Dear Dr. Romance:

I am confused I am dating a deaf girl and I love her with all my heart.  The problem is she likes to party sleeping around and in the community they have noticed it.  They  keep complaining about deaf gals but sometimes I want to cry coz I love that girl so much.  

Dear Rufus:

I understand you love her, but does she love you? Are you both deaf? If you're not deaf, can you speak American Sign with her?

Often, women are promiscuous until they find a guy they want to be faithful to. The same is true for guys. Maybe she doesn't share your feelings, maybe she's not ready to settle down. At any rate, it's too soon to get too focused on her.

Why not see if you can be just her friend until she decides she wants to be more serious in her life?  "Stupid Cupid"  "Relationships 101: Do Opposites Attract?"  and "Guidelines for Successful Dating"  will help you understand what it takes to create a relationship. Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today  will help you want to find someone you can really love.


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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.