Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself.
Dr. Romance gives 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues
* If you are disappointed, and the ... Views: 1069
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in my early twenties. I got to this country a few years ago from the mideast. I met this lady that was in her thirties, we dated for a couple years then she offered to marry me to improve my immigrant status. I used to ... Views: 1068
Dr. Romance writes:
There’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ... Views: 1068
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Dr. Romance:
I am a retired police officer who found his wife sneaking around with another man 3 years ago. We have 3 kids. I cook and clean and up ... Views: 1065
Dr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ... Views: 1065
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my lonelines and made me feel alive again. Her ... Views: 1064
Dear Dr. Romance
I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my teenage son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor.
I am a single parent about 9 ... Views: 1063
Lately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month. ... Views: 1062
Just as no two snowflakes are alike, no two miracles are, either.
I believe in miracles, but the ones that are important to me don’t involve big, showy events. I like the everyday miracles: The food we eat becomes body cells, muscles, thoughts and even emotions. Our ... Views: 1062
Recently, I wrote here about making the most of time. This month, I have been asked a lot about how people can overcome paralysis and self-sabotage, so I thought I’d pass on my ideas on the subject. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. In addition to not ... Views: 1062
Want to be powerful in your relationships? Learn emotional self-control. Learning to take charge of your emotions means you can’t be “set off” by someone else. You control your reactions, they don’t control you. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she ... Views: 1058
Dr Romance recommends couples increase their mutual respect and appreciation by having a regular "State of the Union" meeting. Here are two simple techniques you can use in all kinds of relationships: couples, families, even work partners and friends, to enhance your cooperation, ... Views: 1057
Dr. Romance writes:
It's easy to get discouraged when we become aware of the suffering throughout the world: natural disasters; racial prejudice; addiction and self-destruction; political oppression in its many forms (starvation, war, torture, misinformation, imprisonment, denial of rights ... Views: 1056
Recently, as we were eating in an Italian restaurant, the music being played transported me back to holidays with my Italian/American family. Traditional, sentimental Italian songs were such a large part of our gatherings for the holidays. After a huge, slow, multi-course dinner, Uncle Tommy ... Views: 1055
Dr. Romance wishes you a Happy Thanksgiving!
A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ... Views: 1052
Dear Dr. Romance:
I need some advice. I'm a university student and I'm finishing my last semester there and getting a degree in Speech/Communication Studies. I'm also a single mixed-raced person. I worked at a communication firm as an Intern Coordinator. What I have here is that I'm ... Views: 1051
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ... Views: 1051
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am having a little issue which I'd like some advice on; Firstly my partner had liked me for a few years before asking me out. We have been together for almost a year, yet he hasn't told his Mum that we are in a serious relationship. I have approached the subject but ... Views: 1049
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years, I care for him deeply. However, I am not happy. I want to break-up with him, but I don't know the best way to do it and not hurt him. I would still like to remain friends with him, or is this just wishful thinking?
Dear ... Views: 1047
Dr. Romance writes: Often, it seems that there are not enough hours in the day to do everything that must be done, and like the Red Queen in Alice in Wonderland we have to run as fast as we can just to stay in place. And she was created before computers, cell phones and e-mail! ... Views: 1047
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm not sure if you're willing or able to help, but I've been looking online for a solution to my problem for a while now. As of yet, I've come up empty handed. My situation is that I'm 21 years old and haven't spoken to my maternal grandparents ... Views: 1045
Recent events have me thinking about political anarchyriots, bombings, civil wars, threats, and other bad and dangerous behavior around the world. Politically, anarchy means obeying no laws. It’s frightening to watch a mob take over. Anarchy is the result of two things: repression ... Views: 1043
Dear Dr. Romance:
I work at an Indian health clinic in northern California. I am a substance abuse counselor, or Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor . After scanning a book I found on a colleague's bookshelf called The Real Thirteenth Step I felt compelled to seek it out, and I ... Views: 1040
Dear Dr. Romance:
I told my husband that if he cannot be with me as his wife and does not give me the place that a wife should have that I wanted to go on with my life and file the papers.
He stopped seeing the other woman for a weekend. Then, on the Thursday that followed, he called me ... Views: 1039
The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote:
“We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings”
I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing ... Views: 1036
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ... Views: 1035
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ... Views: 1035
Dear Dr. Romance:
Should I say something? I'm reaching out to you for advice, I came across your blog recently and wanted to see what you had to offer. I'm kind of in a weird situation, I'm interested in this girl that I work with, we have great chemistry and make each other laugh non-stop, we ... Views: 1035
Dear Dr. Romance :
I am a 20 year old college student. I have been going out with a man for almost 2 years, I feel he is the one I want to marry but now we are having problems and I don't know how we are going to stay together. I made the mistake of telling him about my ... Views: 1034
Dr. Romance writes: Each of us is individual, special and different for a reason: You are a gift to the planet.
Anthropology tells us we are different because we survive better that way – the recombining of genes in sexual reproduction makes us a stronger species than cloning would.
However, ... Views: 1032
Dr. Romance Writes:
Frequently, life can become very busy and stressful. Delayed gratification, or patience, is a skill many of my clients need to learn when life feels overwhelming or difficult; but it isn't always easy, because it requires patience. Learning to be ... Views: 1031
Dear Dr. Romance:
I was reading an article that you have written and it caught my attention. im in an relationship where the lady is older then me. it started of great then six months later its like reality hit hard, i love this lady so much she makes me feel like i dont have a care in the ... Views: 1030
Dear Dr Romance,
I am hard of hearing, and I have hard time finding Mr. Right. I grew up around hearing guys but I haven't often dated. My first marriage was to a hearing guy and I taught him sign language so we did fine for a short time; but he didn't ... Views: 1029
In 1998, Richard and I had a marvelous opportunity to sail around the world as the ballroom dance teachers on a cruise ship. Many of the places we saw then, such as Oman, Jordan, Turkey, Morocco, Indonesia and Israel are in turmoil now, and not as safe for tourists. Last year, when ... Views: 1027
Dr. Romance writes:
I’ve been dealing with a lot of unwanted changes, and it’s not easy. Losses, disappointments, changes – we all struggle when life doesn’t go our way. Why is it so hard to handle change? Then there are the changes we want to make, fight hard to make – losing weight, ... Views: 1020
Men and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several steps to recover from the ... Views: 1020
Dear Dr. Romance:
I recently read most of your book, It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction and loved it. I work at a center where in talking to our clients, we have found repeated patterns of dysfunction (generational), over and over and over again, so your ... Views: 1017
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Dr. Romance:
I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several ... Views: 1016
Dear Dr Romance : I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it. I now have a question: I am 49 years old and very attractive. I look ... Views: 1016
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been dating a guy for 3 years now. He still lives at home with his parents he is very polite we go to church together. He bought our rings last year and we were going to get married this year. I cancelled for this year. I dont know what bipolar is but i wonder ... Views: 1015
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the Internet your advices to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. ... Views: 1015
Dear Dr. Romance:
My son is having a substance abuse problem. It surfaced a few months ago, he promised to stop, and I just caught him using it again. He just turned 18. What can I do to help him?
Dear Reader:
I'm so sorry you're going through this with your son. ... Views: 1014
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am 48 years of age, never married but would definitely like to. I am doing the online dating thing for a while now and so far no success. I am currently speaking to a gentleman who lives in another state; but given he is currently a pilot he ... Views: 1010
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am an addict. long term. I've had some time in NA running what I thought, and what others even so much reinforced, that when I began to feel like I needed to "leave the nest" a little (at about five years sobriety), I copped all kinds of flack from ... Views: 1009
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Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a woman in my thirties. It's been over a month since I last spoke with my ex-boyfriend of one year. He gave me the silent treatment because I hurt him. Or it might be his ... Views: 1008
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been reading your article "The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting". I certainly will appreciate any wisdom or guidance that you can share. I'm a minister who ministers to congregations, and I was widowed several years ago.
1. I've pretty much ... Views: 1008
Dr. Romance writes: Often, it seems that there are not enough hours in the day to do everything that must be done, and like the Red Queen in Alice in Wonderland we have to run as fast as we can just to stay in place. And she was created before computers, cell phones and e-mail! ... Views: 1007
Dear Dr. Romance:
I found one your article "Dr. Romance: Setting Boundaries with Your Ex" on SelfGrowth.com and wanted to reach out to a professional that is an expert with Divorce, families and integrating a new partner. I am single, 30, never been married, no ... Views: 1006
Dr. Romance writes:
No one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad ... Views: 1005
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of ... Views: 1004
Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your article "The One Who Got Away " about getting back together with your ex.
Can this really happen? My wife is divorcing me because she has fallen out of love with me. We aren't divorced yet but are in the process by going to a mediator. It's something I do ... Views: 1004