What Role Do You Play As A Father In Your Daughter's Life?

What impact do you think you have on your daughter from the way you behave with her?

Are you aware that the way you treat your daughter can have a positive or negative effect on your daughter for the rest of her life.

Are you ever home?

As a father do you work all the time to provide for your family that leave you no time to be with your daughter?

Do you feel that the rearing of your daughter should be the responsibility of your daughter’s mother because you are already working to provide for her education and welfare?

Your daughter does not only need a good home with material things, she needs a relationship on an emotional and physical side.

Do you avoid talking about important things to your daughter?

When you are at home with your daughter do you find yourself avoiding talk about things that is important to helping your daughter deal with life outside the home?

If you feel that you are the father and that she should come to you to have a relationship then you are not creating the space for this to happen.

Creating an open dialogue with your daughter?

Do you create an open dialogue with your daughter so she can feel a sense of trust with you that she can confide in you when things are difficult in her life?

Your daughter may not have the ability to create a dialogue easily with you and it is you who need to show her because you have live before her and have more experience.
Do you control every move your daughter makes?

When your daughter wants to go out do you as a father find yourself controlling her every move she makes because you are afraid that she will get into trouble?
You may feel overwhelm or afraid to realize that your daughter is getting big and that her interest has change.

Your responsibility is to change with her to be able to answer to her difficult questions that may come up.

Are you passive when comes to helping your daughter?

As a father of a teenage daughter do you find yourself passive when comes to helping your daughter.

You may feel lost or it may be too difficult for you because it is too intimate for you to talk about things that you do not feel equipped to talk about, you can get help from books, the internet or from a therapist.

Do you feel since you work outside that is enough for your daughter?

When you go to work outside do you feel you have done your part for your daughter and nothing more should be ask from you to do about raising your daughter?

Do over protect your daughter from meeting people?

Are you over- protective with your daughter because you are afraid that something may happen and she would not know what to do or how to handle it?

You may be afraid that you will be blame or at fault for not doing a better job with your daughter, in your heart you know that you did the best you can with your wife.

Do you put down your daughter when she makes a mistake?

Are you a father who puts down his daughter when she makes a mistake or does badly in her school exams?

When you think that it is alright for you to push your daughter by saying bad things to her hoping maybe it will motivate her to do better it works against both of you.

This create a feeling from your daughter that no matter what she does is never good enough in your eyes and this affects her self esteem because the first person she rely on for support is putting her down.

This creates barrier between both of you.

Stepping out

Do you find yourself stepping out of interacting with your daughter because it is to demanding and you feel that you are not getting anywhere?

This is the time to get reinforcement by reading books and going on line.

Blaming another

If you blame your daughter’s mother when any thing goes wrong because you feel she should have control her or done a better job this is a judgment call and it is looking for someone to take the blame.

The object is not to blame, it is to look for solutions that everyone will agree with, and will be easy to implement.

Conclusion: As a father in your daughter’s life you have a responsibility to help give her the tools to deal with life since you are older and have more experience about life.