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- Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Midlife Crisis? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in their forties or fifties, they could have a deep sense that something is missing. This can mean that certain parts of their life are no longer satisfying, or this could relate to their whole life. Along with the sense that they are living in the wrong way, they can ...
Views: 130 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Controlled By His Inner Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, a man is free to do what is right for him and live his own life. However, if he spends most of his life focused on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to realise this. In fact, he might not even realise that he is overly focused on his mother let alone that he has the ...
Views: 132 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, someone might have suffered from depression. As a result of this, they can typically have a low mode, not be able to experience pleasure or be interested in doing a great deal. Due to this, days, weeks, months and even years might have passed by but they won’t have ...
Views: 164 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone’s Parent Have Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, they may find that they have the inclination to ignore their own needs and be there for others. After this, they might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Naturally, by being this way, a number ...
Views: 146 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone’s Parent Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child. If so, throughout this stage of their life, they ...
Views: 137 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Fear Intimacy If They Had An Intrusive Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will want to experience deeper connections with others, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. So, they could find that other people are out of reach and they are unable to get close to them. As a result, they might not have any close friends and they might not have ...
Views: 149 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear That He Would Lose Himself If He Left His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, he might soon feel the need to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. However, this doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with her and start living his ...
Views: 151 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have ...
Views: 174 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trying To Be Seen And Heard By His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man generally wasn’t seen and heard by his mother during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he no longer has these needs. He can then be in a position where just about his whole life revolves around his mother and his need to be seen and heard by her. However, if behaving in this ...
Views: 150 - Child Abuse: Can An Enabling Father Do As Much Damage As An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their formative years, they may see that this stage of their life was not very nurturing. This may have been a time when their mother was often abusive. Assuming that this was the case, they wouldn’t have had a mother who was very maternal. It would ...
Views: 182 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Himself If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed. Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a ...
Views: 173 - Mother Wounds: Can A Mother’s Fear Of The Masculine Cause Her To Emasculate Her Son? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could be passive, easy-going, not stand up for himself or be assertive. Consequently, he is seldom going to take action, express his opinion, stand his ground or assert himself. Most likely, this is going to stop him from being able to live a fulfilling life. For example, he ...
Views: 161 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Comfortable Being Treated Badly By Women If His Mother Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be with a woman who doesn’t treat him very well. So, what can be normal is for him to be put down, humiliated, ignored, rejected and there may even be times when he is hit. He might have been with her for a number of months or he might have been with her for a number of ...
Views: 162 - Mother Wounds: Is A Man Wasting His Time If He Tries To Find Out Why His Mother Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that his mother didn’t treat him very well during his formative years, he can have the need to talk to her about what took place. Based on what he experienced, he might have come to the conclusion that she hated him. Or, if he might have concluded that there were ...
Views: 148 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother Have Hated Her Son? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his early years, he might see that his mother often treated him like he was nothing. So, he might have frequently been criticised, humiliated, hit, rejected, and even left by her. Now, if he were to imagine that he has a child, assuming that he ...
Views: 156 - Mother Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Was Brought Up By A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a mother who, in general, wasn’t very nurturing, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. So, when he thinks about this stage of his life, he could think about how his mother did love him but that she didn’t always show it. The view that he has of her is then ...
Views: 170 - Self-Destructive: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that just about whenever they take a step forward, they soon end up taking a step back. There can also be times when they end up taking more than one step back. Thanks to this, they could be extremely frustrated and angry about not being able to move forward in life. ...
Views: 155 - Self-Destructive: Can Someone Engage In Self-Destructive Behaviour If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find that they have the tendency to behave in ways that don’t serve them. This can take place in both big and small ways. So, they might have been in at least one relationship that was going well and then, they ended up ...
Views: 128 - Symbolic Fears: Can Someone’s Fears Be Symbolic If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are numerous phobias that someone can have, and some of these are more well-known than others. Furthermore, while some of these phobias can stop them from being able to live a full and rich life, others can typically be put to one side and not trouble them. If, then, they were ...
Views: 147 - Invisible Child: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Were An ‘Invisible Child’? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be used to being physically seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel seen. In general, they can feel as though they are not seen and even question if they exist. It could seem strange as to how they could be seen by others and at the same time, not feel seen. ...
Views: 168 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Abandon Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, she is likely to wonder what is going on. She can struggle to understand why he is behaving in this way. It could be clear to her that he is not there for himself and this is causing him to ...
Views: 178 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to reflect on how a man behaves, they could soon come to the conclusion that he doesn’t value himself. The reason for this is that he could have a job that he can’t stand and be in a relationship where he is walked over. Then again, he could have a job that he enjoys but he ...
Views: 153 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Looking For A Mother Figure? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman has been with a man for a while, what might enter her mind is that she is more like his mother than his girlfriend. Now, there can be a variety of reasons as to why she would come to this conclusion. First, she can be the one who makes most of the decisions and plans just about ...
Views: 166 - Relationships: What Can Happen If A Man Doesn’t Feel Comfortable With His Sexual Side? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has an intellectual, emotional and sexual side, it doesn’t mean that he is comfortable with all of these sides. Thus, when he is in a relationship, a big part of him could end up being overlooked. So, in the beginning, he could be sexually attracted to the woman and have ...
Views: 133 - Breakups: Can A Man Punish Himself After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has experienced a breakup, he can experience a number of different feelings. For example, he can feel angry, sad, helpless, and hopeless and be full of regret. If so, what this can show is that he was with a woman who he was very fond of and perhaps loved. Perhaps he was with her ...
Views: 125 - Impulsive Behaviour: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Impulsive? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, one thing that might end up standing out is that they have the tendency to act without thinking. As a result of this, they won’t think about the consequences that may arise if they do something; they will just take action. They ...
Views: 150 - Child Abuse: Does A Child Need To Be ‘Physically Disciplined’? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a video circulating online where two police officers visit a home, after being informed that a child is being abused. It starts with a police officer saying to a woman, “We’re here to investigate a child abuse complaint”. The woman then responds with, “I didn’t call the police”. Soon ...
Views: 156 - Withdrawal: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they behave in a way that doesn’t serve them when they experience a lot of stress. So, they can see that they have the tendency to withdraw physically. Along with this, they can lose touch with their emotional ...
Views: 147 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Want To Save His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA man could have a mother who is unwell or he might not but he could still spend a lot of time doing things for her. From the outside, it can be as though she is his daughter and it is his responsibility to take care of her. So, when he is not taking care of his basic needs or at work, for ...
Views: 186 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay Small If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will do so. Instead, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are in an invisible prison. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they are living in a very ...
Views: 142 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Idealised View Of His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he could see that he is too focused on his mother's needs and is ignoring a number of his own. He might soon find that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember. For whatever reason, he will have started to see clearly ...
Views: 170 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Wounded To Admit That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they could feel the need to talk to their parent or parents about what happened. They can hope that this will be a time when what they say is validated and empathy and remorse are expressed. Now, assuming that ...
Views: 158 - Willpower: Can A Man Have A Weak Will If He Had Controlling Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to take a step back and reflect, is that he finds it hard to stick to things. So, he can come up with a goal and start taking action and then, before long, he can put it to one side. He might see that this often takes place after he has experienced a setback. ...
Views: 167 - Child Abuse: Can It Be Easy For An Abusive Parent To Get Away With Abusing Their Child? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was attacked in a public place, they could end up paying a visit to a police station. They will have been harmed, so naturally they will want to do something about what has happened. If they were attacked in a public place, there is a chance that at least one camera recorded what ...
Views: 160 - Willpower: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Had Controlling Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when there is a will, there is a way. What this illustrates is how important willpower is when it comes to achieving something. This is then an inner source of power that will allow someone to get from where they are, to where they want to be. Along with this, it is this ...
Views: 143 - Is Our Past All Over Our Present? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, when I was walking around a city, I saw a number of street names that reflected its medieval past. This was in addition to all of the buildings from this period that were dotted around. What played a part in me noticing these names and the builders is my interest in medieval ...
Views: 170 - Invisible Child: What Can Happen If Someone Was An ‘Invisible Child’? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, a time when they needed to be seen and heard in order to grow and develop in the right way, they might have largely been ignored. This would then have been a time when their basic needs might have typically been met but their emotional needs wouldn’t have. One or ...
Views: 175 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like Their Parents Enemy? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t cherished during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, if they were able to take a step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might soon stand out is that they are not in a good way mentally and ...
Views: 169 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Look Towards Other Human Beings To Save Them? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring an election, numerous people vote for a party that they believe is going to change their lives for the better. For some of these people, what goes on at this level defines what their life is like. In other words, their life will be in the hands of whoever is in power and so, it is to ...
Views: 183 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Disconnected If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man reflects on his life, what he can find is that he often feels as though he is on the outside and doesn’t feel connected to others. This can mean that he will spend a lot of time feeling lonely. But, if he doesn’t feel this way, it can typically be because he has distracted himself. ...
Views: 158 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Have An Idealised False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to talk to their abusive parent or parents about what happened. Now, assuming that it was one parent who mistreated them or that one of their parents has passed on, they might not get ...
Views: 133 - False-Self: Can Someone Have A Needless False Self If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need ...
Views: 179 - Football: Did Cristiano Ronaldo “Cry Like A Little Girl” During The Portugal vs. Slovenia Football Match? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSince the match between Portugal vs. Slovenia in the European football championship, a lot has been said about the emotion that Cristiano Ronaldo expressed after he missed a penalty. Some people have criticised him for crying after he missed a penalty, while others have been supportive. When ...
Views: 184 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Will Be Free After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be free to live his own life, it doesn’t mean that he will feel this way. Instead, he can feel as though his mother owns him and is then in control of what he does or doesn’t do. From this, it will be clear that he doesn’t feel loved and supported by his mother. She is ...
Views: 151 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Responsible If His Mother Becomes Ill? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man does a lot for his mother and neglects a number of his own needs in the process, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up in a position where he de does even more for her. This is something that can take place if his mother was to become unwell and less capable of looking after ...
Views: 162 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Very Guarded If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to experience it. So, they might have spent a fair amount of time on their appearance and spent time socialising but not been able to make much progress. This could be something that has been going on ...
Views: 181 - Procrastination: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Procrastinate? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their behaviour, is that they have the tendency to put things off. So, this can relate to one area of their life or it could relate to how they are in general. If this relates to how they are in one area of their life, it might have much of an ...
Views: 175 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they typically feel, what they could soon notice is that they often feel invisible, ignored and lonely. They can show that when they are around others, they seldom feel seen and heard. It is then to be expected that they would often feel ...
Views: 164 - Lack Mentality: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Lack Mentality? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on what often goes through their mind, they could come to the conclusion that they have a scarcity mindset. They could see that they often think about how there is not enough. This can relate to there not being enough money, opportunities, ...
Views: 174 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man In An Emotionally Collapsed State? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has the tendency to do what his mother wants and neglects a number of his own needs, it could be said that he needs to assert himself. However, although this is what he will need to do, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. Firstly, he might not be ...
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