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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Stop seeking validation in relationships - Learn 3 techniques that will empower you. - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from wendy mickleIn relationships, we are always on the lookout for ways to please the other person. Nothing wrong with that, except when you constantly try to seek validation from others and act in a manner that is not the natural ‘you’ then the relationship suffers. Personal empowerment and a belief in your ...
Views: 12513(4 votes) - Promiscuity And Marriage Don't Mix - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Joanne ParrottaShortly after the release of a new booklet I wrote this past summer entitled The Promiscuous Woman: Modern Attitudes about Love and Sex (WiseAdviceBooks, 2007), I began to receive numerous letters and emails from many single women who after many years of promiscuous sexual behaviour, now decided ...
Views: 12501(1 vote) - Can You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back By Moving On - Yes - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversCan You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back By Moving On - Yes; Did you fight your breakup tooth and nail, but only ended up sore and dejected? Is your ex-boyfriend apparently made of stone, and he's not wavering in his decision to end the relationship? A complete solution to help you get your ex ...
Views: 12459(1 vote) - ***Managing Expectations Goes A Long Way In Keeping Your Man Attracted To You - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangMen have a love-hate relationship with their mothers. They love their moms to death, yet they loath the feeling of being mothered (i.e. being told what to do/not to do). Now they are adults and live on their own, they don't need another woman -and much younger at that- replacing their mother's ...
Views: 12397(3 votes) - The Ultimate Solution To The Puzzle: Why He Disappears/Dump You And How To Get Him Back - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangI've received so many requests for advice from women who are desperate because their men either broke up with them or became more and more distant and less willing to keep in touch or show affection. I can relate to that. I have had my share of similar experience in my 20's when a man whom I ...
Views: 12371(5 votes) - After the Breakup: The Do’s and Don'ts of Dealing with Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanEveryone knows breaking up is hard to do. But staying in contact with your ex following a breakup? That's where things get really tricky. By remaining in each other's lives, you run the risk of a post-breakup rendezvous, holding onto feelings for your ex, and in general delaying your ability to ...
Views: 12358(12 votes) - 3 Signs Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You and Want You Back Even After A Rough Breakup! - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2011 from Charles WealthHave you been looking for signs your ex boyfriend still loves you? It is very common to do this after a break up. You may be deliberating on attempting to win your ex boyfriend back. Before you do, try to find the following signs to be sure if there is hope to get back together with ...
Views: 12329 - The Power of Unconditional Love - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2007 from Tristan Loo“You can’t give love to someone else without knowing how to give yourself love first.” ~Tristan Loo According to humanistic psychology, human beings have an inner need and desire to give and receive high quality love. Love is the glue that holds ...
Views: 12326 - How To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Miss You And Want You Back - It Is Easier Than You Think-New Ideas - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2019 from Vanessa MooreHow To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Miss You And Want You Back - It Is Easier Than You Think-New Ideas Want to know how to make your Ex Girlfriend miss you and want you back? Find out exactly what you have to do and say to make your Ex Girlfriend miss you and want you back again here. We will give ...
Views: 12296(1 vote) - Are You Abandoned or Smothered in Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2009 from Emma ViglucciA very common couple dynamic I find in my practice is that of Fuser / Isolator. Couples come in complaining that one of them is nagging and smothering (fuser) and the other runs away and dismisses (isolator). One partner feels abandoned and invisible, the other suffocated and small. There are ...
Views: 12206 - THE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from William CottringerTHE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP By Bill Cottringer We are probably all getting far too overloaded with how-to advice on being successful at things like relationships; and the last thing I want to do is contribute more to the overload. I just want to clarify a few important things I have ...
Views: 12187 - ***Is He Really Not That Into You Or Are Your Expectations Too Skewed? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangMy editor Brenda who helped me edit my book out of her gratitude for the advice I have given him in the past dealing with her own emotionally unavailable man, told everyone how profoundly transformational my book is. She thinks this book is an excellent rebuttal that every woman should read to ...
Views: 12134(3 votes) - How to Get Him Back and Wipe the Slate Clean - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Katarina PhangI know, you just want to get him back. It seems like it should be simple enough. After all, you won his heart over once before; why not just do it again? Well, the problem is that the first time around you were entering new territory with a clean slate. You had the thrill and excitement of ...
Views: 12132(3 votes) - How To Not Blow It If Your Ex Contacts You - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2011 from Mika MaddelaYour ex broke up with you and you thought you would never hear from your ex again. Then out of the blue your ex contacts you to see how you're doing. If you have been trying to your ex back in the past, then you might be feeling incredibly happy right now. However, you might find the situation ...
Views: 12113 - Sulking - An expert Guide - by Submitted on May 21, 2012 from Richard ColeThis article takes a light-hearted look at what it takes to be an expert sulker. The first step out of sulking is to gain awareness of what it is to sulk. The remainder of article describes an alternative to sulking. Sulking is a primitive way to deal to feelings of being hurt. We all ...
Views: 12104 - Toxin-free relationships: How to prioritize the people in your life. - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Whole Person Balanced LifeOne of my favorite quotes of all time is "Don't make people a priority who only make you an option". I often repeat this quote to myself and have it posted in several areas of my house, as well as my daily planner. It's something I try to remember on a daily basis. We talk a lot about the ...
Views: 12102(5 votes) - Patience and Friendship : The First Steps to Get Back Together! - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2010 from Jonathan O'ReillyThinking about the good days, love all around you, a stable and happy relationship, feeling sad that the nice dream ended in a break up? Not to worry, even though you may think you lost your lover forever, getting your ex back is quite simple. Almost everyone is interested in giving another ...
Views: 12056(5 votes) - Love Tarot Readings: The Crossroads of our Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Carolyn NaimanOne of the most common inquiries during a Tarot reading typically concerns matters of romance and partnerships. Naturally, people consult the Tarot for answers about love. One would expect that most people would want knowledge about their future love life: who and when that special somebody ...
Views: 11955(3 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Need A Women’s Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a certain amount of approval seeking is part of relationships; when it is out of control and taken to the extreme, it can create dysfunctional consequences and unnecessary pain. And when this happens, a man’s mental and emotional wellbeing is going to suffer. However, in order for a man ...
Views: 11945 - Get Ex Girlfriend Back If She Is Dating Another Guy! - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Jolie JoeAfter the breakup between you and your girlfriend, she becomes your ex girlfriend. It is very obvious that you can see her getting involved with other guys instantly. It mostly happens after a fresh breakup. These guys are called rebound boyfriends and girls do this to make their ego boost. They ...
Views: 11927(1 vote) - Distancing In Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Krystal KuehnIf someone were to throw a punch at you, you would likely try to defend yourself from getting hit. And if you were to feel the heat of a flaming fire, you would keep yourself far enough away to avoid getting burned. Self-preservation comes naturally as no one wants to experience pain and ...
Views: 11919(4 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away After Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people come together with the intention of having a relationship or just the desire to spend time together, it is generally going to lead to them having sex. And this could be something that both of them equally want to experience or something that one of them is more attached to than ...
Views: 11895 - How To Get My Ex To Forgive Me And Get Him or Her Back - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreHow To Get My Ex To Forgive Me; Are you regularly asking yourself, "how can I get my ex lover back"? Do you continually look at your emails, texts or gifts that your ex lover, boyfriend or girlfriend gave you? It's not rare when you've broken up with your lover and you ask yourself questions ...
Views: 11882 - The Ten Christian Principles For A Successful Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2010 from Greg BakerI’ve counseled and been the pastor of marriages for years. In all that time, I have come to realize what makes a successful marriage. Any marriage, and I mean any marriage, that follows these ten principles will be successful. Yes, these are Christian principles. Here are the Ten Principles ...
Views: 11843(3 votes) - Men Fall In Love And Want To Commit To Happy Women - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangBeing a relationship coach and dealing with breakup issues a good chunk of time, I have a lot of anxious female clients/readers who are on the brink of a nervous breakdown because they feel their world is falling apart: i.e. their men seem to fade into the state of indifference. They panic and ...
Views: 11820(4 votes) - He Says His Feelings Have Changed - What to Do When Your Man Pulls Away - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2013 from Gillian ReynoldsYou've just been hit by what feels like a ton of bricks. The man you love, the only man you can envision your life with has just told you that his he's fallen out of love with you or he doesn't feel as close to you as he once did. It's heartbreaking to be a woman in a position like this. Try as ...
Views: 11810 - 10 Qualities Men Want in Women - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Cynthia PriceIs it beauty, booty and brains? Ready, willing and able? Sexy, sweet and hard to get? What is the magic combination of ingredients men look for in a woman? Certainly all of the stereotypical traits are on most men’s wish lists, but once you break through the initial barrier and get his ...
Views: 11789 - Texting Girls - 4 Unorthodox Rules For Success When Texting Girls - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Ethan ZelmandoIf you are not having the kind of success with texting girls that you would like, it's probably because you are breaking one or more of these 4 rules. In this article, you're going to find out what these 4 mysterious rules for texting girls are and why it's so important that you follow them. ...
Views: 11786 - Is Marriage an Outdated Concept? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from William BerryAccording to the most recent statistics, the divorce rate, often quoted (even by this author in psychology classes) as 50% of marriages, is actually closer to the low 40 percentile. (Divorce Rate: It's Not as High as You Think, By Dan Hurley, The New York Times, April 19, 2005). But that does ...
Views: 11725(3 votes) - How to Keep Him - Relationship vs. Partnership - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeOne of the biggest problems between men and women is their view of a relationship. Instead of looking at your connection as a relationship, try to view it as a partnership. This opens up a whole new dynamic. The average person goes into a relationship with a simple objective, to have someone ...
Views: 11704 - Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Doesn't Want To Talk To Me - Why-New Ideas - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2019 from Vanessa MooreEx Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Doesn't Want To Talk To Me - Why-New Ideas. Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend doesn't want to talk to me, why? Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend not talking to you isn't what you wanted or expected to happen. You probably knew that things between you would be a little ...
Views: 11653(1 vote) - How Well Do You Know Your Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2004 from Dave ShieldsFor my birthday last year my wife made up a beautifully framed picture of my name, and then underneath it she listed 32 positive qualities I possess. Needless to say, it was one of the finest gifts I have ever received. Some of the qualities even taught me about me. After that ...
Views: 11603(2 votes) - How to Handle a Partner With a Wandering Eye - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Brooke AlexandriaRelationships are built on trust, but it can be very difficult to trust your partner if he or she has a frequently wandering eye. However, if your partner has a wandering eye, your relationship is not necessarily doomed. There are ways you can remedy the situation. It is important to realize ...
Views: 11583 - My Ex Is Already Dating, How Can I Get My Ex Back? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2010 from Owen SkytonThis question get repeated a lot of the times and more often then not it’s the first question people ask after the break up. “Can I get my ex back if my ex is already dating?” I don't want to stall here – YES, you can get your ex back even if he or she is already dating someone new. Will ...
Views: 11551(4 votes) - Visualization for Relationships - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from Leslie StewartWhether you’re single, married or dating - no matter what the status of you’re relationship, no doubt the tool of Visualizing will change your life - it has mine. Over, and over, and over again (it works wonders when I’m in an argument with my love). Visualizing is one of the most powerful ...
Views: 11539(4 votes) - Understand the Scorpio Man - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2010 from Annie SherwoodScorpio men are very charismatic and love power. They can be very stubborn, and that is how they often get their way. If you are a woman who is adaptable enough to step back to avoid a fight, or who can turn the battle to her advantage, then you might be able to handle this explosive sign. ...
Views: 11491(1 vote) - Using Jealousy To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2012 from Ricky BoothAs ‘sleazy’ as it may sound, jealousy is one of the fastest and most effective ways to influence how your ex girlfriend is feeling after breaking up. When you make your ex jealous, you skip straight past her rational thought processes and into her deeper emotions. In some cases, making her ...
Views: 11457(2 votes) - Why Your Ex Girlfriend Won’t Give You the Time of Day - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2011 from Andrew HunterBreakups can be one of the most painful things that most people will go through in their lives. I can be truly devastating to watch your relationship fall apart--sometimes in an instant--and watch your girlfriend walk out the door. But what makes it even harder is when your ex girlfriend will ...
Views: 11347 - Does She Like Me? - Top 8 Signs - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Thomas M TurnerIt's not easy to guess a woman's true feelings if she doesn't tell you out loud how she feels about you. Dating someone new or trying to ask your crush out for the first time can be nerve-racking if you have no idea whether she feels the same way about you. Women use body language a lot more ...
Views: 11321 - How to Communicate with a Man - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeEvery woman has been in a situation where her man became moody, withdrawn, and won’t tell you what is wrong. He completely closes down or goes into the ‘cave.’ How you respond to this can make the difference between whether he falls deeper in love with you or walks away without any explanation ...
Views: 11277(2 votes) - This Will Make Your Ex Boyfriend Sorry And Come Running Back - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversThis Will Make Your Ex Boyfriend Sorry And Come Running Back; You and your boyfriend might have had an argument and he said he didn't love you anymore. Now you are devastated and think you have lost him for good. But, people say things in the heat of anger that they don't mean and later they are ...
Views: 11212 - Understanding How Long to Use the No Contact Rule - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaWhile the relevance and usefulness of the no-contact rule in getting your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back again can't be overstressed, it is also vital that you have a relatively good understanding of just how long to implement this particular guideline. You definitely do not want to get ...
Views: 11212 - Dealing With Unrealistic Expectations In Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Greg BakerOne of the great relationship destroyers is that of unrealistic expectations. Expecting something out of the relationship that the other is either ignorant of, unwilling to provide, or simply unable to provide. Frustration and anger is the result. This article deals with differing expectations ...
Views: 11182(7 votes) - Why No Contact With Ex Girlfriend Will Attract Her Back! - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from Mika MaddelaDid your girlfriend decide to end the relationship and now you want her back in your life? You've probably read a lot of tips from the internet but realize that they're the same old tips given for getting your ex girlfriend back. What you need is a plan that will absolutely get her back in your ...
Views: 11181 - How To Get Back Lost Love In 3 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Michael LeeThere are various ways on how to get back lost love and survive a break up, but not all of them will work the way you expect them to. That's because you can't always predict how your ex will react to your efforts. You may want your ex back but is the feeling mutual? Perhaps your ex is ready ...
Views: 11146(2 votes) - Text Message Flirting Tips For Attracting Girls – Romantic Messages For Women - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MoorePsychological natural approach to dating, attracting, seducing women in real life. You won't have to learn strange lines or behaviors. You WILL learn how to unleash the parts of your personality that NATURALLY attract women. Get a woman or girl to like and fall in love with you. Wanna know ...
Views: 11138 - Expectations are Premeditated Resentments - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Dawn SinnottI’m sitting at the party. I planned it so perfectly. I would throw a surprise party for my best friend on my birthday. She’ll be so surprised! She walks in the door. She looks surprised. She greets everyone and thanks them for coming. She seems to be happy yet……I know her better than ...
Views: 11123 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11115 - How You Can Use Texting To Transform Your Love Life and Make Him More Passionate and Romantic - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangThe amount of time we get to spend with our partners is less and less. Commutes are longer, people often spend eight or ten hours at the computer and in meetings. Our increasingly complex lives also come with a host of professional, personal, and hobby-related commitments. As a result, the ...
Views: 11078(5 votes) - How to Deal with Heartache and Other Difficult Emotions - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2009 from Love Coach RinattaWe experience emotional pain as physical pain, as has been discovered by recent research. This means that when you are experiencing heartache, your heart actually does hurt – well, perhaps not your heart, but something in your body does hurt and badly. You knew this already, because when you ...
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