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- 2012-Self-esteem - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2012 from Keith Bray2012-Mission to Improve Self-esteem To be of service to others, I do a lot of reading and research. Original thinking is fine but what I know and coach originated from others. The biggest issues I help others to come to grips with are related to self-esteem. Today I share writing from ...
Views: 2372(1 vote) - AT THE END OF YOUR ARM - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Keith BrayAT THE END OF YOUR ARM The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm. --Swedish proverb Every now and again a quote comes to you that is just so obvious but true! There are so many looking for help, looking to others to “fix” them and take responsibility for ...
Views: 4427(1 vote) - Chasing Happiness? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2010 from Keith BrayCHASING HAPPINESS? “One is happy as a result of one's own efforts, once one knows the necessary ingredients of happiness — simple tastes, a certain degree of courage, self denial to a point, love of work, and, above all, a clear conscience. Happiness is no vague dream, of that I now feel ...
Views: 1596(1 vote) - Do YOU Have Personal Strength? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Keith BrayHave YOU Got Personal Strength?(God Thing) I ask this question for a reason. I am very interested in hearing honest and open answers from other. I am particularly interested in hearing from those who can respond without giving away a particular religious bias. For many years I have known ...
Views: 1512(1 vote) - KNOW YOUR DREAMS - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Keith BrayKNOW YOUR DREAM You've got to create a dream. You've got to uphold the dream. If you can't, go back to the factory or go back to the desk. --Eric Burdon Way back when, back when I made a decision to go into the “people helping” business as a profession, I had a dream. I formulated the dream ...
Views: 1346(1 vote) - Holistic Living-Spiritual Awakening - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Keith BrayHolistic Living-Spiritual Awakening For something to have an “AWAKENING”, it must have been asleep. Now isn’t that the most brilliant thing you’ve ever read. For me, I made the changes in my life for one big reason, to live abundantly with peace with in. I was an unhappy person and knew that ...
Views: 1105(3 votes) - A FREE GIFT-LIFE CHANGING-NO STRINGS - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2011 from Keith BrayWANT A SHOT OF HOPE? (How’s Your Spiritual Life?) Someone sees that word “spiritual” and the mind says “oh no, more religious crap”. That someone, back then, was me. For those who are familiar with my blogs, you’ll know I like simplicity and often turn to the good book written by Mr. Webster ...
Views: 1442(1 vote) - AN APPROACH TO TODAY - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2010 from Keith BrayAN APPROACH TO TODAY Once again, along comes my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons with another Idea Engineer. Thought provoking. Couple this approach with the question you should ask each day about actions you are contemplating –“How important is it?”- and your days may become a pleasant dance ...
Views: 1375(2 votes) - BE TRUE TO SELF! - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Keith BrayBE TRUE TO SELF! And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. --Shakespeare "To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a ...
Views: 1493(1 vote) - BECOME SELF AWARE! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Keith BraySELF AWARE As I went through life, I lost a sense of who I was; I was not aware of certain behaviour patterns and thought patterns that were occurring in my life. I certainly was aware of the patterns of others that I was in frequent contact with, and as we all know, sometimes the behaviours ...
Views: 1441(1 vote) - DO YOU KNOW YOU? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Keith BrayDO YOU KNOW YOU? Once we understand ourselves, the rest of living falls in line. What a great line, and makes me ask the question- Do you know you? At first, the initial answer is likely “yes, of course I do”. Funny, way back when, I would have and did react the same way. The biggest ...
Views: 1509(3 votes) - DOES IT STILL PLAY FORWARD? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Keith BrayDOES IT STILL PLAY FORWARD? The biggest limiting factor in many lives today is the past, plain and simple. In the “co-creative process of life recovery” that I deeply believe in, a huge part of the coached journey is taking a very hard and detailed look at the past and fully getting things ...
Views: 1303(1 vote) - Gift of Life Recovery - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Keith BrayA week ago, I was facing surgery for the first time since I underwent a psychic change through the process of recovery. Lets be honest, the surgery was not life threatening although what was being corrected caused constant pain. I was not thrilled by the thought of someone cutting my groin area, ...
Views: 811(1 vote) - GOT TRUST ISSUES? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Keith BrayTRUST ISSUES? It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues. The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships. If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” ...
Views: 2471(3 votes) - HOLISTIC? SPIRITUAL? WHOA!! - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2011 from Keith BrayHOLISTIC? /SPIRITUAL? WHOA I love to think that the huge positive changes in my life over the past 16 years or so have been holistic and as part of this, there has been a “spiritual awakening” (like brought out of a spiritual coma) as a part of what has happened. Let’s go to Webster’s for a ...
Views: 1329(1 vote) - I Saw the Enemy - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Keith BrayAlways interesting to see what thoughts run through my head as I try to shut down my conscious thinking and spend quiet time in the morning. About fifteen years ago I sat in a treatment centre, Homewood, in Guelph, Ontario. I had been alcohol and drug free for about 3 months, and this did allow ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Looking Inside of You - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from Keith BrayIn looking to professionally certify in a field I had been actively engaged in for years, I did a thorough search of coaching certification bodies and key individuals who were core members of the body. I was lead to the Certified Coaching Alliance, and had the good fortune of studying and ...
Views: 1268(1 vote) - Need A Recovery Program? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Keith BrayNEED A RECOVERY PROGRAM? I am blessed to be acquainted with a great group of people who are involved in addiction recovery and helping others. Patrick Meninga who operates the web site www.spiritualriver.com is one of those people. Over the years, Patrick and I have collaborated on several ...
Views: 1619(2 votes) - Relationships - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from Keith BrayWith “Mother’s Day” just past, what a better a topic to think about than relationships? They have such a huge impact on every facet of life. My relationship (like many men) with my mother was a troubled one. I was the victim of abuse, and did not feel safe or like I belonged as a child. My ...
Views: 809(1 vote) - RENEWING YOUR MIND - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Keith BrayDO YOU THINK THINGS OUT? So, you want to transform your life from where it is today to something much different, something you know inside that life should be for you. If that be the case, do you truly think things out? I am not a follower of any religion but have read many “great” books ...
Views: 1418(1 vote) - ROCKETED INTO A 4th DIMENSION - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Keith BrayROCKETED INTO a 4TH DIMENSION of EXISTENCE Over the past weekend, I had the privilege of attending a “spiritual retreat” at a wonderful place of peace called Manresa . What is a spiritual retreat? Sounds out there! For me it is like taking a time out from life and listening to a leader lead ...
Views: 7609(1 vote) - SIMPLE SHARE on WHY - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2010 from Keith BraySIMPLE SHARE on WHY Why did I feel it necessary to get "help" and get a coach? My simple story. In 1994 I hit a wall. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired" emotionally. While my self-employment was earning me a good living, many things around me were going unglued and I was turning ...
Views: 1323(2 votes) - The Courage to Change - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2011 from Keith BrayTHE COURAGE TO CHANGE Courage: The power to let go of the familiar. --Raymond Lindquist Letting go of the familiar really does require courage. Why? Very simply, the thought of change evokes fear. Fear of what? Only YOU can answer for you. Let me pose three very simple questions to you. If ...
Views: 1498(1 vote) - THE SECRET ABOUT SECRETS - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2010 from Keith BrayTHE SECRET ABOUT SECRETS "Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets. ~ Paul Tournier ~ Paul Tournier is arguably the world’s most spiritual physician. A Swiss doctor, his practise has impacted people world wide. If a renowned person like Dr. Tournier appreciates the power of secrets; the ...
Views: 1453(3 votes) - WHO AM I? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Keith BrayWHO AM I? I can remember those dark days back in 1994 that I really did not know who I was. Have you been there or are you at that point today. I knew the roles that I played, amongst them husband, father, employer, community volunteer, company leader; roles I played on life’s stage like an ...
Views: 1512(3 votes) - SIMPLE LOGIC - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Keith BraySIMPLE LOGIC (The God Thing) You must wait and listen for the sound of the genuine that is within you. When you hear it, that will be your voice and the Voice of God. - Howard Thurman, American author, civil rights leader, and theologian (1899-1981) One of the great things with what I ...
Views: 1254(2 votes) - DO YOU ENGAGE IN VIOLENCE? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2010 from Keith BrayDo you engage in violence? Time once again to give thought to points raised by my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons, in his Idea Engineer. At first blush, this headline evoked an immediate “NO”. Violence is not something I’ve ever really engaged in. Then I reread the articles and quotes, and ...
Views: 1511(3 votes) - LYING TO FEEL ACCEPTED - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2009 from Keith BrayLYING TO FEEL ACCEPTED I blog frequently for several reasons. I have “journalled” or blogged for years as a part of my life recovery. Simply, it lets me get things that are on the inside to the outside. I was taught that this was healthy behaviour and guess what? It helps. Honest sharing is ...
Views: 2884(6 votes) - 2011-POSITIVE CHANGES? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Keith Bray2011-POSITIVE CHANGES? May you LIVE all the days of your life-Johnathan Swift Another new year. Another year entered into with the best of intentions. Ever look back and really measure the changes you planned to make in 2010 and where you sit today? For most, their resolutions are but a ...
Views: 1428(1 vote) - 2012 - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2012 from Keith BrayA NEW YOU IN 2012? READY FOR CHANGE? Here we are, 9 days in to a new year and most things back to normal. By now, a majority of people who have made resolutions have broken them As you looked at a new year, what changes have you committed to make in how you live? More importantly, how are ...
Views: 1533(1 vote) - Affirmation-Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on May 14, 2008 from Keith BrayA real true friend sent this to me. She is going through a lot with a husband who is unfortunately being taken slowly by cancer. Patti is hanging in, hanging on, and despite all that is happening to her and around her, she is so often there for others. This small piece of prose is part of her ...
Views: 5671(1 vote) - AND WHO HEALS ME? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from Keith BrayAnd Who Heals Me? Over a year ago, I went on a journey to look at some real fuzzy philosophical questions. “Who Am I?”was dealt with years ago, but “What Is My Purpose?” remained vague. I went on a real journey to discover what it is about past employment that I loved and was good at, and what ...
Views: 1442(3 votes) - ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Keith BrayATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT After a number of recent conversations and happenings, coupled with self reflection, I think the biggest change in my life over the past number of years has been an attitude adjustment. Years ago, it was far too easy to fall into the negative. One of my symptoms was ...
Views: 1581(1 vote) - Bankrupt of Faith? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2009 from Keith BrayBankrupt of Faith? Ok Mr. Webster, your on! In this period we live in we all understand bankrupt, but what can you tell us about FAITH? On page 338 of this very thick edition I have, you state about FAITH:""trust, confidence; complete acceptance of a truth which cannot be demonstrated or proved ...
Views: 754(1 vote) - Be Open to the Moment - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from Keith BrayThe last couple of weeks, being knocked flat by an infection bug, have certainly given me time to reflect on some real core issues. One great reminder has been the importance of the moment and keeping my mind open to the “potential” of NOW. Within now are answers. "Why not concentrate on the ...
Views: 829(1 vote) - Bedevilment: An Interesting Word - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Keith BrayBEDEVILMENTS (interesting word) Got this reading this morning, and the word bedevilment is one I have not seen in ages. So over to Mr. Webster. He says, "exasperating interference and trouble; a besetting with devils". The way he puts it, I know I have experienced it. Have you? The message: ...
Views: 1097(1 vote) - Brightening One Day-Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on May 16, 2008 from Keith BrayIt’s always interesting to see what a difference 24 hours can make, even two hours. I am a life transformation coach, coach based on many of the principles Eckhart Tolle put forth in A New Earth, I have a strong spiritual foundation, have helped many others, have been addiction free for a ...
Views: 894(1 vote) - CAN YOU TURN IT OVER? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Keith BrayCAN YOU TURN IT OVER? A small change had started in my life. A journey of transformation had started and I was starting to recover a life I wanted. I had some hope sanity could return to my life. As I worked through the journey as laid out in the 12 steps, I hit something that called for a ...
Views: 1707(2 votes) - CHANGE? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2009 from Keith BrayCHANGE THROUGH COACHING What I said never changed anybody; what they understood did. --Paul. P. To often in my role as a life coach, potential sponsor or mentor, I run across people who think I can change them. Craziness as the above quote states. The only person I can change is I, and ...
Views: 846(2 votes) - CHOICE-Cleaned Up, Locked Up, Covered Up or Broken Up - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Keith BrayCHOICE-CLEANED (sobered) UP, LOCKED UP, COVERED UP or Broken Up I don't know when I first heard this, but since I have chosen a process of life recovery and the coaching profession, the truth of this "choice" has become very real. I hope that those of you who have taken the time to read this ...
Views: 2007(1 vote) - Co-Creative Process Dreams - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2009 from Keith BrayWe are all blessed with two minds; one conscious that we react to and are aware of, the other, subconscious; a place where dreams dwell. A place of untapped possibilities. Just like high performing athletes, entertainers and business leaders, all of us can use coaching to take us to the ...
Views: 867(1 vote) - Disappointment and Frustration? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2009 from Keith BrayHow can disappointments be opportunities to grow? When we feel thwarted, frustrated or empty it is difficult - but not impossible - to see the positive side of our pain. It is from this type of situation we are trained to coach people to success- however they define success. Most ...
Views: 741(1 vote) - DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE (questions to ask) - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2009 from Keith BrayDISCOVERING YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE Questions To Ask Often I’m asked what it is a coach does. The simple answer is to help others discover what is important for them to accomplish, set goals and then guide them to getting it done. Often people either directly or indirectly tell me they have hit ...
Views: 2054(3 votes) - Do You Believe in Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2009 from Keith BrayDo you believe in yourself? "We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves." -- Orison Swett Marden Each week I receive an idea generator from my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons. Seldom does Randin send something that does not provoke thought within me and usually it takes me back ...
Views: 907(2 votes) - EGO RUNNING WILD! - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2009 from Keith BrayEGO RUNNING WILD! Thought to Ponder . . .The ego seeks the destination; the soul seeks the journey What a deadly conflict I had going on for so many years, my ego searching for the destination and my forgotten soul seeking a journey! It made it hard to live in this skin of mine; seeking and ...
Views: 2054(1 vote) - Family Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Keith BrayGot this great reading today from Hazelden, and boy did it hit home! I only wish that I had “got it” as it relates to my mother by the time I was 35. Man, she, and a few select other very close to me, knew exactly what buttons to push. I’ve learned that it was I who allowed them to be pushed, ...
Views: 1136(1 vote) - GOALS and SELF-ESTEEM - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Keith BrayGoals and Self-Esteem In my own funny way, I have always had goals. For a long period of time, my self-esteem was low. Safe to say, I was not a fan of me from the inside out. The process of "life recovery", as I have experienced, is a process that is from the inside out. To quote an old ...
Views: 2163(3 votes) - HAD NO CHOICE! - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Keith BrayHAD NO CHOICE! When I was being made as a person and if I had been able to pick my attributes, I would not have chosen addictions and the effects of addictions, to be part of my life. That being said, addictions and abuse did impact on my life. This not very unique. About 10% of the ...
Views: 879(1 vote) - How Do You Work with Anger While in Recovery? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Keith Bray"Character isn't inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action. If one lets fear or hate or anger take possession of the mind, they become self-forged chains." -- Helen Douglas How do you feel about anger, in yourself and in others? How do ...
Views: 1421(1 vote) - Humor-Age and Wisdom - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2008 from Keith BrayHumor-Age and Wisdom When doing my journal, I can get very serious. For those that really know me, humor has been a huge part of my recovery and journey, and is evident in most of the places I frequent. My higher power certainly finds ways to make sure I don’t take life too ...
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