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- Free Yourself from Negative Nelly and Billy Blamer: Three Easy and Effective Ways to Deal with Negative People - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesYou know them. Maybe you work with them, live with them, or hang out with them. Negative is an understatement. They complain, they vent, they criticize, they blame. And you’re tired of dealing with them. Negative Nelly prefers complaining to finding a solution. Quick with the “buts” whenever a ...
Views: 9836 - Ten Steps to Oratory Eloquence - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesAs you hang up the telephone, the icy fingertips of panic grip your stomach; your heart races. Your most recent project was delivered on time, within budget, and is approaching payback one year ahead of schedule. Your industry association wants you to address their annual convention. Relax: ...
Views: 7646(1 vote) - The Bowl of Light - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesI am going to be a first-time grandmother in August. I’m ecstatic about having my first grandchild. One of the first things I will share with my grandson or granddaughter is the “Bowl of Light” story that I learned when I was an alakai, advanced student, of Ho’o pono Pono in Hawaii. My kumu, ...
Views: 6991(1 vote) - Play 20 Questions and Revitalize Your Love Life - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesDo you remember the game “20 Questions”? You could ask 20 questions to elicit and eliminate and finally discover what animal, vegetable, or mineral the other person was thinking about. We use a variation of this game to enrich your love life and build a stronger bond in your most intimate ...
Views: 6165(1 vote) - True Intimacy - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesTime and time again, people tell me they are not experiencing real intimacy in their relationships. Sex? Yes. True intimacy? No. They long for a soul connection, a deep, tender love, a satisfying and fulfilling sexual love. They long for a deeper level of communication, not just the chatter of ...
Views: 5494(1 vote) - When to Take That Leap of Faith into Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesPutting yourself out there to meet marriage-minded singles can be a lot of work. If you are dating people you know only from the Internet or a phone conversation, this can be frustrating. But just remember, you are able to exert all this effort because you believe it’s going to work and that ...
Views: 4428 - Embrace Positive Fatalism - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesWe usually associate fatalism with a passive, do-nothing attitude toward life. However, the sense in which I mean to use it here is captured in the above quotation. Fatalism in this more positive and active sense is a gut-level belief in an ultimate outcome. In general, no great and successful ...
Views: 3767 - Energy Breathing: Be Healthier, Feel Happier, Have More Energy, and Achieve Peak Performance in Everything You Do! - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesThe single most important action in all our lives is one we seldom, if ever, think about—breathing! If we don’t breathe, none of the rest of life is even possible. Yet when was the last time you paid any attention to the way you breathe? You know breathing is essential to keeping you alive. What ...
Views: 3723 - Barbie Doesn’t Live Here Anymore! - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesThere I was, with only a week to go, and I was no closer to finishing the assignment, a final requirement for my coach training and certification. The assignment was to present to my peers a physical representation of the “voice” inside my head, otherwise known as my Gremlin. “Everyone has one,” ...
Views: 3345(1 vote) - Being Graceful Makes Your Life Happen - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIt is hard to put into words how much the guidance that I received from Yogi Bhajan changed my life. It all seemed so very simple. He fixed me with those eyes, full of love, and said, “All you have to be is regally graceful.” I had no idea what that meant. Graceful—what was that? At the time ...
Views: 3294(1 vote) - Live Your Life in Language - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesHow do you relate to yourself and others? What do you have in common with the voice in your head and the messages you speak? It’s language. Some say that ultimately, words are everything. Call it communication, conversation, or articulation—your expression of life lives in language. I say you ...
Views: 3087(2 votes) - You Don’t Need Their Approval: Who Are They Anyway? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesWhat is approval? It is the acceptance as satisfactory. The act of giving validity. We seek approval to satisfy our desire to be loved. If someone approves of some event or occurrence that happens in our lives, we feel appreciated. Whether this appreciation comes from our parents, spouse, or ...
Views: 3076 - Things Are Not Always as They Seem - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesI’d like to share with you a story that my spiritual teacher and dearest friend told me. Once upon a time, there were two seekers of enlightenment climbing in the Himalayas. One seemed more surefooted and climbed at a faster speed. He was conflicted about whether to wait for his friend to catch ...
Views: 2974(1 vote) - Meditation—Cure of All Cures: The Magic Potion of the Soul - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesWhen I take on a new client in my practice as a life coach, I usually begin with a strategy of exploring what this individual’s beliefs are about himself and his life. I then find out what the underlying daily thoughts are that support those beliefs. I always discover that whatever is showing up ...
Views: 2722(1 vote) - Breaking Through Self-Imposed Barriers to Success - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesI waited patiently for the attractive woman seated before me to answer my question. Neatly groomed and well dressed, Andrea appeared every bit the successful, polished businesswoman confidently perched on an upper rung of the corporate ladder. Yet, when she did answer, her voice belied a ...
Views: 2684 - Harness the Power of Your Natural Negotiating Style - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesThe first step people often take when honing their negotiating skills is to read an assortment of how-to books and attend a class or workshop. Mastering negotiations, however, requires a three-prong approach: learning the fundamentals of negotiating, understanding the tactics associated with ...
Views: 2571(10 votes) - How to Stay True to Yourself Above the Opinionated Roar of Others - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesHow do you stay true to yourself when you’re surrounded by friends and family that have an opinion on everything you do? Who constantly offer their opinions, whether you asked for them or not? Who seem to imply that they “know better”? It’s not easy! However, if you’re going to lead the life ...
Views: 2553(1 vote) - Awaken the Genie Within - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesAncient lore tells us that there’s a magical Genie who lives in a lamp and that the person who possesses that lamp has the power to invoke wishes and desires beyond our wildest dreams. If I told you that Genie lives in you, would you believe me? Maybe not. But if I told you that there was ...
Views: 2515(1 vote) - Unbend Your Anger with “Stop, Drop, and Roll” - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesEveryone seems to understand the destructive power of anger. That’s because everyone equates anger with aggressive behavior, and aggressive behavior hurts people. Once we are injured by someone who is angry, it is an easy next step to thinking it is the anger that injures us. Anger, however, is ...
Views: 2486 - Choose to Live a Stress-Less Life: The Life You Save May Be Your Own - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesLife is stressful—that’s a basic fact. Stress comes in all shapes and sizes. Of course, major life events, such as a sickness in the family or financial woes, are universally stressful. There are other, less obvious day-to-day stresses, though, many of which impact individuals differently. (One ...
Views: 2419(1 vote) - Discover Three Simple and Easy Ways to Enhance Your Intuition - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesI didn’t really believe in intuition until four years ago. It really hit home for me the day my car was stolen. I woke up in the morning with the recollection of a dream about my car being stolen. I drove to work and kept “hearing” the message. So what did I do? I ignored it, of course! I was ...
Views: 2400(1 vote) - Failure Can Catapult Your Success - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesFor every successful venture, I have yet to see complete, undaunting achievement without accompanying failure. Oftentimes, we think of failure as a tragedy; it’s true that it can be a temporary setback. Nevertheless, every great endeavor has a degree of darkness in its past, often masked in the ...
Views: 2331 - Five Steps to Creating a World-Class Social Network in Any City - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesOne of the secrets to success in life is having a web of friends and associates. I’ve moved around a fair amount in my life, and one thing that my friends have noticed is that I quickly get to know a large number of people within a short time after moving to a new city. In fact, it seems that I ...
Views: 2268(4 votes) - The Top 10 Body Language Tips - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIt doesn’t matter how much you know in your personal or professional life; your knowledge is quite useless, unless you know how to communicate it to others, and I don’t just mean with the words you use. I’m also talking about the nonverbal communication, or body language, that goes on in every ...
Views: 2197 - Make a Splash, One Ripple at a Time! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesPeople often find themselves caught in the minute details of their day-to-day routines and experience a sense of disconnection from what is really important. Where your focus goes, your results flow! (Negative focus equals negative results; positive focus equals positive results.) Are you happy ...
Views: 2145(5 votes) - Goodbye Grudges, Hello Love: How Forgiveness Allows You to Attract Your True Match - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesWe all draw relationship partners in accordance with our core beliefs. If you consistently attract emotionally unhealthy relationship partners, there is a pattern that you must break in order to recognize a balanced and devoted relationship. During my years of matchmaking I have found that ...
Views: 2138(1 vote) - Dance with Your Heart: How to Befriend Your Heart and the World around You - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesWhat do you see when people dance? Is it how their hands and feet move so gracefully in such unison with one another, yet each of them sparkles individuality? Are the dancers smiling? What does that mean? They may be joyous when they move their bodies to the rhythms of the music, but that is not ...
Views: 2108(1 vote) - Nine Keys to Spiritual and Physical Liberation - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesThe physical universe is a maze of smoke and mirrors, complicated diversions that try to capture our attention and place it on the path of illusions instead of on the path of spiritual truth, love, and happiness. We are living in a swirling mass of positive and negative energies, vibrating to ...
Views: 2104(1 vote) - Living in Gratitude - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesA glimmer of something to be grateful for can be found in nearly every situation we experience. It is a rare circumstance that can’t be turned around—even slightly—when it is looked at through the lens of grateful eyes. Admittedly, it takes a conscious choice to be grateful instead of focusing ...
Views: 2009(1 vote) - Learn to Choose: The Seven Types of People to Avoid on Your Way to a Happy and Fulfilling Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIf you are looking for a relationship, it takes patience to find someone you can respect, whose heart is open to you, and whom you can be with without driving you up a wall. Good mate material is out there, but while you are looking, don’t waste your time and money on the Dirty Sevens. The ...
Views: 1937 - Creating Personal Boundaries: Commanding Respect in Love, Work, and Life! - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesMany people walk through life making career, relationship, and other life decisions in response or in reaction to others around them. This is an extremely toxic way of living because these people will never live based on their own life designs. If you never realize that you are following this ...
Views: 1831 - Money Is No Object: Passion is Your Currency - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com Articles(Excerpts from How to Discover Your Purpose in 10 Days.) Have you ever wondered what billionaires Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, and Warren Buffet have in common with you? It’s an exciting possibility. You may say it’s definitely not the fame or the fortune. So what is it? Each of us has been given ...
Views: 1813(1 vote) - Understanding Your Relationship with Money - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesWhenever we say that we want more money, less debt, or more possessions, what we are really saying is that we want a feeling. Money and possessions have no power. Power comes from the feeling we get from having money and possessions. In order to determine your money values, you need to determine ...
Views: 1762(1 vote) - Money Management for the New Millennium: Four Reasons Why Managing Money Today Is So Hard and What You Can Do about It - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesHave you ever wondered why managing your money seems so hard? Not only is it challenging knowing which method will work, but more significantly, the real issue is determining which method will bring a long-term, sustainable, satisfying lifestyle change. You would think, with the abundance of ...
Views: 1736(1 vote) - Is Neediness Ruining Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIn a recent survey conducted at MarsVenus.com, “neediness”—clingy, controlling, possessive, and/or demanding behavior—was one of the most commonly cited reasons for ending a relationship. Dating couples are calling it quits because they feel they either cannot or do not want to please their ...
Views: 1677(1 vote) - Creating Everyday Rituals for Magical Living - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIn the technically brilliant sterility of our modern age, I believe we’re aching to find new ways to make meaning in our lives. Truly transformative ceremonies and rituals allow us to infuse a sense of the sacred into our ordinary lives, to recognize major life events in profoundly satisfying ...
Views: 1623(1 vote) - How Can Writing Improve Your Life? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesFrom ancient storytelling and hieroglyphics to modern-day therapy and prescribed journaling, writing is one of the oldest and most effective ways we communicate—both with ourselves and with others. For centuries, people have written to bring clarity and focus to problems they’ve been struggling ...
Views: 1590(1 vote) - The Map is Not the Territory - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIn NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) we talk about people’s “maps of the world.” This term describes a person’s unique experience of reality. A map is not reality itself, only a representation of it, just as a map of Yellowstone Park is not the park itself, but a two-dimensional ...
Views: 1542(1 vote) - Some Simple Rules for a Satisfying Life - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesLife has taught me that success, abundance, prosperity, peace, and happiness are all created through exercising a planned routine. To create a happy and prosperous life, we need some instructions, or rules, for living. Rule 1: Spread love. In order to produce great achievements, we have to take ...
Views: 1526(1 vote) - Stop the Negative Self-Talk! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesMelody Beattie has a book called Stop Being Mean to Yourself that I often lend to clients because it’s a good book and because I love the title. It is hard to feel happy when we are so critical and judgmental of ourselves. No wonder we don’t feel good enough. We live with a mean voice in our ...
Views: 1517(1 vote) - The Vital Element: Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesYou’ve decided to improve your life. Where do you start? Do you begin with a new relationship, with a new career, or move to a new city? The answer is no, none of these, for there is one constant: you. The same you will be there, wherever you choose to go, whoever you’re with, whatever you ...
Views: 1442(2 votes) - Transform Your Relationship with Love Play Technology - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesWith the divorce rate looming over our society, there’s a lot of pressure and fear about how to keep a relationship vibrant and filled with love. Here’s a way to keep that sparkle of love alive or to reignite a sparkle that might currently be at a low fizzle. It’s often said that it takes work ...
Views: 1412(2 votes) - Don’t Take Your Inner Brat to Work! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIs your inner brat taking over your job? Everyone has an inner brat. It’s the part of us that’s still a two-year-old. It lives on in the dark recesses of our minds, no matter how much we’ve accomplished. The inner brat gets furious at the slightest inconvenience. It feels entitled to get what ...
Views: 1391(1 vote) - Make Small Talk? I’d Rather Eat Worms! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesSmall talk is any superficial personal communication between two or more people. It is the vehicle through which you approach people to test to see if you share interests, attitudes, philosophies, values, histories, and experiences on which you and the other person can build. It is the method by ...
Views: 1391(1 vote) - For Inspiration, Look toward the Bookshelf - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesGraduation ceremonies usually include them; so do weddings and, of course, funerals. What are this mysterious things? Quotations, of course. Quotes are a quick dose of inspiration for any open-minded person. Many quotes get overused and stated to the point of saturation, while some are ...
Views: 1375(3 votes) - The Power of Qs - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesHave you ever wondered why some people’s lives seem to unfold effortlessly while others face one disaster after another? Is it simply fate, or are there ways of controlling and improving the outcome of one’s life? By understanding the laws of the universe and the capacity of personal power, you ...
Views: 1361(1 vote) - Finding True, Blessed Love - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesHave you always wished to attract your life partner, a love that is blessed and sacred, but have been having difficulty making your dream come true? We have been married in what we call Sacred Partnership since 1992 and would like to share the process that we used to find each other. This ...
Views: 1322(2 votes) - Action Today! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesSo far, I think you’ll agree this has been a pretty upbeat book, right? Well, here’s a downer. The bad news is that you won’t get the opportunity to read this incredible book entitled The Stevedore in the White Fedora. This novel, filled to the brim with stirring passages and replete with ...
Views: 1309(1 vote) - How to Simplify Your Life and Be Happier - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesI’ve often found that people make their lives more complicated than they really are. To be sure, life is not easy in today’s nonstop-action world. However, it doesn’t have to be that complicated. We often put imaginary obstacles in our way. Decisions that can be made quickly are made more ...
Views: 1302(2 votes) - Things You Thought You Knew but Really Didn’t: The Reality of New Jobs - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesGetting ready to start work can be very exciting—there are so many things to do. First, put yourself on a budget before you receive your first paycheck because if you do not, you will find yourself deep in debt before you even get paid. Very few people realize going to work every day is very ...
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