WHY DO YOU FAIL TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP?

If you have been trying for quite some time now to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying relationship but in vain, or are having continuous problems with your partner, there is probably something you do wrong. Apparently you are sabotaging your attempts at relationships without even knowing that you do!

Becoming aware of how you sabotage your relationships enables you to make the necessary changes and to embark on the road to a successful relationship.

Let’s take Mary as an example:

MARY IS NOT AWARE OF HER SABOTAGING BEHAVIOR

Mary has not had a long-term relationship for years, something that continues to stun her. It’s true: there was a time when she didn’t want a relationship and sought brief encounters just for fun. She was too busy pursuing her career to take relationships too seriously. But she always thought that when she would really want, she wouldn’t have any problem finding one.

So what’s happening now, when she really does want a relationship? How come she can’t manage to find one, and gets disappointed time after time?

EXPLANATION

Mary's lack of self-awareness makes it impossible for her to see and identify what is preventing her from developing a true and lasting relationship. The only thing that she knows is that she does want such a relationship. But damn! What stands in her way?

WHEN MARY DEVELOPS SELF-AWARENESS

When Mary begins to develop her Self-Awareness, she realizes what withheld her from being able to develop a long-term relationship, in spite of her desire to having one.

Looking inwards, she realizes that she has been driven by the fear of commitment coupled with the fear of becoming dependent. Both fears were triggered by her philosophical perception she held on to of being a "liberated woman”.

Having developed this awareness, Mary is now able to find the balance between having a long-term relationship while keeping her independence.

DEVELOPING SELF-AWARENESS WILL ENABLE YOU TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

If you, like Mary, are unsure what makes you fail in your relationships over and over again, in spite of truly desiring to have a successful one, embarking of the road to Self-Awareness is the shortest way to understanding how you shoot yourself in the foot and learning how to make the necessary changes in order to succeed.

Author's Bio: 

Doron Gil, Ph.D., a university teacher, workshop leader, counselor and consultant, is Expert in the interplay between Self-Awareness and Relationships. He has written many articles on the subject and is the author of “The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship: http://amzn.to/eAmMmH