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- How to Write (and Market) a Quality eBook - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorAn e-book can satisfy your desire to write, act as a business building tool, and provide true value to others in many ways. There are guidelines should you use to guarantee its quality. Here are several key points you want to use to improve or guarantee value for readers. Consider them before ...
Views: 2004(4 votes) - Life Coach, What Is Unique About You? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorYou may have learned the same skills as your peers when you trained, but what is unique about you? What do you do or offer (or would like to) that’s different? Mike Litman said, “Your prosperity is hidden in the problem you were born to solve.” It’s not only about what is unique about you, ...
Views: 2490(4 votes) - How Do You Listen to Yourself? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorIt can be amazing to listen to how people talk about their perception of reality. You can literally hear how close they get to a point that would allow shift, but stop short. I had dinner with a friend I hadn’t seen in a long while. As he told me about things that were different, it was easy ...
Views: 1838(5 votes) - What Is Your Gift, and Do You Share It? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorYour gift is what you do in your unique way. Ironically, you may do it so naturally, you don’t recognize it for what it is or realize what you might do with it. Whatever you do in life, you can have a more joyful, meaningful experience if you shine the light on and share what is unique about ...
Views: 1255(6 votes) - Do You Feed Negativity? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWhen negativity knocks at your door, do you recognize it and send it away? Or do you invite it in for dinner, or worse, to stay with you as long as it likes—possibly for your lifetime? First, be clear that being the manager of negativity in your life isn’t about the fact you have negative ...
Views: 5131(25 votes) - Are You Engaged in Effort or Struggle? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2012 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWhen you feel disempowered, you engage in struggle. What’s the way back to personal strength and power when this happens? Based on how you feel in your life right now, you know if it’s effort or struggle you’re engaging at this time. Here’s a bit more information to help you gain greater ...
Views: 1665(1 vote) - Be True To Yourself - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2007 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorAll of us have moments when we find ourselves at a crossroads and we’re not positively certain which path to take.. We may turn to family or friends for their thoughts and ideas. This is good if what you’re doing is looking for something akin to brainstorming for things to consider. Some who are ...
Views: 3832(1 vote) - Do These Time Wasters Affect Your Life? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorActivities we usually name as time wasters are too much TV viewing, daydreaming, or anything that isn’t a productive use of minutes and hours. Here are a few more to consider. Gossip. What’s the point, really? Conveying needed information to the appropriate person or people is useful, but ...
Views: 2110(3 votes) - Do You Prefer Experiencing or Learning? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorSomeone emailed this comment to me: “They say live and learn, but I think we should just LIVE. Learning is overrated. We would never accomplish anything.” Do you agree or disagree? This comment gave me pause; and I could have chosen to go down a certain mental-emotional path of disagreement. ...
Views: 1261(2 votes) - Do You Rub Your Thoughts the Wrong Way? - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorThere is a phrase, “That person rubs me the wrong way,” that basically means the person (though it also could be a situation) doesn’t make you feel good. You, at times, do this with your thoughts (most of us do); so what works to shift this? Esther Hicks of Abraham fame has a video on ...
Views: 3103(3 votes) - Does Gender Influence Prosperity? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorTrue prosperity represents well-being in all areas of our lives. We know men and women are different, but we didn’t know one particular difference affects their prosperity attraction quotient. Ellie Drake of BraveHeartWomen and Dr. Sugar Singleton hosted a teleconference that was as riveting ...
Views: 1846(2 votes) - Need to Amp Up Your Motivation and Commitment? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorCan a simple statement really get you motivated to start, do, or improve something you’re putting off? Let’s find out. Think of something you desire to be different, or feel challenged about following through on. See or feel it in your mind’s eye. Really connect with it. Now, say to yourself, ...
Views: 1301(2 votes) - The Challenge of Proof of vs. Faith in Infinite Abundance - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorIf you’re not experiencing infinite abundance, there’s a good reason it’s not your “reality” yet. The reason relates to a riddle. The challenge is like the riddle: which came first, the chicken or the egg? In this case it’s which comes first, measurable proof that you’re infinitely abundant ...
Views: 1661(3 votes) - To-Do vs. Inspired-to-Do - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorI’m a solopreneur who enjoys what I do; so I was amazed when I woke one morning not wanting to do any of it! I had to assess what had happened and flip it. It started the prior week, and proved to be a needed reminder of what I’d discovered about to-do vs. inspired-to-do, and temporarily ...
Views: 1301(3 votes) - What Else Can Your Negativity Cost You? - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorYou are aware of some costs to you from being negative—too aware, likely. But there’s a new way it might cost you, and it’s not on the horizon, it’s happening now. How easy it is to slip into negativity, especially when we’re frustrated or disappointed. That kind of approach to life ...
Views: 1224(3 votes) - Would You Rather Be On Purpose or Perfect? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorBe perfect or be on purpose? Which one of these has been “driving your bus” so far? If you or someone you know struggles with perfectionism, can this hold you back from living on purpose? Ask someone to walk to the moon and you’ll hear, “Not realistic,” as a response. They wouldn’t have a ...
Views: 1288(2 votes) - You Reached Your Goal So Why Do You Feel Less Than You Anticipated? - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorYou pick a goal and hit it. You’re supposed to feel good or great, even amazing—but, you don’t. Hmm . . . You followed the formula: picked a goal, made a plan, worked your plan. You succeeded, but you don’t feel the way you thought you would. What happened? You aimed at the wrong target. ...
Views: 1550(5 votes) - Has Approval Been Your “Currency” Exchange in Life, Business, and Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorAll the strategies, systems, programs, books you’ve invested in that haven’t shifted your prosperity or life experience may have missed one key point. You may not realize approval, rather than value-for-value, is your imprinted “currency” exchange. Expectations and limiting beliefs introduced ...
Views: 1371(4 votes) - Is Someone Telling You That You Are Broken? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorDo you have a person in your life now (or did) who frequently tells you what’s flawed about you or broken? Do you believe him or her? What might be going on with them, and you? "Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." - Pearl Strachan Hurd I want to share a ...
Views: 1447(4 votes) - How Would You Answer This Simple Happiness Question? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorDo you ever compare where you are now in your life to where others are, or to where you thought you should be by this time? If you do and don’t feel happy, the question and comments here may help. I have a friend who recently set up a Facebook page and began to reconnect with long-lost ...
Views: 1610(7 votes) - Fine Tune Your Life for the New Year or Any Time of Year - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorThere’s a simple way to re-focus your time and energy to get a better start and results in a new year—or any time of year—in any area of your life. Just ask yourself the two questions offered here. Two emails I received reminded me about the principle described below. I’d already had in mind ...
Views: 1384(3 votes) - Why Should A Life Coach Write? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorHow and what do you feel when a writer shares an insight or technique that creates a desired shift for you at the inner and/or outer level? Exactly! You’re reading this now, which means you have a desire to provide a similar experience for others through your unique offering: articles, ...
Views: 1585(3 votes) - How do You Grade Your Worth and Self-Worth? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorHave you ever thought about how the way we’re taught to measure worth and self-worth is similar to how we got tests graded in school? There is an interesting parallel. The school grades you received for tests measured, in a limited fashion: how well you took tests (often designed to be ...
Views: 1639(9 votes) - What Is Your Core Safety Switch That Stops Your Success? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorYou may have a core “switch” set to keep you safe. What if self-sabotage is actually your switch doing its job? Maybe it’s time you give this a closer look. You can apply what follows to any area of your life where you feel attaining success is a struggle, but let’s start with ...
Views: 1324(9 votes) - Is It Time You Write to Make a Difference? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorAre you a life coach (or not) who toys with the idea of writing articles, e-books, and/or books? Don’t let a block stop you from making a difference; someone is waiting to hear from you. Imagine receiving emails that say something like “I had a breakthrough when I read your article.” (from a ...
Views: 2136(4 votes) - What Is the Only Thing You Have Absolute Control Of? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorDid you get the answer to this question immediately? Horace said, “Life is largely a matter of expectations.” Expectations have a lot to do with the one thing you can control. There is one thing in life you have absolute control over: Your attitude. An excellent quote to remember is, ...
Views: 1812(4 votes) - Do Writers Really Have Blocks? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWhat does your block look like? How does it behave? Here are some tips to help you kick the “buts” about blocks. I don’t believe in writer’s block, just the fact that one or more questions need to be asked; and, relaxed patience is needed while the answer comes to you. When I attempted my ...
Views: 2270(5 votes) - Is Mainstream the Wrong Stream for You? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorFor many, mainstream is like a tailored suit; for some, it’s like a straightjacket. Are you swimming in the wrong stream or against the current? Mainstream, in this writing, means demonstrating via your life, work, relationships, etc., an “acceptable” model or role model, as much as ...
Views: 1477(6 votes) - "Left A Good Job In The City..." - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2007 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorJoin in, if you know the tune—“Workin’ for the man every night and day...” You don’t have to work in a city these days, though, to want to start a home business, whether part- or full-time. There are as many reasons a person wants to work from home as there are people who wish or choose to do ...
Views: 930(1 vote) - Are You Attached to How Your Life Looks? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWhich is more important: the structure of your life or the foundation of who you are? One individual provided an extreme example of why this is important. A friend/coaching client asked me to help him find his footing about a work-related incident. He works in the mental health field where ...
Views: 1479(3 votes) - Are You Thinking or Processing? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorSurely, the mental energy you’re giving current (or old) issues is accomplishing something, right? It depends on if you’re thinking or processing. You, too, may appreciate this exchange between Bob Proctor and Leslie Householder when they met, before she wrote her first book that became a ...
Views: 1494(4 votes) - Can Goals, Strategies, and Systems Prevent Your Success? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorGoals, Strategies, and Systems vs. Magnetic Visions. What thoughts are triggered when you consider this? Which one feels like a better “ride” for you? Wallace Wattles wrote in his book, The Science of Getting Rich — “Man is a thinking center, and can originate thought. All the forms that ...
Views: 1345(2 votes) - Do We Teach People How to Treat Us? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWe can teach others how to treat us, but others also reflect to us how we treat ourselves (self-value), which is often a more subtle dynamic. Do you see how this creates a loop? Let’s bypass childhood and more extreme scenarios, as both of those are different conversations. Let’s consider ...
Views: 2197(4 votes) - How Will Reframing Prosperity Help Me? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWhat does prosperity mean to you? How’s that working for you? Wayne Dyer gave us a great quote about how to reframe: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” A statement from “Empower Me 365” is, “True prosperity is having something (anything) to share and ...
Views: 1124(1 vote) - Why Being and Feeling Authentic Can Be Challenging Especially These Days - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2012 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorMark Twain said, “The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.” Whatever you pursue in your outer life will never fill the inner void created by feeling inauthentic; you have to fill it yourself, and first. “Sam” was so distressed and confused that he’d pretty much shut down; ...
Views: 2275(2 votes) - Say Goodbye to New Year Resolutions - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorNo, it isn’t too early to consider this; it is exactly the right time. The very things you do or don’t do about resolutions are what you do right now. And, you can do them differently starting today. First, it’s important to understand why resolutions you make any time fizzle out. For one, ...
Views: 1384(7 votes) - Do You Need New Writer Clues? - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorAh, the thrill of being a new writer. You hold the image of or feel excitement about your completed or soon-to-be-completed project. What kind of clues might a new writer need; and will you avoid this kind of embarrassment? I received an email from the relative of a new writer. She was ...
Views: 921(2 votes) - Ready to Write Your E-book? - by Submitted on May 29, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorIs sharing information in a form smaller than a manuscript right up your alley? Here are some tips to help you easily get it going and into the marketplace. Decide on a topic. Successful e-books aim at a niche market that seeks specific information. The best combination is to know what you ...
Views: 1106(2 votes) - How Can You Say What I’ve Written Needs Work - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorYou must fall in love with editing and rewriting or with your editor if you want what you write to be a good read for others. There really is no way around this. You can choose to improve your skills or you can choose to find a freelance editor you trust and work well with. Some new writers ...
Views: 757(1 vote) - How Do I Get Published? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorThis is a question my clients who are new and aspiring writers always ask me. We write for different reasons: Enjoyment, challenge, and to share information or our creative effort. If you’re going to share what you’ve written, you’ll need a means or venue to get published. But you knew that, ...
Views: 750(1 vote) - How Important is Editing and Rewriting? And, Tips for Working with an Editor. - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorEnthusiasm is one reason why new writers gets anything written at all. Misconception of what else is involved is what usually rattles their enthusiasm. It doesn’t have to be this way, though. One reason I wrote the e-book, “Write, Get Published, and Promote,”** was because my ...
Views: 825(1 vote) - Important Tips for New Fiction and Nonfiction Writers - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorSome of these simple tips may be familiar to you, and some may not. They can make or break your ability to be considered a serious writer by an agent, editor, or publication. See if you practice these tips consistently. If not, choose to begin to. • Use spell-check but don’t rely ...
Views: 720(1 vote) - I’ve Started To Write (Or Finished); Now What? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWhatever you were writing, you’ve completed it. Are you really, actually, finally done? Not if you haven’t done this. When I interact with new writers, they often have the misconception that because they’ve created something with a beginning, middle, and ending they’re done. They’re ready to ...
Views: 726(1 vote) - Manuscript Tips for New Novel Writers - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book Doctor“Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” You don’t want to imitate a favorite author, but you can learn a lot from him or her. Whether you create notes for plot and character development first or dive into writing your novel, you want to get as much written as possible in your first ...
Views: 881(1 vote) - Manuscript Tips for New Novel Writers - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Joyce Shafer, Book Doctor“Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” You don’t want to imitate a favorite author, but you can learn a lot from him or her. Whether you create notes for plot and character development first or dive into writing your novel, you want to get as much written as possible in your first ...
Views: 1107(1 vote) - Motivate Your Writer Within - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book Doctor“You don’t have to get it right you just have to get it going.” – Mike Litman I’m a huge fan of this quote, and believe new or aspiring (and even experienced) writers can benefit by repeating it as often as needed. Wherever you are on your path as a writer, there’s a temptation to believe you ...
Views: 797(1 vote) - One Way To Make What You Write Better - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorAnytime you decide to write anything, whether it’s an article or a manuscript, you should congratulate yourself. Some people find writing easy, while others feel less sure about the process or their skills. Either type of writer is courageous. You know that when you write, especially if you ...
Views: 698(1 vote) - The Hesitant Writer - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorStephanie Chandler wrote in her book, “From Entrepreneur to Infopreneur” that a survey indicated nearly 80 percent of Americans would like to write a book. That’s a stunning number of potential writers. There are a variety of reasons why some do what’s needed to become a writer and why others ...
Views: 988(1 vote) - Tips for Aspiring Writers: Tighten Your Writing - by Submitted on May 06, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorWhat does tighten your writing mean? What Blaise Pascal wrote gives you an idea: “The present letter is a very long one, simply because I had no leisure to make it shorter.” Though Pascal was a mathematician and physicist turned religious philosopher, his point benefits every ...
Views: 1383(1 vote) - Whack A Few Writing Myths - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2008 from Joyce Shafer, Book DoctorThere’s all kinds of advice on how to write including • You must write every day. • Write in the same designated spot at the same time every day. • Write for at least one hour every day. • Get up early several mornings or every morning to write. • You must have complete silence. • You must eat ...
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