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How To Deal With Angry People: A Survival Guide - by Tony FioreFour Ways to Deal with a Passive-aggressive Person - by Tony Fiore- Emotioanl Intelligence and Anger - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIn 1995, author, psychologist, and science journalist, Daniel Goleman, wrote a book entitled, Emotional Intelligence which made its way to The New York Times bestseller list for a year-and-a-half. It was a relatively new concept designed to assist companies in determining which characteristics ...
Views: 713 - Emotioanl Intelligence and Anger - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIn 1995, author, psychologist, and science journalist, Daniel Goleman, wrote a book entitled, Emotional Intelligence which made its way to The New York Times bestseller list for a year-and-a-half. It was a relatively new concept designed to assist companies in determining which characteristics ...
Views: 685 - Anger: Incident or Issue? - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIn the years that I facilitated my support group for estranged families, I primarily worked with older parents whose adult children had severed their relationship with them. The parents were perplexed: "I was a good parent", they declared. "I gave my children the best of everything. There is no ...
Views: 880 - Emotions: The Weight of a Sack Full of Potatoes - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Frosty WooldridgeIn a presentation I attended years ago, the speaker asked the audience, “How much do you think this eight ounce glass of water weighs?” After many guesses, the speaker said, “The weight depends on how far you hold it from your body and how long you hold it.” In other words, by holding the ...
Views: 850(1 vote) - Lose Your Temper For Good! - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI've had many clients over the years request my help in teaching them how to control their tempers. "I lose my temper and afterwards feel terrible. I don't want to do this anymore. I need to learn how to control my temper." My response to them is this, "If you lose your keys you seek to find ...
Views: 783(1 vote) - Anger and Disease: the Connection and Remedies - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Janet PfeifferThere is no denying that the mind, body, and spirit are all interconnected. What impacts one affects all others. While the general public has become more health conscious in terms of eating healthier, dropping those unnecessary pounds, and exercising more, what often gets overlooked - that ...
Views: 866 - 3 Steps To Dissolving The Mask of Anger - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Andrea Ryan Profaci3 Steps To Dissolving The Mask of Anger Anger is an emotion that causes us to lose our center and feel out of place. It is a reaction to a situation or experience that can lead us to spin; meaning, incessant thoughts of a drama that we are resisting. Anger is resistance and it has a ...
Views: 1503(1 vote) - 14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhile conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's ...
Views: 991 - 14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhile conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's ...
Views: 877 - Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing ...
Views: 1072 - Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing ...
Views: 1070 - 3 R's That Mend Broken Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2016 from Janet PfeifferRelationships can be challenging, each with its own unique set of issues. Whether on the job with co workers who can at times be condescending, to social encounters with individuals who are overly critical, to our most personal relationships with family members who deeply offend us with hurtful ...
Views: 1160 - D~U~C~A~P Method of Dealing With a Difficult Person - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe could all use a few suggestions for dealing with those difficult coworkers, obnoxious family members, or challenging neighbors that find their way into our lives. Some really know how to push our buttons and bring out the worst in us; others are stubborn or opinionated; still others can be ...
Views: 959 - Addressing the Primary Sources of Conflict - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferConflict is a normal, healthy, and useful part of life. At its simplest, it means there is a disagreement or difference of opinion between two or more individuals. In life we can identify two types of conflict: internal and external. Internal conflict, the root issue causing discomfort and the ...
Views: 822 - More Advantageous Than Anger - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAnger is a very powerful emotion which many conclude is a bad feeling. Whether one chooses to use it in a constructive manner or in a hostile way, it carries a lot of punch (figuratively speaking, of course). As you become angry your body's muscles tense up. Inside your brain, neurotransmitter ...
Views: 741 - What the Bible Says About Anger - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2016 from Janet PfeifferDating back over 3500 years, the Bible began as a collection of oral stories handed down from generation to generation in the form of songs, narratives, and poetry. Eventually signs and symbols were utilized in a more permanent means of recording these stories until the written word became the ...
Views: 797 - Bully Politicians and What We Must Learn From Them - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2016 from Janet PfeifferIf you've been following the presidential debates, you are well aware of the bullying behaviors of some of our candidates. Gone are the days when politicians debated national and global issues. Shockingly, but not surprisingly, the debates have mutated into verbal warfare against each opponent. ...
Views: 777 - What Is the NHS? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2016 from Peter MainTo answer this question fully would require several extremely large volumes of written material including analysis and data as to the development of the health service in the UK. The point of the question, what is the NHS, is actually to provide a bit of background to the broader question of ...
Views: 615(1 vote) - How to Change Without Changing (and why it's important) - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2016 from Janet PfeifferNot everyone likes change. Some are comfortable precisely where they are and prefer to stay within their comfort zone. Others are more adventurous and enjoy a good challenge. They are more open to trying new things in order to experience something new or perhaps to learn something that will ...
Views: 1036 - Your Best Defense Against Anger - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2016 from Janet PfeifferCheck out Webster's dictionary. Anger is defined as "a feeling of discomfort or displeasure brought about by feelings of helplessness and powerlessness." My personal definition of a victim is one who views themselves as having no power or authority. Many times, a victim will claim that in a ...
Views: 734 - Your Best Defense Against Anger - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2016 from Janet PfeifferCheck out Webster's dictionary. Anger is defined as "a feeling of discomfort or displeasure brought about by feelings of helplessness and powerlessness." My personal definition of a victim is one who views themselves as having no power or authority. Many times, a victim will claim that in a ...
Views: 768 - The Truth About Love, Hurt, and Anger - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe're all familiar with the phrase, "love hurts". Too often, we take a witty cliché and assign truth to it. We then refer to it in times when it brings comfort, helps us to make a decision, or emphasizes a point. In reference to "love hurts", those who have been betrayed by someone they loved ...
Views: 1268 - Finding More Joy - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2016 from Jackie Wiliams BrockertQuite a few occasions we go to some psychic mainly because we really feel our lives can use more joy. What would make you joyful? For many of us, that question may well right away elicit a host of enticing concepts: getting a cat nap in the sun, maybe, savoring some decadent ...
Views: 757 - When Silence Isn't Golden - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe're all familiar with the phrase "Silence is golden". This proverb dates as far back as ancient Egypt, making reference to the importance of keeping quiet under certain circumstances. The first example of it being used in English is credited to the poet Thomas Carlyle in 1831. Certainly there ...
Views: 834 - PTSD Closes Open Doors - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2019 from Risa RuseThink earnestly, even if our life’s PTSD experience has taught us to be mean. To continue to mistreat others this way, we only allow misery to glean. By persisting to act out old behavior, we deprive ourselves, too. Instead of moving forward, we endorse what has made us blue! We react to ...
Views: 1020 - Adversity, Anger, and Awareness - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI've never met anyone who didn't have to face adversity at some point in their lifetime. Whether in our personal relationships, professional lives, in regards to a health issue, academically or financially, hardships seem to be a standard component of life. Of late, many people have adopted ...
Views: 753 - Why People Don't Get Along - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhy is it so difficult for us to get along with one another? After all, we all have the same basic needs in life. We all want to be valued, to be acknowledged for the good that we do, to be treated fairly and given sufficient opportunities in life; we all want to be accepted as we are and to be ...
Views: 795 - Top Five New Year’s Resolutions To Wake Up America - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownIt is 2016 and we are seriously off track! 1. Delete Hate Today, beginning today, please, we must all stop saying, writing, cheering, promoting, and engaging in hate. It is such a sign of fear, ignorance, insecurity, prejudice, and an outdated belief. We need different ideas, backgrounds, ...
Views: 739(1 vote) - "S~T~A" Away From Anger - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI love creating simple strategies individuals can use to experience less anger or stress in their lives, to improve their communications skills, resolve conflicts easier or create inner peace. From the SWaT Strategy* to TECO Magic*, The Great Duck and Dishtowel Debate* or the Seven C's of ...
Views: 827 - Using Emotions As Tools - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2015 from Janet PfeifferVery often people query me as to whether or not anger is a bad emotion to which I reply "No." All emotions have purpose and value. None are good or bad. They simply are. It is how we utilize them, our actions, that determines their positive or negative value. Emotions are messengers that help us ...
Views: 846 - The A~N~Y Words and Anger - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Janet PfeifferThere are thousands of things that trigger our anger: aggressive drivers, rude coworkers, disrespectful children, lying politicians, high taxes, unfairness, and favoritism just to name a few. A critical statement or offensive comment can raise our ire to which we may respond with indignation. ...
Views: 733 - Five Steps to Inner Peace - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from Janet PfeifferOne of my favorite authors, the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, once stated that "There is no way to peace. Peace is the way." This seemed rather contradictory to the common belief that a peaceful state of existence is a destination we arrive at after traversing the correct path. Wayne challenges us to ...
Views: 876 - Sarcasm, Fear and Arrogance - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2015 from Janet PfeifferConsider the following scenario: you and your neighbor engage in a political discussion. After a few moments, it becomes apparent that the two of you have serious disagreements about the upcoming presidential elections. Being equally as passionate about your positions, the debate quickly becomes ...
Views: 1868 - Inspired Communication - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2015 from Janet PfeifferThe purpose of communication is so individuals can freely share their ideas, feelings, thoughts, and needs with one another as a means of better understanding themselves and the situation at hand. However it can present a unique set of challenges for several reasons: 1) As children we are not ...
Views: 845 - The Illusion of Anger - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI sent out an email about my upcoming show, The Illusion of Anger, and was met with an angry response. "Anger is NOT an illusion! People die from anger!" he wrote. I am well aware of that. However, that is not the illusion I'm speaking of. According to Webster's dictionary, anger is a feeling ...
Views: 941 - Anger: The Bigger Picture - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever found yourself in a situation that was somewhat confusing, uncomfortable or perhaps even dangerous? Sometimes it's hard to understand why things happen or why we must participate in particular activities. We don't often understand why certain people enter our lives or why they ...
Views: 864 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Someone To Be Addicted To Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted attention in the past, they would have had to be around people. Nowadays, this is no longer necessary; the only thing they need to do is to use social media. It is then possible for them to receive attention for something that relates to their own life, or they can ...
Views: 1936 - Mediation With a Twist - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe all have the opportunity to be mediators at various times in our lives. Two family members are arguing and cannot come to a resolution about the issue in dispute. We intervene and lend a helping hand. Perhaps an objective third part can offer some insights or suggestions that have alluded ...
Views: 732 - Buddhism: Finding peace of mind at work - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Cameron FraserOne of the stops on our journey to discovering and understanding spirituality is an exploration of Buddhism. My personal experience with Buddhism has primarily come through the practices of Lay Buddhists; followers of the religion who aren’t members of the Sangha, that is, they aren’t monks, ...
Views: 696 - "WHY" This Gets Rid of Anger - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2015 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much for some people to get angry. For others, the process takes a bit longer. There must be certain criteria present before one is willing to relinquish their serenity. For those who fly off the handle rather quickly, there is a simple one word question they can ask before ...
Views: 804 - UFO Method to Eliminate Arguing - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe all argue. Well, for sure we all disagree. Arguing is an option. We can peacefully debate opposite sides of a topic and without having it escalate to anger, shouting, name-calling, and hurt feelings. Yet oftentimes it does. When people do not feel as though they are being heard or understood ...
Views: 763 - Even Counselors have to Survive Persons with Narcissistic Personality Disorder - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2015 from Gary DirenfeldI read an interesting few lines in an article by William E. Krill, Jr. L.P.C. The article is entitled, The Child Victim of a Narcissistic Personality Disordered Parent. Although he is writing about the experience of children and the non NPD parent, he also writes about counselors working with ...
Views: 733 - How To Communicate Rationally When You're Angry - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Janet PfeifferCommunication is difficult for most of us. It is one of the most necessary interpersonal skills we need yet few have ever been formally trained in. For most, it's a learn-as-you-go process. What makes effective communicating so challenging is that we all converse on different levels and employ ...
Views: 994 - How Anger Helps Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2015 from Tonya GJ PrinceImagine it is your 18th birthday. A well-dressed stranger comes to your home. He has news for you. He tells you that you have inherited $550 million dollars payable upon your 18th birthday. Hey! That is today. You jump up and down. Cry, get excited. Dance. Think of everything ...
Views: 955 - The" Need" For Anger - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI'd be hard-pressed to find someone who never got angry. Even Jesus expressed anger while here in the physical world. Not all anger is obvious nor acknowledged. Passive/aggressive anger, for instance, can go undetected by those experiencing or receiving it. Sarcasm, sabotage, ignoring someone, ...
Views: 716 - How Often Do You Get Angry? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2015 from Jesse An Nichols GeorgeHave you had times that your anger got the best of you? Have you found yourself reacting in a rage that perhaps you didn’t even know where it came from? Have you experienced others that have a hard time communicating without anger or rage? This is a big one for many, as anger is often one ...
Views: 702 - Just Say "No" to Drama - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2015 from Janet PfeifferIt seems as though one cannot make it through an entire day without drama popping up somewhere. Whether at work, in the news, or within our own homes, we are constantly surrounded with chaos and crisis. While some seem to thrive on it, others avoid it like the plague. Not all drama is harmful. ...
Views: 794 - Dealing with a Passive-Aggressive Partner - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2015 from Darlene LancerPassive-aggressive people act passive, but express aggression covertly. They're basically obstructionist, and try to block whatever it is you want. Their unconscious anger gets transferred onto you, and you become frustrated and furious. Your fury is theirs, while they may calmly ask, “Why are ...
Views: 1081(1 vote) - 3 Keys To an Anger-Free Life - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you been upset about an issue that seems to make no sense and asked yourself, "Why did I get so angry over something that was relatively minor?" Oftentimes, our response is triggered not by the present issue but from an alternative source. Odd as it may seem, the past and future can hold ...
Views: 779 - 3 Keys To an Anger-Free Life - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you been upset about an issue that seems to make no sense and asked yourself, "Why did I get so angry over something that was relatively minor?" Oftentimes, our response is triggered not by the present issue but from an alternative source. Odd as it may seem, the past and future can hold ...
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