Have you found a philosophy or technique you believe will lead you where you want to go: specific feelings and desired outcomes? It takes a while to realize you can’t get there, unless you travel the path to that destination.

So much of what we do is habit we don’t recognize it for what it is. This is especially true with thoughts, words, and actions. What kinds of stories do you repeat to yourself and others? Are they ones you want to experience, to encourage? Each time you follow the well-worn path of habitual thinking, speaking, and action-taking, it’s like beating the same old drum over and over--kind of hammering it into your reality.

One particularly good thing to keep in mind about yourself is that if you do seek or have sought information that can lead you to experience more of what you truly desire, to feel about yourself more the way you know you can, you’re open to another way. That’s always the first step towards any destination.

Robert Scheinfeld has this significant paragraph in his “Busting Loose from the Money Game” book, which actually refers to the Human Game (note the second to last sentence):

Then, one day, after applying The Process extensively to those fears, I had a revelation when my Expanded Self said this to me in a mediation: “As long as you understand about breathing your abundance but don’t actually start breathing, you’re saying ‘My Infinite Abundance isn’t really there,’ or ‘It may not really be there’—and you continue to feed power into your financial limitation eggs. At some point, you’ve got to make a decision about what’s real and what’s not, draw a line in the sand, cross it, and never go back. You can’t stay in no man’s land and fully open to your Infinite Abundance.”

Don’t limit this to just abundance. See how it fits lifting any limitation and moving into the fullness of who you are. Also, as I kept seeing the words Infinite Abundance, it registered for me that money was only one small piece of what that meant. I now use Infinite Creative Consciousness, for my personal satisfaction, instead.

As Robert goes on to explain, and is important to remember, it may take a while before you’re ready to draw a line in the sand and cross over it about a significant inner shift or desired way of being. It makes sense, really. Maybe you or someone you know decided to start a health or weight-reduction program, a program that involved going “cold-turkey.” We know how well that works.

It’s just that it can be or feel easier not to take the steps. After all, the old way is the one you know best, even if it doesn’t create the outcomes you desire. If you’ve ever experienced an important inner shift then tried to return to the old way, no matter how uncomfortable or disquieting the new, unfamiliar way was, it didn’t work. The old way no longer fits. You can feel you’re in a virtual limbo, not sure where to land. If you can allow this as part of the moving-forward process, you’ll move through it more effortlessly. Limbo is not a negative place to be. It’s a place where you can ask yourself questions you maybe never asked before.

If the old answers don’t really work for you, ask new questions. While you await new answers, maybe stop beating the same old drum.

Author's Bio: 

Joyce Shafer, LEC and author of, “I Don’t Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say” (jls1422@yahoo.com). I help new writers of self-help e-books become more confident, informed, and fulfilled writers. I also do Proofreading for Self-help Pros. Visit http://lifecoacheswriteebooks.webs.com for more information. See excellent reviews of my books/e-books at Lulu.com.