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- The Female Bully and the Codependent Part II: “A Smelly Turd in a Pretty Package” - by Submitted on May 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIn Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part ...
Views: 1846(1 vote) - 5 Signs You Are in an Abusive Marriage (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you controlled or in a partnership? Abusive marriages come in different forms. Most people are quick to think of "physical abuse" but there are definitely other acts of abuse that detriment the wellbeing of individuals at the hands of their domestic partner. 1. Physical Abuse In ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - 5 Ways to Avoid Court at all Costs! (by: Anne Brown PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 12, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownDivorce can be ugly. Courts can make it uglier. I think we are all in agreement "settle out of court". How can a couple do that when they are fighting to the extent they are filing for divorce? You are probably going to get tired of hearing me say first always "Fight for your Marriage." 1. ...
Views: 1468(1 vote) - 6 Things I Wish I Knew Then That I Know Now After My Divorce (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN) | DivorceForce - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownWe always hear people say, "I wish I knew then what I know now," so here is some help if you are navigating a divorce now ... 1.Believe in Yourself! Three words that are so powerful they can change any "I can't into "I can". When you hear the words "I want a divorce", there will be times ...
Views: 1809(1 vote) - 6 Tools for Resiliency in Recovery - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownResiliency and Recovery have a nice ring. The two R’s! Having a backbone makes this process a lot easier. Resiliency is having the ability to adapt in the face of adversity. The more you know yourself, the greater your self-awareness, and the greater your backbone, the greater your chance ...
Views: 1599(1 vote) - A Voice For Our Veterans - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownA Voice For Our Veterans In honor of Veterans Day, we are going to begin to give a voice to our veterans in Part One. In Part Two we are going to offer insights on how we can be better friends, countrymen/women when our veterans return and actually when they are away as well. For the purpose ...
Views: 1087(1 vote) - ABUSE!! And what would you do?? - by Submitted on May 20, 2014 from Dr. Anne BrownThe Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing ...
Views: 1352(1 vote) - All Of Us Need To Say YES to OURSELVES - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 1081(1 vote) - Anne Brown: Backbone Power The Science of Saying No | Books on Integrity |Books on Making Decisions |Books on decision making |Books on Codependency. Kindle Edition - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownA No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask ...
Views: 1943(1 vote) - Are You Ready To Die? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you ready to die? Most people aren’t? Yet if we are not willing to be with death it will hunt us down. Last week I had a gigantic dose of people sitting with death. My contractor’s 10-year-old daughter with an inoperable brain tumor on the brain stem. Next a dear friend called with breast ...
Views: 1252(1 vote) - Backbone Power The Science of Saying No Books on Integrity |Books on Making Decisions |Books on decision making |Books on Co-Dependency - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownA No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term, and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes? Ask ...
Views: 1130(1 vote) - Backbone Power | Newsletter Sign Up - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownSUBSCRIBE TO GET THE LATEST BLOG POSTS, NEWS, & MORE UPDATES FROM DR. ANNE BROWN. http://backbonepower.com/newsletter-signup Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, RN of Sausalito, California, formerly from Aspen, Colorado in her private practice has served as the trusted advocate and advisor to Influential ...
Views: 1661(1 vote) - Bullying and the Codependent Part III: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownEven though it is interesting to note that recent reports state female workplace bullying is on the increase, causing more people to say they would rather work for a man, we are going to stay focused on the female family serial bully. I believe bullies know they are bullying. I believe you ...
Views: 1582(1 vote) - Bullying and The Codependent Part IV: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownI assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not really gain traction until the 1970’s. These laws addressed physical and sexual abuse, not emotional abuse. Church and State enabled abuse and the paradigm that women and children were ...
Views: 1648(1 vote) - Clearing Old Thoughts - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownYesterday I was weeding in my back yard and I had a realization. Weeding the yard is so much easier than weeding out our thoughts. Weeding out unwanted thoughts needs tools. What are your tools for weeding out ineffective thoughts? What about ones that actually take you down? Do you have ...
Views: 1289(1 vote) - Codependency - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownA No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask ...
Views: 1741(1 vote) - Codependency and #MeToo: A Brief History of Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownOur History When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Codependency and #MeToo: A New Way Forward - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownRecap So, to recap Part One, we discussed our history as women as it relates to our relationship with men and how up until the middle to late 20th century we didn’t have laws to protect us from abuses. Women, along with children, were property of men. Men could abuse us with no consequences. We ...
Views: 1390(1 vote) - Codependency and Narcissists: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? (Part I) - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownFor this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of ...
Views: 1426(1 vote) - Common Sense Ways to Stay Friends With a Victim - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you frustrated with someone you care about who appears to be the victim of a perpetrator? Do you find yourself getting angry for this person? We all have examples of these situations and we often struggle with what to say, how much time to spend with the victim, and how to continue being ...
Views: 1754(1 vote) - Denial- Take a Whack at Yours Today! - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown" You will never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." Christopher Columbus Denial is a mechanism we use consciously or unconsciously to alter reality, usually to pretend it is better than it is. We don't want to see aspects of life for which we have no ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - Divorce Support: A Curse or a Blessing? (by: Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownIt really is up to you every day whether you see divorce support as a curse or a blessing! Whether you are the giver or the receiver, I recommend you reframe it as a blessing. Is this easy? Of course not! However, if you actually go through the trauma of getting divorced and you stay married ...
Views: 1469(1 vote) - DivorceForce : Survival Guide - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownIf you have been affected by divorce or separation or are considering ending your marriage you're going to want to tune in to DivorceForce Survival Guide. In each episode, DivorceForce CEO Gregory Frank tackles various aspects of divorce through candid discussions with leading industry experts ...
Views: 1305(1 vote) - Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on May 08, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"Never make yourself feel like nothing, to make someone else feel like everything!" Rationalizing has to be prevalent when there is Domestic Abuse because how else could you convince yourself to stay. First you have to recognize that you are being emotionally, physically and or sexually ...
Views: 1325(1 vote) - Dos and Don’ts of Visitation From the Therapist! (by: Anne Brown PhD,RNCS) - by Submitted on May 12, 2016 from Dr. Anne Brown"The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other." ~ Jane Bauston Do treat your Children like Gold! Remember you just turned your children's life (and they didn't have a vote) upside down. They now have to decipher new rules, new logistics, probable logistical ...
Views: 1252(1 vote) - DRAMA - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends and it will get you the right ones.” We all have been there! Maybe you had a friend or you know someone now who is in a big DRAMA! The situation keeps getting worse and you can’t believe the stories… affairs, lying, addictions, bills not paid, ...
Views: 1535(1 vote) - Get 20% Off Backbone Power - A Self-Help Audiobook With Code JULY4 - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownBackbone Power, an easy to understand book, tackles the question of whether being a “people pleaser” is a virtue or a curse. Backbone Power takes the reader on a self-guided tour of their deepest thought processes to arrive at an understanding of the true “Self”. As they gain a better ...
Views: 1005(1 vote) - Guest Author Interview – Dr. Anne Brown - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownTitle: Backbone Power: The Science of Saying No Genre: Co-dependency/Stress Management Synopsis: A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To ...
Views: 1195(1 vote) - Healing From Betrayal - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownLet’s look at the definition of betrayal so we can understand why it hurts so much. Webster’s definition: To hurt (someone who trusts you, such as a friend or relative) by not giving help or by doing something morally wrong. “The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from ...
Views: 1945(1 vote) - Honoring Our Veterans! - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownWe Are All One! We are living during a time where we have forgotten we are all one. We all have muscles, bones, organs, tissues, blood and we come in different colored packages. We also have different ideas. We have to find ways to connect through our similar beliefs and learn through our ...
Views: 1026(1 vote) - How Saying NO, Having a Backbone, and Being Your Authentic Self Can Help You Become Successful? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownIs this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for? Backbone Power was written to help everyone from mothers, to college grads, to people that have ...
Views: 1921(1 vote) - How The Moon Centers Can Turn A Woman's Life Around - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownMoon Centers. Let’s face it, many women have out-of-control emotions—huge emotional swings that they often blame on PMS, SMS, MPS—whatever! Some people would say it’s easier to just let the emotions rule. Wrong. As a woman, I’m sure that you’d welcome knowing that there are ways other than ...
Views: 1363(1 vote) - How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game! - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownRemember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes time in pain and sorrow. ...
Views: 789(1 vote) - How to Get the Best Out of Your 12-Step Meeting! - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownAttending a support group can be a very positive part of your recovery plan, as long as you understand what is healthy and what is dysfunctional. Let’s look at a few qualities of support groups and what happens when things get out of balance… Similarities vs Enmeshment When I join a support ...
Views: 2293(1 vote) - How To Have A Holiday that Nourishes Your Soul - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownThe Challenges to Having a Holiday in Recovery One of my twitter followers suggested I write about designing a holiday that nourishes our soul. Not a holiday designed to get others approve of us. These are simple powerful words. These words include everything I write and teach in order to ...
Views: 908(1 vote) - How To Heal From A Borderline Spouse - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownStay or Leave? When I wrote about healing from the Narcissist, I used the paradigm that the spouse had physically left the marriage. Today we are going to address physically staying or leaving but always with the goal of emotionally leaving the emotional abuse of the spouse with borderline ...
Views: 1342(1 vote) - How to Leave A Narcissist! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne Brown“Stop Asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.” ~Charles J. Orlando Today we are going to address leaving a narcissist emotionally and physically. Many people feel they cannot leave physically because of logistical concerns (e.g. money, no support system, ...
Views: 1322(1 vote) - How To Set Boundaries | Backbone Power - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownHow To Set Healthy Boundaries and Live Life with Authenticity | Get Backbone Power Audiobook by Dr. Anne Brown -a psychotherapist, speaker, author, coach. https://backbonepower.com/backbonepower-audiobook/ A No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and ...
Views: 1135(1 vote) - I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor. ~Henry David Thoreau - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Dr. Anne BrownKeep making those Requests Making requests may seem like such a simple thing. Of course I do that you say to yourself. Check again it can be the root of many negative emotions especially resentment. I have a friend of many years who as a teenager was experimenting with a rocket that exploded ...
Views: 1568(1 vote) - In America You Are Allowed To Say NO! - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything." In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening ...
Views: 1330(1 vote) - Is it Love or Codependency? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownHow do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? This is an excellent question and often confusing for many for different reasons. Let’s look at the definitions of codependent and loving and see what we find. Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we ...
Views: 1763(1 vote) - Juicy Relationship For Couples: Rules For Creating And Keeping It - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownI could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Managing Energy For Success - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownWhat are the components of successful people? So many people over time have dissected this and put the pieces together backwards and forwards. They have used it to sell courses. The formula has been used to sell everything imaginable. I don’t want to sell you anything. I want to give you ...
Views: 1250(1 vote) - Must Read: Dating After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownWhether this is your first time in the dating world or you are newly divorced and entering the dating world, there are some steps you can take to help guard against divorce. There are no guarantees and why not do everything you can to live happily ever after with that someone special? Guess ...
Views: 1249(1 vote) - My Spouse has Borderline Personality Disorder! by Anne Brown, Author Backbone Power - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownWhen your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BP), whether it’s a sudden realization or a long-known fact, it can be challenging. Those in relationships with BP individuals may be subject to unique forms of manipulation or toxicity. Recognizing these habits of the BP is the first step to ...
Views: 1431(1 vote) - Narcissistic Abuse | Betrayal | Divorce | Codependency | People Pleasing | Authenticity | Backbone - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownHave you been a victim or do you know someone who's a victim of Narcissistic Abuse and Betrayal? Are you getting a Divorce? Do you want to learn more about Codependency and People Pleasing? Learn why havingAuthenticity and Backbone will help you. Be among the first to see my newest blog ...
Views: 1735(1 vote) - NO is a Complete Sentence! - by Dr. Anne Brown - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2020 from Dr. Anne Brownwe introduced the importance of being able to say No. For the purpose of our discussion this week we are talking about people with equal status in the relationship. This does not include parent-child, teacher-student, or employer-employee. These relationships have different guidelines for ...
Views: 860(1 vote) - Passion - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Dr. Anne BrownThere is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. ...
Views: 1065(1 vote) - Preparing for Divorce in the Face of Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownThe History For years women and children have been considered to be property of men. There were laws enabling men to punish their wives physically. By the 1920’s all states had made “wife beating” illegal, however it has only been since the 1970’s the courts have treated it as a serious crime ...
Views: 1380(1 vote) - Reinventing the Concepts of Recovery - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownWouldn’t it be great if we could wave our magic wand and no one would relapse? Until we understand more about addictions (and we have work to do there), we will have to tackle relapse in other ways. Let’s look at a couple of possible breakdowns that might lead to relapse and find some ways to ...
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