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- Exercise: Can Someone Become Addicted To Exercise When They Can’t Regulate Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to function at their best, there are a number of things that can be done. For one thing, it will be important for them to eat the right food, and what is right for them won’t necessarily be right for another. And if one doesn’t know what is right for them, ...
Views: 1510 - Existence: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Have No Right To Exist? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone believes that they have the right to exist, they are likely to be in a position where they generally don’t have trouble being supported and embracing life. This is because by knowing, at the core of their being, that they have the right to be here, they will feel worthy of all that ...
Views: 363 - Existence: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Guilty For Existing? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Instead, they can feel as though they don’t deserve to be here. If this is so, it won’t be seen as something that they merely believe; it will be seen as the truth. It ...
Views: 298 - Existence: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to sit with themselves and was able to connect with how they really feel, what they may soon find is that they don’t feel as though they deserve to exist. As opposed to being worthy of being here, then, they will feel like an intruder. After this, they could look into why this ...
Views: 296 - Expectations: Are Your Expectations Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations and that they should just see what happens. Now, there can be times when having this outlook will be the best way to be. For example, if they were to reunite with a long-lost friend or family member, for instance, being this will ...
Views: 597 - Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Expect Bad Things To Happen? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back from their life and to reflect on their expectations, what they may find is a lot of these are “negative”. The expectations that they do have that are “positive” are then going to be overshadowed by those that are “negative”. After this, they could find that ...
Views: 357 - Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have Low Expectations? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs the ego-mind creates the illusion of separation, someone can believe that they are separate from everyone and everything. Through having identified with this part of them, they will be nothing more than an observer of their reality. There will then be what is going on around them and what ...
Views: 552 - Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have ‘Negative’ Expectations? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations; however, it has also been said that having expectations is simply part of the human experience. If they are simply part of the human experience, it is not going to be possible to remove all expectations. So, if someone was to try ...
Views: 669 - Expectations: Do Our Expectations Create Our Experiences? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article that I write on expectations, I looked at where our expectations come from. And here I want to take a closer look at how expectations are influencing our day to day life. Expectations can become part of one’s nature and how they see life or they can be expectations that ...
Views: 2033 - Expectations: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Unrealistic Expectations? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who have clear expectations in life and then there are others who just ‘go with the flow’. When someone is clear about what they want out of life, it may give them the chance to fulfil their needs. Whereas, if they don’t have this outlook and they just coast along, they ...
Views: 1503 - Expectations: Do The Expectations Of Others Define How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people like to view themselves as being independent and that other people have no affect on who they are, this is nothing more than an illusion. Human beings are interdependent and this means that one’s self image is influenced by other people. One might not be aware of this ...
Views: 1695 - Expectations: Where Do Our Expectations Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one experiences life, expectations play an incredibly important role. Not only are they influencing how one perceives every part of life, they’re also affecting ones emotional and mental well being. This means that what one attracts into their life and what one sees in ...
Views: 5494 - External Focus: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Focused On The External World? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to tune into what is taking place internally and externally. The reason for this is that when it comes to the former, this will allow them to know what their needs are and then go about fulfilling them. As for the ...
Views: 329 - External Support Will Allow You To Go Where You Wouldn’t Go By Yourself - by Submitted on May 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is carrying a lot of emotional pain, they may do just about everything that they can to keep it at bay. This could take place by taking things, doing things, and focusing on things. What this will typically do is stop them from having to come into contact with what is taking ...
Views: 826 - Faith: Can A Lack Of Self-Awareness Cause Someone To Lose Faith In Humanity? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch the news or to listen to it on the radio, there is strong chance that they will hear about something negative that is taking place in the world. And while this could be to do with something Mother Nature has done, it could be the result of what a human being (or number of ...
Views: 1473 - Faith: Where Does Faith Come From? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one places their attention on achieving something or just on whether something can be done or not, their mind is going to have plenty to say. It could be fairly subtle in its response or it could end up being overwhelming. So the mind could come up with a few reasons as to why something ...
Views: 1894 - False Needs: Can Someone Have A Lot Of False Needs If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are true needs and then there are false needs. When it comes to the former, it will relate to needs that other people can meet, and, when it comes to the latter, it will relate to needs that other people can’t meet. Nonetheless, even though there are two different ...
Views: 509 - False Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Hide Themselves To Survive? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on how they typically experience life, what may soon stand out is that they automatically hide a number of their needs and feelings. As a result of this, what is really going on for them is going to be covered up. This is going to mean that they ...
Views: 289 - False Self: Can A Man Have The Need To Act Tough If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could come across as though nothing fazes him and this could mean that a number of men look up to him. If this is the case, he could be seen as an example of how a man should be. Like a big oak tree, then, he is rarely going to be affected by what is going on around him and ...
Views: 336 - False Self: Can A Man Pretend To Be A Man If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of different views when it comes to what it means to be a man. For some, being a man will involve being highly masculine and not very feminine. This is likely to mean that he will need to have a muscular physique, be mentally strong, be able to lead ...
Views: 316 - False Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Create A Fearful False Self? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can live in an environment that is relatively safe and be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will feel safe or freely express themselves. Still, this might not be something that they are consciously aware of. If they are not consciously aware of what is ...
Views: 341 - False Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Focus On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs to fulfil and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that this is what will typically take place. In general, they could overlook their own needs and lead a life that has very little to do with who they are. Still, this could just be what is normal, meaning ...
Views: 415 - False Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone will look like a whole human being; however, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to act like one. What this comes down to is that they could live on the surface of themselves. Therefore, instead of being connected to their body and in tune with their needs and ...
Views: 525 - False Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Have The Need To Adapt To Others? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone went on a drive and a road was closed, they would need to change their route. As frustrating as this may be, it would be a minor inconvenience and it would, ultimately, allow them to reach their destination. This is then an example of someone adapting to a situation and, at the ...
Views: 355 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Create An Inflated False Self? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people that are not very confident and are full of doubt, while there are others that are full of confidence and don’t really experience doubt. Due to this, those that can relate to the former often achieve far less than those that can relate to the latter. If one was to meet ...
Views: 297 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide How They Feel? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to have deeper connections with others, they will need to share how they feel. If they were to purely share what they have been doing and their views, for instance, this wouldn’t take place. This is not to say that being this way wouldn’t allow them to form connections with ...
Views: 353 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel, with their true feelings also being a mystery to them. Therefore, not only will the people in their life not know what is going on for them, they themselves are also not going to know what is going on for them. This can mean that they ...
Views: 360 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Dominated By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone’s life can be an expression of their needs and feelings, it can also be an expression of the needs and feelings of others. When it relates to the former, this will be their real self, and, when it relates to the latter, this will be their unreal self. Naturally, when someone’s ...
Views: 355 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone A Strong Need To Adapt? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the ability to adapt is important; after all, there are going to be times when something won’t go to plan. During a moment like this, someone will need to be able to change their approach. If they were unable to do this, it wouldn’t be possible for them to move forward and to achieve ...
Views: 266 - False Self: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Themselves If They Had A Parent Who Didn’t Attune To Their Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what could stand out is that they spend a lot of time doing what other people want. Consequently, they are likely to find that they often feel drained and even exhausted. Additionally, they can experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 395 - False Self: Can Someone Create An Identity In Order To Meet Their Unmet Developmental Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can more or less always wear the same outfit, they can also more or less always behave in the same way. And, as part of how they behave, they can also typically wear the same type of clothes. They are then going to be a whole human being that has many different ...
Views: 296 - False Self: Can Someone Feel Like A Child Below Their False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it can primarily be the result of what is taking place in their body or what is taking place inside their head. In order words, it can be a reflection of their true self or their false self. Therefore, in order for one to express their true self, they ...
Views: 338 - False Self: Can Someone Have The Need To Hide Themselves If They Had A Highly Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel and a number of their needs. Consequently, when they are around others, they are going to typically put on an act and hide who they are. This can mean that they will generally come across as though they are fine and that nothing is ...
Views: 285 - False Self: Can Someone Need To Let Go Of Their Parents Projections If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone experiences life, how they see themselves will have a big impact. However, they might not even think about how they see themselves and, even if they do, this could just be seen as who they are. If, then, they have an empowering view of themselves, this is not ...
Views: 339 - False Self: Can Someone Use Self Development To Decorate Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a mark on a wall in their house they could find out why this mark has appeared or they could simply paint over it. What they decide to do can all depend on whether they know why the mark has appeared and/or if they are into home improvement. One may decide to just paint over the ...
Views: 1690 - False Self: Can Toxic Shame Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often said to be a false self and a true self, and if one is into psychology or self development, they’re likely to have heard about these terms. If one hasn’t, they might sound a bit mysterious and something that one can’t relate to. But if these descriptions are put to one side ...
Views: 3057 - False Self: Can Trapped Emotions Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMany names have been used over the years when it comes to describing that part of someone that is not real or authentic. And one of those names is the false self and many others have also been used such as: the mask that someone wears, the pseudo self and adaptive behaviour for instance. ...
Views: 1910 - False Self: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Develop A False Self? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are in touch with who they are, and then there are some people who are not. But while some people are going to be aware of the fact that they are out of touch with themselves, there are going to be other people who are not aware However, when one is in touch with ...
Views: 1979 - False Self: Is The Need To Rescue Others Part Of The False-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor as far back as one can remember, they may see that they have had the inclination to save or rescue others. As a result of this, they will be used to being there for others and doing what they can to ‘help’ them. For so long, it would have seemed as though they were doing the right thing, ...
Views: 826 - False Self: What Can Happen If Someone Was Brought Up To Be An Extension Of Their Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being, who has their own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. What can be normal is for them to focus on others and to do what they can to please them. As a result of this, they will typically act as though ...
Views: 325 - False Self: What Is The False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and self realisation there are two terms that are often mentioned. And these are known as the true self and the false self. One usually comes to understand what is true about oneself, as a consequence of becoming aware of what is not true. By seeing the contrast or ...
Views: 2327 - False Self: Why Would A Man Have The Need To Come Across As Extremely Masculine? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man comes across, he might appear to have more in common with a superhero than a human being. The reason for this is that he might not just be somewhat masculine, he could be exceptionally masculine. Due to this, it might not matter where he is or who he is with, as he could ...
Views: 327 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world perhaps, every adults early years would have been a time when they were given what they needed to develop in the right and were prepared for the real world. This would mean that their caregivers did what they were supposed to do. Their caregivers wouldn’t have seen them as ...
Views: 768 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have An External Focus? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the internal world, and on the other, there is the external world. The ideal will be for someone to be aware of what is going on within and to be aware of what is going on without. Through being this way, they will be able to tune with their needs and feelings, and they ...
Views: 627 - False-Self: Can Someone Create A False-Self When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people are in touch with their true-self, and allow their life to be influenced by it, there are others who experience life differently. As a result of this, it can mean that they are out of touch with who they are. When one is in touch with their true-self, it is likely to ...
Views: 1297 - False-Self: Can Someone Have A Needless False Self If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need ...
Views: 308 - False-Self: Can ‘Spirituality’ Cause Someone To Develop A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is spiritual, it can mean that they are ‘in this world but not of this world’ and have a deeper connection to themselves and nature. They will know that there is more to life than what their five senses would have them believe. So, while their mind, along with their eyes, will ...
Views: 891 - False-Self: Do You End Up Playing A Role When You Are Around Others? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around others, they could find that they generally behave how they want to behave. This is then going to show that they don’t feel as though they have to behave in a certain way. One way of looking at this would be to say that one will be able to express their true-self, ...
Views: 1398 - False-Self: Is It Normal For Someone To Create A False-Self When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one sees themselves, it could be said that the ideal will be for them to have a positive self-image. If this is in place, it is naturally going to be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. Another Experience Yet, although this is going to be the ideal, ...
Views: 1321 - False-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Confident When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for one to be themselves, it will be necessary for them to feel confident enough to do so. Therefore, if this is not in place, it is not going to be possible for one to express their true-self. One way of looking at it would be to say that one’s true-self is the top of a table, ...
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