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- How to Have Happier Holidays! - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our favorite December tradition—we watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, ...
Views: 1308 - The Wisdom of Longing - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Sheryl PaulAt the core of each human being rests a heart full of love, tinged with sadness and aching with longing. Some would say this longing points to our awareness of our original separation from a divine source, the knowing that we are all one yet painfully separated from each another because of this ...
Views: 2124 - The Power of Heart-Centred Living - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2014 from New Conscious Living"A new type of thinking is essential if mankind is to survive and move on to higher levels." ~Albert Einstein Could this new "thinking" be coming from the heart instead of the mind? We are human beings and when we practice living in this world from a state of beingness rather than constant ...
Views: 1196 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't want to keep making the same mistakes! Some people say "be yourself" other say "don't do too much too soon, keep ...
Views: 1303 - When Fear Meets Love - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Sheryl PaulWhen fear pricks the heart it flies in the face of every message about love we absorb from the culture: that love should provide a safe haven against the storms of life; that love should be easy; that love and fear are mutually exclusive, and that if fear enters the picture it means something is ...
Views: 1702 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Still Miss Him Terribly - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband/best friend crossed-over a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. I think of him every day and his essence is is always with me. I am still in love with him and cannot imagine having a relationship with another man. At this time, however, I have ...
Views: 1472 - The 5 Keys To A Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2014 from Harriet Pappenheim“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple” — Dr. Seuss Finding the person that you want to spend the rest of your life deserves to be celebrated and honored. When you make the decision to get married it shows how your commitment to one another has evolved, aspiring ...
Views: 1644 - Love: Where Does Love Come From? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person. If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ...
Views: 2139 - Dear Dr. Romance: I had never questioned him about other ladies - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a couple of years into my relationship with many problems. I met my guy online and he moved the relationship along rather quickly. His eagerness even made me a bit nervous. After a couple of months being with him, I began to fall for him and fell in ...
Views: 1334 - Emotions as Weather - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaAlthough most people in the country wouldn’t agree, we in Southern California have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we’re so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call “real” ...
Views: 1505 - Love, Lust or Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerWonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Whether your obsession about someone is a sign of love or addiction? Whether you’re staying in a troubled relationship because you’re addicted or in love? It’s complicated, and lust and love and addiction don’t always exclude one another. Endless ...
Views: 1941(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she is in denial and wants to escape the pain - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best girlfriend ever and I dated for about eight months, then had a long distance relationship when she went back to her home country. She just broke up with me over email and she is dating someone from her home city for the last month. I thought we were ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are interdependent and this means that relationships are a vital part of their ability to survive and to thrive. And while they need to have relationships with others, they also need to be in relationships that are fulfilling. For instance, one could be in a relationship and ...
Views: 2089 - Better Sex: 3 Quick Tips To Boost Your Sex Life - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2014 from Ikechi ohaleThese quick tips will help you re-activate your sex life. Is your sex life going down the drain? Do you think you're losing the sex-edge and need to quickly get back on the pleasure track? Don't worry... here comeWha'andato the rescue. Here are 3 quick tips you should try ...
Views: 807(1 vote) - Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Tina TessinaThe old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fine Love is a jewel when it is new; ...
Views: 1317 - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help me before I totally screw up - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: For several years, I’d been a self proclaimed lesbian who was only attracted to women and only involved in intimate relationships with women (the idea of intimacy with a man, even when one hit on me in public, literally made me nauseous)The one exception was my childhood ...
Views: 1387 - Dr. Romance on Love Styles - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There was a time when life seemed very hard, so hard I tried not to think about it.. Several times I helped to destroy some very viable relationships. Changing myself, my life and my loves has been very exciting and fulfilling, yet I am still growing. Love Styles is intended ...
Views: 1463 - Kindness and Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaRecently, I went through very unpleasant and difficult dental work, and the outpouring of kindness I received—from my husband, who held onto my ankle all through the two and a half hours (and had nightmares that night about it) to my dear friends, who offered me support and encouragement to ...
Views: 1364 - Dr. Romance's Guidelines for Not Fighting - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from Tina TessinaFighting a lot? Dr. Romance recommends: No matter what you’re fighting about: money, sex, kids or something else, the fighting is an indication that your communication isn’t working. If this happens only occasionally, such as when one or both of you are tired or stressed; it’s not too big ...
Views: 1391(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never met him and he lives in another country - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I stumbled upon your article "Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice" while I was searching for advice on dating a divorcee. I can't help but wonder what advice you would give to a girl who has never been married who is currently seeing a divorcee. I ...
Views: 1407(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: How to Decide Whether or Not to End Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaTo watch video, click here Dr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these ...
Views: 1914 - Romance is Not Necessarily Love - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaIn romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s ...
Views: 1418 - Single Mom Finding Love - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2014 from Jessica RectorAs another year winded down and a new one begins, I feel a sense of pressure. Don't get me wrong I'm excited to see where this next year leads, but there's this thing creeping up. I have successfully pushed it away before, but I feel it coming again. I used to work in a restaurant, so every New ...
Views: 1309 - Soul Provider - Posituve Intentions - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2014 from William FetterPositive and Negative Intentions are Directions. Which Direction do you Choose? The past couple of days I've been covering the topic of love. I stated that love is a choice based on your intentions/thoughts not your feelings. I also pointed out that in order to start attracting more ...
Views: 1737(1 vote) - FAILURE'S NOT AN OPTION. NEVER GIVE UP - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2014 from William FetterFAILURES NOT AN OPTION: NEVER GIVE UP! So often we miss out on God’s best because we give up too soon. As you all know, I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. Not a day goes by when I don't feel like throwing in the towel and just giving up. But when I sit still ...
Views: 1525 - Dear Dr. Romance: twice I have been let down by this man I so love - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good ...
Views: 1504 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her lastbreakup. I loved her wholly, with all my ...
Views: 1393 - Three Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2014 from William CottringerThree Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship By Bill Cottringer “Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.” ~James Dobson. A writing colleague and dear friend of mine who is ...
Views: 1647 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. ...
Views: 1946 - How to Cope with the Loss of a Friend - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaI was recently sitting in my favorite coffee shop, and remembering my dear friend who used to meet me there and who died not long ago. As I get older, I’m experiencing more and more loss, and so are my friends of a similar age. Those of us who survive loss still have to “keep calm ...
Views: 1857 - The Genius Of Courageous Loving - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2014 from Valerie LipsteinThere is a genius to courageous loving because we have to access something we've forgotten and make it a real part of our lives again. It exists in each and every one of us yet it takes courage to access it. We can only access it when we become aware and we are ready for it. I believe, we are ...
Views: 1384 - HELP-I’m so overscheduled there is no “US” time! - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2014 from Valerie LipsteinHave you ever found yourself thinking about your crazy schedule and experiencing a time crunch that impacts the quality time spent on your relationship? Balancing work and family with couple time, is a major concern that most couples express. You may see yourself in part in the following ...
Views: 1396 - Breaking Up is Hard to Do!! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown(A simple way to let go with dignity) "The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread." Mother Teresa If schools had offered a course called "Breaking up is hard to do", I suspect we all would have enrolled. Why aren't we taught these difficult challenges ...
Views: 1482(1 vote) - Debunking Myths about Dating - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaI'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book. A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ...
Views: 1702 - Denial- Take a Whack at Yours Today! - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown" You will never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." Christopher Columbus Denial is a mechanism we use consciously or unconsciously to alter reality, usually to pretend it is better than it is. We don't want to see aspects of life for which we have no ...
Views: 1097(1 vote) - Drifting Apart and How to Reconnect - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2014 from Pat LaDouceurDrifting apart “We’re drifting apart,” Sara said during our first meeting. Her husband, Daniel, agreed. They got along well enough, but lived more like roommates than a married couple. It’s not just couples who drift apart, of course. Friends lose touch, colleagues move on, children forget ...
Views: 1610 - If You’re Trying To Prove It, You Don’t Believe It - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2014 from Mike RobbinsMy counselor Eleanor recently said to me, “Mike, if you’re trying to prove something, it means you don’t actually believe it yet.” Her words hit me right between the eyes, as they often do. She was right and as I reflect on certain aspects of my life, I can see that where I’m overly attached to ...
Views: 1327 - How to Quit Enabling - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from nancy traversLast week I talked about how easy it is to be caught up in a destructive cycle of enabling someone you love. You may have begun by trying to help. You covered up or filled in for someone who let his responsibilities slide due to dysfunctional behavior—often addition. Over time you got stuck in a ...
Views: 1553 - Dr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaWant to make sure your relationship is a success? Here are ten ways to bring the sparkle back and keep it going. Dr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your Marriage 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other --about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, ...
Views: 1440(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will only know what it feels like to be with someone who can love them, there are going to be other people who only know what it feels like to be with someone who can’t love them. And this is going to mean that each person has a radically different experience on this ...
Views: 1813 - The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaAnd then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged…You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing. —Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ...
Views: 1404(2 votes) - Obsessions and Love Addiction - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2014 from Darlene LancerWhen an obsession dominates us, it steals our will and saps all the pleasure out of life. We become numb to people and events, while our mind replays the same dialogue images, or words. In a conversation, we have little interest in what the other person is saying and soon talk about our ...
Views: 1800 - Dr. Romance on Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It was one of those magical encounters with a personal truth—you know how it feels. I was fifteen, in ninth-grade English. The teacher, Mr. Rizzutto, read us a poem, and it had such a profound effect on me that even five decades later, I’m still using it as a guide. The ...
Views: 1774 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly painful experience. And this doesn’t even need to be a relationship was fulfilling or healthy; as it can be painful no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ it was. So this means that someone can have the desire to get back with their ex and ...
Views: 1613 - How To Write A Love Letter - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Tina TessinaWriting has a powerful effect on our emotional state. The following exercise is designed to help you fully express feelings that may have lain dormant for a long time, or may be too intense and jumbled for your to process effectively. You’ll find it helpful in expressing what you feel, ...
Views: 1587 - The Right Way to Love - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaThere’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ...
Views: 1563 - ***Unconditional Love-The Mother's Day Gift That Keeps Giving - by Submitted on May 10, 2014 from Nancy PhilpottCelebrating Mother's Day and mom's birthday at the beach was a gift my mom, my sister, and I gave ourselves each year. It was a Mother's Day tradition for many more years than I can remember.In 2001 we started a new tradition. Mom’s three year journey with lung cancer had taken a toll on ...
Views: 2434 - Unconditional Love-The Mother's Day Gift That Keeps Giving - by Submitted on May 10, 2014 from Nancy PhilpottCelebrating Mother's Day and mom's birthday at the beach was a gift my mom, my sister, and I gave ourselves each year. It was a Mother's Day tradition for many more years than I can remember.In 2001 we started a new tradition. Mom’s three year journey with lung cancer had taken a toll on ...
Views: 2617 - Romance is Not Necessarily Love - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaIn romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s ...
Views: 1491 - Single Mom Dating Another Suitor - by Submitted on May 03, 2014 from Jessica RectorWith Suitor #1, he and I talked via text and on the phone a lot. Then when we met in person, there wasn't any chemistry. A friend told me next time to not talk with the guy so much. That way there wouldn't be expectations. So I decided to try this tactic, because at this point, I'm willing to ...
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