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- What Should You Do if You're Stood Up for a Date? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2003 from Don DiebelWhat Should You Do if You're Stood Up for a Date? Has this ever happened to you? You just meet this hot & sexy beautiful single woman and you agree to meet for dinner at a local restaurant. You're all pumped up to see this girl again and you're hoping this meeting will lead to some romance ...
Views: 5517(1 vote) - Alone for the Holidays? - by Being alone is a challenge for many people. This challenge may loom especially large during the holidays if you are single or newly divorced and without family around you. Holidays are a time to share love, and many people end up feeling depressed when they do not have people around with whom to ...
Views: 938 - The Five Conversations to Have with Your Spouse Before the Holidays - by Many people experience stress during the holiday season. Some get the blues, others find that the holidays don't turn out quite they way they had hoped. To make sure your holiday season creates more joy and less stress, have these five conversations with your spouse soon:
Conversation One: ...
Views: 920 - Marital Wellness: A View from the Ledger - by A magazine article I read a few days ago provided advice to the married and those about to be wed. I recognized the author as a well-known psychologist and specialist in the field. The article that went on for five pages touched on numerous topics including the importance of compatibility, ...
Views: 1113 - Smoothing the Step-Parenting Transition - by Three years ago, when John and Julie Smith fell in love and decided to marry they wanted to know what they could do to ease the transition of their marriage on their children. Each had 2 biological children of their own, ranging in age from 8 to 16 and John and Julie knew that getting the ...
Views: 1445(1 vote) - Tips For Singles On Enjoying (and surviving) The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanHere you are, facing the holiday season alone. Have you been thinking about? how alone and lonely you feel excuses you can give family members as to why you can’t come this year what friends may be available to spend those long days with how another year has passed and you are (still) ...
Views: 2815 - Thanksgiving, an Occasion of Civilized Dining - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2003 from Susan DunnThe days of dining by plucking fruit from trees and roasting small animals over the fire, eating with fingers, and perhaps fighting with others over the scraps are long gone. Or are they? More and more we swing our car through the drive-in, grab our food from the window, and proceed to eat ...
Views: 986 - Little Things Mean A Lot - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2003 from Tim OngIntroduction Each day, in the news, we read about the merging of companies, banks and multinational corporations into ever bigger entities. As they grew bigger, they gain more leverage, more control, and greater monopoly of the markets, thus assuring the slow but steady demise of small ...
Views: 1296 - Hark! The Holidays Often Herald the End of Relationships: Here’s How to Strengthen Yours - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2003 from Debbie Mandel‘Tis the season to be jolly; however, many of us are mildly depressed, especially about ambiguous relationships. For example, “If he doesn’t give me a ring for Christmas, we are so over,” “I buy him a thoughtful expensive present and he gives me a blender from ...
Views: 1332(1 vote) - Boxing it Up for Christmas - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2003 from Nancy FennIf there’s one thing your introverted child would like for Christmas more than anything else in the whole world, it’s a room with a door that closes. It’s not as simple as asking for one. And by the way, a closet will do and even a big box as you’ll see. That’s how strong the need is for an ...
Views: 1178(1 vote) - Little Things Mean A Lot - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2003 from Tim OngIntroduction Each day, in the news, we read about the merging of companies, banks and multinational corporations into ever bigger entities. As they grew bigger, they gain more leverage, more control, and greater monopoly of the markets, thus assuring the slow but steady demise of small ...
Views: 2386(1 vote) - Did you forget to say goodbye? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2003 from Ridgely GoldsboroughAfter a rugged yesterday, I got up this morning at 4:30 AM to catch a flight. Alison and I had another tiff, followed by the disconnect that polarized us through the night, backs turned to each other, thick sleepless air full of troubled dreams. I shuffled through the dark before dawn, a ...
Views: 1067(1 vote) - Is It Okay to Spoil Your Kids? - by None of us want “spoiled” kids - kids who are bratty, self-centered, demanding, inconsiderate. So, what spoils children and what doesn’t?
When I was raising my children, I was often told that I would spoil them if I didn’t let them cry - if I held them a lot. ...
Views: 1319(2 votes) - Little People - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2003 from Dan KennedyExcerpt The following is an excerpt from the book Little People: Learning to See the World Through My Daughter's Eye's by Dan Kennedy Published by Rodale; October 2003; $24.95US/$36.95CAN; 1-57954-668-4 Copyright ?2003 Dan Kennedy An Unexpected Journey From almost the moment we were told that ...
Views: 867(2 votes) - HOW DO WE PROTECT OUR CHILDREN FROM PREDATORS? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2003 from LINDA ALEXANDERIn light of the increasing dangers to our family, especially our children -- WhoisHe.Com and WhoisShe.Com is an online professional service that provides comprehensive background checks and criminal record searches designed to verify if persons are who they purport to be. This online service ...
Views: 1177(1 vote) - Are You Placing Your Child in Danger? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2003 from LINDA ALEXANDERMore than ever before it has become absolutely crucial for people to pay attention to their surroundings and the people they meet. There are now hundreds of organizations and websites dedicated to the safety and welfare of young children and yet, children are being abducted every single ...
Views: 990(1 vote) - Dangers of Digital Dating - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2003 from LINDA ALEXANDERAs we enter the new millennium the Internet is evolving into a major meeting ground, one that affords us access to people all over the world and draws us daily into online relationships with individuals we have not yet met. An increasing number of people are using the Internet to meet and get ...
Views: 1200(1 vote) - Is Your Baby or Toddler Introverted? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2003 from Nancy FennYou can tell for sure. Introverted babies and toddlers move away from lights, noise, motion and people. Extroverted babies move toward them. If your baby moves away from people, it doesn't mean your little one is going to be unsociable, it just means he or she is going to be an ...
Views: 10211(1 vote) - TO LOVE OR NOT TO LOVE - by When I was a child, and living in Portugal, my father took me to see a movie about the life of Jesus Christ. Sometime, during the movie, I started to think that I did not like those bad guys. I realized that they were going to hurt Jesus. So, I start to yell.
"Run away, Jesus. Run! Run!" I ...
Views: 1080(1 vote) - Haunted: Burying The Ghosts of Lost Love - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanLate at night, as you read quietly, before you fall off to sleep... During a busy afternoon as you run through a crowd, hurrying back to your office or home.... Sitting in a movie theater, a restaurant or waiting for the light to turn... A sudden thought or image rises within you. It can ...
Views: 1317(1 vote) - Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2003 from Kevin SkinnerRepeats are nice if you are the Los Angeles Lakers or Lance Armstrong, but when it comes to unhealthy relationships, forget it. Nobody wants to repeat the same mistakes over and over. However, when it comes to relationships, far too many people marry for the second or third or fourth time and ...
Views: 12228(3 votes) - What's Your Dating and Relationship IQ - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2003 from Kevin SkinnerIntelligence comes in many forms. In spite of this, however, our society focuses almost exclusively on academic intelligence. Think about it. When is the last time someone said, “John has really high relationship intelligence. He has a skill for listening and understanding people. He must have a ...
Views: 1520(1 vote) - Create a Legacy - The Parent Plan - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2003 from Derek RandelImagine the following three scenarios… Ron and Judy love their 26-year-old son Jim. Unfortunately, whenever Jim calls his parents they cringe. Will he ask for more money asks Judy? Ron replies, “What do you mean if, the question is how much this time?” Linda visits her mother. Linda would ...
Views: 943(1 vote) - Which One is the Introvert? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2003 from Nancy Fenn[graphic from www.clipart.com]"I asked these three adorable little guys here to model for me about introversion. 30% of the people in the world are introverts. 33 1/3% of the people in this photo are introverts. Introversion is a legitimate personality style. Are you wondering what it means to ...
Views: 5598(1 vote) - Sweet as Pie: A Doula Role In the Birthing Process - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2003 from Giuditta TornettaIf you have not heard the term Doula yet, you are bound to soon. Doulas are sprouting up all over the country and many mothers refer to them as the women who have made their birthing experience a ‘dreamy’ one. What is a Doula, anyway? A Doula is a trained birth coach -- a surrogate mother ...
Views: 1762(1 vote) - Why a Dirty Car Can Cause Single Women Not Want to Date You - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2003 from Don DiebelListen up guys, I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to keep your car clean. Single women will judge you on how well your car looks on the inside and out. If your car is messy, dirty, and smells bad, it's going to make a bad impression on women. And...guess what happens when ...
Views: 4466(1 vote) - Hallowe'en BOO BOOs for Little Introverted Kids - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2003 from Nancy FennHallowe’en is right around the corner. All the kids are really excited, right? Wrong. Not all children are as happy about Hallowe’en as you’d think. Some of our more lavishly celebrated children’s holidays are planned with extroverted children in mind. What about the remaining 30% who are ...
Views: 1288(1 vote) - Telling Your Stories - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2003 from Mark BrandenburgI must admit to having a fear that I believe I share with many fathers. I fear that I will some day be insignificant to my children. It's not as though they'll completely forget who I am; it's that what I stand for and what I believe in won't be a significant part of their lives. Perhaps ...
Views: 1617(1 vote) - DO SCHOOL UNIFORMS MAKE A DIFFERENCE? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2003 from Pauline WallinA few days ago I was talking with a friend about school uniforms. "Back in my day," she lamented, "we didn't have the problems in school that we have now. Kids respected authority. They didn't talk back. They had to do their homework, and if they didn't, there were consequences. There was ...
Views: 9169(1 vote) - Hooking Up vs Lasting Love: It's Your Decision - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"hooking Up" "friends with benefits" "booty call" These terms have become all too familiar in today's dating world. Are they words that you can relate to? Have you lived them in some way? If so, how have you felt about the experience(s) both during and after? Chances are that you have mixed ...
Views: 2863(1 vote) - Let's Be Rational - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2003 from Jay KrunszyinskyAre you a rational or irrational thinker? You may want to believe you are a rational thinker, but you find that you are the eternal pessimist, able to see only the half-empty glass in many situations you face. You are a rational thinker if you turn negative situations into positive ones. You can ...
Views: 1273 - New Powers to Help You Perfect Your Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Guy FinleySince what others may do to us is not in our power to change, we need only concern ourselves with what we do to ourselves . . . for this is in our power. There is always a moment before a problem starts with another human being where we realize that what we want is not going to happen. ...
Views: 1120(1 vote) - Accepting Your Child's Mistakes - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2003 from Mark BrandenburgOne of the most difficult parts of being a father is learning to accept your children's mistakes. It's certainly easy to be loving, supportive, and helpful when your children are mistake-free, but most fathers who are paying attention don't find too many mistake-free periods of their children's ...
Views: 1887 - Oppositional Defiant Disorder - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2003 from Robert SterlingOppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is a common mental disorder seen in childhood and adolescence. The incident of ODD is, on the average, about 10% but fluctuates from study to study depending on the population and the methodology used to determine the diagnosis. ODD is seen more often in ...
Views: 4632(2 votes) - Zen And The Art Of Falling In Love - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2003 from Brenda Shoshanna(Practical Zen Steps To Falling In Love) Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D. "We never ask the meaning of life When we are in love." Bhagwan Osho We are meant to live a life of love. When we're not in love, something's the matter. However, no matter how successful some are in other ...
Views: 4608(1 vote) - What Everyone Needs to Know about Extramarital Affairs...and what you can do to help - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2003 from Dr. Bob HuizengaRecent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in an affair. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in an affair. That may seem like a very ...
Views: 5725(1 vote) - Women and "Bad Boys": What Is The Attraction? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"Bad Boys". If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself. There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you in, even as your head tells you to "beware"! So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not ...
Views: 1162(1 vote) - 5 THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T DO IF HE’S CHEATING ON YOU - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2003 from Ruth HoustonThis may be the most important article you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair. There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn’t do. Your husband is cheating. You’re not sure what ...
Views: 5654(1 vote) - The Pressure of Their World - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2003 from Nancy FennFaith Burgess is a bright and charming stay-at-home mom. She has a toddler, Joshua. Faith is an introvert and so is her three year old son. I asked Faith to try and put into words what it was like to be an introvert so I could help get the idea across to my readers. This is the story she told ...
Views: 1284(1 vote) - She Just Does What is in Her Heart... - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2003 from Robyn SpeedPeople who touch your life, are those who are loving, kind, caring. They lift your day, they make you feel appreciated. What is it about these people that is so special? They are loving, kind, caring. They treat other people well. They do not claim to be great teachers nor do they claim to be ...
Views: 1314(1 vote) - Teach your child about money - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2003 from Sandra Baptist -What are we teaching our children about money? Hopefully something! I remember when I was growing up, our family did not discuss money. Money was a taboo subject, discussed by the parents and handled by the father. This is one thing that I wish that was discussed more openly when I was ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - Men and Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2003 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.The two words, "men" and "relationships", often are not mentioned in the same sentence without a "punch line" following them. In addition, men are often stereotyped as being "insensitive" or "uncaring" when it comes to the needs of their partner. It has been my experience in coaching men that ...
Views: 2041(1 vote) - Developing Your Child's Emotional Intelligence-excerpt - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2003 from margaret AltmanOur ten steps contain the 10 vital capacities that lead to self-control Yes, self control; a basic and vital human capacity. We have found that self-control is the foundation of emotional intelligence. These 10 steps will lead you and your child to this empowering ability. Emotional ...
Views: 1746(1 vote) - The Naked Truth About Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2003 from margaret AltmanThe Naked Truth about Emotional Intelligence By Margaret Altman Nancy came to work the other day in a pretty good mood. It ended when her boss suddenly threw a fit over a simple typo in the first draft of a letter that he had dictated Red-faced and irate her boss flung the letter on her desk ...
Views: 1457(1 vote) - SCHOOL SHOPPING: Less is better for your wallet and your kids - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2003 from Pauline WallinYou have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the bylines are included and the article is published in its entirety. A courtesy copy of your publication would be appreciated. Send it to mailto:drwallin@drwallin.com SCHOOL SHOPPING: Less is ...
Views: 1290(1 vote) - How to Plan a *Super* Family Reunion - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Susan DunnMy years in public relations taught me a lot about setting up successful events – and that’s what you family reunion can be. Here are some tips. 1. You take the lead. Maybe your family’s never had a family reunion. Probably they’d all like it, but someone has to get the ball rolling. It ...
Views: 1047(1 vote) - Loved Real - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Nancy Fenn“There was once a velveteen rabbit, and in the beginning he was really splendid.” There is a classic children’s book called “The Velveteen Rabbit” that beautifully describes the rich inner world of introverted children. The velveteen rabbit wants to become real but he doesn’t know how. ...
Views: 2025(1 vote) - Please Put Me Back Where You Found Me - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2003 from Nancy FennParents who have introverted children wonder how to help them build a positive self image. We understand today that Introversion is a legitimate personality type. But not too long ago, introverts were labeled as “neurotic” or “loners”. Introverted children can be misunderstood at school and ...
Views: 1449(1 vote) - The Naked Truth About Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from margaret AltmanNancy came to work the other day in a pretty good mood. It ended when her boss suddenly threw a fit over a simple typo in the first draft of a letter that he had dictated. Red-faced and irate, her boss flung the letter on her desk and said; “What kind of stupidity is this, Nancy? Do you have any ...
Views: 3681(1 vote) - Are You (or are you with) A "Commitment-Phobe"? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe hear it all the time. "He just won't make a commitment." "She just wants some space right now." "I'm not sure if I'm ready for a serious relationship." What does having a fear of commitment really mean? Actually, it means basically what it says. For SOME reason you, or someone you are ...
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