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- Dear Dr. Romance: I can't live like this any more - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me. My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent ...
Views: 1007(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel terrible about not keeping the promises I made - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My story will probably sound like a thousand others you've heard, but I am in desperate need of some answers. I am in my fifties, my wife is a few years younger. My wife had a hysterectomy about 15 years ago, so menopause is not likely part of this equation. As you are ...
Views: 570(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Have Strong Feelings for My Plastic Surgeon - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong feelings for him and ...
Views: 3591(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Still Miss Him Terribly - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband/best friend crossed-over a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. I think of him every day and his essence is always with me. I am still in love with him and cannot imagine having a relationship with another man. At this time, however, I have two ...
Views: 861(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother, and I feel I'm past my prime. - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four year old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ...
Views: 855(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Desperate: What Else Can I Do? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I suffer with sleeping alone in "our" bedroom while my wife of 14 years, sleeps in our two pre-teen sons' bedroom. I've tried to talk and reason with her about this important problem, only to fall on deaf ears. I'm desperate. What else can i do? How can i get ...
Views: 794(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tough because we work together and I see her everyday - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I ran across the post from the man who was being "patient" with the wounded woman who kept projecting her thought and blowing him off. I thought it was so close to my situation, it blew me away. I am a drug and alcohol counselor and found myself attracted to a coworker. ...
Views: 1211(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. - by Submitted on May 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend does not like phone sex. When ever bring the topic she is always mad at me. I don't know maybe it's the way her ex treated her. Please help Dear Reader: You can't have phone sex with your girl if she doesn't like it, and you can't force her to like it. Instead, ...
Views: 766(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife has no sexual fantasies - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married to my wife for 19 years and I have ask her to tell me her fantasies for along time, she says she has none, Is this possible? She always wants oral sex buts never ...
Views: 1026(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Now That We Are Together, Things Have Changed. - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been dating this girl for 3 months now but we were talking and going on occasional dates for a good 5 months before we finally made it offical. Now that we are together things have changed. She ignores me when we are around friends and family. When I ask her if she ...
Views: 968(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Our sex life has been very bad - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My husband of almost 9 years just told me about 2 months ago that he is in love with someone else. About 5 years ago I caught him cheating on me with this girl and he told me that it was over and it was just for the sex. Then 2 years later I found out that he was ...
Views: 675(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she will only participate if i ask - by Submitted on May 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This is a diificult one for you, my daughter's stepdaughter was molested by my father about two years ago, because of it we had financial issues, had to leave our home and buy another and go through a long court proceeding, which ended several months ago. A month later, my ...
Views: 1038(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I try to fuel the desires or calm them? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your article "Age Differences in Dating " I'm single, in my early thirties. for the last, i'd say 6 years, i have been extremely attracted to women in their forties. it's both a physical and mental attraction. i live in an upscale part of the ...
Views: 1029(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What can an older man do to win a younger woman? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ...
Views: 3788(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I Don't Know - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 893(1 vote) - Dilemmas of Codependent Men - by Submitted on May 26, 2012 from Darlene LancerThe dilemmas of codependent men aren’t talked about. Unlike women, men don’t discuss their relationship problems with friends and family. Instead, they internalize their pain. Many are in denial, suffer in silence, or become numb to their needs and feelings. They shun attention and try to do the ...
Views: 3375(2 votes) - Do You See the Real Me? Using the Objective Eye - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Article: Written by Renee L Richardson Do You See the Real Me? Using the Objective Eye When we become attracted to someone, do we really see them or are we seeing what we perceive? When dealing with perceptions, we must keep in mind that such is based on a variety of processes of which ...
Views: 2358(1 vote) - Do You Think of Other People As Separate Individuals? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainThis is the sort of question that people will instinctively answer yes to, without really taking a moment to consider the real implication of what the question is asking, and why it is particularly important to any notion of personal development or self growth. At some level people think of ...
Views: 1930(1 vote) - Don Jon: A Transformation from Sex to Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2013 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental WeaverFor many people sexual and romantic education is derived a great deal from television, movies, and, particularly for men, pornography. Objectification, one-sidedness, and unrealistic expectations take hold resulting in a loss of intimacy and connection. The movie, "Don Jon," written, directed, ...
Views: 1614(1 vote) - Dr Romance Video: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo watch the video, click here. It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee success. When dating and getting to know ...
Views: 2762(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaAfter years together, is there a lack of sex in your marriage? Is this negatively impacting your relationship? Have no fear -- it is easy to reboot your sex life at any age. I recommend that couples follow five easy steps to get things going again: First of all, you have to find out what’s going ...
Views: 713(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Jealousy, Faithfulness and Distance - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Tina TessinaSo many couples are now separated part-or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, "'til death do us part" but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ...
Views: 1890(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina Tessina"And then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged... You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing." -- Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, writes Dr. Romance, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ...
Views: 1291(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The State of the Union Meeting - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance recommends couples increase their mutual respect and appreciation by having a regular "State of the Union" meeting. Here are two simple techniques you can use in all kinds of relationships: couples, families, even work partners and friends, to enhance your cooperation, ...
Views: 1178(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Getting To Yes - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using what I ...
Views: 1040(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: No Cooperation? Solve It Yourself! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: What do you do after you have tried everything and your partner, friend, child or colleague still won't negotiate? In previous articles, like “Asking for What you Want,” “Couples Can Cooperate for Success” and “Gentle Persistence” we’ve explored a lot of communication ...
Views: 860(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Infidelity -- Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here. Discovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go? Dr. Romance shows you how to decide. When you get ...
Views: 2475(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "How to Deal with a Partner's Annoying Quirks" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaMany guys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in ...
Views: 813(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Is there a right way to ask for more sex? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaIf you and your partner are not on the same page sexually, you need to learn how to talk with each other about sex: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for Creating a Sexual Agreement: * Set up a problem-solving session: * Having a time to talk about sex will help you create trust and sexual ...
Views: 815(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Resolve to Make Your Love Life Sparkle! - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance wishes all of you a happy, healthy and loving 2012! We all are inspired to make resolutions in the new year, to celebrate new beginnings. Rather than resolving to exercise or diet, try: Dr. Romance's Top 5 Resolutions to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great Resolve ...
Views: 2028(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and ...
Views: 1877(1 vote) - Dynamic Marriage - The Perfect Valentines Day Gift - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Tom KingAre you at a loss about what to give your wife for Valentines Day? What can you give your man that will make a big impact on him? The answers lie in understanding what your spouse really wants and needs from you. Let me give you some ideas. We all have common human needs but our priorities ...
Views: 1225(1 vote) - Earn £60 per Hour Advising People on Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomEarn £60 per hour advising people on relationships. This is your chance to shine - though if you are the sort of person we are seeking you are probably shining already. We need people who have a lot of common sense and experience of life. You may have hard a difficult childhood or gone ...
Views: 571(1 vote) - Emotional Vulnerability: Creating a Safe Space in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2012 from Veronica BurgessWhat is emotional vulnerability? Emotional vulnerability is when an individual surrenders fully to the joys and sorrows of giving and receiving love. It is when you break open locks and tear down walls—being open and transparent. The fear of the unknown is what blocks us from giving ourselves ...
Views: 7912(1 vote) - Emotions, thoughts and auras - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Roger FontaineIsn't is too often the case that when we're feeling strong emotions which distress us that we are also encountering negative thoughts about our personal dramas. Whether the thought or emotion comes first is not important. What's relevant is that emotions and thoughts are inter-related. And ...
Views: 3689(1 vote) - Exploring the Art of Tantra – Taking Your Lovemaking to a Deeper Level - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Allura JoyFor centuries, various forms of Tantra have been practiced in many eastern cultures as a means to reach enlightenment. Tantra is an ancient yoga that is perhaps best known in the West for its celebratory inclusion of sexual energy as central to the practice. This powerful meditation can be ...
Views: 3463(1 vote) - Feeling Twitterpated… Enjoying Love, Life and Springtime! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Allura JoyIn many parts of the northern hemisphere, signs of spring are beginning to appear all around us. Trees are budding, birds are signing, flowers are blooming, and the animals (including humans) are… well… twitterpated. Do you remember in the classic cartoon movie Bambi, when the young animal ...
Views: 2858(1 vote) - Fitting In And Feeling Out Of Place - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from David SamuelOne of the many drawbacks to western culture is the lack of involvement and devotion on a deeply personal level to anything or anyone. When I was in Cambodia I spent a few days with a group from Singapore who was there as a charity project bringing cloths and supplies to the poor. There is ...
Views: 2071(1 vote) - Five Ways to Avoid Intimacy - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Allan HardmanWhen an apprentice called me to tell me his wife was thinking about leaving him, he was mystified about what more she could want from him. He worked hard, supported her so she could be a stay-at-home Mom, he mowed the lawn, and kept the oil changed in the car. He was always busy with tasks and ...
Views: 4338(1 vote) - Forgive Through Compassion and Acceptance - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Mark PetroffPerhaps all of us have had an intimate partner that has said or done things to us which frankly seem unforgivable! Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of ...
Views: 1673(1 vote) - Four Ways Your Relationship is Mirroring You back to You - by Submitted on May 19, 2015 from Clement McGrathRelationships are relentless in mirroring back to us all that we need to be aware of, heal and transform. The common trap is to make the other person wrong and believe they need to change in some way for the relationship to improve. Truly transformational growth comes when we accept that they ...
Views: 3396(1 vote) - Friends with Benefits - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple. If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the sex, the friendship will ...
Views: 2923(1 vote) - Gift Ideas to Celebrate Valentine's with Little Cash in Hand - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Rachel WestonIn this world of digital technology where human touch is depleting faster than ever, the special days of love like Valentine ’s Day hold a lot of prominence and place. The value attached to human emotions is beyond a price. Your bank balance does not owe happiness and quality of your life. Those ...
Views: 1018(1 vote) - Give Me Intimacy - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Jesse BirkeyGive Me Intimacy Our marriages today are crying out for intimacy. Why? Because so many of us are intimacy starved. This is a huge problem because we all have a driving desire to be intimate with someone. This is ironic because while we all say we want to be intimate with our spouses; few ...
Views: 1935(1 vote) - Give the Gift of Therapeutic Massage - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Allura JoyOne of the best gifts you could give to partner is the exhillarating experience of a full-body massage. In addition to immense therapeutic value, a professional massage is your one-way ticket to Pleasureville. Massage uses touch through rubbing or kneading of parts of the body to aid ...
Views: 2139(1 vote) - Gratitude Brings to Light Abundance and Joy - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Jan DeniseGratitude Brings to Light Abundance and Joy By Jan Denise On that first Thanksgiving Day in 1621, the colonists invited the Indians to join them in giving thanks for the harvest. Being thankful meant having enough to share. It still does. A grateful man will share — and be glad he’s ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - Great Places To Have Sex With Your Woman Besides The Bedroom: Locations Where You Have To Have Sex - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2018 from Sylvester DanialGreat Places To Have Sex With Your Woman Besides The Bedroom: Locations Where You Have To Have Sex Many couples get stuck in a rut and end up having the same kind of sex, in the same place, over and over again. And that get's boring quite quickly. So if you want to re-ignite the spark in ...
Views: 1324(1 vote) - Have you received good enough love? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneHave you had good enough love in your life? So much depends upon your earliest years be4efore your conscious memory has developed. What you experienced way back when can determine how you give and receive love - for the rest of your life - unless you make a concerted conscious effort to study ...
Views: 2177(2 votes) - Healthy Emotional Boundaries: Your Value Systems In Action - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2012 from Veronica Burgess“Setting limits is a way of defining who you are and what you’re all about, what you will do and what you won’t; what’s acceptable to you and what’s not”. —Laura Stack— Many people have seen and understand a no trespassing sign posted on private property. And if you were to cross the line, ...
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