prosperity is hidden in the problem you were born to solve.” It’s not only about what is unique about you, ... Views: 2110
This article title is a timeless truth. Maybe it’s time to put it into practice by deepening our understanding of what they mean for us individually AND globally.
When I’d initially decided what I wanted to write about this week, I’d planned to include a paragraph from Lynne Twist’s book, The ... Views: 2110
The article title is not advice for inclement weather, but for times when life brings inner storms into our experience. It’s advice to keep in mind for good reason.
A character in the PBS program “Call the Midwife” was a former prisoner of war and was talking with a midwife who’d been put ... Views: 2046
When you read the article title, does it rev you up or make you want to crawl back under the covers? Let’s look at what it means and go from there.
The dictionary offers several meanings for the word bold, not all of them nice. One of its definitions is fearless. There’s a difference between ... Views: 2024
Holding grudges is a heavy burden to bear. If you’re holding them, are you aware of what this is really doing to you?
It’s probably correct to say that most of us have held one or more grudges at some point in life. Some are about significant events and some are petty. Sometimes we’re able to ... Views: 1866
Mark Twain said, “The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.” Whatever you pursue in your outer life will never fill the inner void created by feeling inauthentic; you have to fill it yourself, and first.
“Sam” was so distressed and confused that he’d pretty much shut down; ... Views: 1845
The reason you use affirmations is to reprogram your brain, beliefs, and habits or attachments to negative beliefs and behaviors so you get the outcomes you desire . . . right? If you practice self-sabotage in this area, here are a few pointers to assist you.
Affirmations are often thought of ... Views: 1817
This is a question many of us ask once or maybe a thousand times. It’s also a question that can only be answered by each of us for ourselves.
This article isn’t about Barbara Sher’s Scanners, but I want to mention them first before I go on to what I want to say. If you have ever felt concerned ... Views: 1803
Whatever you believe about how to achieve desired results, your outcomes ARE affected by how much self-appreciation you feel. It's the same for how you engage your experiences.
Let's imagine you agree that . . .
How your attention (emotionally-charged thoughts) is focused (exercised or ... Views: 1785
Are you a life coach (or not) who toys with the idea of writing articles, e-books, and/or books? Don’t let a block stop you from making a difference; someone is waiting to hear from you.
Imagine receiving emails that say something like
“I had a breakthrough when I read your article.” (from a ... Views: 1731
More often than not the Higher vs. Lower Vibration conflict is most obvious when we interact with others. Ultimately, it’s an inner conflict; and it’s often a conflict because something isn’t fully integrated.
“You ever been to a class or somethin’, or read a book—somethin’ that gave you ... Views: 1712
“Make home” means to immerse yourself where you find yourself. The one consistent home you have is your life; and appreciation makes it a better place to live. Here’s why.
Whenever setting goals, targets, intentions, dreams, or manifesting are mentioned, one recommended or required thread is ... Views: 1712
What does your block look like? How does it behave? Here are some tips to help you kick the “buts” about blocks.
I don’t believe in writer’s block, just the fact that one or more questions need to be asked; and, relaxed patience is needed while the answer comes to you.
When I attempted my ... Views: 1672
We can teach others how to treat us, but others also reflect to us how we treat ourselves (self-value), which is often a more subtle dynamic. Do you see how this creates a loop?
Let’s bypass childhood and more extreme scenarios, as both of those are different conversations. Let’s consider ... Views: 1668
An e-book can satisfy your desire to write, act as a business building tool, and provide true value to others in many ways. There are guidelines should you use to guarantee its quality.
Here are several key points you want to use to improve or guarantee value for readers. Consider them before ... Views: 1633
Wouldn’t it be great to be able to point at and click a Delete button at what clutters your inner space? Our days would be so different if we could.
When I turn on my computer each morning, I go through a 3-step ritual. First, I use a program (which interestingly has the word Aware in its ... Views: 1630
Do you ever practice or feel trapped in the practice of victim mentality? If so, it’s time to understand some of what’s going on so that you can muster the courage to shift this and live a healthier life.
Author Rebecca L. Norrington writes in her soon-to-be-published book, ... Views: 1618
You put real effort into improving areas of your life; yet, desired improvements don’t happen as quickly as you’d like or not at all. Could it be that there are one or more leaks you aren’t aware of?
A family member moved her travel trailer from the desert, where it seldom rains, to a ... Views: 1582
There’s a contrast in the idea that you have to work at allowing yourself to be open to receive what you desire. Without meaning to, you block or delay receiving if you “work” at allowing it.
A reader of my article, “The Give and Receive Confusion,” contacted me to say how much she resonated ... Views: 1568
You’re aware many of your beliefs were imposed on you—and you’re working on this (yes?). See if you’ve ever had a subconscious belief similar to one I was surprised to recently discover.
A cold wind interrupted our early, warmer spring weather. I woke and felt chilled air from my partially ... Views: 1564