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- Relationships: How Can Someone Know If Their Relationships Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life. On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently ...
Views: 1526 - Self Awareness: How Can Someone Develop Self Awareness? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can be relatively easy to notice how another person behaves and how this affects their life, the same cant always be said about how one behaves and how this affects their life. And a big part of this comes down to how the modern day world is; with people generally being taught to ...
Views: 1695 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Say 'You' Instead Of 'I'? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks about something they have been going through or how they currently feel, there is the chance that they will use the world ‘you’. This means that the word ‘I’ is unlikely to be used. So even though one is talking about themselves, it can come across as if they are talking ...
Views: 5584 - Communication: How Can Someone Start A Conversation? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can start a conversation, it doesn’t mean that they find it easy to keep one going. And while some people can keep a conversation going, they might find it hard to start one. There will then be others who have no trouble starting them and keeping them going. However, ...
Views: 1787 - Gender Roles: Can Gender Roles Stop People From Growing? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men were seen as being one way and women as being another way. And as time has passed, these differences are no longer as extreme as they used to be. But while some things have changed, in regards to what men and women are like, there is still work to be done. This is ...
Views: 1788 - Social Change: Does Society Use Repression To Create Change? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone’s behaves in a certain society, there is the chance that their behaviour goes against what has been defined as acceptable. At times this could lead to someone ending up in prison and at other times, it could cause them to be labelled in some way. And while ending ...
Views: 1465 - Negative People: Why Are Some People Always Negative? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear that is that life is not always a bed of roses: there are ups and downs and sometimes, there can be more downs than ups. For some people, there will be more ups than there are downs, but for others, the downs will outweigh the ups. One might then come to the conclusion that one ...
Views: 5276 - Grief: What Can Happen When Someone Has Grief Trapped In Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has certain experiences in their life, they are generally going to feel certain emotions. And as we are all emotional beings, this is normal and what is to be expected. But just because this is normal and part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is what always takes place. ...
Views: 3713 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Let Women Define Their Self Worth? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone looks towards other people to define how valuable they are, they are going to be dependent on their approval and acceptance. And the other hand, if one was to define their value and not look towards others, the need to receive the acceptance and approval of others is not going to be ...
Views: 2673 - Relationships: Where Does Someone’s Idea Of The Perfect Partner Come From? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to attracting someone for a relationship or something that involves less commitment, there is the chance that someone can have a certain type that they go for. And then for others, this is not always the case; with them having no set idea of what another needs to be like. ...
Views: 1657 - Black And White Thinking: Is It good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can think in ways that will enhance their life or at the very least not cause any harm, they can also think in a ways that will limit their quality of life. And the mind is like any other kind of tool out there; with one needing to know how to use it, in order to utilize its ...
Views: 2020(2 votes) - Focus: Does What We Focus On Grow? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that what shows up in their personal reality is the result of random factors and that one is nothing more than an observer, they might end up receiving the approval of the majority of people around them. And this is because the western world generally ...
Views: 1796 - Compassion: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Compassion? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile being compassionate can be seen as the right way to be, it is not always the easiest option. What can be easier is to go to the other extreme and to become indifferent to other people’s problems and the suffering they are going through or have gone through. And not only can one be this ...
Views: 1682 - Self Worth: Who Defines Our Self Worth? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are made of the same things and will all pass on at some point in their lives, it doesn’t mean that they all have the same level of value. And while there is inevitably going to be differences between someone who lives in a third world country and someone who lives in a ...
Views: 1489 - Irritation: Why Do Some People Irritate Us? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the amount of people on this planet, it is clear that one is not going to get along with everyone. There will be some people that one completely clicks with and therefore experiences very few instances of conflict and disharmony. And there will be others, on the other side of the ...
Views: 2285 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved. However, just because someone is in love, it ...
Views: 2050 - Communication: Is Being Present Important? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is talking to another person, it doesn’t mean that they are actually aware to what is being communicated. Physically they are there and this is visible to the other person and to anyone else that is around them and yet emotionally and mentally they could be somewhere ...
Views: 2590 - Emotional Body: How Can Someone Heal Their Emotional Body? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is clear that one has a physical body, what might not be as clear is that one also has an emotional body. So much attention has been placed on the mind or what could be called the mental body, that emotions often seen as being insignificant. And that the only time emotions do appear ...
Views: 1718 - Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt Men More Than Women? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed. Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear ...
Views: 3916 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know When A Relationship Is Over? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either. However, just because something seems ...
Views: 1672 - Anxiety: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile anxiety is just one of many emotions that one can experience throughout their life and without too many problems arising, it can also be something that ends up being completely out of control. It is then not just another emotion that one can experience; it is something that can end up ...
Views: 2639 - Boundaries: How Can People React When We Form Boundaries For The First Time? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is vital for human begins to have boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they always have them. And this could be the case with some areas of their life or it could apply to each and every area of their life. Ultimately, boundaries protect ones personal space and therefore stop others ...
Views: 1812 - Healing: Do We Heal When We Are Ready? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has experienced some kind of abuse as a child and this could be physical emotional, verbal or sexual, there is often the need to recover as fast as possible. To look for the answers and to find the solution or solutions that will make everything better. This is natural and must ...
Views: 1961 - Bullying: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Bullied? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many forms of bullying around today and some of these are more overt than others. At times, this is done in a way that is so subtle, that it can take place without anyone even noticing. And while bullying has taken place for many, many years, and is nothing new, the internet has ...
Views: 1973 - Inner Child: Does Our Inner Child Control How We Feel? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor people who are into self development, the term ‘inner child’ could be something they are familiar with. And not only could they be familiar with this term, but they might also feel comfortable with it. When it comes to people who are not into self development, the whole thing could sound ...
Views: 1846 - The Media: Why Does The Media Sexualise Everything? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what one lays their eyes upon in the media, they are going to come across something that has been sexualised. And it won’t matter if what they are looking at has a reason to be that way or not, as it often doesn’t matter. It is no longer a case of spot what has been sexualised, ...
Views: 1741 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To Our Own Projections? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly. Once these are ...
Views: 1627 - Communication: How Can Someone Make It Easier To Talk To Strangers? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to talking to someone, how we perceive them usually makes all of the difference. If another person is seen as a friend or someone that one has spoken to before, then it is going to make it easier for one to talk to them. And this is part of being human, because although times ...
Views: 1945 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Is It Important To Grieve Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one was a child, they had certain needs and wants. And for some people, these would have been met in the majority of cases. This doesn’t mean that one would have needed to have had a caregiver that was always available. As it is unlikely that this would have been possible and not only that, ...
Views: 3664 - Conditioning: How Do We Change Our Conditioning? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we would like to see ourselves as human beings who have control over how we behave, this doesn’t always reflect reality. Because although one has the ability to think before they act, they can also act without thinking. And this is not ‘bad’ per se; it can enable one to save a lot of ...
Views: 1855 - Relationships: What Can Sabotage Adult To Adult Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEven though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child. This won’t be limited to ...
Views: 1655 - The Mind: Is Our Mind Always Right? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough change is part of life and is something that can’t be stopped, our minds don’t always embrace change. At times it is going to be necessary for one to hold onto what they believe and know and at others, it will be important for them to change what they believe and to learn something ...
Views: 1907 - Relationships: Are We Defined By The Internal Representations That Other People Have Of Us? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one ends up being similar to the five people they spend most of their time with. This is something Jim Rohn expressed and while there might be slight variations to this, it could be seen as a fairly accurate judgment. So for some people, this is going to be something ...
Views: 1396 - Relationships: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Forming An Emotional Connection? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone didn't have relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part ...
Views: 1953 - Relationships: Do Your Relationships Reflect Your Childhood? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ones relationships are running smoothly and have very little, if any, conflicts, one is unlikely to look deeper into them. And this is to be expected, as the need to look deeper generally arises when something is not working. This need could still be there, but it won’t be as strong because ...
Views: 1814 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People They're Not Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have an idea in their minds about the kind of person they want to be with, it doesn’t mean that this always becomes a reality. This can relate to what another person looks like on the outside and what they are like on the inside and their personality. One could meet someone ...
Views: 1643 - Support: Why Do Some People Only Feel Supported When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach and every one of us is interdependent and this means that not only do we want to be supported by others, but that we also need to be; with it being it being vital for our own survival and our ability to thrive. The ideal is going to be for one to feel supported for who they are. There ...
Views: 1694 - Meaning: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A More Meaningful Life? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough pain is part is life and can’t be avoided, the western world and the countries influenced by it, are largely focused on eradicating pain. Pain is then something that has no purpose or reason for existing and therefore has to be removed. There are all types of pain that one can ...
Views: 1541 - Relationships: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Painful Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal might be to have relationships that are always harmonious and are free from pain, during and even when they come to an end, this is not how life works. All relationships have some kind of conflict and if they don’t, there is probably a lot of repression taking place. And what ...
Views: 1629 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Try To Rescue Men? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a relationship between a man and woman is meant to be based on giving and receiving, this is not always the case. For some women, this will be exactly how it is for them and this is going to enhance their life. And yet for others, this will be far from what they can relate to. When ...
Views: 5224 - Procrastination: Is Procrastination Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about something they have been struggling with as of late or for most of their life, procrastination is often mentioned. This could be something that is having an impact on every area of someone’s life in extreme cases or it could be something that just appears in certain ...
Views: 1648 - Child Abuse: Is Anger An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some emotions that are seen as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ and while this might be the case if they are shown in certain situations, this is not going to apply in others. Every emotion has purpose and a reason for appearing; this not to say that one should act upon every emotion that arises ...
Views: 2140 - Child Abuse: Is There Something Wrong With People Who Are Abused As Children? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be abused as a child is going to have the potential to cause all kinds of problems and these problems are unlikely to just end there. They could end up affecting this person for the rest of their adult life. And to what degree their adult life is affected will depend on many factors. ...
Views: 1890 - Abusive Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Create A Tolerance For Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences some kind of abuse in their adult relationships, there is often the chance that they will identify with one of two outlooks. They can either see that this abuse is a reflection of what took place during their childhood or they can come to the conclusion that their ...
Views: 2091 - Child Abuse: Can Validation Allow Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has experienced some kind of abuse or has had to endure some other kind of pain, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to move on from it. Because although one could be innocent and have nothing to do with what happened, as in the case of child abuse, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 2054 - Emotional Regulation: What Happens When Someone Can't Regulate Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world there are all kinds of challenges that people are having to face. And some of these are relatively easy to handle, while others can seem to be more or less impossible to solve. These can range from global, societal and personal problems. In a way, they can all affect each ...
Views: 2348 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away After Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people come together with the intention of having a relationship or just the desire to spend time together, it is generally going to lead to them having sex. And this could be something that both of them equally want to experience or something that one of them is more attached to than ...
Views: 11895 - Relationships: Is Looking Good Enough To Attract The Perfect Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people think about having a relationship, it is often their priority to find the perfect partner. And this can be someone who has qualities and features that are relatively easy to find and go on to include what could be seen by some as, impossible to find. It could be that one has ...
Views: 1480(2 votes) - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Don’t Some Men Break Away From Their Mothers? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men have been seen as being one way and women as being another way. And part of this related to men being the ones who were independent and the women as being dependent. So a man would be an example of the masculine on the outside and on the inside and a women’s outer femininity ...
Views: 4641 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one takes responsibility for how they feel, they are going to be seen as mature and self aware. And yet when one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel in the majority of cases, they are likely to be seen as lacking awareness and being undeveloped. But while an outside observer ...
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