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The Top 3 Tools to Deal with Anger in RelationshipsGetting Angry At The Right Person To The Right Degree At The Right Time- IT'S NOT FAIR! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 593 - IT'S NOT FAIR! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 605 - EXPOSING COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT ANGER - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've been presenting seminars on understanding and healing anger for 25 years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life's most powerful emotions. Lack of accurate facts and techniques can have serious repercussions in every aspect of life from ...
Views: 764 - 4 SIMPLE RULES FOR A HAPPY LIFE - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Janet PfeifferMost people I know want to be happy. I say most because there some who are really miserable and seem content remaining that way. They resist every opportunity for joy and find excuses to stay stuck in their gloom. Although I believe that deep down inside every human being desires happiness, I ...
Views: 752 - WHEN LYING IS THE BETTER OPTION - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2017 from Janet PfeifferCurrently there is a commercial on TV where a cheerful woman visits her new neighbor with a homemade pie. She states that she has actually come by not to simply welcome the woman into the neighborhood but to see if in fact she might be weird in some way. The smiling neighbor inquires as to ...
Views: 732 - WHAT TO DO WHEN CONFLICT RESOLUTION FAILS - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWouldn't life be wonderful if every time we disagreed with someone we could find a perfect solution that would satisfy each party and put the issue to rest once and for all? So often when a conflict arises, we spend an enormous amount of time and energy debating it, trying to prove our position, ...
Views: 921 - 5 Tips After Receiving A Traffic Violation - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Harper HarmonA traffic violation, while small in the moment, can have drastic effects in the long term. From possible jail time, to insurance premium increases, the penalty you could pay can heavily outweigh the effect of the violation. If you have prior violations, your penalties could be even tougher. Here ...
Views: 989 - 5 QUALITIES OF NON VIOLENT FIGHTING - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWhen individuals disagree on a subject matter, whether it's politics, religion, home projects, budgeting issues or such, very often the discussion escalates into a full-blown fight. Tensions rise as each side tries to convince the other that their beliefs or ways of doing something are more ...
Views: 959 - WHY YOU NEED TO CHANGE - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2017 from Janet PfeifferPeople become defensive at the thought of someone telling them or implying that they must change. "I am who I am; take it or leave it" is often the response. "I'm not changing for anyone. Except me for who I am or don't be in my life." While many view these comments as signs of self-confidence - ...
Views: 608 - P~R~E ANGER: PREVENT, REDUCE, ELIMINATE - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2017 from Janet PfeifferYou've heard me say in previous shows that anger is a normal, healthy, and in many cases a useful emotion. While some may believe that the feeling itself is wrong or bad, it's not. It is the way we choose to express it and use it determines if it becomes a positive force in our lives to bring ...
Views: 673 - Is Trump's Impeachment a Definite Possibility? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2017 from Thabet Sava HassanIt seems that a new Trump's scandal or controversy surfaces on the venues of the media on a daily basis. One may wonder about reasons behind his ability to withstand the heat to remain president of the USA(POTUS). With a defiant attitude, president Trump is using Twitter to defend his ...
Views: 636 - GOOD L~U~C DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLast week, I spoke before a group of business professionals about dealing with difficult people. It seems that no matter where we are in life, whether at home with our families, in social settings, at work, or just out and about, we encounter challenging and obnoxious people. The first issue we ...
Views: 687 - ROAD RAGE: A MATTER OF LIFE OR DEATH - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2017 from Janet PfeifferRecently, I've been driving into NY City to do mediations for a large clothing manufacture on Madison Ave. I used to teach classes at the Learning Annex and some of my son's doctor's were in the city as well. However, it's been awhile and as incomprehensible as it may sound, NY has become even ...
Views: 765 - SAVING AMERICA: HOW TO REVERSE HATRED AND RESTORE UNITY - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2017 from Janet PfeifferOur country is experiencing the most tumultuous and dangerous period that I can remember since the race riots in the 1960's. Political dissension, racial profiling, random massacres, gender prejudice, a reckless and deceitful media, entitlement, and more have caused a division of American of ...
Views: 921 - HA-HA SORB APPROACH TO BULLIES - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2017 from Janet PfeifferPeople don't typically want to interact with those they consider to be bullies or tyrants. Yet contrary to popular belief, bullies are not bad people. It's their behaviors that are appalling. They act out their pain, loneliness, insecurities, and so on in the most offensive and unkind ways. But ...
Views: 589 - ABCE: ANGER, BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, ENABLING - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Janet PfeifferNo matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Some, feeling overwhelmed or ...
Views: 879 - ANGRY? GET OVER IT! - by Submitted on May 24, 2017 from Janet PfeifferToday my husband and I had our fifth fight. Not bad for a twenty year marriage but regardless, for an anger management professional such as myself, I didn't handle it very well. Actually, fight is not an accurate description as it was more like a huff, that is we got annoyed at each other. Let ...
Views: 652 - How Practicing Metta Meditation Makes Us Better Human Beings - by Submitted on May 18, 2017 from Zohar BondMetta is a quintessentially Buddhist term often translated as lovingkindness, It is the philosophy and practice of unconditional love for others which isn’t marred by our own self-interests, but is instead a genuine hope for physical and mental prosperity starting with ourselves and those ...
Views: 674 - TEN TIPS TO DIFFUSE A VOLATILE SITUATION - by Submitted on May 17, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe are living in a very volatile and dangerous age. Not only have issues of domestic violence, child and animal abuse, anger in the workplace and so on been more apparent, but we are definitely witnessing a rise of violence within our communities. Gangs and individual assaults seem to be taking ...
Views: 674 - WHEN TO FIGHT AND WHEN TO NOT - by Submitted on May 10, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI'm not much of a fighter. When I was a child, my dad taught me that if someone hits you, hit them back but never be the one to throw the first punch. In essence, only fight back when you have to defend yourself. My mom's message was taken from Luke 6:29 and contradicted Dad's: "If someone slaps ...
Views: 669 - NEVER BE A VICTIM AGAIN! - by Submitted on May 03, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt some time in life, most people feel as though they've been treated unfairly to the extent that they would consider themselves a victim. Certainly those who have been the target of a violent crime fall into that category according to society's standards. Even those of lesser offenses can view ...
Views: 839 - Is Your Anger Under Control Or Are You “Eating Your Heart”? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonThe ancient Egyptians had a fairly complicated process by which they were allowed - or not – to access what we might now call “Heaven” after their death. Among other things, they were to approach the gods of the Underworld with a series of negative affirmations: a recitation of all those things ...
Views: 661 - How to Tell If You are an Aggressive Driver - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2017 from Adora CollinsRoad rage. It is something that no one wants to deal with, but many people jokingly say they have. The scary fact is that there are angry drivers out there on the road just waiting for the next annoyance to set them off. If you are an angry or aggressive driver, it’s time to get your emotions ...
Views: 629 - RIGHTEOUS ANGER - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIn regards to anger, I have good news and some bad news. First the good news: there is nothing wrong with being angry. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It is even necessary for justice to preside as well as for our very survival. The bad news is that it is not ok to express it whenever and ...
Views: 686 - THE T-I-B-Bs AFFECT ON ANGER - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAlthough we often classify a person's actions as problematic, in truth a person's conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is nothing more than an outward expression of an internal issue. For example, if an individual is in a bad mood and arguing with those around them, the fighting simply ...
Views: 708 - LAUGH AWAY ANGER - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2017 from Janet PfeifferPeople take life far too seriously. There are important issues in our world such as child abuse, war, poverty, starvation, disease, etc. These are all matters critical for the well-being of humanity. Each one needs to be addressed and resolved quickly in order to protect mankind and eliminate ...
Views: 1119 - "GO AHEAD - GET GOOD AND ANGRY!" - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's hard to avoid getting angry. Even those who are relatively easy going find themselves irate from time to time. At the most inopportune moments, anger can rear its ugly head and create all sorts of havoc in our lives. Consider these examples: You've been under extraordinary amounts of ...
Views: 758 - "THE F~B~I WAY TO WARD OFF ANGER - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've been teaching people about anger for nearly twenty five years. What I do is commonly referred to as anger management training. However, this implies that people must first become irate and then seek methods of how to manage it effectively, express it appropriately, and ultimately put it to ...
Views: 712 - A W-I-S-E APPROACH TO RESOLVING CONFLICTS - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIn college, one of my philosophy professors would frequently have the class debate a hot topic. He'd randomly divide the class in half and have each side present their best argument in support of their assigned position. Regardless of how you felt personally, you were expected to gather as many ...
Views: 1108 - Part 2: "20+ TIMES TO NOT SAY ANYTHING" - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Janet PfeifferContinuing from where we left off last week, remember that there is a time to speak and a time to keep our mouths shut. Here are more examples of when it's best to remain silent: 11. When you are tempted to outright lie. People lie for a variety of reasons: to protect themselves or another ...
Views: 981 - 20+ TIMES NOT TO SAY ANYTHING - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferThere are so many times in our lives when we realize after the fact that it would have been in our best interest to have kept our thoughts to ourselves. Words are powerful and can make matters better or cause damage to others or get us into a whole lot of trouble. There is much wisdom in the old ...
Views: 987 - ANGER: FIRE OR ICE? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of ...
Views: 820 - ALTERNATIVE RESPONSES TO ANGER - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLife doesn't always turn out the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a ...
Views: 1270 - MAD, SAD, OR GLAD: THE OPTIONS - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe all get angry from time-to-time. Sometimes our anger is righteous, that is to say it is justifiable and other times without valid cause. For instance, imagine your child is late returning from an evening basketball game. He does not call to let you know that the game went into overtime. ...
Views: 781 - Managing a Family Member going Ballistic - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Gary DirenfeldIt almost doesn’t matter what triggered it. What matters is it is escalating out of control. Someone in your home is going ballistic. Someone is losing it and there is a risk of property damage and/or a physical altercation. It is already scary. Very scary. These are situations not to be ...
Views: 600 - Control Your Anger - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2016 from Mitra ShahidiControl your anger or it will control you. Control your anger as it can cloud your ability to make good decisions and find creative solutions to problems. It can negatively affect your work performance. With insight about the real reasons for your anger and learning anger management ...
Views: 859 - THE 15 MINUTE CONFLICT RESOLUTION SOLUTION - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ...
Views: 835 - 2017 COMING ATTRACTIONS: “Greatest Hits of the Kali Yuga* (Darkest Age)” - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2016 from joan pancoeDear One, This is the hardest newsletter I’ve ever felt called upon to write. Why? Because I wish I could share more unequivocally positive coming attractions for 2017 and beyond. So, I apologize in advance for not pulling my punches. But, those of you who know me well personally ...
Views: 1233(3 votes) - STICKS AND STONES: DISARMING HURTFUL WORDS - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI used to pride myself on being sensitive. The problem was I was easily hurt by the things other people said to me. I lived in a chronic state of pain which lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and low self-esteem. But the alternative (being cold and aloof) was less appealing so I resigned myself ...
Views: 901 - Ten Tips For Arguing Wtih An Idiot - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2016 from Janet Pfeiffer"Idiots" are simply people like you and I who are struggling with unresolved personal issues ranging from low self-esteem to ego, insecurity to poor impulse control and more. While it is acceptable to regard the behavior as idiotic, it is never permissible to label the individual as such. People ...
Views: 766(1 vote) - The BLAME Game - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen something goes wrong in your life, who do you blame? “I’m in so much debt because the economy is bad and everything is so expensive. It’s not my fault” “My mother always criticized me when I was a child. That’s why I suffer from low self esteem and make so many bad choices.” Sadly, ...
Views: 953 - A NIGHT AT THE RACES - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen I was younger I must have fallen asleep for twenty years like Rip Van Winkle. Then when I awoke, somewhere in adulthood, I noticed a most unusual evolving phenomenon: in a world where only two distinct races existed (black and white) there were now Hispanics, Asians, Latinos, and others. ...
Views: 577 - L~A~V~S~S METHOD: 5 KEYS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2016 from Janet PfeifferKeeping our disagreements from becoming full-blown fights can be challenging. Many times, we're so passionate about our beliefs or what we want to do that any form of opposition causes us to become frustrated and angry. We may prefer that others simply agree with our position or if they don't to ...
Views: 958 - WHEN ANGER MANAGEMENT DOESN'T WORK - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI've been teaching anger management and conflict resolution for nearly a quarter of a century. What makes me so successful in my work is that I do not lecture on any subject matter that I haven't personally experienced and mastered. In that regard, people find me authentic and know that if I've ...
Views: 687 - Trump's despicable lewd remarks are demeaning to women everywhere - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2016 from Thabet Sava HassanRecently, the American public was disgusted and horrified by the despicable lewd and vulgar remarks about women which were made by Donald Trump. The remarks were uttered during appearances on Access Hollywood and the Howard Stern Radio show. They were discovered by the Washington Post and ...
Views: 634(1 vote) - Anger: The Bigger Picture - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2016 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever found yourself in a situation that was somewhat confusing, uncomfortable or perhaps even dangerous? Sometimes it's hard to understand why things happen or why we must participate in particular activities. We don't often understand why certain people enter our lives or why they ...
Views: 574 - ANGER AND POWER: THE CONNECTION - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe all seek to be powerful. I'm not speaking necessarily about having authority over others but we certainly want to have control over our own lives. Yet even the most well-intentioned, enlightened person wants to control a particular situation or individual at times. Certainly, parents impose ...
Views: 641 - RIOTING IN N. CAROLINA - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2016 from Janet PfeifferRecently a 43 year old man and father of seven, Keith Lamont Scott, was killed by police in Charlotte, NC. As is often the case, there are conflicting reports as to what actually happened. Currently, an investigation by a separate state agency is taking place to determine if this shooting was ...
Views: 557 - Anger: Can Someone Use Boxing/Martial Arts To Deal With Their Anger? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of people who suffer from depression, there is also no shortage of people who have anger problems. Still, this is not to say that someone can either have one of the other, as it is unlikely to be this black and white. A Different Experience For example, one could ...
Views: 927 - DEAL WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE USING C~U~R~B~APPEAL - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe all have challenging people in our lives yet unfortunately few of us have been properly trained in how to effectively deal with them. Well, that's going to change today. In no particular order, using the an acronym "C~U~R~B Appeal", you will learn tips that will better enable you to get ...
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