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- 5 Tips for Coping with the Death of a Loved One - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2017 from Dixie SomersThe death of a loved one can be a devastating event. Many people find that the loss undermines their ability to work, engage with others and participate in normal activities. The feelings that arise may be profoundly upsetting. That is why the process of grieving is so important. Grieving helps ...
Views: 2189 - “I Found It Hard To Breathe!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I think back to what happened in 2001, I remember that there was a time when I was working out and I ended up finding it hard to breathe. At the time, I just thought that I had a cold coming on. However, after I went to see the doctor, I came to see that it wasn’t a cold. After I had a ...
Views: 1605 - “I Wasn't Just Grieving The Loss of My Father!” - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I had got to the point where I could contain my emotions, the healer that I was working with said it would be a good idea for me to see if I could cry when I’m by myself. The reason for this was that I hadn’t been able to cry during the sessions that we had had. As even though ...
Views: 1434 - 4 Ways to Move Forward After a Family Death - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Eileen O'ShanassyDealing with the death of a loved one is one of the hardest things that most people will ever endure. Someone that you love has moved on and you have to deal with the fact that they are gone and the things that come with their loss. Funeral arrangements, estate settlements, and helping other ...
Views: 2421 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want my husband and best friend back - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I married more than five years ago, in our early 30s. We had a good marriage. We agreed that if we would sit down and talk things out should we have issues. We always held true to that until his mom died several months ago. He was very close to ...
Views: 1633 - “I Wanted To Help My Father!” - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2009, I had been working with someone for a little while, and this made me think about what it would be like to work with someone else. This was a time when I was doing a lot work around negative beliefs and past life trauma. What also played a part here was that the ...
Views: 1510 - “I Was Carrying A Lot Of Grief!” - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2014, I felt a lot better than I did in the beginning of 2013, and what also played a part here is that I had recently been away. I had gone to Mexico for my sister’s wedding in June that year. Going away gave me a lift and, when I came back, I wondered why I didn’t go ...
Views: 1370 - “I Was Completely Ignored!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA little while before I headed to Bournemouth for New Years Eve, in 2012, I had been texting a woman I had met online. At this point, I didn’t know a great deal about her, but I was keen to meet her. I think it was just after New Year’s Day that we arranged a time to meet and, when I met ...
Views: 1383 - “I Knew That Everything Would Be OK!" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter my father had been moved to a closer hospital, towards the end of 2011, we were pleased that it would be a lot easier to visit him. Even so, this was a time when he was on a life support machine, so it wasn’t as if we could have a conversation with him. There were times when I would ...
Views: 1580 - “You Seem Super Strong!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2011, my father had to go into hospital in order to have an operation. I drove him there and expected to be bringing him home in the not too distant future. At the time, I thought that this was just a routine operation and that he would soon be out of hospital. What also ...
Views: 1330 - An Open Letter to My Daughter Gracelyn in the Era of Donald Trump - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Bruce MulkeyDear Gracelyn, Today I write this letter to you so that you might better understand the tumultuous transformation that’s currently underway in our nation. For while your mother Shonnie and I are doing our best during your childhood to shelter you from adult concerns, I’m guessing that you ...
Views: 1406(1 vote) - Balance Your Emotions with these Easy to Follow Steps - by Submitted on May 31, 2017 from Julie DohertyLife can be so Emotionally disturbing on so many levels at times Creating feelings of frustration, anger, anxiety, panic and what may feel like pure helplessness. One of the most common things I am asked to teach people is in Learning - How to Cope with these Emotional Disturbances and ...
Views: 1873 - EMOTIONAL /SPIRITUAL RECOVERY FROM TRAUMATIC EVENTS - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLife can change in a heartbeat. A few weeks ago, a family was stopped at a red light and rear-ended by a drunk driver. Their 10-year old son, Matthew, suffered a severe head trauma and is in a medically induced coma. The prognosis is not good and the family struggles to make sense of what was an ...
Views: 1798 - The Peaceful Void of Dementia - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2017 from Lisa BoussonWhether it’s bipolar, depression, dementia or any other horrible mental disease, I don’t believe (at least in my findings) that many families can miss the boat. Do you remember that new baby doll smell? I smelled it this morning when I was in the shower (A really good time for spirit ...
Views: 1593 - Grief, Loss and Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2017 from Lynn Mary KarjalaWhen someone we love dies, a feeling of deep, painful grief is a natural and common response. Actually, grief can be triggered by the loss of anything we value, anything in which we have invested time, energy, a part of ourselves--a job, a work of art, a beloved pet. People who are divorcing are ...
Views: 1299 - Dealing with Personal Tragedy - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2017 from Michael MalkushYou have heard it before. Life is short, enjoy each day. Live every day like it is your last. Everything in life can change quickly. In a brief moment your life can be turned upside down. None of us know when we will die or when someone close to us will. This is my story about the ...
Views: 1728 - Who Controls Your Joy? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2016 from Alexis Marie ChuteThe song lyrics in “Joy to the World” and “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” say it all. Christmas is meant to be a season of cheer and happiness. Funnily enough, though, we women sometimes look for this feeling of joy in all the wrong places. Who else has a mental checklist that ...
Views: 1355 - Loss: Is It Possible To Get Over A Loss? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s fast-paced world, there is often the need for instant gratification, and when something doesn’t happen straight away, it can lead to all kinds of problems. This can be a time when someone will experience a strong emotional reaction, and the sooner they get what they want the sooner ...
Views: 1540 - The Implications of NDE Messages to People of Different Vocations in Life - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Gopalakrishnan ChandrasekaranContrary to some skeptics’ assessment, the near death experiences carry profound spiritual messages to humanity that can transform the individual and the collective. In this article, we see their implications to people who have different dispositions in life. General Smitten by a ...
Views: 1932 - Facing Suicide Loss at the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Nancy MarshallFacing Suicide Loss at the Holidays Serious loss of any type is always re-triggered during the holidays. The holidays themselves are a kind of tribal celebration, thought to have originated in the hope that a celebration would help with the darker, shorter days. We are more confident and ...
Views: 1173 - Loss: Why Would Someone Idealise Another Person When They Pass On? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old someone is, there is a strong chance that they have experienced loss at one point or another. In fact, this could be something they have experienced on a number of occasions. What this shows is that it is not necessary for one to reach a certain age before they lose someone ...
Views: 1531 - Embrace the Gift of Life - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2016 from Mike RobbinsOn January 7th, 2016, my big sister, Lori Dempsey Robbins, passed away after an almost four year journey with ovarian cancer. Lori was 45 and the single mom of our 11 year old niece. She was my first friend and one of my greatest teachers. Being with her through her illness and her death ...
Views: 1685 - SUMMERTIME SADNESS and JOY - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2016 from joan pancoeTo view in your browser: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=107 “The pain later is part of the happiness now.” From the movie Shadowlands Dear ONE, There’s no better time than a lazy summer’s day to meditate on the Buddhist “Eight Worldly Concerns” of which ...
Views: 1434(1 vote) - Grief Neutralizes Thought - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Sheryl PaulWe are addicted to our stories. The thoughts come in and take us away on their magic carpet promise of arriving in a land of certainty, where the vulnerability and pain of life can't touch us. We learn early to climb aboard this carpet because, as young people, we usually don't know how to ...
Views: 1565 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
Views: 1604 - Pet Loss: Is It Normal To Experience Loss When A Pet Dies? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to lose a family member or a close friend, it can be seen as something that will have a bigger impact on them than if they were to lose a pet. Based on this, if they were to experience life differently it could be said that something isn’t right. Loss Thus, if one was to ...
Views: 1458 - How To Comfort Sad People - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Nelu MbinguIt could have been your friend, your sister or your child. But somehow, over the course of your life, you have probably had someone come to you for comfort and consolation. They could have chosen you to allay their worries and sorrows after a long sad day. If we are all being honest, I'm sure we ...
Views: 1273(1 vote) - Guilt: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Feel Guilty? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be moments where one’s emotional experience reflects reality, there can also be moments when it doesn’t. In this case, it could be said that there is no reason for one to feel the way that they do. However, even though there will be moments where it isn’t necessary for one ...
Views: 1691 - The Will To Live: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Having The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had their eye on a new car and they were to take it for a drive, they are likely to find out that it drives well. Along with how it drives, it is also likely to be a comfortable experience. So if they are currently driving a car that is on its way out, this experience is going to be ...
Views: 1591 - EFT For When Your Dog Is Diagnosed With A Terminal Illness - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2016 from Suzanne ZachariaIf this is for you, let me say that my heart goes out to you, as I know from experience what it feels like when you are faced with this situation. There are decisions to be made, in order to keep your beloved fur-baby comfortable and as free from suffering as possible. It is heart-wrenching, no ...
Views: 2120 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Grieve? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences loss, their whole experience of life can change, and when this happens, it is not going to be possible for them to carry on as normal. The thoughts in their mind and the emotions in their body can be different, and the meaning of their life could also have altered. ...
Views: 1644 - Loss: Should Someone Let Go Of Another Person's Possessions After They Have Passed On? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one losses someone, they may feel the need to let go of their possessions soon after. Or if they don’t feel this way, the people around them may encourage them to have clear out, so to speak. It could be said that the reason this would be seen as a good idea is that when something is ...
Views: 1702 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Get Stuck In The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences loss, it might be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life; however, there is also the chance that they won’t be able to do this. In this case, it is could be quiet some time before they are able to do what they used to do before. What this comes down to ...
Views: 1608 - Roseburg, Then and Now - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Sherry JoinerI grew up in the small city of Roseburg. Officially, I moved to Roseburg to its rolling green hills, from Salt Lake City, where I used to float in the Great Salt Lake when I was 10. In my 4th grade, I, and other students, participated in Roseburg’s Centennial where we dressed up like Sacajawea, ...
Views: 1272 - Grieving: Why Do Some People Try To Stop Others From Grieving? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of things that separate human beings, they are also plenty of things that bring them together. For instance, no matter what someone’s gender is or where they are from on this planet, they are still part of the human race. There are of course many other ways in which ...
Views: 1723 - Grief, Healing, and Wholeness - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2015 from Janet PfeifferElizabeth Kubler-Ross defined the five stages of grief in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying. Grief is a deeply personal process and each individual experiences it on their own terms. Some may endure all five stages, others only a portion; some progress in a seemingly reasonable period of time, ...
Views: 1795 - Loss: Is Time A Great Healer? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times when one can experience a loss and it won’t have much of an effect on them, and then there are times when this won’t be the case. And what can define how much of an impact a loss has on them can all depend on their level of emotional attachment. For example, if one had a ...
Views: 1620 - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
Views: 1438(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear ...
Views: 1344(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Grief: From Surviving to Thriving - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance has had many clients who are grieving, and wrote this to help. None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional "til death do us part." Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear ...
Views: 1366(1 vote) - After Death Communication: Do Some People Try To Contact Their Loved Ones To Avoid Facing Their Grief? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people lose a loved one, they may think that that’s the end of it and that it’s not possible for them to talk to them again. In this case, they will have to rely on their memories and the memories other people have. There are then going to be others to believe this is not the case, ...
Views: 1747 - Suicidal: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain things that people talk openly about in today’s world that wouldn’t have been spoken about openly in the past and what is being spoken about can define whether progress is being made. However, there are many things that people talk about that show how far humanity has come. ...
Views: 1428 - Breathing Problems: Can Trapped Grief Cause Breathing Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that our greatest wealth is health, and it doesn’t take much thought to realise why this is. When someone has good health, it will be lot easier for them to live a fulfilling life. If they are not in good health, it is going to be a lot harder for them to enjoy their time on ...
Views: 1828 - Music During Grief and Loss - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2015 from Dr. Sonara Carter-BarberMusic During Grief and Loss Music touches your soul like nothing else. Music during times of sorrow can be especially helpful. Songs can speak to our emotions and give voice to how we feel. The late BB King said, “Even in your darkest moments, music is a rope to grab onto, something to pull ...
Views: 1589(1 vote) - Loss and Grief - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2015 from Debra BartzMost recently, another family member passed away and this time so unexpectedly. Our loss impacted our family in different ways. My spouse found the lifeless body of our beloved seven year old German Shepard while I was away on a flying trip. What happened next for us was such an emotional burden ...
Views: 1010 - Grief: Is Grief A Mental Illness? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, more and more normal human experiences are being given labels, and what was part of life at one point in time, ends up being seen as a mental illness at another. For example: if one was experiencing anxiety in the past, they might believe that it is just part of life. It is ...
Views: 1796 - Common Myths About Grieving--And How to Overcome These - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2015 from Hannah WhittenlyGrief is a terribly unfortunate feeling, but it's one that virtually all people encounter at some point in their lives. Along with the grief come some common platitudes meant to comfort the bereaved. Falling victim to common myths about grief often actually prevents people from fully healing and ...
Views: 908 - Anger: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to express every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are stuck on one end of the spectrum. When this happens, it is not going to be possible for someone to be a whole human being. This may mean that one is always ‘positive’, and that they ...
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