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Maybe you knew it was coming. Maybe you didn’t. You’ve been dumped.
So, other than moping around in your pajamas, spending quality time with Ben & Jerry, what can you do? Well, clear away that mountain of soggy tissues, and I’ll tell you how to get through the worst of it, the first 30 ... Views: 1849
AskPhilippa — April 2, 2000 — Dating A Man's Man
Dear Philippa:
What is it with guys who prefer to spend more time with their friends than their girlfriends? They're all attentive at first, then after you've been together a while you feel like you have to beg them to go out with you. I had it ... Views: 789
When we coach guys (and in our upcoming tape program), we concentrate on three things: First, throughput--that is, getting a lot of women through your system, in front of you, and somewhere on your personal seduction spectrum. Second, we focus on technology--that is, knowing what to say and what ... Views: 1187
Let's go over some of the basics of getting women on-line. First, sending out 23 emails and getting no response shouldn't be a big deal to you. On-line, no response is the norm, so you have to be able to move quickly through large numbers of women. The secret is quickly, quickly, quickly--using ... Views: 832
In relationship, Anger can be either healthy or unhealthy. Anger is just an emotion. How you process it is what determines whether it becomes a tool for growth or a source of pain and destruction.
In this society anger is perceived as a negative emotion. If you are a person who expresses ... Views: 711
Joy, bliss, happiness--a life with no conflict and no major issues to work through?
Ward and June or Ozzy and Harriet with passion?
In our opinion, that just isn't the way it works.
In our relationship, we are best friends--we have passion--we have joy--we are totally comfortable with each ... Views: 896
Everyone gets angry. Some people show it openly and others don’t. If you are one of those people who claim you don’t get angry- you’re either not in touch with your emotions or you are lying. In relationship, Anger can be either healthy or unhealthy. Anger is just an emotion. How you process it ... Views: 639
Querrant: "It's near Valentine's and I'm not in a relationship!" or possibly worse, "My relationship is on the rocks!" In either case, "Oh, Tarot Master, what is the instant fix?"
Tarot Reader: "Hmmm, I seem to have misplaced my magic wand. I don't suppose you would accept some guidance on ... Views: 678
How can we improve communication and understanding in our romantic relationships ? John Gray says in his book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" that men and women have very different forms of problem
solving, thinking and listening. Are we from different planets. If so, can this gap be ... Views: 864
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So you want to be confident in talking to people -- dates, people you want to meet, anyone.
If I were a $150 per hour consultant (which I am) I might make a lot of money helping you do that.
But, since the answer is just one word -- only 7 little letters, ... Views: 5632
I would like to focus this week on some vocabulary habits that can turn single women off and hurt your chances for getting women attracted to you for love and romance.
Some women will judge you by how you talk to them and what you say. Unfortunately some men have a very small vocabulary and ... Views: 1222
There is a big difference when it comes to men and women and their dating styles. In general, men are more willing than women to put themselves on the line to make the first move. Conversely, women are willing to risk never seeing someone again by not making a move.
Men are generally more open ... Views: 990
I keep reading that if a man is interested he will ask you out (which I think is true to a point). When a guy asks you out that definitely shows interest, but it is hard for me to believe that every single guy has the guts to ask out all the girls he has been interested in.
My question is: ... Views: 16917
Oh, the pressure! Men and women are trying to find “The One.” When looking for a potential mate, the urge to get in there and make it work is a driving force. People are so busy looking for someone who is relationship material and finding Mr. or Ms. Right that they forget to have ... ... Views: 1434
These collages are not about art. They are not meant to be framed for a gallery. They are about me - my likes, my fears, my regrets, and my dreams. I spent my life focusing on others ?trying to please them. I was interested in their opinions, likes, dislikes and desires. I never spent any time ... Views: 934
Hello to all of you, I've spent several years trying to attract girls in all the possible ways, only the last year I discovered pheromones.
Pheromones are a scent that you put on your clothes, and they broadcast an unconscious signal, like the animals do (you know, in springs they became a ... Views: 962
1. Who you think you are is important. Like attracts like. Do you like who you are?
2. What you want in a relationship is important, and when you are willing to ask for it, you will be able to create it. But only ask for what you want when you are clear about what it is. Until then, don't go ... Views: 25507
I have been utterly useless with women in the past. Having spent many years of my youthful life failing with women, I decided to make a change. Now after years of learning, trial and error, reading books, and development I have become successful in becoming attractive with women and dating. ... Views: 749
Hello Doc!
I've been dating a guy for awhile now. I haven't had many relationships, so I'm getting used to moving out of the honeymoon stage.
My problem is, I know it's normal to get used to people and kind of let your faults come through as you get more comfortable with the person. I’m ... Views: 8864
I walked into the classroom with my daughter in one hand and a bag full of hotdog buns and condiments in the other. There were a few students already showing up for the meeting, and they greeted me and the food heartily. As I plopped down my daughter and began arranging the food buffet style, ... Views: 698
I believe the world of business is in a state of transformation. Radical transformation. In my opinion, traditional business practices have operated from a place of fear and a model of competition. Strategies of war are taught to MBA students. Marketing courses focus on identifying target ... Views: 824
There are many times when you are so concentrated on finding ways to learn about your mate and please them that you have completely forgotten about learning how to love yourself. The first focus you should have is yourself. In getting to know and love yourself, you will then determine whether or ... Views: 729
Many people go through life searching for a soul mate. Love is the essence of living. We realize how important love is because we often write about it, talk about it, read about it, hear it in songs, see it in movies, and experience it every single day in our lives.
Life is a process of ... Views: 778
Doc:
I met my girlfriend online and we've been together for about 3 months (we’re both in our 30’s.) When we first started going out, I was dating another girl from online too. I was not attracted to this other girl romantically but thought she could be a friend. The problem is I lied to my ... Views: 721
One of the most meaningful things you can say to someone is to offer a compliment. A compliment about their appearance, something they've done, or created can make a person's day. What you get back is usually a smile, sometimes a conversation and an assumption made by the receiver that you are a ... Views: 5242
Okay, maybe not for all of you, but a surprisingly large number of people will fire off a “I hate my life! … Life sucks!” at the blink of an eye.
“I hate my job.”
“I hate not having a social life.”
“I hate not being able to afford a car.”
“I hate the way I look.”
“I hate these gas ... Views: 30168
Online dating has been stigmatized for a long time. In the past, dating sites were seen as arenas for the desperate and lonely. Now, though, cyberdating has broken out...become mainstream, an acceptable way for busy singles to meet others. Everybody's doing it! Some sources claim that over 40% ... Views: 1636
Hi Doc!
This girl I know casually through work invited me to a party. I am going to give her a nice perfume that costs about $100. Is that a good idea? She also said there will be lots of girls there. How do I start a conversation with a girl in a party and get her phone number? This is a big ... Views: 767
Online dating has hit the mainstream. People of all ages and stages are taking advantage of interpersonal tests and technology to find a match that is just right.
But is online dating safe? Here's what you need to know before venturing into the online dating world.
Keep it Online For Awhile ... Views: 688
The feeling of falling in love is of the most exciting, thrilling and life changing events. Falling in love can change your entire outlook on life. Falling in love can occupy your mind and seem to take away all of life's problems. However, falling in love can bring about a serious problem of ... Views: 1695
Of course, being positive, is universal advice but when you're dating and looking for his long-term commitment, it's really important that you develop the habit of being a positive person. One of men's greatest fears is that the woman they fall in love with will turn into someone who is ... Views: 4802
It’s ironic that sometimes we go out on a date and meet someone we are strongly attracted to but within minutes of the initial meeting things get so bad that the date ends in total disaster.
The sad truth is that it's easy to walk away and dismiss good men and women just because of very minor ... Views: 923
Hi Doc!
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years. I am planning to marry her in 5 years. She fulfills every criterion as my soul mate except one point: sometimes when she is under pressure even the slightest thing can set her off. She goes to the extreme saying hurtful things. She ... Views: 11932
Rejection is one of the most painful experiences in relationships. As soon as a person feels their partner is rejecting them or finding fault, they quickly begin to reject their partner and reject themselves as well. In this case, their sense of self-worth is dependent on how their partner feels ... Views: 10327
Doc:
I met a young lady on a matrimonial website and we hit it off very well. She had a prior relationship 3 years ago that she ended and admits to feeling guilty about as she sorta "strung the guy along" and did not verbalize her concerns regarding their relationship that she felt wasn't ... Views: 820
Believe it ot not, alcohol abuse takes place more often among singles than among any other demographic in the general population. While single adult men are by far the largest group of people that uses and abuses alcohol, recent studies in the US and UK find alarming rises in alcohol use and ... Views: 745
You’re dating and your religious beliefs are different. How much difference does this make?
The answer is: Another person’s religious beliefs are important to you to the degree they re important to you.
This may sound like begging the question, but it’s an important thing to get .
Assuming ... Views: 2111
Hey Doc:
I'm 25, and I've been out of the dating scene as well as college for a couple of years now. I'm not a drinker, so I don't go to bars, and I'm not a dancer, so I don't go to clubs. So where can I go to meet someone who would date a guy like me? And what places are appropriate to ... Views: 773
Have you ever wondered why THAT guy always seems to get the girls? He's brash, cocky and he marches to the beat of his own drum. He's on (or over) the edge, bordering on rude and doesn't seem to give a damn about anyone but himself - what exactly do women see in a guy like that?
You consider ... Views: 53812
If you're tired of not getting the girl, you might want to take a look at how you're speaking to women and just what it is you're saying to them.
Your looks are only going to get you so far and since first impressions are everything, your conversational skills will be the determining factor in ... Views: 1461
Hi Dr. Neder,
I read some of your articles and your advice is great. I just recently hooked up with a girl that actually picked me up at club. She really liked me a lot and for the first few weeks, I played hard to get with her. She wanted to get me settled down and kind of coerced me into a ... Views: 718
If it wasn’t enough to have January being one of the coldest, if not dreariest, months of the year, they had to go and dub it the month more couples break up than any other month of the year.
Six out of ten couples will break up this month. Sounds awful, doesn’t it?
I never cared much for ... Views: 6791
One of the most common questions I get comes from guys starts off with
“I have this woman friend. We’ve been close friends for over a year now, but she has a boyfriend…”
Sound familiar?
This is something I call trying to “work it from the inside”. In effect, these guys figure that if they can ... Views: 777
Hey Doc!
I met this girl a couple of months ago and we started to hang out. At first she said she only wanted to be friends when I made a move so I just blew it off but she continued to call me all the time wanting to see me.
One night we went out, and she kept on flirting with me and getting ... Views: 866
Hi Doctor,
I am getting to know a Christian girl. We have been going out for almost two months and I told her that I like her. In the beginning she told me that she was not interested in a relationship right now but was ok with being friends and she continues to go out with me. She answers my ... Views: 765
Hey Doc:
I've had a few girlfriends in the past and have no problems with experience. I don’t think I’m God's gift to women, but I’m not particularly ugly either.
I've fallen for a neighbor girl. I'm not shy to talk to her, but she's just perfect. She's a very nice person, but thinks quite a ... Views: 4647
Hey Dennis!
I read one of your replies to a question and thought your response was excellent. Could you please could you help with this one?
I was in a relationship with my ex for just over a year, when we first started dating. I was finding it very hard to get her out on dates. She is a very ... Views: 871
Hi, Dr. Dennis
I am a 34 year old woman who is insanely attracted (you could even say devoted) to a 56 year old man who still makes me melt after almost 4 years of knowing him. We have seen photos of each other, but our only contact has been via e-mail and telephone – never in person.
I met ... Views: 727
More than 48% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals. The American Association for Single People projects that by 2010, 47.2% of adults will be unmarried. Being single does not mean being alone, not does being in a couple for the holidays insure happiness. Let’s dispel some ... Views: 3058
How do I attract a woman for a relationship?
During high school I tried to ask out 5 different girls over 5 years. I thought I was in love with each of them and told them this, but was turned down each time with a corresponding blow to my self-confidence. I finally just gave up on finding a ... Views: 919