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- ***Next Time YOU Make a Mistake - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniMost of you are your own worst critic. So when you make a mistake you are much harder on yourself than you would be on anyone else. It is completely normal to be disappointed with yourself, but the longer you beat yourself up the longer it takes for you to regain your confidence. If you ...
Views: 1587(2 votes) - ***Resolving Conflicts Effectively - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanEvery relationship has conflicts. In some relationships, conflict is a serious problem; in others, differences seem to be resolved without creating a major incident. Think about the kinds of conflicts that happen in your daily life. These are typical: 1. Disagreements over who should do ...
Views: 1203(1 vote) - ***What Could Happen - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2010 from Margaret MeloniWhen you are facing a difficult decision sometimes the best thing to do is to sit back and analyze the potential outcomes from your decision. What path will each outcome create for you? Trace that path to its natural termination. Are you OK with this path? In other words: If you do X, what is ...
Views: 1312(1 vote) - ***Why YOU avoid YOUR Resolutions and What to Do About it - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2010 from Margaret MeloniHere is a New Year’s resolution you almost never hear: “This year I vow to keep everything the same, I am going to weigh the same, exercise the same, talk to all of the same people and be exactly the same.” New Year’s resolutions are about change and sometimes change is difficult. Let’s ...
Views: 1295(2 votes) - ***Would the REAL You Please Stand Up? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMary Carol read the email from Tisha and was really annoyed. She had just met with Tisha yesterday and everything seemed fine. Now here was this really harsh email. It made no sense. The most puzzling thing was that working with Tisha was like working with two different personalities all ...
Views: 1365(1 vote) - 7 Ways to Say No - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWhen you are serious about keeping your word, simplifying your life, or taking control of your schedule, you have to become selective about what you agree to doing. The word “no” isn’t the bad word you may have been taught it was as a kid. Instead, it’s your ticket to freedom. Understanding ...
Views: 2955(4 votes) - A Military Solution to a War on Terrorism is Doomed - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt's a sore temptation to hunt down Osama bin Laden - one of the most consistent campaign promises made by President Obama - and yet there are strong arguments against it. U.S. forces would have to penetrate deep into provincial Pakistan and perhaps even conduct house-to-house searches. Such ...
Views: 991(1 vote) - Affairs: The Ultimate Challenge - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAn affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face. It is a powerful catalyst that can either end the relationship or take it to a greater level of intimacy. An extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time, affairs do not happen out of the blue. ...
Views: 2363(2 votes) - Anger & Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Michael PaulWhen there is a build up of anger in a relationship, healthy communication is clearly absent. Both ears and mouths are not working properly. Messages being given are likely to be interpreted through a filter that hears only what anger expects to hear. The message, as it might be offered, is ...
Views: 1852(2 votes) - COMING TO THE TABLE - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Sadie SheafeOften couples carry baggage from relationship-to-relationship. They do not realize that their new relationships fail as a result of the previous baggage. In any new relationship there is always one constant…themselves! Often, problems first arise with the couple's intimacy. These can have ...
Views: 1948(2 votes) - Does Your Spouse Steal the Limelight? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinDoes your spouse take credit for your ideas? Or do people compliment your spouse for tasks or projects that you did? Do you get the credit where credit is due? For example, Jill herself maintains a beautiful garden and takes a lot of pride in it. One day, a neighbor comes to visit the couple ...
Views: 3540(2 votes) - Dr. Romance (with Alex Franzen) "Do. Not. React" - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDO. NOT. REACT. Tips for surviving & mastering confrontation, with grace —in business & in love. Pop quiz, people: How do you drop an atom bomb of sudden, unexpected (and quite possibly, undesirable) information on someone you care about — without behaving like a cruel, ...
Views: 2010(2 votes) - Drug Alcohol Intervention - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Robert And Shelley JakobsenTreatment works. However, getting the individual to treatment is easier said than done. The exact nature of their problem may not be readily identifiable and those who could help are too close to the problem to be helpful. Family members, corporate colleagues and most clergy are not in the ...
Views: 2313(1 vote) - Essential Definitions for People Trying to Gain Assertiveness Skills - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Peggy FergusonAlthough most people have some pretty clear-cut notions about what assertiveness is and isn't, assertiveness is often confused with aggression. Assertiveness is not necessarily about having your will prevail over the will of others. That is actually more descriptive of aggression. Especially ...
Views: 2039(2 votes) - Health and Harmony in Relationships: It All Starts with YOU! - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon Rivkin“Stress is damaging to your health, so take care of yourself,” is very sound advice, but what exactly does that mean and how exactly do you take care of yourself and lessen stress? Experiencing optimal physical, mental, and spiritual health includes the good fortune of having healthy and ...
Views: 4053(1 vote) - How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAccording to statistics, 45 or 55 percent of married women and 50 to 60 percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face, and nothing destroys a marriage faster than marital ...
Views: 2379(3 votes) - How to Communicate More Effectively with a Difficult Ex - by Submitted on May 29, 2012 from Nancy KayDoes your stomach churn at the thought of having to communicate with your ex? Would you rather clean out a 45 gallon fish tank than contact your ex about the kids’ holiday schedule? Many former spouses continue to experience significant difficulties in the ways that they communicate with each ...
Views: 1723(2 votes) - How Your First Argument Could Last for 50 Years - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinSounds crazy, but it’s true! Simply put, the first argument you have with your partner, if left unresolved, will manifest itself time and time again - in different forms – throughout your entire relationship. When we fall in love and begin a partnership, we temporarily maintain our best ...
Views: 2908(2 votes) - Indigo Children - Born to Lead, Hard to Manage - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Judy WrightAs I travel the country teaching workshops for parents, teachers and day care providers I often ask them if they recognize the Indigo Children. These children are not content to color in the lines or glue macaroni on paper. They are very bright but also very active and curious. Born To Be ...
Views: 3507(3 votes) - Lead a Resilient Life - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Lynn ClarkeToday there are so many adverse situations and circumstances we are exposed to. Whether we are self employed or unemployed, single or married with children, young or old, we all can learn how to better cope in our lives when we learn how to be more resilient having the ability to cope, bounce ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - Legal Processes Of A Lawyer- Construction Accident Issues - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2012 from Mae Sta. MariaWe all know that one of the most dangerous place in the community is the construction site. That's why people who are working there are required to wear helmet and some protectors. There is also a person that continually checking the safety of the construction workers as well as the safety of ...
Views: 1284(1 vote) - Ouch! He doesn't like me! - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Michelle GottliebA very common dilemma that many people face is that we want people to like us. We may even do things that we disagree with, just to be sure that people like us. We talk about this happening with children, but, unfortunately, this is usually something that we do not grow out of. Why is it so ...
Views: 1625(2 votes) - Overcoming Workplace Bullying With Support From Others - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHave you ever tried reaching out for your workmates or colleagues and close friends to tell them regarding your situation or experience with being bullied at the workplace, but they were not there for you? And Why Does This Takes Place? There are top 3 reasons why sympathy and support might not ...
Views: 1376(1 vote) - Review: Walking The Unmarked Path: Notes from my Journey to Personhood in the New Millennium - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Norm GoldmanAuthor: D. Michael Ferrare ISBN: 13 978-1-58982-770-7: 10 1-58982-770-8 Publisher: Millennial Mind Publisher (An Imprint of American Book Publishing) What does it mean to become a person and furthermore, why even bother? According to D. Michael Ferrare author of Walking The Unmarked ...
Views: 1674(2 votes) - Seeking Reconciliation – A Conflict Management Strategy! - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenTherefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew: 5:23-25) Managing conflict sometimes means ...
Views: 1680(2 votes) - Seven Tips for Managing Your Own History during Conflict - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenThe biggest obstacle to effective conflict management may just be your own history! You and the others in your relationships all have a past when it comes to communicating, building relationships and managing conflicts. Your patterns of behavior are built on your perceptions of what is ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Ten Tips on How to Argue With an Idiot - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer"Idiots" are simply people like you and I who are struggling with unresolved personal issues ranging from low self-esteem to ego, insecurity to poor impulse control and more. While it is acceptable to regard the behavior as idiotic, it is never permissible to label the individual as such. People ...
Views: 1699(2 votes) - The Impact of Conflict Management Training on Customer Service Delivery - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Rosanne DausilioThe Impact of Conflict Management Training on Customer Service Delivery. This was the title of my case study in partial fulfillment of my doctoral degree which I completed in 1996. More on this in a moment. Here it is 13 years later and… In a recent survey training participants were asked ...
Views: 2168(2 votes) - The Power of Co-Creating: A Law of Attraction Guide for Successfully Handling Negative People - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Nea Joy JusticeYou may be coming to the realization that you are a powerful Being whose thoughts summon law of attraction, thus creating your reality and contributing to the expansion of the Universe. But do you know that your creative power is magnified when you pair your energy with the energy of another ...
Views: 1715(4 votes) - The Seven Steps to Healthy Parent/Child Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2014 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The world in which we live is violent in large part due to how we raise our children. We assume that children are small and undeveloped and without the need for freedom and personal choice. However, we traumatize them by making demands, creating unnecessary limits, not listening to them and not ...
Views: 2036(2 votes) - The Social Butterfly - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesThe Social Butterfly It seemed to John that Jane spent at least as much time away from her desk as she did at her desk. It seemed like every time he walked down the hallway he would see her speaking with someone. And she never made it through the company cafeteria without stopping to ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - True Forgiveness - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Pamela ArwineAt the core, everyone is God Essence, pure love and light. We are all one…individual and unique manifestations of the universal divine. We are all innately good. And, in our heart of hearts, we all desire love…to love and to be loved. Although this seems pretty incongruent with many of the ...
Views: 1775(1 vote) - Truth - Yours or Mine? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Lauren Kennedyby Lauren Kennedy - http://laurenpkennedy.wordpress.com "Knock. Knock." " Who’s there?" " Truth." " Truth Who?" " Mine or Yours?" And there in lies the dilemma. And the source of immense conflict. We like to think that truth is absolute, explicit, definite, unambiguous and ...
Views: 1701(2 votes) - Unlocking epistemic traps - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Asaf Shani"What turned in on will turn it off" – since the epistemic trap was created by self, it's in one's hands to unlock oneself. In other words, the door can only be opened from the inside. This point lays in the foundation of Phenomenology. Let's explain the term using an example: Think of a dog, ...
Views: 2616(1 vote) - What Can We Do to Improve Our Relationship? Answers from "Ask Peggy" - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2009 from Peggy FergusonCommunication is not only the life's blood of a marriage, it is the cornerstone that the foundation of relationship skills rest on. You have to have good communication skills to be able to convey your love, affection, and commitment to your loved ones. You can not effectively problem solve ...
Views: 3076(3 votes) - What Do You Know About Health And Happiness - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Thomas LechnerLet us first find out, what does it actually mean, when we say "Happiness" and "Health". There might be some misunderstanding floating around. For sure the happy, or unhappy born person doesn't exist, the same it is with the overall health. To become a happy person, can only have to do with ...
Views: 1183(2 votes) - Why look at your past? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Michelle GottliebWhy look at the past? I can’t tell you the number of clients who have asked me that question in one form or another. What is the point of looking back? It will just bring me pain, or stir up old feelings of hurt or anger. It won’t help me to poke around in it, or so my clients often ...
Views: 1647(2 votes) - “I Had No Choice” Is a Lame Excuse! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenUnderstanding your choices is essential in managing conflict. And, yes, there is always more than one choice! You just have to decide what consequence you will live with. This helps you resolve your own inner conflict. And just as important is the strategy of providing choices for others ...
Views: 1765(3 votes) - "We Need to Talk" - How to Start a Difficult Conversation with a Partner, Colleague or Neighbor - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettRelationships are like shoes. Sometimes they fit, and sometimes they cause annoying, painful blisters. For example, your partner doesn't call when running late; your colleague at work taps his pencil incessantly; and a neighbor trashes your yard. Sometimes you need to confront the offender and ...
Views: 6512(3 votes) - ***Be Honest about YOUR Boundaries - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniIs this you? You start working for somebody new and you want to make a good impression. Maybe you start carrying your BlackBerry with you everywhere and you answer them all night and all weekend. Every time they send you something, you answer them whether or not you are on call. As time goes ...
Views: 1505(3 votes) - ***How a Cup of Coffee Can Ruin Your Day - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniDanielle left the house with just five minutes to spare. It would have been better if she had left ten or fifteen minutes early because she wanted to stop and buy a cup of coffee. She decided that she could probably get in and out of the coffee house within seven minutes and that being just two ...
Views: 1744(3 votes) - ***Seasoning our Behavior - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniHi Everyone, The item below is not a new post, but it has become an ‘old favorite’ and it is appropriate for this time of year. Once again I bring you ‘Seasoning Our Behavior’. This week marks the Thanksgiving holiday in the United States. There are many traditions that surround this holiday ...
Views: 1435(3 votes) - MIND BOGGLING - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Chidi Asika-EnahoroThe beauty of the mind can also be its downfall. One cannot overstate the significant importance of the human mind. Anyone can harbor anger and animosity at someone next to him or her and not be obvious about it. The mind is one instrument of amazing capacities that the human have control over, ...
Views: 2161(3 votes) - ***What are the Five Conflict Resolution Modes? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2009 from Margaret MeloniAnd which one do you use most often? When you understand how you handle conflict, you can begin to understand when your approach is effective and when it is not. Then you can learn to adapt your behavior and draw from different conflict resolutions styles as-needed. There are five conflict ...
Views: 7276(2 votes) - Overcoming The Obstacles To Self Change - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Robert DarbyThe Dysfunctional Landscape It should be stated from the start that the obstacles mentioned in this article are those of a severe nature. I share the strategies and techniques for dealing with them because they are the same for minor dysfunctionality as they are for major train wrecks, the ...
Views: 1743(2 votes) - Choices - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.Choices; we all make them everyday. Some of us learn from the poor choices that we’ve made in life. Some of us regret the choices that we’ve made. A lot of us understand the repercussions of the choices we have made. A lot of people don’t understand the repercussions at all. I feel that there ...
Views: 1894(3 votes) - Your power is NOW - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from shayne hammond"NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Heb 11:1 Whether your'e thinking about yesterday, pondering the events of today, visualising your future in ten years time, or remembering an experience in your childhood, you are creating NOW, in this ...
Views: 1166(4 votes) - LIFE IS NEVER WHAT YOU THINK IT IS??? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Sherry AnsharaThis statement…”Life is never what you think it is” is the perfect statement you can say when life doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it was going to be? Do you ever know what life is going to be? Yes and No! When you stay in your head, you can calculate, add two and two together, ...
Views: 2455(8 votes) - ***Why are some people so mean? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffMotivational Reasons I don’t want or need to change my behavior. This is probably the most common reason for not changing how anger is expressed. No change is likely until the abuser ‘puts down the binoculars and picks up a mirror.’ Often shame is at the core of men and women who are ...
Views: 1998(2 votes) - 3 Ways to Make Conflicts Healthy for Couples - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2012 from Jean CapangpanganWhen we don't understand what happened in the conflict, we always look for WHAT or WHO caused the conflict. While trying to figure things out, it's helpful that we trace and discuss things over. However, if people are quick to put a blame on people frantically, this is a problem. Blaming is ...
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