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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in MarriageIs Divorce Harder for Christians than for Everyone Else?What God and the Bible Really Say About Divorce- How all you Mrs. Spitzers out there can better prepare before filing for divorce. - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2008 from Robert Mizrahi"I am deeply sorry that I did not live up to my expectations", a seemingly regretful Eliot Spitzer said as he resigned the office of Governor of New York. As with any man caught with his pants down there is always remorse, deep regret and the inevitable begging for forgiveness. Whether your ...
Views: 641 - How all you Mrs. Spitzers out there can better prepare before filing for divorce - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2008 from Robert Mizrahi"I am deeply sorry that I did not live up to my expectations", a seemingly regretful Eliot Spitzer said as he resigned the office of Governor of New York. As with any man caught with his pants down there is always remorse, deep regret and the inevitable begging for forgiveness. Whether your ...
Views: 575 - Children And Divorce: The Top Ten Things to Remember When Re-Entering The Dating Game - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2008 from Mark HughesChildren of divorced parents definitely have something to say about their parents dating again after divorce. I interviewed several children of divorced parents and they, without hesitation, had some things to say. Understandably, the comments are sometimes noticeably different amongst age ...
Views: 8594 - Demi Moore Is doing Divorce Right! And Her Children Are Reaping The Benefits. - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Rosalind SedaccaToday’s Hollywood is rarely a place to find role models for our culture, especially when it comes to divorce and family issues. Year after year we’ve been exposed to dramatic, painful, explosive relationship breakups resulting in tabloid headlines that feed upon scandal and ...
Views: 1105 - Loving Yourself Through Your Divorce Journey - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Carolyn EllisWhen we’re going through a stressful time like a divorce, how do you move forward? These are the moments that define who you are and reveal the important inner workings of your own mind. Sure, it’s easy to feel good about yourself when things are going your way. More important to ...
Views: 2946(1 vote) - How Can I Tell If My Child Needs Therapy Through Our Divorce? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from Lois NightingaleMany adults now acknowledge the benefit of a supportive professional as they face the challenges a divorce inevitably brings. But many parents are unsure at what point their child may be exhibiting signs that indicate a need for professional counseling. Many of these signs are similar to the ...
Views: 1014 - How Positive is Your Perspective? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Elizabeth SavinoHow Positive is Your Perspective? If asked to visualize your future, is your perspective filled with excitement and possibilities? Or do you envision the life you would like to have but are burdened with the distractions of the obstacles you may have to overcome to create it? If asked to ...
Views: 694 - Divorce Recovery: Releasing Toxic Emotions And Thoughts - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileThe way to recover and thrive after divorce is simple: Until you can release the toxic emotions surrounding your divorce, it is impossible for you to move forward in life and be happy. It takes enormous commitment and effort but it can be achieved. If you want to lead a new life that is both ...
Views: 782 - ***Resolutions For Life After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from Carolyn EllisOften people going through divorce focus on the endings it represents - the ending of a relationship, a dream, a way of life. To thrive after divorce requires you to look at divorce as a beginning - the beginning of a new life, of new possibilities for loving relationship, of a sense of ...
Views: 2283 - Is There Life After Divorce? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from Elizabeth SavinoWhen one door closes another one opens; But we often look so long and regretfully Upon the closed door, That we do not see the ones which are open. -Alexander Graham Bell When I ask women who are going through a divorce, “What do you think you can gain from this?”, I’m usually met with blank ...
Views: 800 - ***Harvesting The Wisdom From Your Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2008 from Carolyn EllisThere’s a saying that “those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” If you’re separated or divorced, chances are high there was a lot of difficulty in your past. Living in denial of the past means that you are robbing yourself of the opportunity to ...
Views: 1874 - ***Self-Care: Stop Going For The Martyr Medal - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2008 from Carolyn EllisDivorce is one of the most emotionally demanding life transitions you'll ever encounter. One big pitfall is what I call "going for the martyr medal." You get so preoccupied and consumed with making sure everyone else is taken care of first, that your own needs fall by the wayside. Single parents ...
Views: 3357 - Heartburn From Yesterday's Leftovers - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2008 from Marley DogThis is one way it may have happened. You worked hard to overcome your shock and disappointment from divorce. Slowly, you mustered up the courage to begin socializing. A chance meeting at Starbucks, a dedicated search of online dating candidates, clubbing, blind dates, and then voila, you met a ...
Views: 1441 - Protecting Your Credit During Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Jay DaceyWhen a marriage ends in divorce, the lives of those involved are changed forever. During this time of upheaval, one thing that shouldn’t have to change is the credit status you’ve worked so hard to achieve. Unfortunately, for many, the experience is the exact opposite. Unfulfilled promises to ...
Views: 721 - Divorce Divides Father And Daughter: Miraculous Reconciliation After 18 Years - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Rebecca HansonIt is fitting that I should write this story on Valentines Day, for this is a story of two broken hearts, healed and mended, then melted together as one--in an instant. This is a story of True Love. Anyone who comes from a broken family understands the pain of divorce. I was twenty-seven years ...
Views: 3657 - The Journey Through Divorce/break-ups/relationships - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2011 from Marion LicchielloEach time something in our life ends it creates room for a new experience. Within each new experience is a stepping stone;some are little tiny pebbles and others are big boulders. Some are fun and some are exhausting. But with each passing day we learn why we are here, what our mission is ...
Views: 1007 - ***Are You Parenting From Guilt? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2008 from Carolyn EllisWhen a couple decides to separate and starts the process of splitting up the children's family home into two separated homes, there is inevitably a sense of guilt. Divorce is an adult problem created between two adults, but as parents watching our children adjust to going to "mom's house" and ...
Views: 5477(1 vote) - Child Custody Agreements - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2008 from Steven CarlsonWhen the custody of children is at stake in a divorce, the issuance of a divorce decree may be complicated and delayed. In some cases, the courtroom has become a battlefield for parents who are disputing the role of the custodial parent or disputing child custody. In such cases, judges today ...
Views: 1459 - Betrayal: When Someone You Love Betrays You - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Krystal KuehnIt is bad enough when a stranger or foe betrays you, but when it is someone you believed to be a close and trusted friend, partner, or spouse, it is especially hurtful. It might feel like you were taken advantage of, deceived, humiliated, despised, cheated, or stabbed in the back. Oftentimes ...
Views: 60750(2 votes) - *** Relationship Break-Up (Part 2): Living In the Void - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Carolyn EllisThe break-up of a love relationship can be emotionally devastating. As I shared, I recently joined the ranks of the heartbroken when an important relationship I was in ended abruptly and unexpectedly. Life in the void is an important opportunity to let go of an old paradigm and prepare yourself ...
Views: 3461(1 vote) - *** Don't Become a Divorce Martyr - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Carolyn EllisDivorce is one of the most emotionally demanding life transitions you'll ever encounter. One big pitfall is getting preoccupied and consumed with making sure everyone else is taken care of first. Some divorcees adopt a martyr role as they navigate the new waters of their life. "Yes, my life is ...
Views: 3067 - Divorce, Debt & Credit... Facts you need to know - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2008 from Mike KillianBefore a divorce, during, and after getting a divorce you need to concern yourself with credit... credit establishment, credit files and credit scores. Though divorce and credit is a concern for both men and woman, woman tend to have the greater credit difficulty due to societal standards. ...
Views: 1256 - Managing High Conflict Separated Parents - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Gary DirenfeldForget Harmony, Settle for Peace An oft-common mistake working with high conflict separated parents is to move them towards getting along and working cooperatively for the well-being of their children. It is a lofty and noble goal unfortunately far beyond the grasp of folks who would likely ...
Views: 1503 - Considering A Parenting Coordinator? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Gary DirenfeldSome separated or divorced parents continue to find themselves in ongoing disputes, even in view of separation agreements and parenting plans. The high-conflict nature of those disputes interferes with the well-being of the children and continually brings these parents to Court for ...
Views: 845 - Working With Professionals - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2008 from Sam VakninSelecting the right professional is crucial. In the hands of an incompetent service provider, you may end up feeling abused all over again. Go through the following check list before you settle on a divorce attorney, a financial consultant, a tax planner, a security adviser, or an accountant. ...
Views: 1066 - ***Relationship Break-Ups (Part 1): Flowing With Your Feelings - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Carolyn EllisLet's be honest. I believe separation, divorce, and relationship break-ups always have a gift to offer us, but the initial breakup period sucks. For most of us, when we're in relationship, it feels like we're on solid ground. It may feel comfortable and soft to walk on, or it may be rocky and ...
Views: 4288 - Divorce Is A Legitimate Choice - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Dr. Jackie BlackFor many men and women in a wide variety of situations divorce is a legitimate and appropriate choice. Getting divorced is a process and consists of 3 main elements: • Emotional • Financial • Legal Healing from divorce is not easy. It is often a long and excruciating process and always ...
Views: 1568 - Divorced Dads Tips: The Winning Argument In Family Court - Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2008 from Danny GuspieDISCLAIMER: The following is NOT legal advice, nor is it a substitute for legal advice. If you are in Family Court you will need legal advice, so please see a lawyer. Winning the argument when you’re a divorced dad in Family Court is not easy. But it can be done. I know, because I have ...
Views: 3408 - Divorced Dads Tips: Problems & Solutions During Christmas And Other Holidays - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2008 from Danny GuspieDISCLAIMER: The following is NOT legal advice, nor is it a substitute for legal advice. If you are in Family Court you will need legal advice, so please see a lawyer. Divorced dads face many problems during Christmas and other holidays with their children. But there are solutions. Let me share ...
Views: 1095 - Positive Parenting Through Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieWhen a marriage ends, the greatest challenge parents face is minimizing the trauma, hurt, and loss for their children. Through positive parenting, adults have the power to help their children adjust to this major change. Healthy parenting also brings rewards to the adults as they get to feel ...
Views: 1044 - Effects Of Divorce On Children - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Lauri Allison LaBadieWhen a couple decides their marriage is over, a tremendous sense of grief and relief are felt. A recently divorced person will feel grief over the loss of their marriage and the loss of their partner in life. But there is also a sense of relief that the pain and anguish is now over and their ...
Views: 1084 - Successful Recovery From The Pain Of Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2008 from Dr. Judy EllisonIn marriages that dissolve, there are endless questions forever begging to be answered. Night after night, behind closed doors, in the privacy of their own homes, men and women around the world are asking why their marriages failed. For those that were left, the question become, "Is there life ...
Views: 2416 - Malicious Divorce Syndrome - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2011 from Les LinetDivorce is often brutal both to the divorcing spouses and to their children. This discussion will appreciate the enormous stress and distress that divorce subjects upon families, including both the adults and children. A syndrome of divorce-related hostilities that affect children has been ...
Views: 8010(10 votes) - Are You Getting Divorced Because Of Bankruptcy - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from munish ratheeStaying together after a bankruptcy is really tough. Not only do you have your private issues to work through, but you're continuously getting conflicting monetary advice that can put you deeper in the ditch. Staying married is hard. That's why so many people give up ...
Views: 805 - ***Appreciation A-B-Cs - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Carolyn EllisAppreciation is an underutilized, yet hugely valuable, ingredient in successful relationships. Many of us take a major blow to our self-esteem when we divorce. Practicing appreciation of ourselves and others can help heal our wounded hearts. It is like a fertilizer that can help relationships ...
Views: 1987 - 5 Must-Tell Messages To Prepare Kids For Your Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Rosalind SedaccaOne of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The continuous anxiety. The ...
Views: 647 - Dear Sister, - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2008 from Penny AyersJanuary 9, 2008 Dear Sister, First let me tell you just how much I love you. Now let me tell you just how much I admire and respect you. Growing up and watching you and learning from you, I have to tell you, you are a source of inspiration. I have wanted to tell you for so long, how much I ...
Views: 498 - ***The Power Of Appreciation - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Carolyn EllisIs there anything more mysterious in the world than the formula to having a successful romantic relationship? As a divorced woman, I now marvel at those who are able to create passionate, loving, long-term relationships. From my studies with books and the school of hard knocks, I believe that ...
Views: 2536 - Help To Win Child Custody Case - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Steven CarlsonOne of the most complicated issues for parents during divorce is sorting out issues related to child custody and visitation. Child custody is often provided to those parents with whom the best interests of the child are preserved. Family courts often prefer parents who can prove that they are ...
Views: 1584 - Powerful & Positive Communication For Divorced Moms - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2008 from Jeanie RuleDo you ever feel frustrated when you try to communicate with your ex? Are you intimidated or frazzled every time you have to talk to his or her new spouse? How about your attorney, your landlord or your kids’ teachers? Living a happy and sane life after divorce means learning the art of ...
Views: 1081 - ***Unplugging From Your Ex-Spouse - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from Carolyn EllisHave you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex said or did? Have you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex didn't say or do? When you're "plugged in" to the actions of someone else, you typically have a strong emotional reaction. You know ...
Views: 10392(3 votes) - ***Holiday Survival Tips For Divorced Families - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2007 from Carolyn EllisFamily holidays are supposed to be relaxing and stress-free, but often they aren't. Holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas can take you back in time to when you were a family with both parents living together under one roof. Holidays that have a strong cultural tradition of "family" can ...
Views: 2379(1 vote) - Single Mothers And Security Blankets - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2007 from Mitchell MilchSingle Parents And Security Blankets Among other things, a good marriage is a salve against the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. It is also a shelter from the storm of Murphy’s Law and, a safe haven of mutual support and security where we insulate ourselves from the impersonal and ...
Views: 1344 - Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - Especially For Men - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2007 from Pauline WallinBREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO -- ESPECIALLY FOR MEN By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D. Divorce is harder on men than on women. Surprised? After all, it's the woman who suffers financially . . .who has to juggle work and kids on her own . . . who is more apt to end up in a therapist's office. Meanwhile, ...
Views: 1112 - Forget Harmony, Settle For Peace - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldForget Harmony, Settle for Peace An oft-common mistake working with high conflict separated parents is to move them towards getting along and working cooperatively for the well-being of their children. It is a lofty and noble goal unfortunately far beyond the grasp of folks who would likely ...
Views: 744 - Chicken For Thanksgiving: Dealing With Divorce And Major Life Transitions during the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2007 from Dr. Tolu AdeleyeImagine having a chicken dinner on Thanksgiving! What would Thanksgiving be without the turkey and the trimmings? To many people, it wouldn't be Thanksgiving. Ironically, we eat more chicken than turkey on a year-round basis. However, we have grown accustomed to eating turkey on Thanksgiving ...
Views: 3160(3 votes) - Divorce Advice: How To Get Even With Your Ex to Survive Your Divorce - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2007 from linda lipshutzNow, I know that many of you have been burned badly by your ex-spouse. You are so furious that the mere mention of this person conjures up every conceivable negative, vicious fantasy that comes to mind. You know that there will never come the day that the two of you can be in the same room, and ...
Views: 1071 - ***Learning How to Thrive after Divorce - by Divorce. Separation. Gloomy concepts for most people. Sharing the news that "I'm getting a divorce" is the kind of pronouncement that can cause a hush at even the liveliest cocktail party. About 50% of all marriages end in divorce, and one in three Americans are already part of a blended family. ...
Views: 2754 - Separating? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldSeparating? Once the decision to separate is made, there are a number of other issues to settle. If the decision has been made in isolation, there is the matter of informing one’s spouse. Thereafter comes telling the kids. From there, attention is directed towards determining the ongoing care ...
Views: 836 - Book Review: Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Divorce. Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage and releasing the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. Carolyn Ellis is the Official Guide to Divorce. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the ...
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