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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***How Do I Know If I Have Abandonment Issues? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 18, 2016 ____________________________________________________________ Have you wondered if you have an abandonment issue? Discover the answer to this question in this article – and what to do about it. ...
Views: 1616 - Empathy: Can An Emotional Build-Up Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is going through an emotionally challenging time in their life, they may find that they have started to shut down. Their engine will still be running, but it won’t be running on all cylinders, so to speak. During this time, it is not going to be their intention for this to take place; ...
Views: 1490 - Dear Dr. Romance: I walked away when she needed me most - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ...
Views: 2705(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: The Power of Politeness - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Politeness and sensitivity are not held in high esteem in the media these days. The nastiest politicians get the most air time. Many media spokespeople, stars and commentators, “gangsta” rappers, nasty radio talk show stars and “edgy” comedians; as well as personalities ...
Views: 1755(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1706(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Empathy An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance. And when it comes to the former, it could relate ...
Views: 1654 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Overbearing? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was go shopping, they could end up trying a number of different things on, and while some of these items may be a good fit; there could be others that are not. When something fits them, they are going to feel comfortable; whereas when this is not the case, they are going to feel ...
Views: 1363 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Too Much Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be times when someone has too much of something and times when they don’t have enough. It is often said that when one wants something it is never there and yet when they don’t want it, it ends up appearing. However, while this can relate to something physical, it is also something ...
Views: 1672 - Gaslighting - 5 Things You Need To Know - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2016 from Harriet PappenheimIn the 1944 film The Gas Light, a husband deliberately manipulates his wife into believing that she is losing her sanity in order to gain control over her. Unfortunately, this is not just a fictional scenario. Though it has only recently come to clinical attention, the tactic known as ...
Views: 1974 - 9 Little Secrets On How To Make Him Love You Forever And Ever - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2016 from Apoorva RaoWhile popular culture may depict men as simple creatures (and there's some truth to that), we're not going to pretend that men are all the same. That said, there are certain ways in which men behave, think and function, which you can manipulate (yes, manipulate) to get your man in a vice grip so ...
Views: 838 - 3 R's That Mend Broken Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2016 from Janet PfeifferRelationships can be challenging, each with its own unique set of issues. Whether on the job with co workers who can at times be condescending, to social encounters with individuals who are overly critical, to our most personal relationships with family members who deeply offend us with hurtful ...
Views: 2030 - ***Are You Addicted to Complaining As A Form of Control? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain? In this article, discover the answers to these questions, as well as what to do about it if you are addicted to complaining. ...
Views: 1691 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Give Unsolicited Advice? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to learn about something, they could read a book or search the internet. Along with this, they could also end up signing up for some kind of course online or in the real world. It could be said that this is something that will all depend on what it is that they want to learn ...
Views: 1565(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Someone A Victim If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people end up in relationships that have a positive effect on their life, there are others that don’t. And while this can mean that they are used to being with people who are not a good match, this could be an understatement. Instead, they could find that they end up with people ...
Views: 1412 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others When Their Relationships Come To An End? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there is the chance that it will last until their life comes to an end (or until their partner passes on). There is also the chance that it won’t last this long, and this is due to a number of different factors. For one thing, people move around more than ...
Views: 1570 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1868 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1510 - Rebuilding After Affairs - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Nicola BeerSince working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ...
Views: 1478(1 vote) - ***Relationship Advice: Resolving Conflict When Someone Is Closed - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 04, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to resolve conflict when your partner or another person isn't available for mutual conflict resolution. ________________________________________ Loving relationships create a safe arena in ...
Views: 1353 - Dear Dr. Romance: The constant problem has been broken trust - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My girlfriend is 17 years older than me and we have been dating for over 2 years. The past year has had lots of fighting and has been very tough on both of us. We are currently taking a break, trying to work out our differences. The constant problem has been broken trust. I ...
Views: 1719(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I get upset that he hasn't been responding at all - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I just wanted to express to you how I thoroughly enjoyed your article about how there should be a tennis match type of communication. The guy I like hasn't been responding when he usually responds and though he's a busy professional, I get upset that he ...
Views: 2451(2 votes) - Dr. Romance On: The Tennis Match: How to Balance the Power in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaCouples often come in to Dr. Romance's counseling office soon after they move in together, because they’re arguing about differences in design and life styles. Whose furniture to use, where to put it, who can use each room, or how to work out the division of labor. These squabbles are ...
Views: 1722(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: This roller coaster of emotions has changed me. - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & maternal grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up Feeling Needy When They Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having needs is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with them. There will be some people who are in touch with their needs, and there will be others who are not. Another Experience However, even if one is in touch with their needs, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1676 - Prepare for Divorce (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN) | DivorceForce - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownDivorce with dignity! Be committed to be on the healing in two years not five year track! Children want to be normal again, not kids of those divorcing parents who are always fighting. Believe in yourself and what the future holds! Lean into the divorce, move through one step at a time, don't ...
Views: 1510 - Is Your Relationship on Lockdown With Too Many Rules & Regulations? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2016 from Christina MichelleTransitioning from “single” to “in a relationship” or “married” has its share of joys and struggles. It seems that when you are single, you long for someone to come home to, someone who’s waiting for your phone call and someone who anticipates the next time they’ll see you again. However, when ...
Views: 3207(2 votes) - Top 10 Reasons NOT to Be the Side Chick - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2016 from Christina MichelleIt may be a touchy subject but it happens all too often that beautiful, otherwise morally sound and intelligent women find themselves in the position of being the "side piece", or the umm… supplement to his main romantic diet. Regardless of whether it was intentional or accidental, once you're ...
Views: 3077(1 vote) - ***You Want A Relationship, But Are You Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 28, 2016 ________________________________________ Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people or are you stuck in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person? ________________________________________ Do you believe that you are fully ...
Views: 1395 - Relationships: Is Someone Only Friends With You Because They Are Attracted To You? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there is where one will meet someone who they will become friends with, and on the other hand, there is reason why they will become friends with them. And when it comes to where they can meet someone, this is not going to be limited to one place. There will be the more ...
Views: 1497 - How to Know When You Should Breakup - You Must Know These 6 Signs - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2016 from Alex J. StevensonLife is strange. Sometimes you fall in love with the most terrible person. Other times, the nicest person on the planet steals your heart, but something just doesn’t seem right. It seems crazy to look for reasons to break up with someone that you’re still in love with. If you love them, ...
Views: 1232 - Relationships: Why Do Some People's Relationships Come To An End When They Start To Work On Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one’s life can be an expression of their true-self, and on the other hand, it can be an expression of their false-self. When it is an expression of the former, they are going to spend time with people who know they are. As a result of this, it will be possible for them to ...
Views: 1982 - Dating After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownTake the time for a self-journey. Getting on a journey with your self requires courage, consciousness, feedback from a trusted advisor, vulnerability, insight, and the refreshing ability to apologize for starters. Knowing your strengths and challenges, competences and incompetence’s, where you ...
Views: 1138 - ***When You Are Being Nice, Are You Loving Or Controlling? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 21, 2016 ________________________________________ There can be a big difference in intent between being nice and being loving. Being nice might be manipulative, while being loving means being authentic. ________________________________________ Our ...
Views: 1468 - Must Read: Dating After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownWhether this is your first time in the dating world or you are newly divorced and entering the dating world, there are some steps you can take to help guard against divorce. There are no guarantees and why not do everything you can to live happily ever after with that someone special? Guess ...
Views: 1355(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Friendships Come To An End? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about a close friend, it could be someone they have known for a number of months or it may be a number of years. Yet regardless of how long they have known each other for, they will have a strong connection. And through having this bond, their life is going to be a lot ...
Views: 1583 - Ouch! Best Responses to a Difficult Person - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerIs there a difficult person in your life? ll of us are likely to know someone who "pushes our buttons." The person could be almost anyone -- a spouse, in-law, other relative, friend, coworker, boss--or even (gasp!) our self! Which reminds me of what Rabbi Joseph Richards said: "People are ...
Views: 2314 - Michael Mantell Claims "Gratitude is Medicine" - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2016 from Michael MantellHey Dr Mantell, this may be the latest "health supplement" on the block but it's been around for thousands of years, hasn't it? You bet it's been around for thousands of years. In Psalm 100-4, we read, “Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise. Give thanks to Him, bless His ...
Views: 1443 - How to Get Over A Breakup Quickly – The Best 10 Ways - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2016 from Alex J. StevensonThe vast amount of literature on getting over a break up with your loved one and learning to live without that relationship is mostly not useful, either because it's full of nonsense or because it simply doesn't work. If you want to get over a breakup quickly, then follow the 10 steps listed ...
Views: 2053(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Are Some People Always Critical Of Men/Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be critical of both men and women, they could also be in position where they have the tendency to criticise the opposite sex. And so if they do criticise the same sex, it could be something that rarely takes place. This could mean that they will have moments where they ...
Views: 1533 - ***Controlling Behavior: Are Your Eyes On Your Partner's Plate? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 14, 2016 _____________________________________________________________________________________ It is often tempting to tell others what to do, especially when it is obvious that they are not taking care of themselves. Discover why this usually backfires and what ...
Views: 1714 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married and I still can't forget about my first love - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I don't even know where to start… I just did the most stupid thing alive!! I send the man I can't forget a text message…and he did not reply. I don't think he wants to speak to me. He knows I'm married. I was 20 years old when I fell in love with him. I was ...
Views: 1811(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Less Talk, More Action - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaIf you read this Dr. Romance blog, you know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and negative. ...
Views: 1510(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught him at the movies with her - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 15 years. At the present time we are seeing a Marriage counselor for our really rocky marriage. I know its going to take some time. We are working on trust, understanding, caring, appreciation, and a few others, all the essentials of a marriage. But a ...
Views: 1596(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Insane? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance, I seek some understanding & hope that you will be able to help. I think that I don't know what love is & it has me in constant turmoil. I married when I was 23 yrs old & have 2 beautiful children. Regrettably, the marriage ended in divorce. I am ...
Views: 1686(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina Tessina"And then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged... You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing." -- Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, writes Dr. Romance, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ...
Views: 1419(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find That Other People Are Never There When They Need Them? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one needed something, they may find that there is someone who they can call on to be there for them. In fact, there could be a number of people who would be only too happy to support them. And the reason they have this outlook is going to be because these people have been there for them ...
Views: 1635 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive Important? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to form new relationships with others, they could pay attention to their appearance and then look into what they can do to improve it. Along with this, one could also look into what else they could do to improve themselves. And once they have done this, they could end up ...
Views: 1580 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Attract People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are based on give and take, it doesn’t mean that this is something always takes place. Instead, one can be in a position where the majority of their relationships are out of balance. As a result of this, one can find that they give far more than they receive, and this ...
Views: 1676 - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught tremendous flak from co-workers - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Excellent advice and a most excellent article I just read about older women dating younger men and age differences. I'm a 50 year old single male and have been single for 15 years with no children and have dated younger women on several occasions but did ...
Views: 1708(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Encourage Older Women to Date Younger Men? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : After reading: "Older Women, Younger Men Relationships" I feel compelled to write to you to express my disagreement. Age difference is more than an "adolescent worry", unless the older partner is still an adolescent. ...
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