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- What Do You Want? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Rick HansonGetting caught up in wanting - wanting both to get what's pleasant and to avoid what's unpleasant - is a major source of suffering and harm for oneself and others. First, a lot of what we want to get comes with a big price tag - such as that second cupcake, constant stimulation via TV and ...
Views: 939 - What Does it Feel Like to be Brain Damaged? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Craig LockArticle Title: What Does it Feel Like to be Brain Damaged? Author: Frederick R. Linge, Clinical Psychologist Submitted by: Craig Lock Category (key words): head injury, brain injury, traumatic brain injury, brain trauma, medical resources, medical information , neuro-psychology, brain, brain ...
Views: 1185 - What Does Your Heart Say? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2016 from Rick HansonMany years ago, I was in a significant relationship in which the other person started doing things that surprised and hurt me. I'll preserve the privacy here so I won't be concrete, but it was pretty intense. After going through the first wave of reactions - What?! How could you? Are you kidding ...
Views: 885 - What Doesn't Change? - by Submitted on May 22, 2017 from Rick HansonThings keep changing. The clock ticks, the day unfolds, trees grow, leaves turn brown, hair turns gray, children grow up and leave home, attention skitters from this to that, the cookie is delicious but then it's all gone, you're mad about something for awhile and then get over it, consciousness ...
Views: 913 - What Every New and Expectant Mom Needs to Know - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2013 from Rannie, Ragnhild BoesWhat every new Mom needs to know Seven ancient secrets to restoring happiness and vitality after childbirth: Childbirth — a turning point in a woman's life. But there is often a big gap in the care that is available to new mothers during the first 6-7 weeks after giving birth -- the ...
Views: 1993 - What gets you stuck? - by Submitted on May 09, 2016 from Rick HansonHave you ever watched two people quarrel, or otherwise be stuck in a conflict with each other? Usually, if either or both of them simply acknowledged one or more things, that would end the fight. Recall a time someone mistreated you, let you down, dropped the ball, made an error, spoke ...
Views: 956 - What Happens When You Look At Someone? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2016 from Rick HansonWhen we encounter someone, usually the mind automatically slots the person into a category: man, woman, your friend Tom, the kid next door, etc. Watch this happen in your own mind as you meet or talk with a co-worker, salesclerk, or family member. In effect, the mind summarizes and simplifies ...
Views: 956 - What Helps You Carry Your Load? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Rick HansonWe're all carrying a load, including tasks, challenges, worries, inner criticism, mistreatment from others, physical and emotional pain, loss and illness now or later, and everyday stresses and frustrations. Take a moment to get a sense of your own load. It's very real, isn't it? Recognizing ...
Views: 921 - What if you don’t practice Self Acceptance? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2012 from Laura SilvaSelf acceptance is a double edged sword. It has its pro and cons too like any other thing you find in this universe. Though self acceptance proves to be a very beneficial trait if implemented but it way too hazardous if not implemented or done in a wrong way. Self acceptance redeems joys and ...
Views: 1601 - What If… Letting Go of the Grumpy Feelings - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2011 from Vickie GriffithThe morning is the same as any other yet she feels angry, resentful and a bit sad. Nothing has changed from the night before. There is no one to blame. No one called with bad news. No argument has caused these feelings. She just wakes up upset. Could these feelings come from bad dreams? ...
Views: 1183 - What is an open heart? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2015 from Rick HansonWe all know people who are, ah, . . . challenging. It could be a critical parent, a bossy supervisor, a relative who has you walking on eggshells, a nice but flaky friend, a co-worker who just doesn't like you, a partner who won't keep his or her agreements, or a politician you dislike. Right ...
Views: 935 - What is Hypnosis Without Trance? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2013 from Antonio PerezWhat is Hypnosis Without Trance? Before I tell you what Hypnosis Without Trance is I want to tell you who came up with the idea of HWT. Meet James Tripp. Brilliant man. Hard working. Always up for a challenge he decided to come up with his own style of Hypnosis. While there are many ...
Views: 2432 - What Is It About Henry or Mary? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from William CottringerWhat Is It About Henry or Mary? By Bill Cottringer “Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.” ~Shannon L. ...
Views: 1418 - What is Living You? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2015 from Rick HansonIn every moment, you and I and everyone and everything else - from quantum foam to fleeting thoughts, intimate relationships, rainforest ecosystems, and the stars themselves - are each a kind of standing wave, like the ever-changing though persistent pattern of water rising above a boulder in a ...
Views: 917 - What is Love? Falling In Love With Love Through Couples Counseling, for a Healthy Relationship – in Denver and Boulder. - by Submitted on May 23, 2012 from Jim BowenWhat are the ways to fall in love and stay in love? Couples counseling can help two people enjoy a healthy relationship. Start today with these ten direct and established things you can do now, or this week, to improve the dynamics of your intimate relationship. Isn’t it time you started feeling ...
Views: 1800 - What is Meaningful Success? - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Bradley Ann MorganAchievement, victory, accomplishment, and attainment are all terms that we commonly associate with success. It is today’s hallmark that we link success with monetary gain. As many of us have discovered, financial wealth does not guarantee bliss nor bring a satisfying meaning to life. Fiscal ...
Views: 1438 - What Is Meant By the Concept of Mental Health? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2022 from santosh krinskyFor the most part, Western psychology is focused on treating what is considered ‘abnormal’ in order to help an individual fit into society and act ‘normally’. Much focus is put on external causes of various forms of disturbance and how the individual can adjust, adapt or respond to those ...
Views: 516 - What is more important? Achieving happiness or pursuing it? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2017 from Mili BatraWe often see people running like crazy, putting all their efforts in getting into the best jobs they can, when all of their energy is inclined towards earning more and more grands. They think they will achieve their ultimate happiness once they are successful in attaining financial stability, ...
Views: 915 - What is the best way for keeping your mind occupied and away from bad thoughts? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2020 from Dada BhagwanAfter trying several techniques that many of us may have tried to keep the mind busy, hence keeping away from bad thoughts. Yet, if these negative thoughts continue to return, persist, and keep us engaged, what can we do to keep our mind focused so that we can remain unaffected when bad thoughts ...
Views: 526 - What is the Cure to Relieving Stress? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Larry CranePerhaps you’ll agree that absolutely nothing about stress feels good. Stress is basically feelings based on insecurities of not knowing what to do about a particular situation. Stress feels angry, confusing, and sad. Stress also feels anxious, irritating, depressed, and fearful. Sometimes these ...
Views: 1463 - What is the Key for daily happiness? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2020 from Dada BhagwanEveryone prefers to be happy rather than being unhappy, sad or miserable. And there come numerous occasions in our life when we feel happy. However, all too often this sense of joy fleets as we encounter another challenge in life through unfolding circumstances. The key question, therefore, is ...
Views: 429 - What Is The Moral of Your Story? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2014 from William CottringerWhat Is The Moral of Your Story? By Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. The answer to this intriguing title question ...
Views: 1966 - What is the Origin Of Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2019 from Dada BhagwanThe origin of all thoughts, good or bad, lies in our past life. Our opinions given in past life create the thoughts that we get in this life. How are thoughts generated? •Every time we give a specific opinion, automatically atoms are attracted and get charged into our body accordingly. •A ...
Views: 675 - What Is Your Sense Of Peace? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2016 from Rick Hanson“Peace” can sound merely sentimental or clichéd (“visualize whirled peas”). But deep down, it’s what most of us long for. Consider the proverb: The highest happiness is peace. Not a peace inside that ignores pain in oneself or others, or is acquired by shutting down. This is a durable peace, ...
Views: 956 - What makes you feel threatened? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Rick HansonOn a previous blog at the Huffington Post, I used the example of Stephen Colbert's satirical "March to Keep Fear Alive" as a timely illustration of a larger point: humans evolved to be fearful - since that helped keep our ancestors alive - so we are very vulnerable to being frightened and even ...
Views: 1047 - What Makes Your Life? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Rick HansonWant to try a little experiment? Stop breathing. Really. For a few seconds, maybe a few dozen seconds, and see how it feels. For me, this experiment is an intimate way to experience a deep truth, that we live dependently, relying on 10,000 things for physical survival, happiness, love, and ...
Views: 906 - What Matters Most To You? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2016 from Rick HansonIn every life, reminders arrive about what's really important. I've recently received one myself, in a form that's already come to countless people and will come to countless more: news of a potentially serious health problem. My semi-annual dermatology mole check turned up a localized ...
Views: 990 - What Millennials Can Teach Us About Positivity - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Michael MantellHow can a group of 80 million young Americans suffering from mind-bogglingly high unemployment rates still be positive, buoyant and survive? Leave it to Millennials to do exactly that. With $200 billion in buying power, they are optimistic, confident, self-expressive, liberal, upbeat and ...
Views: 1117 - What Puts People at Ease? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Rick HansonWe evolved to be afraid. The ancient ancestors that were casual and blithely hopeful, underestimating the risks around them - predators, loss of food, aggression from others of their kind - did not pass on their genes. But the ones that were nervous were very successful - and we are their ...
Views: 915 - WHAT TO DO ABOUT STRESS – THE 30 POINT PLAN (from 'Handbook to Survive Life'') - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2011 from Craig LockArticle Title: WHAT TO DO ABOUT STRESS – THE 30 POINT PLAN (from 'Handbook to Survive Life'') Author: Craig Lock Web sites: http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/craiglock http://www.creativekiwis.com/books.html#craig and www.lulu.com/craiglock Craig's blog with thoughts and extracts from ...
Views: 836 - What to do if your Uber Driver crashes? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2018 from Nicki JennsHailing an Uber cab is a quick solution to reach any place, no matter you are going for a business meet or have a fun party to attend. The cheap and convenient service aids you reach any destination quickly. 70% of the Americans rely on Uber cab to reach important places. With popularity, ...
Views: 998 - What Would Bear Lots Of Fruit? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2016 from Rick HansonMy wife and kids tease me that the title of this practice is corny - and it is. Still, I like it. If you don't nourish the things that nourish you, they wither away like a plant in dry stony ground. Looking to the year ahead for you - a year that can begin whenever you want - what's one key ...
Views: 897 - What Would Make a Difference Inside You? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2016 from Rick HansonWe all have issues - including demands upon us, stresses, illnesses, losses, vulnerabilities, and pain. (As Alan Watts put it: "Life is wiggly.") Of course, many of our issues - in the broad sense I'm using the word here - are related to important sources of fulfillment, such as starting a ...
Views: 911 - What would you Suggest for Reading when you are Feeling Really Down - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2019 from Dada BhagwanLife is not meant to be a smooth ride, always! Each joy is followed by sorrow and each obstacle by success. How our lives actually play out to be is dependent more so on how we choose to tackle the different phases of our life; how soon we are ready to give in and accept defeat or how far we ...
Views: 437 - What's bothering you? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2014 from Larry CranePerhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ...
Views: 1457 - What's bothering you? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Larry CranePerhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ...
Views: 2950 - What's Carrying You? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2016 from Rick HansonFeeling both the world and myself these days, one phrase keeps calling: lived by love. Explicitly, this means coming from love in a broad sense, from compassion, good intentions, self-control, warmth, finding what's to like, caring, connecting, and kindness. Implicitly, and more ...
Views: 876 - What's Changing? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2016 from Rick HansonThe fifth of my personal Top 5 practices (all tied for first place) is open out, by which I mean relaxing into a growing sense of connection, even oneness, with all things. (The other four are be mindful, love, take in the good, and go green.) "Opening out" can sound kind of airy-fairy or ...
Views: 1000 - What's fundamental? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2016 from Rick HansonIn middle school, I thought it would be cool to play a musical instrument, and picked the clarinet. My wise parents rented one rather than buying it, and I started practicing. (In the garage because it sounded pretty screechy.) After a week or two of doing scales, I got bored and picked my way ...
Views: 985 - What's in Your Heart to Say? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Rick HansonIt's been said that the most powerful tool for physical health is a fork (or spoon), since the choices you make with it determine the good or bad things you put into your body. In the same way, perhaps the most powerful tool for your mental health - and certainly for the health of your ...
Views: 889 - What's in Your Mind? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Rick HansonIt's kind of amazing: right now, what you think and feel, enjoy and suffer, is changing your brain. The brain is the organ that learns, designed by evolution to be changed by our experiences: what scientists call experience-dependent neuroplasticity. Neurons that fire together, wire together. ...
Views: 908 - What's Left Out? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2016 from Rick HansonWhen I look back on mistakes I've made - like dumping my anger on someone, making assumptions in haste, partying too much, losing my nerve, being afraid to speak from my heart - in all cases a part of me had taken over. You know what I mean. The parts of us that have a partial view, are driven ...
Views: 1130 - What's Precious To You? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2017 from Rick HansonThe word, sacred, has two kinds of meanings. First, it can refer to something related to religion or spirituality. Second, more broadly, it can refer to something that one cherishes, that is precious, to which one is respectfully, even reverently, dedicated, such as honesty with one's life ...
Views: 930 - What's REALLY Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Lori FieldsAllow this to set the tone for your day. “Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that, so it goes on flying anyway.” -Mary Kay Ash Take a moment today & check in with yourself by reflecting on the following questions. 1. Are you allowing a ...
Views: 1109 - What's The Hurry? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2017 from Rick HansonAs I was meditating this morning, our cat hopped up in my lap. It felt sweet to sit there with him. And yet - even though I was feeling fine and had plenty of time, there was this internal pressure to start zipping along with emails and calls and all the other clamoring minutiae of the ...
Views: 931 - What's The Most Important Thing? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2015 from Rick HansonHave you heard this saying? The most important thing is to remember the most important thing. What are the most important things to you? In your life as a whole? During a particular interaction with someone? Right this minute? The most important things often get pushed to the sidelines. ...
Views: 1020 - What's To Like? - by Submitted on May 08, 2017 from Rick HansonLiking feels good, plus it encourages us to approach and engage the world rather than withdraw from it. Your brain continually tracks whether something is pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. In essence, is it a carrot, a stick, or safely ignored? Naturally, we like - we enjoy - what's pleasant, ...
Views: 1004 - What's Up With These people? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2017 from Rick HansonResearch shows that relationships are built from interactions, and interactions are built from moments. A critical moment in an interaction is when one person wants something from the other one. ("Wants" include wishes, needs, desires, hopes, and longings.) The want could be simple and concrete, ...
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