Dear  Dr Romance :
 I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it.
 I now have a question: I am 49 years old and very attractive.  I look like I'm in my thirties.  There is this younger man, early thirties that I am very interested in.  I've always been asked out and never had to ask a man out.  But I don't want to miss this opportunity and would like to ask him out but I don't know how to do it.
 Can you please give me advice as to how I should go about it?
Dear Reader:

Don't worry so much about asking a man on a date.  I'd suggest that you ask this man for something smaller, like coffee, help with your computer, or a walk, or casual lunch with friends; it's not so devastating if it doesn't work out. Better yet, you need to get into a social circle where you can meet men you'll have a chance to know before you ask them out. 

If you see a man in action within a group, and interact with him without the pressure of dating, you'll be
more able to use the skills you've developed to assess the men and choose a good one.   

"Where Is Love"  and The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting will give you more information about where and how to look. "10 Reasons for Not Falling in Love" helps you look at your fears about dating and relationships and shows you how to overcome them.

Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences will teach you all the skills you need to create a successful, loving and satisfying relationship. 

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.