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Are you unsure whether or not you have strayed into the realms of emotional infidelity?
Are you worried that perhaps someone other than your spouse has become your top priority?
Or maybe you're here reading this because your husband or wife wants you to see for yourself that your ... Views: 4759
"I cheated on my wife, and now I'm beginning to lose hope that she will ever forgive me for cheating on her..."
I'm sure that when you first decided that you want to save your marriage after cheating, you fantasized and hoped that the moment you displayed any effort, your wife would come ... Views: 2069
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Are You An Island Girl? - by John Kuypers, Couples Coach, The Institute For Present Living & Learning
Elton John sang his famous song, Island Girl, in the 1970s, idolizing the women of sun, sand and surf. But there is another kind of Island Girl. These are women (and men) who share a common and often unspoken challenge: fear of intimacy. People who are afraid to let other people get too ... Views: 3115
Are you in a sexless marriage? I’m a sex therapist in Orange County, CA and I assure you, you are not alone! About 25% of all marriages are “sexless,” meaning that the couple has sex fewer than one to two dozen times a year.
Sometimes marriages naturally go through dry spells. A partner ... Views: 2199
Are You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays?
The Holidays are always a difficult time of year for people for many reasons. At the risk of adding to the plethora of writing on this topic, I still feel called to share with you how you can use this time as an opportunity for change and ... Views: 1734
Am I with the right partner?
As a couples therapist, I've been asked this question a lot. The couples I see are usually frustrated, and often for good reason.
They've tried to solve relationship problems by talking, by not talking, by changing their behavior and by not changing it. ... Views: 1663
Some people are really good about standing up for themselves and asking for what they want or need in a relationships. Others sit back and wait, relying on their belief that their partner should know what they want or need.
Some would say that if you have to ask, you are potentially forcing ... Views: 1292
This is the time of year to activate your leadership abilities, especially as it relates to love. Let me show you the best methods to activate your love life, according to each zodiac sign.
It’s fun and something you can do differently each month. Think of this free astrology column as a ... Views: 1680
I saw Rev. Michael Beckwith perform a re-commitment ceremony for a married couple a few years back and it blew me away. He looked at the husband and said, “Your job is to be her biggest fan and her greatest critic for the purpose of her spiritual development.” He then turned to the wife and ... Views: 1335
“Past is past.” This is one of the most common lines in dealing with the drama of relationships. We try to avoid our past especially ugly ones. We fear that it might boil a possible dispute on the present. Therefore, we junk old memories in the deeper corners of our minds thinking that those ... Views: 2649
With divorce being at epidemic proportions, couples today are seeking ways to have a better relationship and prevent becoming part of the statistics. Reports have shown that over a 40 year period, 6-7 out of 10 marriages will end up in divorce. These numbers also do not represent divorce ... Views: 1448
What makes a wedding day one of the most important days of your life? Is it the location? Is a destination wedding on an exotic island the key to a memorable event? Or is it finding the perfect band, d or caterer? Is it the people you invite or the traditions you intend on following?
All of ... Views: 489
In the past few days, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones announced they are separating. Reportedly, the reason for the separation is to “take some time apart and work on themselves.” The 13 year marriage has endured Douglas’ throat cancer and Zeta-Jones’ diagnosis of suffering from ... Views: 1898
Depending on where you research, between 40 and 50 percent of all first marriages result in a divorce. Marriage is not what it was fifty years ago, and the role of each partner has changed dramatically over the years. In the 1950s and 1960s, men worked and were the breadwinners for the family ... Views: 1797
Can I stop my divorce? I’m sorry you’re in a predicament that leads you to ask this question, but you’re not alone. In the United States, more than 50% of brides and grooms give up on living happily ever after. Instead of renewing vows and growing old together, their marriages end in divorce. ... Views: 1529
Are you and your spouse having problems in your marriage? Did you recently find out that your husband had and affair and you guys are committed to saving your marriage? If you guys are considering going to marriage counseling and you want to know if it will help you marriage, please read on. ... Views: 895
The Way We Were
This month, my parents will be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. On their 40th, my sister and I created a memory book for them. We had sent letters to a large list of friends and family and asked them to send us pictures, stories, old letters and recollections of time ... Views: 745
For those discovering suddenly that they have a cheating man at home, obsessive thoughts are what you have to deal with after the initial shock and devastation. One of the haunting questions is: Why did he cheat on me? Why do cheaters cheat? Is she better than me? Will he cheat again? How do I ... Views: 2524
Do you know what roles and duties God has assigned you in your marriage? Why do you think God gave certain roles to the wife and certain roles to the husband? God created for husband and wife to share in the same goals but have different roles. Together they compliment one another and work ... Views: 4613
Every couple has a communication breakdown in their marriage at some point. In fact, most couples have numerous breakdowns in communication throughout their marriage. Communication is really a simple thing, but somehow as humans, we complicate things and blur the lines of communication with ... Views: 2982
When people see a married couple experiencing adversity, their first thought often goes something like this: “Thank goodness they have each other.” But facing adversity together as a couple can pose unique challenges.
The good news is that this awareness increases your chances of surviving a ... Views: 1111
Do something different this Valentine, something extra special for and with your beloved partner. What could you do to create an ‘out-of-this-world’ love experience that would make your partner’s heart melt and feel extra loved and taken care of?
Here is what you want to do:
Prepare YOUR ... Views: 1343
I asked a few men why they lie. There were varied answers. The surprising thing was that none of the men I asked denied that they lied. There were some typical answers. A common one was, 'If we tell the truth you won't believe us.'
Steve had the most interesting repsonse that summaried the ... Views: 1631
Dear Dr. Romance:
I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ... Views: 1252
Dear Dr. Romance:
I heard you on "How to Stay Happily Married" podcast. I am getting married in June to someone I know for 3 years and lived with. He is now deployed in the Army and has been since last May. This is my 3rd marriage and I feel like my eyes are wide open now and I know ... Views: 1188
Dear Dr. Romance:I read your article about "Age Differences in Dating" and thought you might be interested in a case history. I was married to a younger man for twenty years.He was 21 and I was 40 when we met.I had been in a very unhappy marriage for twenty years and had three ... Views: 1275
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am hoping you can help. I made a query about maintaining a marriage over long distance and noted your book The Commuter Marriage My wife and I have been married for 12 years and have had our ups and downs. We are both commited to our relationship. We lived in different ... Views: 1551
Dear Dr. Romance :
A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ... Views: 1034
Sadly, there are many dudes who seem to take to hooking up for years without even mentioning the topic of marriage.
When it comes right down to it, this leaves women seriously disillusioned because a girl practically never wants her relationship to give out in the dating stage.
What makes ... Views: 1245
For many people, a trial separation means the end of your marriage. For others, it means a new beginning for their marriage. Marriage separation gives couples a chance to evaluate what they want out of their life and how their spouse fits in. If you and your spouse are temporarily separated to ... Views: 10688
People going through marriage problems often look for marriage advice when they can no longer take the pain of what there relationship lacks. Usually at this time, a lot of damages has already been done and will take quite a bit of effort and commitment to make the marriage work. With that said, ... Views: 933
Rita was happy and Norman hated it!
Rita was on top of the world and Norman hated it. He couldn’t stand seeing her so comfortable in her own skin, and in such good spirits. It turned his stomach. It was unfair. What right did she have to feel so good when he felt lousy?
Despite her ... Views: 2044
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. That's why so many married couples seeks for help. It's not uncommon for a couple to have a marriage therapist or a counselor. Some people may feel embarrassed that their marriage needs help. There is no shame to admitting that you're in a situation ... Views: 664
Whether or not you’re currently in a relationship with a lover/partner/spouse, you know that relationships of ALL kinds are a crucial ingredient in what makes life worth living (at least that’s how I look at it). You probably also know that managing a relationship with anyone easily and quickly ... Views: 1489
Does marriage counseling, or couples counseling as it's often called, work? The short answer is: maybe. Whether marriage counseling will work to help save your marriage depends on a number of factors. Ask yourself the following questions.
Are you both interested in getting counseling?
If it's ... Views: 1042
The short answer to this question is a resounding “Yes!”
Dr. John Gottman spent forty years researching how couples create close, lasting relationships and what it takes to turn a distressed marriage around. Using his approach, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, 85% of couples were able to ... Views: 2193
Does your spouse take credit for your ideas? Or do people compliment your spouse for tasks or projects that you did? Do you get the credit where credit is due?
For example, Jill herself maintains a beautiful garden and takes a lot of pride in it. One day, a neighbor comes to visit the couple ... Views: 3407
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Dr. Romance on Holidays with Family and In-laws
Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary ... Views: 1845
Dr. Romance: tips on spring cleaning your marriage:
Over an extended period of time, dust and detritus can accumulate in even the best marriage. Spring cleaning, to clear out the cobwebs and re-energize your connection, is a great idea. Just like a regular housework schedule, regular ... Views: 1623
In this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you ... Views: 1343
Marriage is not always a bed of roses, conflicts between couples could bring worries and stress to the relationship. There are many issues and conflicts that may arise when two individuals are living under one roof as a couple. Parenting issues, money issues, boredom, jealousy, broken trust, ... Views: 833
Most of the major marriage problems and break ups we hear about started from quite little things. Marriages have generally had their challenges. It however appears to have escalated many fold these days more so with technological growth.
One of the problems that a lot of marriages today ... Views: 1613
Transitions are always opportunities for growth and healing. Sometimes we need to heal ways of being in the world that are no longer serving us – like my clients who realize, through the wedding planning, that they’re suffering from the disease to please and that they need to learn how to put ... Views: 2680
When my grandparents got married in the 1930s, I’m quite certain neither one of them had the kind of engagement anxiety I see among people today. My grandmother did experience grief about leaving her mother and two sisters and the difficult feelings were displaced onto her wedding dress and veil ... Views: 4963
Transitions render us more vulnerable emotionally and psychologically than during other times in our lives. Being in a transition means that we are between stages and identities: no longer single but not quite married; no longer a non-mother but not quite a mother. These in-between zones are ... Views: 4540
Most people in an intimate relationship will, at some point, find themselves stuck in a projection about their partner. Projections are a bit challenging to define and even more challenging to see it when you’re in it. In Wikipedia’s words:
“Psychological projection or projection bias ... Views: 5751
Envy, jealousy, and shame are inextricably intertwined. Envy and jealousy are primal emotions that frequently overlap. They’re commonly first felt in the form of sibling rivalry and oedipal longings. A child innately wants mommy and daddy all to him or herself and feels “excluded” from the ... Views: 1834
Emotional Affairs
In most instances, emotional affairs start out as ordinary friendships. It is important that you learn how to set the boundaries between a platonic friendship and a more attached relationship with another person. When you pursue a relationship with another person and ... Views: 2041
When you get to a point where you're wondering how to save a broken marriage, it's natural to feel frustrated, confused and perhaps even hopeless. Most problems that lead to a break up of marriage fall under one of three categories: infidelity, money problems or a couple simply growing distant. ... Views: 943
All of us have scars from past experiences that cause pain and conflicts in the present. Until we allow healing of the wounds from those things long ago hidden away they will continue to surface in one form or another; self-destructive behaviors, physical or emotional symptoms, or recurring ... Views: 1330