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- Relationships: Why Do Some Men Feel Powerless With Women? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is a human need to feel a sense of power; with the most important power of all said to be based around having a sense of personal power. This is more of an inner power, where one is generally in control of themselves, as opposed to being in control of others. And when it comes to the area ...
Views: 4396 - Child Abuse: What Happens When A Child Is Invalidated? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to raising a child that is mentally and emotionally healthy and has a strong sense of self, it is imperative that they are validated. This is not to say that they have to be validated at all times in order to become a functional adult, but in most cases, it is vital that this ...
Views: 2157(2 votes) - Energy: Can Emotional Repression Lead To Low Energy? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn one way or another, life is all about energy; it is what creates and supports life and it also leads to movement and motion. Without it, nothing would exist or survive and nothing would ever happen or change. And as human beings, we are no different. Whether it involves: getting out of ...
Views: 1924 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. In some shape or form, they are always there for others. And whether they truly want to be there for others is not always irrelevant; it often appears as though they have no choice in the matter. For some ...
Views: 5246 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship where one feels a healthy sense of love from another, is one of the most important elements of having a fulfilling relationship. Love can mean different things to different people, but generally this can include: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch, care and ...
Views: 8811 - Emotions: Can We Become Emotionally Stuck At A Certain Age? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s emotional age is not always the same as their chronological age. And this can be known through how one feels and seen through certain behaviours and reactions that people have. One may even try to deny that they haven’t grown up and justly their behaviour in some ...
Views: 5452 - Depression: Can Repression Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, depression has become a word that carries enormous weight; either for people who have it or for people who hear about it. It could also be described as a modern day taboo, with people often wanting to avoid the whole thing. However, what is clear is that depression is not ...
Views: 2185 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Attracted To Abusive Men? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some women out there, it can seem as though they have a sign on their forehead that says ‘’abusive men only’’. And this is due to their experience of only attracting men who are abusive. It may even go further than this and a woman could come to the conclusion that all men are the same. ...
Views: 3667 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Go Back To Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can stay in abusive relationships and have a hard time leaving, other people can leave an abusive relationship, only to return shortly after. And this is often hard to comprehend. Why would anyone return to something that is clearly dysfunctional and even dangerous? The ...
Views: 1802 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that everybody wants to be happy and yet this doesn’t mean that one will be comfortable when they are happy. For some people, being happy is a wonderful experience and for others, it is something that leads to incredible guilt. And the very thing that one wants is then casing ...
Views: 5574 - Emotional States: Do Our Emotional States Control Our Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often talk around the power of one’s thoughts and how these need to be changed in order for one to live a better life. And what this means, is that emotions are often overlooked. This could be due to a number of reasons and one of these reasons is because of the emotional repression ...
Views: 1752 - Relationships: Do We See Others As We Want Them To Be? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that in the very beginning of a relationship, one doesn’t see the other person for who they are, what they see is their own projections. So here, one will create all kinds of associations in their mind and attach these to the other person. The other person may even posses one ...
Views: 1820 - Relationships: Should Relationships Be Easy? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of ideas in the world as to how a relationship should be. These ideas are often shaped by popular culture, from influences such as Disney or Hollywood films. And by taking on board these perspectives, some people can come to expect relationships to be easy and straight ...
Views: 2136 - Relationships: What Are Your Relationships Mirroring Back To You? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRelationships can be fulfilling or unfulfilling and they also have the potential to create incredible satisfaction or immense frustration. There will be people who one can connect with without too many challenges appearing and others who cause one to question the human race. But regardless of ...
Views: 1697 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Vincenzo Santiglia - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Vincenzo Santiglia. This is someone who is based in Italy and teaches around the world and offers one to one consultations. The ...
Views: 2028 - The Media: Does The Media Control People's Minds? - by Submitted on May 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe common assumption about the media is that they are simply informing people about what is going on in the country where they live or in the world at large. Here the media are simply observes of what is taking place and are then relaying it to the public. As people are generally busy with ...
Views: 2573 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Fix Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect. A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a ...
Views: 1935 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Hate Women? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article may sound a bit extreme and yet when it comes to male and female interactions, there is not always peace, harmony or respect. Throughout time, women have been murdered, manipulated and abused by men. And although the rights of women have gradually improved in certain ...
Views: 2599 - Weight Loss: Do Some People Fear Losing Weight? - by Submitted on May 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe Weight loss industry is one of the biggest in the world and takes in billions every year. This affects both men and women and while sometimes it can be for health reasons, at other times it is for aesthetic reasons. People can lose weight through: eating differently, exercising, taking ...
Views: 1893 - Secondary Gain: What Is Secondary Gain? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and personal development, there is a term that is often used called secondary gain. This is a gain that is often hidden and unknown at a conscious level. And although the word ‘gain’ is typically used in a positive manner, in this instance, it is not a positive ...
Views: 2284 - Relationships: Is It Important To Grieve The End Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come. This will of course ...
Views: 2031(1 vote) - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Try To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile trying to please others can be something everyone does from time to time, for others, it is the focus of their lives. What this person wants from life as whole or what they want to do from moment to moment is then secondary. The needs and wants of others are far more important than ...
Views: 2806 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the self help industry, thoughts are often described as having the power to create one’s life and therefore to define what one attracts into their life. And there are numerous authors and experts that espouse this perspective. One can learn about this through all kinds of ...
Views: 1798 - Being And Doing: What Is The Difference? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a long time, the western world has been familiar with the word doing and the word being has been something that the people in the east were familiar with. And this has gradually changed in the west, with people becoming more aware of these eastern approaches and vice ...
Views: 1937 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on May 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf it often sad that if one can’t say no, then their yes doesn’t mean anything. And while having the ability to say yes is clearly important, so is being able to say no. They both have their uses and this will often depend on the context that one is in. To say yes can become a habit and ...
Views: 2329 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to have a relationship with someone it is important that they are actually available. And although this can seem like a normal and an obvious thing to expect, it is not always the case for some people. For them, it can seem as though it is impossible to attract someone into their ...
Views: 1747 - True Self: Why Do Some People Hide Their True Self? - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, the true self has been used to describe ones true nature and who they really are. On the other hand, the false self represents all that is not true and is made up of illusions. And while deep down one may want to embrace their true self; it is often far from easy and the world ...
Views: 6687 - Objectification: Why Do Some People Objectify Others? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo objectify someone is often described as what happens when they are seen as an object. And when this takes a place, they are not seen as a human being who has feelings or their own cognitions for example, they are just a physical body. Here another person may well be seen as an object that ...
Views: 3702 - Actors: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Actors? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice how powerful and influential actors and actresses are in today’s world. And although they have had this power for a number of years; with the assistance of the mainstream media, this has gradually increased as time has gone by. One only has to go a film ...
Views: 3576(1 vote) - Loss: Why Can Loss Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ...
Views: 2081(1 vote) - Abused Children: Why Do They Have Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis article has the description abused children and therefore gives the impression that it is going to be all about children. However, this will be about adults who were abused as children and as a result of this now have a real challenge with boundaries. When it comes to child abuse, there ...
Views: 2143 - Success: Why Do Some People Fear Success? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt might seem strange to some people that success could be something to fear; especially as we live in a world where success has become an obsession for so many people. What is often heard about is the fear of failure and how people don’t want to fail. However, success is generally perceived ...
Views: 1897 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Change Others? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life and cannot be avoided and yet that doesn’t mean that it’s an easy thing to embrace. There are many others ways that can be sought as a way to avoid change. One of those ways is to try and change other people. This is something that probably comes under the umbrella of ...
Views: 4071 - The Media: Does The Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are so many things that can take place through exposing oneself to the mainstream media. And let’s face it, due to the power and influence that it has, it is more or less impossible to not be affected by it. For some people, their whole meaning of life, what’s going on in the world and ...
Views: 1652(1 vote) - Obsession: Is Obsession A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe words addiction and obsession can appear to describe the same thing. And yet there is a clear distinction between the two. An obsession is something that is usually in the mind and can relate to people, things and ideas; so all that is abstract and all that is concrete. On the other hand, ...
Views: 3986 - Legitimate Suffering: What Is Legitimate Suffering? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a saying by Carl Jung that says - “Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering”. And while this has got to be one of his most famous quotes, it is not easily understood. In today’s world it is often advocated that one should avoid pain at all costs. This is something ...
Views: 3083 - Addictions: Are Addictions A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to current societal problems, the word addiction is often mentioned. And there are certain things that are generally spoken about, when it comes to what people are addicted to. These are often: drugs, alcohol and gambling for instance. And due to the exposure that these ...
Views: 2599(1 vote) - Reality: Do We All Have Our Own Reality? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all live on a planet called earth and are all effected by the natural laws of this earth. And while there are some things such as these that we can all relate to, when it comes to our own lives, there can be radical differences. How people experience and perceive life can vary from person ...
Views: 1685 - Perfection: Why Do Some People Try To Be Perfect? - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen as perfect is very much a part of the of the modern day world. And this doesn’t only relate to one’s ability in life; it also plays a part in how one looks and in how one feels. Clear examples of this can be found in the media and the fairly recent introduction of anti aging ...
Views: 5517 - Communication: Is Vulnerability An Asset? - by Submitted on May 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to creating a deeper connection and a lasting impression on others; it is often assumed that sharing ones good points is the best approach to take. To share ones vulnerable side is something that should be avoided at all costs. This means that successes and achievements should ...
Views: 1924 - Comparison: Should We Compare Ourselves With Others? - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that comparing oneself with another is a natural part of living in the modern day world. And it is also true that this doesn’t necessarily have to be something that is negative or disempowering. There are of course certain comparisons that can be made, without ones wellbeing ...
Views: 1865 - Relationships: Where Does A Woman's Idea Of A Man Come From? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the outlook of what men are like, there is clearly not just one idea that a woman can have. And while some have an idea that men are a certain way, others view them in a completely different way. And no matter what this view is, it is one that is going to have massive effect ...
Views: 1728 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Tracy Holloway - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Tracy Holloway. This is someone who is based in England and is an internationally renowned teacher, inspirational speaker, writer, ...
Views: 1781 - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human is to be vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean that accepting this is therefore easy. To surrender to this truth can be an incredible challenge; that is if one even wants to. And as a way to avoid this truth, one can create all kinds of walls and defences. But while this may allow one ...
Views: 1678 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Simon Rose - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Simon Rose. This is someone who originates from Australia and now travels the world teaching courses with his wife Evette. The Blog In ...
Views: 1990 - Relationships: What Does A Relationship Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is no doubting the importance that relationships have in life. They have the power to create incredible happiness, meaning and fulfilment. And they also have the power to create extreme unhappiness, pain and emptiness. For some people, the good that a relationship brings, outweighs the ...
Views: 1765(3 votes) - Relationships: Are Boundaries Important In Intimate Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperA big part of being intimate involves being able to share ones reality with another person. Here, one will share what they are feeling, thinking and sensing. And while this may sound clear enough to understand, it is not always the easiest thing to do in a relationship. One of the primary ...
Views: 1832(1 vote) - Letting Go: What Does Letting Go Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living life in the present moment and being free from attachments to the past and to specific outcomes in the future; letting go is often spoken about as the ideal. And through letting go, one can then allow life to flow. Also, as a result of this, a lot of the stress that can ...
Views: 2027(1 vote) - The Media: Is The Media Creating Our View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what is going on in the world, the media has generally been the source that one has looked to. This has been the case for many, many years. But this has very recently changed and this is primarily due to the fairly introduction of the internet. In the past, the ...
Views: 1839(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships are often seen as two people sharing who they are with the other each and with both of them being on the same level; this doesn’t always take place. And when this doesn’t happen, one of the reasons can be due to one person trying to rescue the other. Now, in order for ...
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