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- Why Do We Fear Close Relationships? - by Submitted on May 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyAlthough we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed fears and subconscious resistance ...
Views: 24527(8 votes) - Playing the Victim - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Robert NajemyThe role of Victim (poor me) is a favorite for many of us. There are so many benefits we can ascertain by playing the role of the victim. 1. We automatically gain self-worth. Follow this reasoning closely. As a victim, we are the one to whom injustice is being done, thus the others are ...
Views: 20252(4 votes) - The Chemistry Of Emotions - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Robert NajemyThe Chemistry of Emotions and our Brain's Electrical Wiring. 1. Each emotion causes various peptides / hormones to be excreted (through hypothalamus and pituitary gland) that are received by the cells and lock into receptors on the cells themselves. (Phd Physiology and Biophysics Candace ...
Views: 12206 - Why do We Fear Love? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyWhy do we fear close relationships? Although we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed ...
Views: 4545 - Cultivate Positive Thoughts and Feelings - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from Robert NajemyYou need a peaceful, clear and positive mind in order manifest your needs for your self, your family and perhaps even for society and the world. Our emotions have a direct effect on our bodies. Every time we feel an emotion, our endocrine system excretes certain hormones or peptides that ...
Views: 4519(2 votes) - Write a Description of Your Ideal Reality - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 4: Write a Description of Your Ideal Reality Using your imagination, now write a detailed description of your new reality in which your ideal life and ideal self are already manifested. Write in the present tense as if all of your goals have already been achieved. Describe how you ...
Views: 4427(1 vote) - More Effective Communication with Children - Part 1 - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Robert NajemyToday we are experiencing an ever-growing communication gap between parents, teachers and the children whom they are responsible for. Only through honest and sincere communication can we help our children to become honest, healthy and happy individuals. Some of the basic concepts of ...
Views: 4320(1 vote) - How We Evaluate Ourselves - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2007 from Robert NajemyFrom the book "Contemporary Parables" We need to understand how we value ourselves and hopefully heal ourselves from an epidemic of self-doubt and self-rejection. We are spirit which is eternal and divine. Being divine in nature there is no question about our worthiness. As spirit we are ...
Views: 4263 - The Twelve Step Manifestation Process - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from Robert NajemyMany of you will have read the book or seen the movie entitled the “SECRET”. Actually what is taught is not a secret. It has been known for thousands of years by all religions and philosophical and spiritual groups that our beliefs, thoughts and emotions create our reality. We have ...
Views: 4200(4 votes) - WHAT EXACTLY IS YOGA? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Robert NajemyPart 1 of 5 Various forms of meditation and inner concentration have been developed by most cultures and systems devoted to human health, harmony and evolution. The concept of coming into contact with an inner power, an inner voice, an inner knowledge or an inner guidance is common to all ...
Views: 3847(1 vote) - Working with Need Conflicts - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe have in the previous chapter mentioned a few possible need conflicts. We unfortunately seldom communicate very clearly and objectively in these cases, and this lack of effective communication adds to the problem often resulting in conflict. A classic example is a couple I remember who had ...
Views: 3374 - DEALING WITH INTIMIDATORS - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2004 from Robert NajemyAt times, we are confronted by people who seek to intimidate us. This offensive behavior is most frequently a cover-up for their fear. Let us investigate why we play this role and how we can communicate with those who behave towards us in this way. 1. As intimidators we seek to control others ...
Views: 3160(1 vote) - Ho’oponopono -How We Create Our Reality -Part 1 - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Robert NajemyHO’OPONOPONO & POSSIBLE REFLECTIONS OF OUR INNER WORLD IN OTHERS AND THE WORLD AT LARGE Note: As this subject needs a deeper explanation the article is broken down into four parts. The first deals with the nature of interconnectedness and the technique of Ho’oponopono The second explains how we ...
Views: 2930 - Using Energy Psychology For Getting Free From Fear, Anxiety And Other Negative Emotions. - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from Robert NajemyUsing Energy Psychology For Getting Free From Fear, Anxiety And Other Negative Emotions. In the last 35 years a number of new forms of psychotherapy have become very popular among psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors and other health professionals who work with human emotional, mental, ...
Views: 2897(1 vote) - Be Grateful - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 1: Be Grateful Think of, and make a list of, all that already exists in your life for which you can feel grateful. Read this list daily for at least 90 days. Add to the list each time you think of something else for which you can feel grateful. Gratitude and love initiate the ...
Views: 2496(1 vote) - Experience the Source of Creation Within - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 6: Experience the Source of Creation Within Learn to let go of thoughts and experience the silence or peace between the thoughts. Here in this silent space exists the field of unlimited possibilities from which all beings, forms, objects and interactions flow forth. Begin to ...
Views: 2457(1 vote) - Get Free from Limiting Beliefs - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 3: Get Free from Limiting Beliefs Discover and then free yourself from all limiting beliefs (social and personal) concerning what you can and cannot manifest and what can or cannot be done, especially in relationship to your specific goals. Our beliefs are the one main ...
Views: 2397(1 vote) - Ho’oponopono Part 2 Of 4 - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2008 from Robert NajemyCreating reality through interpretation and projection Note: As this subject needs a deeper explanation the article is broken down into four parts. The first deals with the nature of interconnectedness and the technique of Ho’oponopono The second explains how we create reality through ...
Views: 2319 - The Sheepish Lion - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2011 from Robert NajemyOnce there was a great lioness who went hunting with her new born cub. It happened that while attacking and chasing a flock of sheep, the she-lion made a wrong move, fell of a cliff and died. The cub was left in the midst of the sheep and grew up with them. As the years passed, the cub became a ...
Views: 2214(3 votes) - Create and Maintain a Conscious Love Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe present you with a brief outline of some basic points necessary to tend to in order to create a harmonious and loving relationship. INNER PREPARATION Internal preparation is prerequisite for developing the maturity necessary to succeed in creating a conscious loving union with our love ...
Views: 2117 - Our Five Bodies - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2007 from Robert NajemyFrom the book "Contemporary Parables" Most of us believe that we have only one body. Most esoteric philosophies, however, teach that we have five bodies. Some claim even more, but usually these extra bodies are sublevels of the five basic ones mentioned below and represented by the five ...
Views: 2077 - Reality And Quantum Physics - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Robert NajemyAbout the nature of subatomic physics. 1. Matter and energy are interchangeable. Matter can become energy and energy can become matter (Nuclear energy, atomic bomb.) E= MC2 (Albert Einstein) 2. Particles can be perceived as matter and as waves - at different times - can behave as particle now ...
Views: 2074 - DEALING WITH TESTING TIMES no 1 - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2011 from Robert NajemyRemaining Healthy, Happy and Positive during “Testing Times” From Robert Elias Najemy’s newly released DEALING WITH TESTING TIMES There are periods in the life of every person when certain events and situations demand greater inner strength, courage, faith, stamina, energy, understanding, ...
Views: 2053(1 vote) - DEALING WITH TESTING TIMES no 1 - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2011 from Robert NajemyRemaining Healthy, Happy and Positive during “Testing Times” From Robert Elias Najemy’s newly released DEALING WITH TESTING TIMES There are periods in the life of every person when certain events and situations demand greater inner strength, courage, faith, stamina, energy, understanding, ...
Views: 2053(1 vote) - Give to Others and Yourself Daily - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 8. Give to Others and Yourself Daily Give gifts from the heart regularly to those around you. Also give to yourself. Focus also on giving to others and yourself that which you seek to attract or create. Wish for others to be well and to also have what you are seeking to create. ...
Views: 2031(1 vote) - Love is a Choice - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe may not able to choose all the events and situations that occur in our lives, but we choose how we feel, react or respond to them. We can choose to accept. flow and benefit from them. We can resist, reject and become bitter. We can choose to forgive or not to forgive. We can choose to ...
Views: 1963 - Experience the Source of Creation Within - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 5: Act now as You Imagine You Would Then Behave now as if your goals have already become manifest. Do now that which you imagine you would do if your ideal life was already a reality. Until now, we have learned to align ourselves with our ideal reality by: 1. Realizing how ...
Views: 1943 - Making a Difference in an Indifferent World - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2003 from Robert NajemyWe live in troubled times where our peace and safety are often in danger. Most feel helpless and unable to affect the unfolding events in our present world. And yet many are uniting their minds, energy and actions in order to create a peaceful and safe world with dignity for all. Some groups ...
Views: 1767(1 vote) - Specify Goals - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 2: Specify Goals Make a list of your goals; the things that you would like to accomplish, create, manifest, improve or obtain. Include all aspects of your life – physical, material, emotional, mental, spiritual, social, familial, relationships, professional etc. Consider what you ...
Views: 1646 - Care for Your Body - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2009 from Robert NajemyYour body and mind are the instruments with which you will effectively create and also enjoy all that you need to be happy. If your body becomes weak or ill, you will not be able to effectively and dynamically manifest the abundance and happiness that you desire. A weak or ill body will become ...
Views: 1609(1 vote) - FEAR, JEALOUSY, SUPPRESSION & REBELLION - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyValery is not very sure of herself as woman. She doubts whether a man can stay interested in her for a long period of time. She rejects her appearance and generally does not feel herself-worthy. Her self-doubt creates a strong fear of losing her husband to another woman. Valery’s father ...
Views: 1603 - D E A L I N G W I T H "A L O O F S - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Robert NajemyIn the role of the aloof we distance ourselves from others, avoiding meaningful or honest emotional contact. In this way, we are less likely to be hurt or controlled by people’s negative emotions, requests or demands. 1. We hide from the intimidator’s attack, the ...
Views: 1597 - Create a Harmonious Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Robert NajemyHarmonious relationships are the result of inner work, love and deep respect for ourselves and the other. Below are some simple basic guidelines for that process 1. Take full responsibility for our reality. We are the sole creators of our thoughts and feelings. No one can create our happiness, ...
Views: 1579 - QUESTIONS THAT WILL HELP CLARIFY OUR GOALS - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2004 from Robert NajemyQUESTIONS THAT WILL HELP CLARIFY OUR GOALS Robert Elias Najemy http://www.HolisticHarmony.com 1. What exactly is your goal or purpose here? 2. What is it that you would like to change, solve, manifest or create? 3. Why is this important to you? 4. If for some reason beyond your ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - Remaining Healthy, Happy and Positive During Testing Times - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2009 from Robert NajemyWhat do we mean by the phrase “testing times”? There are periods in the life of every person, when certain events and situations demand greater inner strength, courage, faith, stamina, energy, understanding, optimism, inner security and self-confidence. These times may be personal, familial, ...
Views: 1567(1 vote) - SUPER WOMAN - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert NajemyKaterina is very conscientious, a hard worker and reliable in all cases. At work and at home, she can be depended on to get things done. She often stays overtime, usually alone at the office, in order to get her work done. When she gets home, she immediately immerses herself in cooking, ...
Views: 1558 - Self-Acceptance and Self-Improvement - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyThe first grader Perhaps the example of children in grade school will help us to understand this. These children in the first grade do not reject themselves because they are not in a higher grade, or because they do not know as much, or are not as capable as those children in the higher grades. ...
Views: 1510 - How We Create Our Personal Reality - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyIn order to be able to love purely and steadily we need to understand how our reality is created A major obstacle to pure and steady love is our confusion about who is responsible for what happens to us and how we feel about it. This confusion is caused by two mistaken perceptions: 1. That ...
Views: 1493 - HE DOESN'T LOVE ME - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert NajemySonia is unhappy because she feels her husband Philip does not love her. How does she know this? He is not affectionate with her. He does not agree with her. He does not like how she cooks or cleans the house. He criticizes and rejects her. He raises his voice in arguments. She feels very ...
Views: 1480 - What is Love? Part 5 - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemySpiritual Universal Love Part 5 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love" Robert Elias Najemy A later stage in our spiritual maturation process is the development of spiritual universal love where wisdom or spiritual discrimination is now added to our love. We now perceive all forms as ...
Views: 1472 - She is Ashamed of Him - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2007 from Robert NajemyDiana often feels ashamed of her husband’s behavior. Programmed by an aristocratic family, she has learned to give much importance to etiquette and one’s mental "sharpness and refinement." She has a university degree. Her husband Andreas does not. She has money. Andreas did not. She ...
Views: 1439 - We Cannot See the Wind - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyHave you ever seen the wind? Think about it. The wind cannot be seen. We become aware of the wind through its affect on the objects around us. The swaying of the grasses, bushes and trees. The flight of leaves, and dust. The waves of the sea. Its sound as it rushes through small spaces. The ...
Views: 1422 - The Personality's Broken Legs - by Submitted on May 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyFrom the book "Contemporary Parables" by Robert Elias Najemy It is important to begin to realize that our personality is just like our body. It is not our true self, but rather a vehicle, or "mental body", through which our true self, the soul, is expressing itself. We tend to be more ...
Views: 1405 - BASIC RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyWHAT HAPPENED? We were so suited for each other, so in love, so happy together. We had so many dreams. Our first moments together were full of joy, happiness and the excitement of being close to someone who loved us and understood us. We were so sure that we would live "happily ever after." We ...
Views: 1358 - The Nature Of Freedom – Part 3 - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2008 from Robert NajemyNote: As this subject needs a deeper explanation the article is broken down into three parts. 1. The first deals with the nature of natural freedom 2. The second with misconceptions about freedom 3. The third about how to experience freedom. What are those possible “understandings” that might ...
Views: 1357 - From Codependency to Cocommitment - Part 1 - by Submitted on May 01, 2007 from Robert NajemyTwo new words have become very popular in studying the Psychology of Relationships. They are codependence and co-commitment, which describe two totally different types of relationships. CODEPENDENCE Codependence describes a situation in which two people are dependent or addicted to each other. ...
Views: 1352 - The Spiritual Teacher - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyThe Spiritual Teacher must not become a crutch, a tranquilizer, or a dependency which undermines our inner strength. He or she should be like the battery charger, which we connect to our batteries in order to get our car started when its batteries are low. Once the car is running we do not ...
Views: 1339 - Loving Ourselves - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe lack giving and receiving love. Our feelings of isolation and loneliness breed mistrust, misunderstandings, competition, antagonism and the whole series of health destroying emotions such as fear, anger, hatred, jealousy, bitterness, resentment etc. These negative emotions build up a ...
Views: 1314 - SHE IS ALWAYS ILL - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Robert NajemyGina’s long standing illness has become a source of tension for all her family. She has been ill for many years and this is taking its toll on her husband Sam and the children. At times they feel she is using her illness to get attention and to force them into doing things for her. This ...
Views: 1294 - Our Energy System - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyEach person is like an energy box (or energy system to the scientists). Energy comes in and flows out and what remains determines the energy state of that box or system. When the state of energy is high and of good quality, then the box (a person) feels well. When we are lacking in energy, then ...
Views: 1288 - What is Yoga - part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert Najemy3. JNANA YOGA is the path of wisdom, understanding, discrimination and philosophy. It is the path, which few can follow. It requires a razor sharp mind that is always aware of the truth that we are not the contents of the mind, nor are we the body. Everything we see is just a temporary reality ...
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