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- Just Divorced - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2007 from Robert NajemyMargarita’s husband just left her for another woman. Her world has collapsed. She feels rejected, betrayed, hurt, depressed, belittled, shamed, fearful, bitter, injustice and anger and even revenge at times. She fears that she will not be able to cope with life alone. She fears that ...
Views: 817 - Love is a Choice - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe may not able to choose all the events and situations that occur in our lives, but we choose how we feel, react or respond to them. We can choose to accept. flow and benefit from them. We can resist, reject and become bitter. We can choose to forgive or not to forgive. We can choose to ...
Views: 1963 - Loving Ourselves - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe lack giving and receiving love. Our feelings of isolation and loneliness breed mistrust, misunderstandings, competition, antagonism and the whole series of health destroying emotions such as fear, anger, hatred, jealousy, bitterness, resentment etc. These negative emotions build up a ...
Views: 1314 - Magnetize your Mind - by Submitted on May 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyFrom the book "Contemporary Parables" by Robert Elias Najemy There is an interesting phenomenon in the physics of a magnet and its effect on a piece of iron. In order to understand this phenomenon, we must first realize that a magnet is simply a piece of ordinary iron with one simple ...
Views: 1109 - Making a Difference in an Indifferent World - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe live in troubled times where our peace and safety are often in danger. Most feel helpless and unable to affect the unfolding events in our present world. And yet many are uniting their minds, energy and actions in order to create a peaceful and safe world with dignity for all. Some groups ...
Views: 1145 - Meditation & Society - by Submitted on May 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyMEDITATION & SOCIETY All indications and logical deductions point to the belief that meditation on the part of large numbers of people in our society will have a very positive effect. Let us consider in the light of what we have already learned about the benefits of meditation, how meditation ...
Views: 736 - Our Children's Needs - Part 1 - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyA human being is pretty much formed and programmed in his or her concepts about himself or herself and the surrounding world by the age of eight. Most of the work, which is done today by psychologists and psychiatrists, is to solve the problems and fill the gaps left by the experiences of those ...
Views: 815 - Our Energy System - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyEach person is like an energy box (or energy system to the scientists). Energy comes in and flows out and what remains determines the energy state of that box or system. When the state of energy is high and of good quality, then the box (a person) feels well. When we are lacking in energy, then ...
Views: 1289 - Our Five Bodies - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2007 from Robert NajemyFrom the book "Contemporary Parables" Most of us believe that we have only one body. Most esoteric philosophies, however, teach that we have five bodies. Some claim even more, but usually these extra bodies are sublevels of the five basic ones mentioned below and represented by the five ...
Views: 2078 - Our Unity is A Scientific Reality - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyFor many centuries spiritual leaders have taught us that we are one family and that the solution to all of our problems is to live in unity, peace, love and cooperation. Christ gave special emphasis to these values and encouraged his followers to think of God as their mutual Father and all ...
Views: 738 - Reality And Quantum Physics - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Robert NajemyAbout the nature of subatomic physics. 1. Matter and energy are interchangeable. Matter can become energy and energy can become matter (Nuclear energy, atomic bomb.) E= MC2 (Albert Einstein) 2. Particles can be perceived as matter and as waves - at different times - can behave as particle now ...
Views: 2074 - Relationship Conflicts - Part 3 - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Robert NajemyCLEANLINESS AND ORDER vs. FREEDOM AND RELAXATION Anna and George have been married for a number of years. They have each settled into their own stances concerning various matters on which they do not agree. One of those is just how clean and in order the house must be. Anna’s standards ...
Views: 788 - Relationship Conflicts - Part 4 - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyCONTROL vs. FLOW Each person, in his attempt to find security, affirmation, happiness and harmony in his life, searches for ways in which he can most effectively create the world he desires. Some people have become programmed to believe they can do this only by controlling the situations and ...
Views: 1194 - Self-Acceptance and Self-Improvement - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyThe first grader Perhaps the example of children in grade school will help us to understand this. These children in the first grade do not reject themselves because they are not in a higher grade, or because they do not know as much, or are not as capable as those children in the higher grades. ...
Views: 1510 - She is a Perfectionist - by Submitted on May 01, 2007 from Robert NajemyMarina’s perfectionism annoys her husband, Dan. Marina cannot relax if whatever she does is not perfect. Of course, nothing is ever perfect and thus Marina is usually in a very tense state. This attachment creates for her anxiety, fear, and a continual sense of danger. This tension is ...
Views: 1083 - SHE IS ALWAYS ILL - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Robert NajemyGina’s long standing illness has become a source of tension for all her family. She has been ill for many years and this is taking its toll on her husband Sam and the children. At times they feel she is using her illness to get attention and to force them into doing things for her. This ...
Views: 1294 - She is Ashamed of Him - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2007 from Robert NajemyDiana often feels ashamed of her husband’s behavior. Programmed by an aristocratic family, she has learned to give much importance to etiquette and one’s mental "sharpness and refinement." She has a university degree. Her husband Andreas does not. She has money. Andreas did not. She ...
Views: 1439 - Specify Goals - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Robert NajemyMethod No 2: Specify Goals Make a list of your goals; the things that you would like to accomplish, create, manifest, improve or obtain. Include all aspects of your life – physical, material, emotional, mental, spiritual, social, familial, relationships, professional etc. Consider what you ...
Views: 1646 - Sprouting for Health and Economy - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemySprouts are rapidly becoming popular all over the world as people are seeking a healthy and economic source of food. A handful of seeds can sprout into enough "live food" to provide balanced nutrition for a number of meals. Why eat sprouts? 1. Sprouts are an abundant source of predigested ...
Views: 798 - SUPER WOMAN - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert NajemyKaterina is very conscientious, a hard worker and reliable in all cases. At work and at home, she can be depended on to get things done. She often stays overtime, usually alone at the office, in order to get her work done. When she gets home, she immediately immerses herself in cooking, ...
Views: 1559 - The Chemistry Of Emotions - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Robert NajemyThe Chemistry of Emotions and our Brain's Electrical Wiring. 1. Each emotion causes various peptides / hormones to be excreted (through hypothalamus and pituitary gland) that are received by the cells and lock into receptors on the cells themselves. (Phd Physiology and Biophysics Candace ...
Views: 12206 - The Fear of Truth - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2007 from Robert NajemyIt is not easy to be totally truthful with others and often even with ourselves. The main reason for this is our fear or rejection. This fear is often greater even than the fear of death. We identify our self-worth and consequently our feelings of security with how others perceive us and ...
Views: 991 - The Half-Finished Painting - by Submitted on May 24, 2007 from Robert NajemyFrom the book "Contemporary Parables" by Robert Elias Najemy There is a spiritual truth which claims that everything which has occurred and which is occurring at this moment was and is perfect. The future we do not know. But once the future has become the present, then that too is ...
Views: 953 - The Nature Of Freedom – Part 1 - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2008 from Robert NajemyNote: As this subject needs a deeper explanation the article is broken down into three parts. 1. The first deals with the nature of natural freedom 2. The second with misconceptions about freedom 3. The third about how to experience freedom. Freedom is the absence of internal or external ...
Views: 1262 - The Nature Of Freedom – Part 2 - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Robert NajemyNote: As this subject needs a deeper explanation the article is broken down into three parts. 1. The first deals with the nature of natural freedom 2. The second with misconceptions about freedom 3. The third about how to experience freedom. The Reality of Freedom. The reality is that we are ...
Views: 1246 - The Nature Of Freedom – Part 3 - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2008 from Robert NajemyNote: As this subject needs a deeper explanation the article is broken down into three parts. 1. The first deals with the nature of natural freedom 2. The second with misconceptions about freedom 3. The third about how to experience freedom. What are those possible “understandings” that might ...
Views: 1357 - The Personality's Broken Legs - by Submitted on May 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyFrom the book "Contemporary Parables" by Robert Elias Najemy It is important to begin to realize that our personality is just like our body. It is not our true self, but rather a vehicle, or "mental body", through which our true self, the soul, is expressing itself. We tend to be more ...
Views: 1405 - The Spiritual Teacher - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyThe Spiritual Teacher must not become a crutch, a tranquilizer, or a dependency which undermines our inner strength. He or she should be like the battery charger, which we connect to our batteries in order to get our car started when its batteries are low. Once the car is running we do not ...
Views: 1339 - Truths Which Aid Forgiveness - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2007 from Robert NajemySome truths which will help us forgive others are (some are based on various spiritual beliefs or Christian concepts which might not be acceptable to you or the subject): 1. All happens according to a divine plan which brings me exactly what I need at every stage of my evolutionary process in ...
Views: 773 - TWELVE STEPS TO CO-COMMITMENT - Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Robert Najemy(The basic ideas of this section are inspired by the work of Gay and Katherine Hendricks) We can move towards a conscious love relationship by committing ourselves to consciously working towards that goal. We need to clearly understand what we kind of relationship we want to create and be ...
Views: 1237 - Understanding Meditation - part 3 - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Robert NajemyTHE MIND IS LIKE A PLASTIC BAG As in the previous example, the mind has no reality of its own. Its reality is formed by its contents. It is like a plastic bag or cellophane that takes the shape of whatever you put into it. If you wrap up something long and slim then it takes that shape. If you ...
Views: 1078 - Understanding Meditation through Models - part 1 - by Submitted on May 02, 2007 from Robert NajemyModels, examples and parables are often more effective than word descriptions in enabling us to understand new concepts. You have heard the saying that a picture is worth a 1000 words. Well, the same holds true for a mental picture. It facilitates our comprehension of a new subject by using a ...
Views: 790 - Understanding the Sexes - Part 2 - by Submitted on May 02, 2007 from Robert NajemyTHE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES AND MESSAGES THAT LEAD TO THIS CONFUSION These differences and resulting confusion and conflicts are created by our childhood programming about men, women and the relationships between them. Some of those messages were received through statements we had heard but ...
Views: 965 - We Cannot See the Wind - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyHave you ever seen the wind? Think about it. The wind cannot be seen. We become aware of the wind through its affect on the objects around us. The swaying of the grasses, bushes and trees. The flight of leaves, and dust. The waves of the sea. Its sound as it rushes through small spaces. The ...
Views: 1423 - What does it mean to be a Christian? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyMy logic and faith in the wisdom and justice of the Divine is that all religions have equal access to the one and only Divine Being. I believe that after leaving the physical body the virtuous Christian and the virtuous Jew will keep company with the virtuous Moslem, Buddhist and Hindu as well ...
Views: 1194 - What is Love - Part 3 - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemyLove, Pleasure or Affirmation ? Part 3 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love" Robert Elias Najemy Needing Others for Pleasure Let us examine how our needs for pleasure and affirmation can limit and distort our experience of love. We create relationships that give us pleasure and ...
Views: 828 - What is Love ? part 1 - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemyPart 1 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love" Love is our greatest need. Is it our highest most fulfilling state. Do we really love or are we simply attached to, identified with or dependent upon the persons we "love"? Is our love free and unconditional, or is it mixed with various ...
Views: 962 - What is Love ? Part 2 - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemyLove or Need for Security ? Part 2 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love" Our Love is Mixed With Need Our love is still mixed with a considerable amount of need. Love wants to give. Need wants to take. Sometimes what we are seeking to take is very subtle and requires deep inner ...
Views: 902 - What is Love? - Part 4 - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemySelfless Love Part 4 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love" Robert Elias Najemy Selfless Love for a Specific Person An essential stage in the evolution of love is being able to love others regardless of their behavior. Probably the closest most of us have come to experiencing such ...
Views: 949 - What is Love? - Part 6 - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemyLoving the Wave or the Ocean Part 6 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love" Robert Elias Najemy When we limit our love to a specific person (we do not mean sexually, but rather emotionally, mentally and spiritually), it is difficult to experience love in its highest expression. We love ...
Views: 853 - What is Love? Part 5 - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemySpiritual Universal Love Part 5 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love" Robert Elias Najemy A later stage in our spiritual maturation process is the development of spiritual universal love where wisdom or spiritual discrimination is now added to our love. We now perceive all forms as ...
Views: 1472 - What is Meditation? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2007 from Robert NajemyMeditation can be described in hundreds of ways. Here we will give some brief explanations about this so-extremely-important aspect of human harmony, health and spiritual evolution. Three Aspects of Meditation 1. The first step is relaxation or surrendering of the body and mind so that the ...
Views: 668 - When He Does not Keep His Agreements - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Robert NajemySonny says "YES" to whatever request is made of him, but never follow through with the agreement. Afterward, he feels guilty, becomes defensive, and occasionally, aggressive. He, on the one hand, cannot say no, mainly because he fears rejection and conflict. On the other hand, he feels ...
Views: 1184 - Why do We Fear Love? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2007 from Robert NajemyWhy do we fear close relationships? Although we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed ...
Views: 4545 - Working with Need Conflicts - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe have in the previous chapter mentioned a few possible need conflicts. We unfortunately seldom communicate very clearly and objectively in these cases, and this lack of effective communication adds to the problem often resulting in conflict. A classic example is a couple I remember who had ...
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