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- How to Get Over Someone Fast - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonThe love of your life has just walked out on you and you are emotionally shattered. You feel completely alone, heartbroken and desolate. And now you are wondering how to get over someone fast and get over the breakup? Here are certain points to consider getting over the hurt and pain that ...
Views: 1583(1 vote) - How to Get Over Someone You See Everyday - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonThe pain that you feel when you see your ex-love after they have moved on is something that is hard to put into words. Yet, many of us go through these emotions and though we think it is the end of the world, there comes a time when we realize that we just have to let go and move on. Most ...
Views: 1184(1 vote) - HOW TO HANDLE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2018 from Darlene LancerWe’re all capable of abuse when we’re frustrated or hurt. We may be guilty of criticizing, judging, withholding, and controlling, but some abusers, including narcissists, take abuse to a different level. Narcissistic Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, sexual, financial, and/or spiritual. ...
Views: 1667(2 votes) - How to heal from an abusive relationship. - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Heather WattersHealing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to do. Many people never truly heal, and thus stay a victim for the rest of their life. Learn how you can start the healing process to become a better you! Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to ...
Views: 1715(1 vote) - How to Identify and Combat Gaslighting - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2024 from Darlene LancerIdentifying gaslighting behavior and knowing how to combat gaslighting are essential to maintaining your self-esteem, and mental and emotional health.Gaslighting is a form of narcissistic abuse that's used not only by narcissists, but also by sociopaths, addicts, and other abusers. Sometimes ...
Views: 281(1 vote) - HOW TO IDENTIFY AND DEAL WITH TOXIC PARENTS - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2018 from Darlene LancerToxic relationships include relationships with toxic parents. Typically, they do not treat their children with respect as individuals. They won’t compromise, take responsibility for their behavior, or apologize. Often these parents have a mental disorder or have a serious addiction. We all live ...
Views: 1650(2 votes) - How to Identify the Toxic Relationships in Your Life - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Zandra SteinbergHow do you identify a toxic relationship? Here is a list of ways to tell if something might possibly be wrong in your personal relationship with your significant other. Just answer these questions truthfully. • Does your significant other verbally abuse you? • Does your significant other say ...
Views: 2664(1 vote) - How to Leave a Narcissist or Abuser - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2019 from Darlene LancerWhen we fall in love, it’s natural to become attached and form a romantic bond. But once in love with a narcissist, it’s not easy to leave, despite the abuse. Although you're unhappy, you may be ambivalent about leaving because you still love your partner, have young children, lack resources, ...
Views: 1184(2 votes) - How To Reconnect With Husband During Separation: How To Communicate With Husband During Separation - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2021 from Carmen JimenaHow To Reconnect With Husband During Separation: How To Communicate With Husband During Separation Marriage is a lifetime process that takes work. So if you want to learn how to save your marriage after separation, you should know that thousands of couples experience the same problem. That ...
Views: 3367(1 vote) - How to start to heal from an abusive relationship. - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Heather WattersHealing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to do. Many people never truly heal, and thus stay a victim for the rest of their life. Learn how you can start the healing process to become a better you! Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to ...
Views: 1441(1 vote) - I Hurt My Husband Feelings: With This Secret You Can Win Back His Love - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Jennifer SageI Hurt My Husband Feelings: With This Secret You Can Win Back His Love If you are a woman frustrated that the love is gone from your marriage then it makes sense for you to wonder "will my husband ever love me again", you are certainly not the first to ask that. Perhaps your marriage has ...
Views: 1979(1 vote) - I Saw Red: How to Stop Rage in its Tracks - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Marcie HambrickMany people have had the experience of anger that goes out of control. What mechanisms are at work when anger turns to blinding rage? Researchers have termed this kind of response as reactive aggression and discovered that when one is engulfed in a rage reaction, the thinking part of the brain ...
Views: 2798(1 vote) - I Still Find My Ex Attractive: Still Attracted To My Ex - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Lyra NoaI Still Find My Ex Attractive: Still Attracted To My Ex If you find yourself saying, "I'm still in love with my ex" and yet you have this feeling that you ex does not feel the same way, then that surely is a difficult situation. To begin with, you can't really be sure that your ex is no ...
Views: 815(1 vote) - I Still Love My Ex Girlfriend But She's Moved On - Advice For Men Who Want Her Back - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2016 from Michael UadialeIf you and the woman you love aren't together anymore you are either feeling one of two things. You may be feeling as though the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders because the relationship was incredibly difficult and tense. On the other hand you may be saying to yourself I ...
Views: 10345(1 vote) - In America You Are Allowed To Say NO! - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything." In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening ...
Views: 1330(1 vote) - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 2002(1 vote) - Is My Relationship Toxic? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2023 from Darlene LancerIt's a question I hear over and over from people ... "Is my relationship toxic?" Healthy relationships nourish and support us. Like poison, a toxic relationship is one that is damaging to us. Instead of uplifting us, it makes us feel worse. When it ends, we might experience trauma, ...
Views: 420(1 vote) - Is Your Child A Bully? Aggressive Behavior To Watch For In Kids (EXPERT) - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2015 from Judy WrightIs Your Child a Bully? Aggressive Behavior to Watch For in Kids. Does your child manipulate others for favors, and never make an effort to reciprocate? Do they have a lack of concern for the feelings and well being of others? Do they fight, steal, vandalize or set fires? What do you do ...
Views: 1302(1 vote) - Is Your Partner Passive-aggressive? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2017 from Darlene LancerPassive-aggressive people act passive, but are covertly aggressive. They’re basically obstructionist, and try to block whatever it is you want. Their unconscious anger gets transferred onto you, and you become frustrated and furious. Your fury is theirs, while they may calmly ask, “Why are you ...
Views: 1690(3 votes) - Living With an Addict – Alcoholic - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerAlcohol Living with an addict can be a living hell. Unpredictable and dangerous, yet sometimes exciting and romantic. Never knowing when we’ll be blamed or accused. Not being able to dependably plan social events. As the addict becomes more irresponsible, we pick up the slack and do more, often ...
Views: 1834(1 vote) - Lone Worker Personal Safety Devices - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2018 from G WILLIAMSAccording to the lone worker estate mapping report in the UK, one of the key challenges highlighted in the NHS report is the low usage of lone worker safety devices. The challenge of course is to increase funding to further improve lone worker solutions for new and existing staff. The report ...
Views: 910(1 vote) - Love Is Not a Power Game - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Joanna WarwickI recently heard said that in relationships that all arguments, tensions and breakdowns are based on one thing’ Do I Matter to You?’ The western world seems fuelled by one up man ship; who has what, owns what, whose thinner,sexier, richer, more successful, more intelligent or more popular. ...
Views: 1156(1 vote) - LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from margareth garnier simonLove your neighbor as yourself Easier said than done! What exactly does it mean? Well, it seems simple. Basically, “yourself” comes first! So, you are expected to first love yourself and then love your neighbor. Does it mean that you cannot love another if you don’t love yourself? ...
Views: 1457(1 vote) - Movies Can Make Domestic Violence Look Glamorous To Teens - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Instant Advice Network ianchat.comPopular films, particularly films that are geared at teenagers can have a major impact on emerging value systems and a teen's sense of what's proper and what's not. Unfortunately, movies like Twilight promote abusive relationships and even make them look glamorous. This is not only confusing to ...
Views: 3492(1 vote) - My Ex Boyfriend Is Still Sexually Attracted To Me: Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Flirting With Me Again - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Lyra NoaMy Ex Boyfriend Is Still Sexually Attracted To Me: Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Flirting With Me Again You hooked up. You fell in love. You dated for a while, but things started falling apart. One fight led to another and you broke up. Some time has passed and now you're finding that your ex ...
Views: 2527(1 vote) - Myths about Narcissism - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2023 from Darlene LancerResearch on narcissistic personality disorder has substantially increased in the last 20 years, and the public discourse on narcissism has exploded, but it is often inaccurate. Many social media spokespersons (both narcissists and their victims) generalize their personal experiences to all ...
Views: 354(1 vote) - Narcissism and the Stepford Wife - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Lady SarcasmaWhen most people hear the word “abuse,” they think of bruises left from an angry person’s violent rage. Very few, though, understand the mental and emotional scars resulting from emotional abuse, and even fewer understand those which are caused by the lesser-known Narcissistic ...
Views: 6542(1 vote) - Narcissist in Your Life? Get The Support You Need.... - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachIf you have been dealing with an individual who has severe Narcissistic or Sociopathic Traits, your experience has probably left you reeling and searching for answers! I may be able to help you through your challenges. I am a sought after Relationship Coach and author that specializes ...
Views: 1320(1 vote) - Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the DSM V - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Sam VakninThe DSM V re-defines personality disorders thus: at "The essential features of a personality disorder are impairments in personality (self and interpersonal) functioning and the presence of pathological personality traits." According to the June 2011 text of the DSM V, the following ...
Views: 7345(1 vote) - Narcissistic Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2016 from Darlene LancerSince writing Codependency for Dummies, countless people contact me about their unhappiness and difficulties in dealing with a difficult loved one, frequently a narcissistic partner or parent who is uncooperative, selfish, cold, and often abusive. Partners of narcissists feel torn between their ...
Views: 1847(2 votes) - Narcissists and Hotel Maids: The Strauss-Kahn Affair and Beyond - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2011 from Sam VakninDominique Staruss-Kahn, the scandal-ridden former head of the International Monetary Fund (IMF) is entitled to the presumption of innocence until proven guilty. But, if he did try to rape the hotel maid in New-York in May 2011, his behavior would conform to the type of misconduct common among ...
Views: 1198(1 vote) - NARCISSISTS ARE CODEPENDENT, TOO - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2017 from Darlene LancerWriters often distinguish narcissists (someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and codependents as opposites, but surprisingly, though their outward behavior may differ, they share many psychological traits. In fact, narcissists exhibit core codependent symptoms of shame, denial, ...
Views: 1222(3 votes) - Narcissists' Dirty Little Secret - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2022 from Darlene LancerYou won’t guess abusers’ dirty little secret – the one thing narcissists and abusers don’t want you to know. In fact, they find it so shameful that most of them won’t admit it even to themselves. They hide it behind their abuse and bluster, their braggadocio, and their arrogance. People are ...
Views: 622(2 votes) - On Changing - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Michael ClearmanThose darn treetops are at it again! Anyone who has taken the time to read a recent piece entitled “On Treetops” knows what I am alluding to. At a point along my daily jogging path, regally stand a dozen or so trees as silent witnesses to my labor. But are they really silent? You will ...
Views: 1903(2 votes) - Personal Attack Alarms - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2018 from G WILLIAMSWalk Easy Alarm Deterrents Carrying a personal alarm is a convenient way to immediately improve your personal safety and you’ll feel a whole lot safer too. Although these alarms are loud, typically an ear piercing 130dB+ high pitched sound that will attract the attention of nearby public or ...
Views: 1256(1 vote) - Preparing for Divorce in the Face of Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownThe History For years women and children have been considered to be property of men. There were laws enabling men to punish their wives physically. By the 1920’s all states had made “wife beating” illegal, however it has only been since the 1970’s the courts have treated it as a serious crime ...
Views: 1380(1 vote) - Putting Others First or showcasing our “Good” deeds? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Article Renee L Richardson Putting Others First or showcasing our “Good” deeds? As I sit and reflect on my experiences with sexual relations, I have found that I have performed such more so for my partner than for myself. For instance, I enjoy the concept of having sex but the actual ...
Views: 2747(1 vote) - Relationship Killers: Anger and Resentment - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2017 from Darlene LancerAnger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re ...
Views: 1552(2 votes) - Relationship Violence: You Don't Know Because She Hasn't Told You - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Anna MossAbusive relationships are largely invisible to the public, most of whom are illiterate about this realm of life. Acts of abuse mostly take place behind closed doors and can go on for some time before there is visual evidence. For example, you can’t tell by looking that: • A woman was ...
Views: 1933(2 votes) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Warn Others If They Have Been With Someone Who Is Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with. The Reason If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ...
Views: 1329(1 vote) - Relationships: Should Someone Look At Their Childhood If They End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance. Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ...
Views: 1356(1 vote) - Romantic Jealousy - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Sam VakninPathological envy is not the same as romantic jealousy. These two emotions have little to do with each other. Romantic jealousy is the product of a violation of trust; a breach of romantic exclusivity of intimacy; and a denial of possession. It also involves damage to the self-esteem and ...
Views: 1869(1 vote) - Say NO To People Who Want To Sabotage Your Success! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our ...
Views: 1040(1 vote) - Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownSo many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported ...
Views: 1444(1 vote) - Should a Relationship End Even If You Still Love Each Other? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Joyce SorianoThere will always be a pain in 'goodbyes'. No matter how much we seem to understand everything, it breaks our hearts to ever see anything beautiful die. It seems we weren't really made for sad endings, or any kind of parting. And yet it is only by allowing some things to end could we ever ...
Views: 2170(1 vote) - Signs of lack of empathy and what you can do - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2024 from Darlene LancerA lack of empathy is not sufficient for a diagnosis of narcissism but it underlies several narcissistic traits, such as arrogance, entitlement, and being exploitative. On the other hand, a lack of empathy can be associated with borderline personality disorder, autism, bipolar disorder, and ...
Views: 306(2 votes) - SOCIOPATH OR NARCISSIST? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2016 from Darlene LancerIf you’re in an abusive relationship, you may wonder if your partner is a narcissist or sociopath and whether or not the relationship will improve. If so, or if you recently ended such a relationship, it can undermine your self-esteem and ability to trust yourself and others. The labels ...
Views: 1680(1 vote) - Somatization: The Secrets Our Bodies Hold - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossOur bodies cry out in two ways - either through emotion or illness. When we understand our body's pain we articulate it. When we can't understand it, we are overwhelmed by emotional and/or physical sensations. And we feel powerless. While we need to understand what is happening to us, we may ...
Views: 1952(1 vote) - Sons of Narcissistic Fathers - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2016 from Darlene LancerSons of narcissistic fathers are driven by lack of confidence. Raised by a self-centered, competitive, arrogant father, they feel like they can never measure up or be enough to garner their father’s approval. Their father may be absent or critical and controlling. He may belittle and shame his ...
Views: 1845(1 vote) - STEPS TO BE EMPOWERED AND NOT A VICTIM - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2016 from Darlene LancerIn recovery circles, being a “victim” is frowned upon. Decades ago, when I heard people say they were no longer a victim, I had no idea what they meant. Actually, a victim is an individual who has been fooled, hurt, or harmed, due to his or her own emotions or ignorance, an unfortunate event, or ...
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