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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The 2 Types of People You Will Meet: Givers and Takers - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2008 from Kyle YamamotoAfter meeting thousands of people, we feel that people can be categorized into 2 distinct groups... Social Value Givers and Social Value Takers The phrases "giving value" vs. "taking value" are popular and are often used terms in the self-development community. What's missing is the ...
Views: 10010 - *** Seven Urban Love Legends - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Dr. Diana KirschnerWhen it comes to dating and love relationships there are certain “love facts” that most everyone believes. But, surprisingly, if we look at the actual research about these “love facts” we may find that they are not facts at all. They are fictions, myths. This is key ...
Views: 2371(69 votes) - ***The 411 on Combating Cabin Fever: Five Relationship Tips - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2010 from Dr. Diana KirschnerNow that winter has you closeted with your significant other, your love relationship can turn boring, irritating or downright infuriating. But you can turn this stuck-with-each-other situation into an opportunity—a great opportunity to have a breakthrough in your relationship using just ...
Views: 2965(4 votes) - "Me First!" Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2008 from Emily EldredgeA friend of mine recently asked me: "What is the greatest lesson you've learned in relationship?" To listen to, trust, and love myself - first and foremost. How can that be? After all, isn't a relationship about loving someone else? It seems to me that the world is saturated with false ...
Views: 1272 - The Magic Of Making Up Is A Guide To Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from traffic vaniIt's very difficult to gather all the pieces and make up the mind to lead a life back together and get your ex back, while you are fresh in the strong breakup and you feel like your heart is broken up and stepped on. So when you break up probably, your mind will be in confusion where to start ...
Views: 1039 - The Seven Secrets OSuccessful Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Ed PrestonRelationships between men and women face an unprecedented crisis that has serious consequences for our species, our culture, and for the individuals suffering through it. While the divorce rate for first marriages in the United States is 50%, and a whopping 67% for second marriages. As ...
Views: 516 - 5 Ways to Start Off Your New Relationship on the Right Foot - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsSo you've met a special someone and have started spending a lot of time together. You're realizing that this attraction and connection is turning into a love relationship. This is exciting news but perhaps a little scary as well. Past relationships may have left you feeling hurt and wary of ...
Views: 6901 - Master Slave Relationship - Is It Going Too Far To Say Many Relationships Are Like This? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from Leo RyanSo many marriages and relationships fit into the master slave relationship category! Has that got your attention? Perhaps it has, but you are probably thinking, what the heck is this idiot on about, that is an outrageous thing to say. It may seem that way to you, but I’m going to spell ...
Views: 1174 - The Top 5 Ways to Ruin a Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from lynn jarrett1. Don’t be honest “Honesty is such a lonely word-everyone is so untrue.” Words from Billy Joel’s song titled “Honesty,” tells of what really is true for many. It seems easier to lie to keep peace or to hide being real with another person to avoid getting ...
Views: 1525 - The simple, scientific formula for successfully meeting great women - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from John CaleMore men then you can imagine find it difficult to talk to a beautiful women, usually because they lack the confidence to even try to initiate a conversation. Worse still, these men are convinced that there is no way a beautiful woman would give them a second look. The Seduction Files, by ...
Views: 808 - Relationship Success Strategies: Are You Accepting Or Settling? - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhen you know what you have to have in a relationship, not only are you going to feel more fulfilled when you have it, you’ll also find the relationship more sustainable. As a result, the relationship will have a higher likelihood of lasting and it’ll be less stressful because your relational ...
Views: 1006 - How Your Birthday Affects Your Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2008 from Ginny HeenanAstrology is a wonderful science of sorts. Unfortunately, the astrology that most people are exposed to is very watered down and inaccurate. I am speaking of the various astrology forecasts published in newspapers and magazines today. The writers of such articles use a method called a sunrise ...
Views: 2443 - ***Do you want to complain or to heal? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2008 from Rose RosetreeFollowing yesterday’s discussion of narcissists (posted here at Self-Growth under auras), one of our Blog-Buddies — Lisa — wrote this as part of her comment: "Rose has recently done some spiritual healing work for me and cut a cord of attachment to someone who was also very ...
Views: 4265 - Do You Listen to Your Children? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2008 from Francis HoseinAre you listening to your children each day when they talk to you or do you find that you have a tendency to go away mentally? Do you find that in your family relationship things that you use to do together is not working any more? Lost touch You may find that your work has being taking ...
Views: 637 - Relationship Success Strategies: The Apples in the Apple Pie - Knowing What You Got to Have, Want to Have, and Absolutely Will N - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonWhat do you have to have in life? What are those absolute, non-negotiable essentials for you? When you settle for nothing less than those essentials, you’ll find all your inner needs met. The problem is our culture has become very used to settling for less. This outcome, as I see it, ...
Views: 1259 - I Remember My Mother - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from Evelyn Schmechtig-CochranMy mother has been gone now for nine years. She was a special person and very worth remembering. I think of her often and I have many memories, but, most recently, I remember her presence when I was in junior high and high school. My good friend, Tory, reminded me in an e-mail of how much fun we ...
Views: 995 - Relationships: True Friendship Is A Growing Plant Of Shared Sacrifice And Commitment - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from Mark BowserGeorge Washington said that “True Friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.” Friendship is one of the great blessings from God. Norman Vincent Peale used to tell a fantastic story of a friendship of ...
Views: 1219 - *Relationships: The Power Of Good Will - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from Margaret PaulResearch into good marriages indicates that the most important choice healthy couples make is to have good will toward each other. This may seems like a simple requirement, yet many couples have anything but good will toward each other. Instead, they make it far more important to: Attempt to ...
Views: 2952 - Are Bad Love Habits Keeping You Single? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Lisa SteadmanIn the search for love, it's all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the journey toward happily ever after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs. So what's a bad love habit? Any ...
Views: 1389 - My Relationship Is On The Rocks, How Can I Get It Back To How It Was? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Stefan KellyAs a working therapist within my private practice this is a question that I often get asked by couples or individuals that feel their relationship is not as it should be, or even that it has gone past the point of no return. My next question may be seen as flippant or inflammatory but bear with ...
Views: 797 - Becoming A Father For The Second Time - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Francis HoseinSo you know what it was the first time and how much you were ask form within you to have a child, now you are ready to do it again because you realize how much your life is for the better. What really matters You realize what really matters in life is family and you decide to have another ...
Views: 5454 - What Will A Good Mother Daughter Father Relationship Bring You? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Francis HoseinEach relationship from the pass leaves its mark be it positive or negative on you as you grow older, you carry these marks with you and it affects how you see and deal with the world. Pointing to the star Pointing to the star is what parents are to their children for you are the path shower; ...
Views: 779 - Who's You're Best Friend? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2008 from Elizabeth SavinoIf you think back to your childhood, can you recall being asked, “Who’s your best friend?” As a young girl, I can remember the security that I gained from having a best friend to share my life with. Somehow I felt safer if I had someone in my life who I knew was on my side and would defend me as ...
Views: 1215 - Want Love And Respect? How To Create Healthy, Happy Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2008 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonAre there some relationships in your life that just take more work to maintain than you're enjoying? Do you find yourself wanting to be compassionate and be able to listen in a caring way but it's just not supporting you and the kind of life you want to have? We agree that nurturing love and ...
Views: 1260 - Love Me Do: Maximizing The Love In Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2008 from Charles HowardI Love You! Is there a more powerful statement? Women swoon. Men quake. Souls are saved and lives are destroyed. But, what is it and how can you get more of it? Think about your past loves and the loving couples that you know. Love is displayed and practiced in variety of ways, including ...
Views: 616 - Overcoming Fear And Negativity - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2008 from Colleen Hoffman SmithIf we have fear living in us we will attract relationships, experiences and health issues to face the negativity that fear takes us to. Every negative experience blocks the future that holds everything we want for a healthy, loving and abundant life. Negative emotions are the barriers that stop ...
Views: 4549 - What Role Do You Play As A Father In Your Daughter's Life? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2008 from Francis HoseinWhat impact do you think you have on your daughter from the way you behave with her? Are you aware that the way you treat your daughter can have a positive or negative effect on your daughter for the rest of her life. Are you ever home? As a father do you work all the time to provide for ...
Views: 1007 - Divorce Over Money? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2008 from Francis HoseinIs money playing such an important part in your life that it is keeping you awake at night because you are to busy arguing about money? Do you feel money is the main reason that you are at the brink of divorce? Blaming Because of your money problems and the divorce in sight do you feel that ...
Views: 896 - Becoming A Father For The First Time - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2008 from Francis HoseinYou have just learnt the news and you are not sure how to act because you know somehow your life will not be the same. You ask yourself the question;” Am I ready for this” and no matter how much you say yes you never know until it happens to you. Questioning You may find ...
Views: 2154 - How To Get What You Want From Your Man! - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsSome years ago I watched Oprah as she interviewed a guy who wrote a book that would once and for all explain to women how to be in order for their man/partner to love her forever...I have to admit, I logged in to Amazon and got the book. Why wouldn't you want to miss out on such valuable ...
Views: 1016 - How Do I Recognize The Signs Of Depression After A Break Up? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2008 from Peter HarrisMany people suffer from depression after the loss of something. But how do you know if you are depressed or just experiencing the normal emotions following the loss of a relationship? Afterall, it's normal to cry, lose sleep, lose your appetite, feel guilty and sad after a break up, isn't it? ...
Views: 4489 - Guys: What You Need To Know About Women...and How To Create The Perfect Moment - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2008 from Daniel AmisWomen absolutely dislike when guys ruin perfect moments by saying (or doing) something well...stupid. Many of us guys have been there at some point in our lives while with a woman. In my book What Every Woman Wants Her Man To Know, I cover the topic more in depth in the Romance chapter about ...
Views: 2149 - The Seven Secrets to Staying Out of Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2008 from Jane Boucher, MBC, CSPOften, women who stay in violent relationships undergo gradual steps of reasoning to reconcile the violence in their minds. The reasons she stays often change as the violence changes forms. First, she stays because: · She loves him. · She believes she can reason with ...
Views: 1649 - Ten Remedies For A Broken Heart - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2008 from Peter HarrisIf you've recently broken up with someone, ended a relationship, or someone has broken up with you then you are likely feeling broken hearted. Especially if your cared deeply for the person that has left. That broken hearted feeling is that gnawing internal pain we feel deep in our chest that ...
Views: 3602 - Soul Freedom Exercise (2): Eyes Wide Shut - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandSOUL FREEDOM EXERCISES Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland EYES WIDE SHUT Your eyes are windows to your soul. Do you allow people in or lock them out? Time for Exercise: five minutes to one hour (several sessions are an option) Properties Required: magnifying ...
Views: 744 - Relationship Compatibility Questions - Crucial Qustions When Considering A Committed Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2008 from Leo RyanRelationship compatibility questions are one of the most important questions couples need to ask when they are considering establishing a committed relationship. Before proceeding, let us look at what compatible means. It means being able to exist together without conflict. It means for two ...
Views: 1319 - 14 Ways to know if you are Ready for a Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from Debbie Dodge14 WAYS TO KNOW IF YOU ARE READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP By: Debbie Dodge, PhD, LPC, CHLC 1. Will I be happy if I do not find a relationship? Happiness has to come from within ourselves. Otherwise, we will cling to the relationship as our source of happiness, identity and fulfillment. Losing that ...
Views: 2059 - Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from Debbie DodgeMany people find themselves in abusive relationships and don’t understand how or why. An abusive relationship is about power and control over one’s partner. It is not always about anger, but batterers do tend to take their anger out on their partner or children. Power and control is ...
Views: 1717 - Heart Freedom Exercise (19): Magic Wand - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMAGIC WAND Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: magic wand Steps: Make a magic wand from materials you find around the home, anything simple or elaborate, but beautiful. Take turns with the wand. Say to your lover, “With this wand I ...
Views: 691 - Heart Freedom Exercise (18): No Boundaries - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandNo Boundaries Sacred lovemaking has no goal (you are not trying to get to orgasm) but there is a purpose—the union of the lovers. During sexual/spiritual ecstasy, the boundaries between lovers disappear. If you have secrets and barriers to protect yourself emotionally from your lover, ...
Views: 678 - Clutter-free Gift Ideas: Five Gifts That Won't End Up In A Yard Sale - by No one wants to accumulate more clutter, but that's what a lot of people end up with after birthdays and holidays.
If you want to give gifts that are sure to be appreciated (and not donated in the next yard sale), consider the following five clutter-free gift ideas.
1. The most obvious type ...
Views: 767 - How To Protect Your Health Against Toxic Behavior - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Ben KimSeveral years ago, I was fortunate to meet a lady named Deborah at a fasting clinic in northern California. I had several conversations with Deborah over the course of a year, and what I remember most about her is that her kindness was amazingly genuine; the feeling for me was that she had ...
Views: 1236 - Man Woman Relationship: The Extraordinary Popular Delusion Of Mr And Mrs. Right - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Daryl CampbellNo doubt you have come across one of those reality TV shows where a contestant must choose a dating or potential marriage partner from the multiple candidates they are presented with. After a weeding out process where we get to witness the good, bad and not so pleasant get sent packing, the ...
Views: 543 - 4 Ways To Transform Your Relationship Now - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Matthew FerryMy father use to say these for things all the time. It took me a lot of maturing to understand them. I believe these four ways of opporating in the world will be of great value in your relationship. Here they are in order and then I’ll give you my two cents on each. Show up, pay ...
Views: 602 - Internet Relationships - Build Chemistry With Sparkling Conversationi - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonCreate a Space for Deep Listening and Sharing Email and online chat provides opportunities to discover communication styles and determine if there is enough chemistry to have a phone conversation or meet in person. In surveying my life coach clients about online dating, they report that they ...
Views: 1339(1 vote) - Attract Love: Five Key Secrets To Manifesting Love - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonYou may have read life coaching books on dating that give rules or techniques increasing the interest of the opposite gender. I suggest putting intricate rules aside and focusing on self development as way to attract love and create deep, meaningful relationships. Self Knowledge There is ...
Views: 1714(1 vote) - Heart Freedom Exercise (17): Gift Wrapped (For Women) - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandGift Wrapped (for Women) Time for Exercise: one to two hours Properties Required: clay and paints Steps: With clay, papier mâché, or simple play-dough form a likeness of your yoni (Sanskrit for vagina). Paint your yoni with stunning colors and symbols. Wrap it ...
Views: 618 - Heart Freedom Exercise (16): We Belong Together (For Men) - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Al Link and Pala Copeland
Views: 636 - Mentally Abusive Relationships - A Classic Example of Brainwashing Being Used As A Dominating Tactic - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Leo RyanMentally abusive relationships are very common. In fact there would be people in these types of relationships, on either side, who may not even be aware their relationship could be classified this way. This kind of relationship could also be placed in the emotionally abusive relationships ...
Views: 9244 - Self Destructing Boyfriend Or Girlfriend Dumped You - How Do You Get Him Or Her Back? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengWhen you are dealing with someone who is self-destructing, it’s hard not to be sucked into the toxic interaction that is typical of this attraction. And what do I mean by typical of this attraction? The self-destructing person is attracted to you because you have that “strength” that the ...
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