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- Are You An Island Girl? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from John KuypersElton John sang his famous song, Island Girl, in the 1970s, idolizing the women of sun, sand and surf. But there is another kind of Island Girl. These are women (and men) who share a common and often unspoken challenge: fear of intimacy. People who are afraid to let other people get too ...
Views: 2713(1 vote) - Comparing Increases Sibling Rivarly - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2003 from Marilyn SuttleOne child takes off his boots at the back door. The other, leaves a trail of muddy water across the kitchen floor. At times like this, it is tempting to compare siblings; “Donna, look at the mess you made! Why can’t you be more like your brother? He knows better than to walk through the house ...
Views: 4455(1 vote) - THOSE WHO HAVE SUSTAINED MARRIAGE - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2003 from YAMIN MEMONThose who have sustained a successful marriage practice these qualities in their married life. I have listed some of their qualities below. Follow these tips and enjoy lasting married and family life. DO NOT SHARE YOUR PRESONAL PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS: There are a few exceptions to this rule, but ...
Views: 1165(1 vote) - So Your Child is an Introvert - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from Nancy FennLet me ask you a question. Are you ashamed that your child is an introvert? An honest answer to this question is a positive step toward improving your relationship with your introverted child, now and forever. How can you support your child in finding his or her place in this world if you ...
Views: 11181(4 votes) - When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons... - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from June CookNothing is more aggravating in relationships than having your buttons pushed by the one you love. It seems ironic that the one you love could make you so insane. But once the honeymoon period cools and real life sets in, we all take our partners off the pedestal and begin to notice their less ...
Views: 9305(1 vote) - Defining Moments: What Creates A Successful Life? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from John KuypersSome of us treat each moment as if it's a scarce commodity, trying to get as much crammed in as we can. Others among us casually toss away the moment, like so much excess fluff. As a former Type Adriven corporate executive, I began to search for meaning in my life ten years ago, when I was ...
Views: 5616(2 votes) - It's Okay if Things are a Little Different at Nana's - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2003 from Susan DunnMy granddaughter has great parents and also great grandparents, and we all do things differently. As parents, we love our children and also are responsible for emotional intelligence training and also character training! We want them to grow up to be responsible adults, contributing members ...
Views: 1013(1 vote) - Are You Relationship Ready? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanSo, you want to fall in love? You are certainly old enough and moving well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right? Not ...
Views: 1077(1 vote) - Illusions and Delusions: Don’t let “reality” come between you and a happy relationship - by Some of the best marriages contain two people looking at each other through foggy glasses. And that’s a good thing.
We have some control over how we experience ourselves, our lovers, our world. Why not, then, choose a more positive version out of the many possibilities we can imagine? When ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - LOOKING FOR LOVE? Love starts with you - by Submitted on May 22, 2003 from Marguerite TennierYes, I know. You've heard it before. You can't love someone and you can't accept true love in your life unless you love yourself first. It does not apply to you, you say. You already love yourself. Well, do you? Or do you secretly fear that you will not be loved the way you want because you ...
Views: 1251(1 vote) - "Plugging Up The Holes in Your Relationships..." - by Submitted on May 21, 2003 from Susie and Otto CollinsAre there any "holes" in your relationship? If you're like us--the answer is yes. In fact, in many relationships there are usually quite a few "holes." "Holes" are those things in your relationships and life that you may know are there but it's always a surprise when you fall into one. ...
Views: 1059(1 vote) - We should celebrate the diversity of children and adults - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Robyn SpeedYou know what really annoys me? The insistence that a child’s academic achievement is all that is important. A grades A grades A grades! I read an article last year that really stuck in my mind, and the gist of the article was ‘even though he only has his O levels he has still done well in ...
Views: 1180(1 vote) - SUMMERTIME AND THE LIVIN' IS EASY - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Kayla FaySummertime is supposed to be an easy time, evoking images of happy children with dirt necklaces, of lounging on the front porch with ice tea, of evenings soothed with fireflies and the lullabies of crickets and cicadas. In our society, this is about as close to reality as Brahms is to Ice T. Our ...
Views: 1318(1 vote) - Top 10 Ways to Find Your Soul Mate - by Submitted on May 17, 2003 from Linda LovejoySingles are constantly wondering where to find their soul mate. Below are some helpful hints in finding your true love. 1. Ask your friends to set you up with any of their single friends or acquaintances that meets your specifications. Your friends are a great resource. They know you ...
Views: 2211(1 vote) - Making The Connection: Tips For Getting Noticed - by Submitted on May 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanChances are that you have had a wide variety of experiences in your quest for meeting singles. These can range from an event that yields several nice interactions and at least one offer to get together for a date, to going home feeling frustrated and convinced you are destined to be a dating ...
Views: 956(1 vote) - The Hand - by The first grade teacher gave her class a fun assignment -- to draw a picture of something for which they were thankful. Most of the class might be considered economically disadvantaged, but still many would have things that they were thankful for. But Douglas made a different kind of picture. ...
Views: 1273(1 vote) - FINDING A BEST FRIEND - by Have you ever looked for a best friend? Probably not. Best friends generally just seem to appear. But if you did look for a best friend, what criteria would you use? Here are a few that I think might be important.
1. A best friend will care about you. To use the word "care" is somewhat ...
Views: 4209(1 vote) - Opening Your Heart To Forgiveness: The Path To Manifesting The Right Relationship - by Submitted on May 02, 2003 from Nancy Pina“A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 19:11, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION Forgiveness is a gift you present to yourself. It is a release from the burden of anger and pain. When resolving to forgive, you choose to live in the present instead of ...
Views: 1288(1 vote) - A answer to lonliness after the Big "D" of death or divorce. - by Submitted on May 01, 2003 from Bob ChaunceyFor many who are happily married, they never think about the day... one day maybe not as far off as they have thought in the past... when they will again be single. What will they do, how will they adjust, who will be there to help them and how will they get over or thru it? These are all ...
Views: 1556(1 vote) - How to Get Women's Phone Numbers - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2003 from Don DiebelAfter you have made contact with a hot & sexy single woman you are attracted to and have talked and gotten to know each other, the best way to ask her for her phone is say, "Let's meet for lunch or dinner sometime, can I have your phone number?" Hopefully, you will get an immediate ...
Views: 15904(1 vote) - How To Resolve Relationship Conflicts - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2003 from Nancy PinaWhat blocks you from resolving conflicts? As difficult as it can be, finding a constructive manner in which to air grievances provides an open and honest relationship. Burying issues, and avoiding conflict and disagreements, do not have a place in a healthy relationship. Accept the fact that ...
Views: 5738(1 vote) - Finding More Life, Love and Meaning by Overcoming Your Soft Addictions - by Are you like Barb? Barb has a few guilty pleasures she loves. When she comes home at night – particularly after a tough day – she clicks on TV as soon as she comes in “to help her unwind.” While half-listening to whatever’s on, she reads her mail.
Barb gets lots of catalogs and spends the ...
Views: 1223(1 vote) - Love, Healing and Your Heart Connection - by 'Love makes the world go round. .'and 'All you need is love. .' are lovely phrases and such beautiful words to hear. Most of us are very familiar with these phases that we have heard before many times over.
But what if our own relationships at present are not so 'perfect'? Is there any way we ...
Views: 1257(1 vote) - Five Keys to Raising Nonviolent Children - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2003 from Tammy CoxParents are very concerned about violence these days and with good reason. While the evidence shows that our schools are still some of the safest places for our children, any incidence of school violence is very disturbing. When we send our children off to school each day we have every right ...
Views: 2358(1 vote) - Homework Help for the Attention Deficit Disorder Child - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueDoes the homework battle so typical with your hyperactive or A.D.D. child have you at the end of your rope? Relax. We have some tried-and-try ADHD information that should get your A.D.D. child on the right homework path. The hyperactive or A.D.D. child especially needs consistency, a work ...
Views: 4399(1 vote) - Peaceful Money Management for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2003 from Kathy MillerRegardless of how much or how little people have, money is the most common cause of dissension in relationships. While each couple is unique, most arguments about financial matters start with either lack of organization or lack of communication. Both of these are behavior issues, and behavior ...
Views: 3990(1 vote) - 10 Things You Should Ask Yourself If You're Considering Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship - by Whether you've been in your relationship for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years, we don't have to tell you that making the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make.
We've both also made this decision ourselves in our previous relationships, ...
Views: 1350(1 vote) - Tips For Becoming Fluent In The Non-Verbal Language Of Dating - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe are all too familiar with the term "body language". There have been books, workshops and endless discussions spawned by it. But do you really KNOW how to interpret the non-verbal messages that other people broadcast on a continual basis in their interactions with you? There are two levels of ...
Views: 1106(1 vote) - The Seven Stages of a Romantic Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoThere are seven stages in a romantic relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages vary in length and intensity. At each stage, there are thoughts and feelings telling you what to do and when to do ...
Views: 8980(4 votes) - Test Your Own Marriage Satisfaction - by Marital relationships are complex institutions! In order to improve the quality of a marriage, it helps to take a systematic look at how it is functioning.
Here is a questionnaire you can use as a general guide for evaluating your marital satisfaction.
After each question below write down ...
Views: 4330(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence & Your Toddler - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnI was in the grocery, knew I was approaching the toy aisle, and braced myself. Adam was sitting happily in the grocery cart, but I knew what was coming: a tantrum! I knew he was tired and hungry – this was an emergency run to the grocery. I knew I was tired and hungry, too. Adam and I were ...
Views: 2448(1 vote) - Olivia is 5, and Learning Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnOlivia and I returned from going to the rodeo, and we’d been talking about going swimming. “That would be fun,” I said. “We’re hot and sticky. Let’s ask your Dad if you can.” When we got to the house, Olivia ran ahead of me. While I was talking to her Dad, she came running out in her ...
Views: 1147(1 vote) - How Do You Help Your Child Develop Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnIn her book, “Taking Charge: Your Life Patterns and Their Meaning,” Gudrun Burkhard writes: “It is important that the child’s feeling life should find fertile ground on which to grow. Such fertile soil can be provided by art or religion, but above all by loving authority which comes from ...
Views: 1375(1 vote) - Teaching Emotional Intelligence to Your Kindergartner - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnCasey’s 5 years old and reminds me of Edith-Ann. She sometimes even stomps her foot and tosses her head. And that’s the truth! Casey’s what you’d call “high-maintenance.” She likes things to be just so, reacts strongly to what’s going on, and tends to get wound-up. We’ve been working on ...
Views: 1430(1 vote) - Helping Children Overcome Stress and Fear - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2003 from Debbie MilamNews of an impending war, terrorism alerts, and the economy has created an enormous amount of stress for many adults and this stress greatly affects our children. When we are fearful, are children are fearful. When we are stressed, our children are stressed. So what steps can we take to help ...
Views: 4071(1 vote) - Happiness And The Single Person; Changing Myth Into Reality - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanDoes the expression "single and happy" sound like an oxymoron to you? Are you weary of others (especially other singles) reinforcing the belief that singles can't be happy? Do you find yourself always planning for the future or putting things off until you "are married and settled? Do you often ...
Views: 1080(1 vote) - Face Reading and Adoptions - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2003 from Naomi TickleFace Reading Expert, Certified Coach and Author of It's All In The Face Making the decision to adopt is a huge undertaking. The whole focus is to bring a child into your family to love as your own. Problem is, the child you adopt has a set of birth parents out there who are linked with the ...
Views: 2334(1 vote) - Touch and Affection: Enjoy the Rewards! - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2003 from Paul HannigWe need to touch and be touched. The body's skin needs and hungers for contact. Since touch is the earliest sense to develop in the human embryo, it becomes a major source of physical nourishment throughout our lifetime. When holding and hugging a loved one, contentment soars and the senses open ...
Views: 1241(1 vote) - Talk Your Child Clever - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2003 from Susan du PlessisMost parents can hardly wait for their baby to say its first word. This usually happens between nine months and a year. From about two years, the child should be able to use simple phrases, and by three he should be able to use full sentences. By four, he should be fully able to talk, although ...
Views: 1186(1 vote) - Your Personal Sexual Revolution Starts Now! - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2003 from clint ArthurYOUR PERSONAL SEXUAL REVOLUTION STARTS NOW Even to this very day, this is the part about New Sex? that BLOWS MY MIND: I too -- when I was 28 and had shared sexual relations with over 100 women ? thought I had done and knew how to do everything in sex? I too thought there was nothing new under ...
Views: 1831(1 vote) - Manifesting The Right Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2003 from Nancy PinaMost of us can describe superficial traits our ideal partner will possess; but have you explored what you value in a relationship? Relationships are driven by feelings. When you are with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, the relationship becomes stronger. Ask yourself how you ...
Views: 2324(1 vote) - The 7 Stages of Modern Romantic Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2003 from Michelle CastoThe 7 Stages of a Romantic Relationship Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed. There are seven stages in a romantic relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages vary in length and intensity. At each stage, ...
Views: 3070(1 vote) - 10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before You Marry Someone - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2003 from Susan Dunn1. Is it just sexual attraction? Sexual attraction comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It's not always a basis for living with someone happily. Don't let it "hijack" you. Find out what else is there. 2. Do they like to touch and ...
Views: 4949(1 vote) - Out of Sight, Out of Mind? Will He Remember You ... the Way You Want Him To? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnIf you've ever had a long-distance relationship with a guy, and lose ou t to a new woman he finds in his hometown, even though you two had a phenomenal relationship, you might find some new research interesting, hopefully even consoling. fMRI, functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging, lets ...
Views: 1351(1 vote) - Sex or Gender - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAlan Pease, author of a book titled "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps", believes that women are spatially-challenged compared to men. The British firm, Admiral Insurance, conducted a study of half a million claims. They found that "women were almost twice as likely as men to have a ...
Views: 1637(1 vote) - Tips for Making the First Date Bearable - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnThe first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you. 1. Keep it in perspective. If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it. 2. Keep your expectations in line. Consider possibilities rather ...
Views: 1150(1 vote) - Parenting a child with special needs - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2003 from jill curtisAs a parent of a child with a disability or with special needs you will be only too aware of all the challenges you encounter when you try to get the best help you can for your child. Sadly the list of problems faced by so many children, and their families, never seems to end. Each disability ...
Views: 1571(1 vote) - Concerta: Benefits and Side Effects - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueA number of ADHD medications are hitting the market, joining the old Ritalin standby. Concerta, in its relatively short existence, has already grabbed a sizeable portion of the ADHD medication market share. Although Concerta offers a number of advantages over the older ADHD medications, it ...
Views: 59763(13 votes) - Ask Dr. Paul: "Help Me Save My Marriage!" - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2003 from Paul HannigQuestion: “I am going out of my mind. I have two small children and my husband, behind my back, went out and bought a very expensive car. We are hardly making our monthly expenses and he goes out and does something like that. Is he stupid, or what? I am furious! I am on the verge of divorcing ...
Views: 2020(1 vote) - Nail Biting Basics - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2003 from Christopher HenryNail biting is common among children as well as adults. It typically begins between the ages of seven and 10. But the number of nail biters increases as children reach adolescence, according to parentplace.com. On average, boys 10 years old and older tend to bite nails more frequently than ...
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