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The Top 3 Tools to Deal with Anger in RelationshipsGetting Angry At The Right Person To The Right Degree At The Right Time- Prevent Temper Don't Manage It - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2015 from Michael MantellFrom simple annoyance to fiery rage, loss of temper, with its emotional and physiological mayhem, so mess with your life that it’s time to prevent, not just manage the thunder. Lashing out in anger over even the smallest slights or obstacles only makes sense if your goal is to strip yourself of ...
Views: 672 - The 15 Minute Conflict Resolution Solution - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ...
Views: 1201 - Healing Anger and Abuse With Help From Beyond - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI was truly blessed: when my first husband and I married I acquired a second set of parents. I could not have loved "Bob" and "Mary" more and their fondness for me was generously reciprocated. For the eighteen years I was with their son, we were family. However, my husband's decision to end our ...
Views: 784 - Fear or Faith; Anger or Peace? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWhen I was a child my dad would take all of us for a "Sunday drive". Mom, my sisters, and I would pile into his 1950's Chevy sedan with the green vinyl seat covers and off we'd go. I never knew where he was taking us or when we would arrive home. But two things I knew for sure: Dad would ...
Views: 747 - Anger - A Solution to End the Addicting, Inefficient, Exhausting and Unsustainable Effects of Anger - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Jeff SandersAnger as a tool is inefficient, exhausting and unsustainable. Anger is the belly down, anguishing and wailing toddler in the grocery aisle. Let’s face it, angry people are not fun. We don’t want to work for them, be around them or have them in our lives. Most of us will go out of our way to ...
Views: 1039(1 vote) - Why Your Body Needs You to Forgive - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI'm blessed to have parents who, early-on in life, instilled in me the importance of forgiveness. "They didn't mean what they said." "Your friend is probably just having a bad day." My mom was, and still is, one who always saw the best in people and chose compassion over anger. So it has always ...
Views: 739(1 vote) - How to Stop Being Angry With Someone - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI find it amusing that very often when I'm scheduled to do a radio show or present a lecture I'm speaking on a subject matter that reflects a lesson I need reminded of. Today's show is no exception. I'm one who is slow to anger and quick to forgive. However, occasionally I find myself trapped in ...
Views: 882 - Your Difficult Child - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2015 from Jason MagillHandling Anger When Your Difficult Child Cannot I believe that if you’re reading this, you care about helping your difficult child. That is one of the biggest steps in the right direction. I’ve seen too many adults that just want their difficult child “fixed”. The reality is that the ...
Views: 731(1 vote) - Why Do Couples Fight and How Not To - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI enjoy reading advice columns. Yesterday, a disgruntled woman complained that Hallmark created the upcoming holiday of Valentine's Day to remind singles that they are losers. (I'm pretty sure Hallmark wasn't in existence during the Middle Ages when this day was first set aside to celebrate ...
Views: 594(1 vote) - Resolving Inner Anarchy - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaRecent events have me thinking about political anarchy—riots, bombings, civil wars, threats, and other bad and dangerous behavior around the world. Politically, anarchy means obeying no laws. It’s frightening to watch a mob take over. Anarchy is the result of two things: repression ...
Views: 655 - How to Make a Difficult Conversation Easier - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2015 from Janet PfeifferConversations can be risky at times. The more sensitive the topic, the more delicately we need to approach it while maintaining a truthful and honest demeanor . The subtle balance between being blunt and abrasive or being effectual is one that many are not equipped to navigate. In my more ...
Views: 863 - Misdirected Anger - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe've all taken our anger out on the wrong party, not to say that there is ever a right party who is deserving of our ire. It's not uncommon to be upset with one person and misdirect it at someone or something else. Your boss has been crabby all day and continually comments on every aspect of ...
Views: 8686 - Silencing Your Inner Critic - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI learned to be critical of myself at a very early age. I never did anything right; everyone else was better than me; and even worse, I was never good enough, period. It didn't help that during my impressionable formative years, society taught that the more you denigrated a child the harder ...
Views: 703 - Problem Interactions in the Workplace - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Janet PfeifferMost of us work for a living. On or off the job we are bound to encounter a wide range of, shall I say, challenging personalities? Bullies, intimidators, hypocrites, backstabbers, underminers, instigators, complainers, gossips, withholders, and know-it-alls just to name a few. Their presence can ...
Views: 1214 - The Disassociation of a Rapist - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2015 from Roni Weisberg-RossWhile I have reposted a couple of articles on the subject, I wasn’t going to write about Bill Cosby or the subject of serial rape; there are enough articles and editorials on this subject. What has now made me decide to join the fray is a recent statement by a friend of his that “this isn’t ...
Views: 613 - Anger: How Much is Too Much? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Janet PfeifferJesus got angry. He was troubled by the many injustices he encountered while on Earth. At times, he expressed his dismay to those around Him. Anger, as with all emotions, has a place and purpose. But how does one know if there is too much anger in their lives? Here are ten warning signs to ...
Views: 1609 - New Year - No Anger - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Janet PfeifferHere it is: the beginning of another new year. All around the globe people are making New Year's resolutions to lose weight, be happier, spend more quality time with their families and so on. I find it rather odd that in a world filled with anger and violence no one makes a declaration to "not ...
Views: 816 - How to Stop People From Hurting You - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Janet PfeifferIf I posed the question, "Who in your life has hurt you?", you might respond with, "Must I limit it to only one?" We've all been on the receiving end of someone's thoughtless behavior - their anger, sarcasm, back stabbing or betrayals. We've been hurt by those we know and love and even some that ...
Views: 987 - What Part Does Sex Play in Recovery From Alcoholism? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainIt is probably fair to say that the issue of sex and sexual relationships does not feature very heavily in the pecking order of emotional issues and emotional drives that tend to fuel an individual's alcoholism or addiction. It is however a hugely important issue that often plays a crucial ...
Views: 1673 - Demonizing - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaDemonizing is a coping mechanism that we employ to painlessly process our fears. It is the act of projecting onto a person, situation or environment-separation. Any time we speak negatively of another person, situation or environment, we are claiming that this seemingly separate experience is ...
Views: 991 - Letting Go - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaI’d like to discuss a popular concept in modern spirituality: “Letting Go”. This is the idea that we must release something that no longer serves us. In theory, “Letting Go” beholds within itself the necessary components for relief, moving on and healing. The reality is, that letting go is a ...
Views: 708 - Spite and Envy: Passive-Aggressive Narcissists - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Personality Disorder is not yet recognized by the DSM Committee. It makes its appearances in Appendix B of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, titled "Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for ...
Views: 2140 - Get Difficult Relationships on the Right TRAC - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Janet PfeifferFor the most part, I don't associate with people who difficult to get along with. Being a sole entrepreneur, I am not subjected to dealing with obnoxious coworkers, irate customers or demanding bosses (although I am tough to work for but fortunately I get along very well with myself). Socially, ...
Views: 707 - Confessions of a Facebook Reject! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageYes, it’s true…I’ve joined the ranks of Facebook rejects. Amazingly, I still don’t know why this happened. There could be any number of reasons from too many friends, too many messages, too many invitations or being perceived as a spammer. Regardless of the reason, the fact remains; I have to ...
Views: 1133 - Intercept Anger Before It Begins - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWe all get angry. It's a normal part of our human experience. Anger is neither wrong nor bad. As with all emotions, it serves a valuable purpose and in this case alerts us to the fact that something is amiss and needs our attention to correct. It is how we choose to express and apply it that ...
Views: 677 - Family Feuds, Quick Tips to Resolve Them - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2014 from Janet PfeifferFamilies: they can be our greatest source of joy or a never ending cause of stress. Some might like to have a few parts replaced, others may prefer to trade theirs in for a more suitable model. Some are grateful to have a family regardless while others would prefer to travel through life solo. ...
Views: 776 - Do You Have an Angry Workplace? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2014 from Michael MantellWe’ve all heard about road rage. But, have you heard about the latest area for people to dump their anger? Desk rage. Well, maybe it’s not really the latest. I wrote a book about violence in the workplace in 1994, “Ticking Bombs: Defusing Violence in the Workplace”. Same disease, now a new ...
Views: 884(1 vote) - The COLTS Method of Instantly Resolving Problems - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWe've all had our share of problems in life, some more than others but problems none-the-less. If you're anything like me, you eventually grow weary dealing with and finding solutions to unpleasant situations. Rather than win the lottery, some might opt to have all of their problems vanish, ...
Views: 634 - Nationalism vs. Patriotism: Narcissism vs. Self-love - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Patriotism is akin to the healthy form of self-love: it consists mainly of pride in one’s self-identity and values based on one’s culture and shared history. Patriotism is not exclusionary, but inclusive. The patriot, in ...
Views: 1067 - Understanding the ABC's of Behavior - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2014 from Bobby HarrisABC approach is a methodology adopted to study the behavior patterns of a person. ABC relates to Antecedents, Behavior and Consequences. The three words may look very simple, but the complexities involved in this study are exceptionally high. Understanding the ABC's of behavior enables one to ...
Views: 1001(2 votes) - Doorbells, Dishtowels, Ducks, and Cake Relieve Anger - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDucks, dishtowels, and doorbells: one wouldn't think they're connected to anger in any way. Cake, on the other hand, is a no-brainer: when upset, eat some. Plain and simple. No one can be angry when stuffing their mouths with a confectionery delight topped with butter cream icing and sugar ...
Views: 839 - Why Forgiveness is Obsolete - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2014 from Janet PfeifferMy mother has always been an advocate of forgiveness. When I was a child she taught me early on to let go of being angry with people. If a friend hurt me she suggested that perhaps they didn't realize what they had done. If it was a family member, well, families don't hold grudges. And as ...
Views: 988 - Silent Anger - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2014 from Janet PfeifferIn the late sixties, I married my high school sweetheart. He was a quiet person by nature so when we began having difficulties in our marriage and his response was one of silence I thought it was just his personality. Little did I realize it was a manipulative technique that would eventually ...
Views: 2390 - Finding Joy in Your Darkest Moments - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWhen I was fourteen, my godparents gave birth to a baby boy after twenty years of marriage. The most joyful day of their lives was shattered by the devastating news that their son had Down's Syndrome. Fifty years ago Downs was a death sentence and Robert was no exception. Three weeks later they ...
Views: 871(1 vote) - How to Stop People From Annoying You - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThey're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ...
Views: 919 - It's Not Fair! - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2014 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 735 - Who Needs Anger? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2014 from Janet PfeifferEveryone - we all need anger. The most simple basic definition of anger is that it's an indication that we have unmet needs that have to be addressed, a sign that something is lacking in our lives that we want to satisfy. As with all emotions, anger is normal, useful, healthy, and necessary. ...
Views: 785 - What Anger Management is Not - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2014 from Jason MagillToday I was reminded of my own anger while driving.I don't get angry that easily or that often. Luckily I know what tools work for me when I start noticing anger wanting to show it's ugly face. Like I've told many clients, it's called Anger Management, not Anger Cure. This is an important ...
Views: 652 - How Dare You Judge Me! - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI'm reasonably confident in saying that there's not a person on this planet who has not felt unfairly judged at some point. While we may feel justified in imposing verdicts on one another, when we are on the receiving end the feeling can be quite hurtful. It is not uncommon to react with anger, ...
Views: 1122 - You Can Be Angry or You Can Be Grateful But You Can't Be Both - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThere is a over abundance of books, articles, and blogs written on the subject of gratitude but did you know that being grateful is actually an antidote to anger? Gratitude is a conscious state of appreciation, the ability to feel good in the midst of difficulties and disappointments, and ...
Views: 3016 - How to Deal with Passive-Aggressive People - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from nancy traversThe trouble with passive-aggression is that both the giver and the receiver often have no idea what’s really going on. In other words, the person who’s passive-aggressive (P-A) may know he hates conflict, may know he’s feeling a little angry and may know he’s covering it up. But he doesn’t ...
Views: 779 - Is There a Passive-Agressive Person in Your Life? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from nancy traversAt best, their behavior is dishonest. At worst, it’s abusive. But you may not have even noticed it. That’s because a passive-aggressive person can be so subtle you may not realize their supposed joke was really a hostile remark. Or their procrastination at getting something you need done is ...
Views: 957 - Healing Anger Natur-ally - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2014 from Janet PfeifferSeveral years ago, I had a client whose nine-year old son had anger issues. His doctor diagnosed him with ADD and suggested medication to quell his angry outbursts. "What do you think?" the mother inquired of me. Not an advocate of prescription medications (with the exception of the most extreme ...
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